Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Jiski aapko parwah hai use apni wajah se aahat dekhna sabse bhaari ehsaason mein se hai.
Kai log wo bane jis par sab ginte the: bada bhai ya badi behen jo chhoton ko sambhalta tha, wo bachcha jiske kandhon par ghar ki ummeedein thi, wo dost jo hamesha pahunchta tha.
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Mujhe kabhi kisi ko nirash nahi karna chahiye,” ya “Kisi ko nirash kiya to insaan ke roop mein fail.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Maafi par maafi maangna, uske kaafi der aage badh jaane ke baad bhi
- Kuch din unse bachna, kyunki saamna mushkil lagta hai
- Zyada bharpayi karna, hafton unki har baat par haan kar dena
- Itna lamba samjhana ki safai hi bahana lagne lage
- Raat ko wo din dohrana, ki kya alag kiya ja sakta tha
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Ghumar Mandi mein girta shutter
Ludhiana ki Ghumar Mandi, Thursday shaam. Chhoti behen ki shaadi ki shopping hai, aur aapne vaada kiya tha ki lehnga chunte waqt aap saath honge. Meeting lambi khinchi, phir traffic. Aap pahunchte ho jab dukaan ka shutter aadha gir chuka hai. Bahar wo chillati nahi, bas dheere se kehti hai, “Mujhe tum par bharosa tha.” Ghar ka raasta bahut lamba lagta hai.
Mujhe kabhi nirash nahi karna
Pehli baat, saaf kahein: ek shaam chhoot jaana asli chook hai, aur ye aapke baare mein sach nahi. Par aise palon se ek niyam ug sakta hai, jo aapka apna ho jaata hai: “Mujhe kabhi kisi ko nirash nahi karna.” Ye achhe bhai ya behen hone jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har vaada imtihaan ban jaata hai, aur ek chook poore insaan ki nakaami jaisi lagti hai.
Bharosemand hona pyaar jaisa kyun
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki jinhein hum chahte hain wo mayne rakhte hain, aur unke bharose ke layak banna pyaar dikhane jaisa lagta hai. Ye bahut insaani chaahat hai, aur aam hai. Shayad bachpan mein aap wo the jis par sab tikte the. Shayad ghar mein nirasha lambi chuppi ke saath aati thi. Saath nibhane ki chaah galat nahi. Wo parwah se aati hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Replay, haan, aur bhara calendar
Niyam shaam khatam hone ke baad bhi use chalaye rakhta hai. Aap traffic, meeting, shutter girne ki awaaz dohrate ho. Baar-baar maafi maangte ho. Hafton har baat par haan karte ho, bharpayi ke liye, aur calendar itna bhar jaata hai ki kuch aur chhootna tay hai. Kaafi taaqat kabhi na chookne mein jaati hai, aur bas maujood rehne ke liye kam bachti hai.
Kya kabhi na chookna iske layak?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakadne se kabhi koi chook ruki? Ya zyadatar agli chook ke darr mein aur khud par sakhti mein beeta? Jo bhi logon se pyaar karta hai, wo kabhi-kabhi unhein nirash karta hai. Ek chhooti shaam aapki parwah ka paimana nahi. Iska koi galat jawab nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna iske layak hai?
Ek baar maafi, phir bhi parwah
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo shaam mayne nahi rakhti thi, ya uska aahat hona galat tha. Matlab ye ki aap ek baar sachche dil se maafi maang sakte ho, aur khud ko saza dena chhod sakte ho. Ek cheez chhoote aur phir bhi aap saath nibhane wale bane reh sakte ho. Ye chhote se shuru ho sakta hai, ek shaam se. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: parwah wo imtihaan nahi rehti jisme fail ho sakte ho.
If disappointing someone ever brings threats, being hurt or frightened, or money or papers held over you, that is not okay and is worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe kabhi kisi ko nirash nahi karna.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleEk cheez chhoote, tab bhi saath dena bana rah sakta hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is saal ka ek mauka yaad kijiye jab aapne saath nibhaya
- Din 2
Replay shuru ho to kahiye, “wo bas ek shaam thi”
- Din 3
Kisi baat par haan kehne se pehle teen dheemi saansein lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kiski mayusi aap par sabse bhaari padti hai, aur unhin ki kyun?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Paanch shabd, aur saath mein wo nazar #
Ludhiana ki Ghumar Mandi mein chhoti behen ki shaadi ki shopping, jahan aapko subah gyarah baje pahunchna tha. Ya wo dost jiska saaman shift karwana tha, wo form jo Mummy ke liye bhejna reh gaya. “Mujhe tum par bharosa tha.” Aksar chillakar nahi, dheere se, aur wo dheemapan hi bhaari padta hai.
Taano se alag, in shabdon mein aksar kuch sach hota hai: koi baat jo kahi gayi ya ummeed thi, aur hui nahi. Isi se inhein hatana mushkil hota hai, kyunki usmein sachcha hissa hai, aur mann us sachche hisse ko sab kuch dhakne tak kheench sakta hai.
Aise shabd aakhri baar kab sune, ya wo nazar dekhi jo bina bole keh deti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapko kya karna tha, aur beech mein kya aa gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Safai pahunchne se pehle pet kyun baith jaata hai #
Pet mein giraavat, chehra garam, aur safaiyon ki baadh jo bolte hi khokhli lagti hai. Koi ek saans mein teen baar maafi maangta hai; koi ekdum chup ho jaata hai aur nazar nahi mila paata. Isme zaroorat se zyada nazuk hone jaisa kuch nahi.
Bharosemand hona zyadatar logon ke liye mayne rakhta hai, isliye mayus chehra sochne se pehle hi lag jaata hai. Asal mein kya hua aur kyun, iski shaant tasveer ghanton baad aati hai, jab pal guzar chuka hota hai.
Jab dikha ki unke liye ye mayne rakhta hai, to aapke sharir ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Samjhana chaha, turant sudharna chaha, ya kuch der gayab ho jaana?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo pehli kheench is baare mein kya kehti hai ki bharosemand hona aapke liye kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Chhooti baat, chhoote insaan jaisi lagne lagti hai #
Kisi ko nirash karna isliye chubhta hai kyunki wo aapke bharosemand hone ko chhuta hai. Mann ek chhooti baat ko jaldi hi poore kirdaar ke sawaal mein badal sakta hai. Ek sachchi, thos chook is baat ka saboot lagne lagti hai ki bharosa kiya hi nahi ja sakta.
Jiski aapko parwah hai use apni wajah se aahat dekhna sabse bhaari ehsaason mein se hai. Bahuton ke liye sabse zyada wazan chhooti baat ka nahi, us doosre insaan ke chehre ki tasveer ka hota hai, jo din ke baad bhi baar-baar lautti hai.
Jo baat chhooti wo thos roop mein kya thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur aapke mann mein wo us din se kitni badi ho gayi hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab mayusi andar aa jaye #
Us pal ke baad doosri awaaz sambhal sakti hai. “Mujhse sab nirash hi hote hain.” “Ab koi mujh par bharosa nahi karega.” “Mujhe behtar sambhalna chahiye tha.” Ye phone par unka naam dikhne par, ya us din ki photo dekhkar chalu ho sakti hai.
Agle hafte tak doosre insaan ka mann naram pad gaya hoga, par vaakya chalta rehta hai, aur ab aapke zameer jaisa lagta hai. Isiliye pakadna mushkil hai: ye zimmedaari lene jaisa lagta hai, jabki asal mein kuch bhaari hai.
Jab ye kehti hai ki aapne kisi ko nakaam kiya, to awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki, ya wo jo kisi khaas ghar mein barson pehle thamayi gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kai logon ke liye bharosemand hona hi kaam tha #
Kai log wo bane jis par sab ginte the: bada bhai ya badi behen jo chhoton ko sambhalta tha, wo bachcha jiske kandhon par ghar ki ummeedein thi, wo dost jo hamesha pahunchta tha. Kuch ke liye bharosemand hona hi apni jagah banaye rakhne ka mukhya tareeka ban gaya.
Kuch gharon mein galti par lambi chuppi milti thi ya bhaari “humein tumse ye ummeed nahi thi,” aur wajahein alag hain. Kuch bachchon ne nateeja nikala ki kisi ko nirash karna sabse buri baat ke kareeb hai, jiski bharpayi har keemat par karni hai.
Kisi ko nirash karna pehli baar asahniya kab laga, aur ye sochte waqt kiska chehra yaad aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya wo ehsaas aaj bhi utna hi bhaari aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Mujhe kabhi kisi ko nirash nahi karna chahiye,” ya “Kisi ko nirash kiya to insaan ke roop mein fail.” Kuch log halka roop dhote hain: “Doosron ki zaroorateen pehle, meri baad mein.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti nahi. Wo bas achha insaan hone jaisi lagti hai, isiliye use kabhi-kabhi bahar nikaalkar dekhna theek hai, jaise kisi purane naqshe par bharosa karne se pehle use jaanchte hain.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: nirash karna kho dena hai, to kisi ko nirash mat karo.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Is niyam ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai us se zyada haan kehna jitna koi dho sake, taaki kuch na kuch chhootna tay ho. Matlab ho sakta hai dinon tak maafi, kisi apne se katrana, ya raat ko jagkar un sabki list jinhein is mahine nakaam kiya ho.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab har vaada is baat ka imtihaan lage ki aap kaun ho, to madad karna parwah nahi, darr lagne lagta hai, aur jitni baar aap saath rahe uski ginti agli fikr shuru hone se pehle mushkil se hoti hai.
Ye kamzori se nahi. Khud ko kabhi na chookne ke paimane par rakhna thakata hai.
Pichhle saal iski keemat kya rahi: ek raat ki neend, koi haan jis par pachhtava hua, koi waqt jab sharm se kisi se door rahe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, kisi ko nirash na karte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “kisi ko nirash nahi karna” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad dopahar se pehle teen kaam par haan, apne khaane ke beech aaya ghar ka phone, itna bhara calendar ki saans na aaye, aur kuch chhoote to uske liye pehle se rati maafi. Shayad apne liye chahi hui ek cheez, jo phir tal gayi.
Abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko jab chahein neeche rakh sakte hain.
Usmein kya hai: vaade, phone, wo cheezein jin par haan kehte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhne par, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Nirash kiya, ya bas insaan hain? #
Kisi ko nirash karna aur bharose ke layak na hona ek cheez nahi hain. Ek kisi din hui ghatna hai. Doosra poore insaan ki kahani hai, aur uske liye ek chhooti shaam ya ek reh gaye form se kahin zyada saboot chahiye.
Jawab aksar chhota aur aam hota hai: ek lambi meeting, do vaadon ki takkar, ek thaki shaam. Kuch chhota aur thos aapke charitra par faisle se kahin zyada aasaani se dekha jaata hai.
Poochhiye: theek-theek kya chhoota, aur us din use mushkil kya bana gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur nazar: agar koi kareebi dost aapke liye kisi zaroori mauke par chook jaata, to kya ek chhooti baat tay karti ki wo aapke liye kaun hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Faisle se pehle aap aur kya taulte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Us din ko dheere-dheere dekhne par kuch log paate hain ki wo ek saath do-teen vaade thaame the, aur ek nibhane ka matlab doosra chhodna tha. Nirasha parwah ki kami se nahi, zyada thaamne se aayi thi.
Kuch dekhte hain ki usi insaan ke liye wo kitni baar aaye: di gayi lift, uthaye gaye phone, banaye gaye tyohaar, chhote kaam jo kisi ne gine nahi. Kuch paate hain ki nirasha ke shor mein wo baar shayad hi yaad aate hain.
Wo doosre mauke sabse pehle kaun se yaad aate hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur pichhle saal ka nishpaksh hisaab kaisa hota agar har baar ka saath gina jaata, sirf wo din nahi jab pahunchna na ho saka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Parwah, bina use hamesha dhoye #
Sulah ka matlab ye dikhana nahi ki baat mayne nahi rakhti thi, ya ki doosre insaan ke paas aahat hone ki wajah nahi thi. Matlab bas itna ki ek chhooti baat is par kam chale ki aap khud ko kaise dekhte ho, aur kitni raatein use dohrane mein jaayein.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo do cheezein alag karte hain: maafi, jo sachchi aur jayaz hai, aur khud ko saza dena, jisse kisi ka bhala nahi hota. Maafi ek baar sachche dil se kahi ja sakti hai. Raat-raat bhar dohrana bilkul alag bojh hai.
Kaisa lagega agar maafi rakhein aur saza neeche rakh dein, taaki unki parwah karne ka matlab khud par sakht hona na reh jaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “mujhse sabko nirasha hi milti hai” barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log ek sachcha vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Ye ek baar chhoot gaya, phir bhi parwah hai, aur kai baar saath diya bhi hai.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas purane se zyada sahi ho, aur kuch log paate hain ki dheere aur baar-baar kehne par ye purane faisle ki thodi jagah le leta hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo chook ke baare mein imaandaar ho par un sab maukon ko na mitaye jab aap saath rahe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har nirasha ko ek aur maafi, lambi safai ya hafton ki bharpayi nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise darwaze par rashan ka bhaari thaila.
Iska matlab unki parwah kam hona nahi. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch kehte hain isse agli baar maujood rehne ki zyada jagah bachti hai, aadhe-adhoore aur pichhli baar ki maafi maangte rehne ke bajaye.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki baat sahi thi, ya suljh gayi. Bas itna ki chhooti baat aaj baaki har cheez mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Nirash karna ab bhi mayne rakhta hai, par wo ek hui baat hai, aapke baare mein faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: ek baar kahi aur wahin chhodi gayi maafi, bina replay ki ek raat ki neend, ya aisi haan jo aap dena chahte the isliye di.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi nirash karne wala ehsaas”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: theek-theek kya chhoota, aur asal mein kitna bada hai?
- Ek aisa mauka sochiye jab aap unke liye aaye, aur use bhi ginne dijiye
- Fark gaur kijiye: maafi mehsoos karna, aur raat bhar dohrana
- Sone se pehle seene par ek haath rakhkar teen dheemi saansein lijiye
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kiski mayusi aap par sabse bhaari padti hai, aur unhin ki kyun?
- Jis par wo bharosa kar rahe the, wo kabhi kaha gaya tha ya bas maan liya gaya?
- Is ek baar ke liye khud ko maaf karna asal mein kaisa dikhega?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kise haan keh rahe honge?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?