Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Kuch niraashayein isliye chubhti hain ki wo waade jaisi lagi thin, bhale hi kisi ne munh se na kaha ho.
Kuch logon mein ye dekhne se ugi: bade bhai-behen ka course, kisi cousin ka bahar ki university jaana, dost jinke maa-baap padhai ko ghar ka kaam maan kar chalte the.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar main mehnat karun, to ghar mere chune ka saath dega,” ya “Meri padhai ka saath dena mujh par unke bharose ka saboot hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Bhai-behen ya cousin ko jo mila, usse baar-baar chupchaap tulna karna
- Wo course chunna jiska ghar saath deta dikhe, wo nahi jo chahiye
- Ghar par baat taalna, phir raat ko akele use dohrana
- Aise dikhana jaise fark nahi padta, jabki wo har baatcheet ke neeche baithi hai
- Iski ummeed rakhne par guilt hona, aur poori na hone par chot lagna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Dost ka course, poora bhara hua
Kanpur, Mall Road ka ek cafe. Aapki sabse achhi dost ke maa-baap uska poora master's utha rahe hain, aur wo chai par ise halke se batati hai, jaise ghar aisa hi karte hain. Aap apna raasta khud nikaal rahe ho, aur abhi phir ghar par zikr hua. Papa bole, “Hamne apna farz nibha diya.” Aap dost ki taraf muskurate ho aur chai hilate ho, par andar thakaan hai, aur zara akelapan.
Gharwale aapki padhai uthayein
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Meri padhai ka zimma gharwale uthayein.” Ye swabhaavik lagta hai. Kai gharon mein padhai agli peedhi ko ghar ka tohfa hoti hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: saath mehsoos karne ko ek hi tarah ki madad se baandh deta hai. Ghar aapka saath de raha hai ya nahi, ab is par tika hai ki unki madad aapke mann ki tasveer se milti hai ya nahi.
Padhai bhavishya banane jaisi kyun lagti hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki padhai bhavishya banane jaisi lagti hai, aur aas rehti hai ki ghar isme haath batayega. Shayad cousin ya doston ko wo madad milte dikhi, aur mann mein aaya ki aapki kahani alag kyun hai. Shayad bachpan se sunne ko mila ki padhai kitni zaroori hai. Dono haal mein saath ki aas laalach nahi. Wo sabse kareebi logon ke saath mehsoos karne ki chaah se aati hai, aur use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Wo raasta jo bhaari lagne laga
Dost ke ghar se har tulna aapke apne raaste ko bhaari kar deti hai. Aap ginne lagte ho ki doosron ko kya mila. Ghar ki call ke dauran kheej aati hai, phir kheejne ka guilt. Lambe dinon ke aakhir mein thakaan ke saath padhai hoti hai. Dheere-dheere jo course aapne utsaah se chuna, wo akele dhoya ja raha bojh lagne lagta hai, aur aap bhool jaate ho ki hafte-dar-hafte aap khud kitna sambhal rahe ho.
Kya tulna karna laayak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya cheezein jaisi honi chahiye, is par tike rehne ne kabhi padhai halki ki? Ya zyadatar ghar ki har call bhaari ki? Gharon ke saadhan alag hote hain, saath ke baare mein unke yaqeen alag hote hain, aur unke faislon ke peeche ki kahaniyan bhi, jinmein se bahut si hamein poori dikhti nahi. Unka faisla aapki keemat ya bhavishya ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kas kar pakadna deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Apne haathon se banana
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aas galat thi, ya ki mehnat aasaan hai. Matlab ye ki aapka aage badhne ka ehsaas ab unki madad ka intezaar nahi karta. Aap ye apne haathon se bana rahe ho, aur us par garv kiya ja sakta hai. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapki padhai aapki lagti hai, kamayi hui aur apni, aur ghar ki calls doosri baaton par ho sakti hain.
If money in your family has ever been used to control you, or what was yours was taken, or you feel frightened at home, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMeri padhai ka zimma gharwale uthayein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleApne haathon se jo ban raha hai, wo mera hai. Wo ginta jaata hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is semester ki ek baat sochiye jis par garv hai
- Din 2
Ghar ki agli call mein padhai ke alawa kuch aur baat kijiye
- Din 3
Is hafte khud ko ek poora aaram dijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Gharwalon ke aapki padhai uthane ki tasveer aapne pehli baar kab banayi, aur wo kaisi dikhti thi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Har ghar ki mez tak pahunchha ek sentence #
“Meri padhai ka zimma gharwale uthayein.” Kanpur mein MBA ka form bharte hue aa sakta hai, jab Pune wala cousin apne naye campus ki photos daal raha ho, ya aise khane par jahan pehle bhaiya ke course ki baat hoti hai.
Ye kam hi maang jaisi sunai deti hai. Ye aise lagti hai jaise cheezein honi chahiye: ghar padhai ka saath de, bachche mann laga kar padhein, sab saath aage badhein. Isiliye ise ummeed ke roop mein dekhna ajeeb lag sakta hai.
Apni padhai aur gharwalon ko lekar ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya tha, aur us waqt kamre mein kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Shabd aane se pehle kya hota hai #
Kuch logon ko mez par agle saal ki baat chhidne par ek kasaav mehsoos hota hai: chamach rakha gaya, mummy ya papa ke chehre par ek jhatpat nazar, aur kisi ke kuch saaf kehne se pehle hi baat badal di jaati hai.
Kuch ko tab garmi chadhti hai jab kisi bhai-behen ya cousin ke course ka zikr ho, ek jhatpat “uske liye hua, mere liye kyun nahi” jo isse pehle aa jaata hai ki socha jaye ki asal mein kya tay hua tha, kisne kiya, aur kyun.
Pichhli baar jab ghar par aapki padhai ki baat uthi, to kuch bolne se pehle pehle kuch seconds mein aapne kya mehsoos kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye saude jaisa lagta hai, aur aksar tha bhi #
Ye ummeed vaajib isliye lagti hai ki kai gharon mein yahi hota hai, aur barson se iska ishaara milta raha hoga. Padhai ghar ka saajha kaam jaisi lag sakti hai, isliye uska saath dena saude ka hissa jaisa lag sakta hai.
Kuch niraashayein isliye chubhti hain ki wo waade jaisi lagi thin, bhale hi kisi ne munh se na kaha ho. Barson ka “bas padhai par dhyaan do” mann mein ek samjhaute jaisa baith sakta hai, jiski shartein gharwale shayad bilkul alag sochte hon.
Aapki padhai ke baare mein jo samjhauta aapne dhoya, use ek seedhe sentence mein kehna ho to wo kya hoga, aur aapko kiska kaha yaad hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Tulna karti rehne wali awaaz #
“Bhaiya ke liye to kiya tha.” “Sabke maa-baap kar dete hain.” “Maine sab kaha mana.” Ye awaaz aksar kisi dost ke campus ki photo scroll karte hue bolti hai, ya ghar ki us baat ke kuch minute baad jo kahin pahunchi nahi.
Aisa “chahiye” tab aur bhaari lag sakta hai jab usmein aur awaazein bhi mili hon: relatives ki baatein, doston ke gharon ke kisse, barson pehle ka koi ishaara. Kuch logon ko in sabke neeche apni chaahat sunna mushkil lagta hai.
Jab awaaz batati hai ki gharwalon ko aapki padhai par kya karna chahiye, to wo kiske shabdon jaisi sunai deti hai, aur pehli baar kab suna tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ye ummeed aksar kahan se shuru hoti hai #
Kuch logon mein ye dekhne se ugi: bade bhai-behen ka course, kisi cousin ka bahar ki university jaana, dost jinke maa-baap padhai ko ghar ka kaam maan kar chalte the. Jo doosron ko mila, wo chupchaap “saamanya” ki tasveer bana deta hai.
Kuch mein ye baaton se aayi: exam ke waqt kaha gaya “theek se padho, bas itna chahiye,” ya deewar par tangi graduation ki tasveer par dada-dadi ka garv. Kuch gharon mein koi chunaav hone se bahut pehle padhai saajhi ummeed ki tarah boli jaati hai.
Ghar padhai ka saath kaise deta hai, iski tasveer aapko pehli baar kis pal ne di, aur yaad karte hue kiska chehra dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ummeed ke neeche ka niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar main mehnat karun, to ghar mere chune ka saath dega,” ya “Meri padhai ka saath dena mujh par unke bharose ka saboot hai.” Pehla sentence wo hai jo log sunte hain; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki ghar ka har faisla kaisa lage.
Aise niyam niyam jaise nahi lagte. Ye aise lagte hain jaise ghar chalte hain, aur kai gharon mein ye chalan ka hissa bhi hote hain. Isiliye inhe aapke ghar aur aapke aaj ke chunaavon ke baghal mein rakh kar dekhna kaam ka hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ki zindagi mein ghar ke saath wala niyam kahan fit baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ye faasla saal bhar mein kya chheen sakta hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai mahinon tak wo course na uthana jo pasand hai kyunki jawab pehle se tay lagta hai, kisi bhai-behen ki achhi khabar par chupke se chubhan, chhuttiyon ke lambe khane mein us topic ke liye taiyaar baithe rehna. Zyadatar chupchaap, aur phir bhi maujood.
Ek aur chup si keemat hai. Jab padhai ka saath bharose ka naam ban jaye, to us par har faisla poore insaan par raay jaisa lagne lagta hai, aur agle saal ki baatcheet mein wo bahut bhaari cheez laana hai.
Pichhle saal bhar mein padhai ka kaun sa chunaav sabse zyada ghar ke jawab ke intezaar se bana, aur us intezaar ki keemat kya rahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Jawab ke intezaar mein paanch saal aur #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “meri padhai ka zimma gharwale uthayein” zor se baj rahi ho. Yahan bas dekhne ko kaha ja raha hai.
Shayad ghar ki call jisme wo topic chhoot jaata hai, cousin ki update jo do baar padhi jaati hai, course ka page jo aadhe mein band ho jaata hai, ek shaam jo sochne mein beetti hai ki weekend par kya kaha jaye.
Yahan abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur isse kuch badalna bhi zaroori nahi.
Usmein kya hai: classes, ghar ke messages, yojanayein, na kahi gayi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya ho jaata hai, aur kya intezaar karta rehta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko dekh kar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Saath, kis roop mein? #
Ghar ke kareeb rehna aur apne chunaav karna, ek-doosre ko kaatte nahi. Kuch vidyarthi paate hain ki unka ghar aise tareekon se saath deta hai jo kisi ek faisle mein nahi dikhte: exam centre tak chhodna, hostel ke liye bandha tiffin, result ki raat jaagte maa-baap.
Us mez par har kisi ke mann mein insaaf ki apni tasveer ho sakti hai, bhai-behenon ke beech aur ek saal se doosre saal tak. Isse aapki ummeed galat ya sahi nahi ho jaati. Wo kai tasveeron mein se ek ban jaati hai.
Aapki ummeed ka kaun sa hissa padhai ke baare mein hai, aur kaun sa ghar se saath mehsoos karne ke baare mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Ghar se pehle se kya aata hai #
Jis saath ki aapne aas ki, uske saath-saath kuch logon ko ye dekhna achha lagta hai ki ghar se pehle se kya aata hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota ya adhoora: exam se pehle ka message, der ki class ke baad alag rakhi thaali, koi maa-baap jo poochhein ki course kaisa chal raha hai.
Ye farz ya qarz nahi, aur isse aapki ummeed naajaayaz nahi ho jaati: jo aas poori nahi hui aur jo apnapan dikh raha hai, dono saath reh sakte hain. Shukriya tab ugta hai jab kuch apni marzi se mila lage, isliye bina maangi chhoti baatein dekhne laayak ho sakti hain.
Kuch na aaye to khaali chhod dijiye.
Aapke ghar mein koi aam hafte mein pehle se kya deta hai jise aap thoda aur notice karna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Agle saal ki yojana se sulah #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye bahut zyada thi, ya ki ye sahi thi. Matlab ye hai ki jo aapne chaha aur jo hua, unke beech ka faasla ghar ke har khane aur agle saal ki har yojana ka mood tay karna band kar de.
Jo bhi jaayaz hai, wo reh sakta hai: apne chunaav ko seriously liya jaana chahna, waisa saath mehsoos karna chahna jaisa kisi bhai-behen ko mila dikhta tha. Jo dheela ho sakta hai, wo wazan hai, taaki agle saal ka chunaav ghar ke jawab ko ek tathya ki tarah le, aap par faisle ki tarah nahi.
Ghar mein buniyadi izzat aur safety “zyada ummeed” kabhi nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Agar aapke ghar mein paison se aapko kabhi kaabu mein rakha gaya ho, ya jo aapka tha wo le liya gaya ho, to wo kuch aur hai aur use seriously lena chahiye.
Sochiye ek family khana jisme isse sulah ho chuki hai: aap kis baare mein baat karoge, aur apni yojana ke kis hisse ke baare mein sochna aapko achha lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachchi line #
“Meri padhai ka zimma gharwale uthayein” se behes karne ki jagah kuch log taiyaar rakhte hain: “Maine unke saath ki aas rakhi thi, aur mere chunaav ab bhi mere apne hain.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas purani line ke baghal mein khade rehna hai.
Shuru mein ye pheeki lag sakti hai. Kuch log paate hain ki waqt ke saath apni ek line purani ke baghal mein thodi jagah bana leti hai; kuch ko nahi banti, aur dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aas ke baare mein imaandaar ho aur agla kadam aapke haath mein chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch sawaal kuch waqt ruk sakte hain #
Padhai aur ghar ke har sawaal ka isi hafte jawab chahiye, aisa nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek baar palta ja sakta hai, aur kuch waqt ke liye ek taraf rakha ja sakta hai, jaise mez par padi college ki brochure.
Kuch ghar abhi ye nahi sunenge, aur use aazmana zaroori nahi. Padhai ke baare mein ek aas jitni der chahe nijee reh sakti hai, aur phir bhi jaanne laayak hai.
Aaj shaam is khayal ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki ye theek tha, ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki aaj ise har mez par aapke saath nahi baithna.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar zara bhi dheeli ho jaye #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Aas ab bhi hai, par ghar ka faisla bas ek faisla hai, aapke poore hone par raay nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: jo course pasand hai use ghar ka jawab andaze bina dekhna, kisi bhai-behen ki khabar bina chubhan haavi hue sun lena, ya aisa family khana jahan us topic ka intezaar na ho.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai aur dekhne laayak hai. Aage: isse sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe thoda sa hi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir aa gayi ki meri padhai ka zimma kaun le, wali tasveer”
- Jab kisi bhai-behen ke course ki baat aaye, dekhiye ki sabse pehle kaun sa ehsaas aata hai
- Aaj apne liye jo ek chhoti cheez chahi, use chun lijiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: isme kitna hissa saath mehsoos karne ka hai?
- Sochiye, agar ghar ka jawab pehle se pata hota to aap kaun sa course dekhte
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Gharwalon ke aapki padhai uthane ki tasveer aapne pehli baar kab banayi, aur wo kaisi dikhti thi?
- Bhai-behen ya cousin se kaun si tulna ab bhi chubhti hai, aur us din theek-theek kya kaha gaya tha?
- Agar ghar ka jawab pehle se tay hota, to aap sabse pehle kaun sa course dekhte?
- Agar gharwalon se ye ummeed thodi dheeli ho, to aap sabse pehle kya notice karoge?
- Ghar ki kaun si chhoti cheez aapki padhai ko pehle se thoda aur saath mehsoos karati hai?