Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Kuch logon ke liye yahi sabse chubhta hai: jawab dene ko kuch nahi, bas ek purane roop se muqable ka ehsaas hai jisse palatkar kuch poochha nahi ja sakta.
Kuch gharon mein album, school ki photo aur shaadi ki video baar-baar nikaali jaati rahin, aur photo mein baithe insaan ke sar ke upar se tippaniyan chalti rahin.
Kuch logon ko ek niyam banta sunayi deta hai: “Mujhe waisa hi dikhna chahiye jaisa pehle dikhta tha, warna log notice karenge,” ya “Purana main hi paimana hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Hanskar kehna “Wo toh bahut purani baat hai”
- Jitni jaldi ho sake baat badal dena
- Baat aage badhane ko kehna ki doosri photo dikhaiye
- Chup ho jaana aur baaki din wahi feel karna
- Baad mein akele wahi photo dhoondhna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Album wali Bua
Almora mein cousin ke naamkaran ke baad ki dopahar. Bua purani album kholkar school ki photo dikhati hain aur hanskar kehti hain, “Pehle ki photo mein toh zyada jachte the.” Kuch log jhukkar dekhte hain. Aap hanskar kehte ho wo toh bahut purani baat hai. Par baaki shaam mein aapko tulna ka ehsaas rehta hai, jaise aap apne hi baad ka version ho, aur agli group photo se aap hat jaate ho.
Purana main hi paimana hai
Pehle seedhi baat: purani photo se ki gayi tulna kehne wale ki yaadon ke baare mein batati hai, aapki keemat ke baare mein nahi. Par usse ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ban jaata hai: “Purana main hi paimana hai.” Bahut log bina soche yahi maanke chalte hain. Wo imaandaar khud-jaanch jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye wo karta kya hai: aapka aaj ek aisi album par tik jaata hai jise aap badal nahi sakte.
Saraha jaana achha kyun lagta hai
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki saraha jaana achha lagta hai, aur purani photo mein achhe din base hote hain. Ye sabse aam ummeedon mein se hai, bahut insaani chaah. Shayad ghar mein bhi aisi baatein aam thin. Shayad aapko tasveer mein sahaj feel karna yaad aata hai. Jo bhi ho, apnaye jaane ki chaah ghamand nahi hai. Wo apnapan chahne se aati hai. Us par narmi banti hai, ilzaam nahi.
Har baat ka wazan
Har aisi baat thoda wazan jodti hai. Wo dheere-dheere jamta hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aapko feel hota hai. Aap khud camera pakad lete ho. Group photo ke liye der se pahunchne ka bahana dhoond lete ho. Raat ko purani photo scroll karte ho. Jo yaadon ki mithaas lagti thi, wo scoreboard banne lagti hai, aur photo imtihaan.
Kya photo se muqabla iske laayak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya is niyam ko pakadne se koi jamavda kabhi aasaan hua? Ya zyadatar bas aise insaan se tulna ka ehsaas raha jo ab hai hi nahi? Aapki keemat kabhi ek photo ki baat nahi thi. Chahein to ek pal is par rukiye. Ise bina ilzaam ke, narmi se poochna theek hai. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi hai. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakde rehna uski keemat ke laayak hai?
Insaan, koi album nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki Bua ki neeyat buri thi, ya unse behes karni hai. Matlab ye hai ki purani photo ko ab aapka paimana hona zaroori nahi. Aap keh sakte ho “Wo bhi kya din the,” aur baat aaj par la sakte ho. Iske liye pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aap is jamavde mein ek insaan ho, kisi album ka baad wala version nahi.
Being mocked, threatened, hurt or frightened over how you look is not okay and is worth taking seriously; someone you trust can help.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana rulePurana main hi paimana hai.
Try karne ke liye naya rulePhoto ke baad ke baras bhi mere hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Baat uthe to kahiye “Wo bhi kya din the” aur aaj ki baat kijiye
- Kadam 2
Aise ek insaan ko dekhiye jo aapki aaj ki zindagi poochhta hai
- Kadam 3
Aaj bas yun hi ek photo mein rahiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Us baat ne peeche kya chhoda jo ek jaldi wali hansi nahi dhak paayi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Purane aap se ki gayi sarsari tulna #
Almora, Lala Bazaar ke purane ghar ki lakdi wali balcony, naamkaran ke baad ki sardiyon ki dopahar. Bua almari se purani album utaarti hain, school ki ek photo par ungli rakhti hain aur hanskar kehti hain: “Pehle ki photo mein toh zyada jachte the.” Photo ab bhi unke haath mein hai.
Ho sakta hai ye yaadon ki mithaas mein kahi gayi ho, log alag-alag wajahon se aisa bolte hain. Phir bhi isme saamne baithe insaan ko uske purane roop ke baghal mein rakha gaya hai, aur “zyada” shabd chupchaap album ko scoreboard bana deta hai.
Aakhri baar jab aapne ye suna, tab aap kahan the, aur us photo ko aur kaun dekh raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Shuru ke kuch second #
Kisi ko halki giravat feel hoti hai, ya hansi soch se pehle nikal jaati hai, ya haath chehre tak pahunch jaata hai. Koi kehta hai “Wo toh bahut purani baat hai,” koi baat badal deta hai, koi kehta hai doosri photo dikhaiye. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko safai nahi deni padti.
Roop-rang par kahi baat sochne se pehle sharir mein utarti hai. Kuch logon ko sochna baad mein aata hai, raat ko, wahi photo phone par kholkar, ye sochte hue ki kehne wale ne aakhir kya dekha.
Us baat ke baad pehle second mein, jawab dene se pehle, aapke andar kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Khud ke hi saamne khadi kar dene wali baat #
Insaan koi thehri hui tasveer nahi hai. Photo mein ek din, ek kon, ek roshni pakdi jaati hai, aur zindagi jobs, mausam, nuksaan aur barson se guzarti chalti hai. Phir bhi ye baat dono ko saath rakhkar beech ki doori hawa mein chhod deti hai, aur usme ek insaan khada reh jaata hai.
Iska paimana bhi chhupa rehta hai. Kuch logon ke liye yahi sabse chubhta hai: jawab dene ko kuch nahi, bas ek purane roop se muqable ka ehsaas hai jisse palatkar kuch poochha nahi ja sakta.
Photo ek din ka record hai; zindagi un dinon ke beech ki har cheez hai. Jab dono ki zubani tulna hoti hai to lag sakta hai ki barson ko number de diye gaye.
Zyada kis hisaab se, aur chuna kisne?Is par baat kijiye ›
Photo aur aaj ke beech ke barson ke baare mein aap kamre ko kya batana chahte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab tulna peecha karti hai #
Baar-baar sunne par wo andar ghar kar leti hai. Kuch logon ke liye wo aaine ke saamne, photo se pehle, ya kisi jamavde mein camera nikalte hi apne aap laut aati hai, usi ki awaaz mein jisne pehli baar kahi thi. Wo imaandaar khud-jaanch jaisi lag sakti hai, par usme kisi aur ka scoreboard hai.
Jaani-pehchani awaaz mein aane ki wajah se wo apni raay lagne lagti hai, kisi reunion mein bola hua vaakya nahi. Kehne wala kab ka ghar chala gaya, aur tulna agle camera tak saath chali aayi.
Photo se pehle jab wo baat lautti hai, to kiski awaaz mein, aur kis kamre se aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye roop ki tulna hamesha beete kal se hui #
“Arre, kitne badal gaye!” Kuch gharon mein album, school ki photo aur shaadi ki video baar-baar nikaali jaati rahin, aur photo mein baithe insaan ke sar ke upar se tippaniyan chalti rahin. Ye kam hi hamla hota tha, aur kam hi samjhaya jaata tha.
Aise barson se jo reh sakta hai wo hai khud ko album ki nazar se dekhne ki aadat: har nayi photo se pehle purane roop se aadhe second ki jaanch. Ye aadat bewajah nahi thi, kabhi baat sambhal leti thi. Bas un kamron se lambi umar ji sakti hai jinmein seekhi gayi thi.
Pehli baar kab dhyaan gaya ki aapki tulna kisi purani photo se hoti hai, aur ye tulna aam taur par kaun karta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Aisi baat ke baad ek chupchaap bana niyam #
Kuch logon ko ek niyam banta sunayi deta hai: “Mujhe waisa hi dikhna chahiye jaisa pehle dikhta tha, warna log notice karenge,” ya “Purana main hi paimana hai.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo jamavde chalne ke tareeqe ki samajh jaise lagte hain, jaise ye jaanna ki kaun si bua kaun sa sawaal poochhti hain. Isiliye unhein kabhi-kabhaar ujaale mein nikaalkar dekhna kaam ki baat hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ki jad bachpan mein paate hain, kuch nahi. Dono soorat mein use dekha ja sakta hai.
Kya aisa koi niyam aapse mel khaata hai, ya thoda, ya bilkul nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo aaj kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Tulna chupchaap kya le jaati hai #
Wo photos, reunions, parivaarik jamavdon aur tasveer mein hone ke sahaj chain tak pahunch sakti hai. Kuch log frame se hatne lagte hain, khud camera pakad lete hain, ya group photo ke waqt der se pahunchne ka bahana dhoond lete hain.
Ek khamosh keemat aur bhi hai. Jab kisi purane roop ko paimana bana diya jaye, to dhyaan ka ek hissa us doori par tika rehta hai, ki wo kitni dikh rahi hai. Saal bhar mein ye aise jamavde ban sakte hain jinmein aadha kaan agli tulna par laga raha.
Ye kamzori nahi hai. Doosron ke scoreboard dhone mein sachmuch mehnat lagti hai.
Pichhle saal us baat ne aapse kya liya, agar liya ho: koi photo, koi reunion, koi aasaan dopahar?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Sunday, jab tulna tez ho #
Ek aam Sunday sochiye, jis din “Purana main hi paimana hai” tez baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki ek tasveer hai, sudhaarne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad camera ka munh doosri taraf, frame ke kinare ki koi kursi, plan wale message ka bina jawab reh jaana. Usme bahut kuch ho sakta hai ya bahut kam; tasveer ka koi sahi roop nahi hai, aur usme kuch bhi bhavishyavaani nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi.
Aise Sunday mein kya-kya bhara hai: family group ki chat, mana ki gayi photo, raat ko scroll ki gayi gallery, chupchaap taale gaye plans?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us niyam ke tez hone wale aam Sunday ko sochein to kya dikhta hai, agar kuch dikhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Zyada kiske paimane par, aakhir? #
Aisi baat ko dheere se dekhein to uska jawab khud nikal aata hai: wo batati hai ki kehne wale ko kya pyaara lagta hai, aur pyaari yaadein kisi ke liye achha gaz nahi hotin. Baat zyadatar kehne wale ke beete kal ki tasveer ke baare mein hai, aapke baare mein ya aaj ke din ke baare mein bahut kam.
Yaaddaasht achhi roshni rakh leti hai aur baaki chhod deti hai, aur log aksar us waqt se pyaar karte hain jab wo khud jawan the. Aisi baat kehne wale ki nostalgia ke baare mein bahut kuch keh sakti hai, aur jisse kahi gayi uske baare mein bahut kam.
Agar kisi reunion mein aapke dost se yahi kaha jaata, to aap chahte ki unke aaspaas ke log aaj unmein kya dekhein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Us pal ko dheere se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log us pal ko dheere se dohrate hain to dekhte hain ki baat kitni chhoti thi aur dhona kitna lamba. Shabdon mein chaar second lage, aur dohrane mein poori shaam. Saath rakhkar dekhein to dono ka size bahut alag hai.
Kuch log unhein dekhte hain jo purani photo kabhi taulne ke liye nahi nikaalte: wo dost jo purane haircut par hanskar aage badh jaata hai, wo cousin jo poochta hai ab sab kaisa chal raha hai, wo colleague jise bas kisi plan par raay chahiye. Wo log hamesha se wahin the, aksar zyada chupchaap.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun hai jo purani photo aapke saath kisson ke liye dekhta hai, aur un baatcheet ka rukh kidhar jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Baat ka matlab tay karna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab baat se sehmat hona nahi, use thukrana bhi nahi, chahe wo jaise bhi lagi ho. Matlab bas itna ki ek vaakya ko photos, jamavdon mein haan-na aur baaki din ke mood par kam haq mile.
Kuch logon ko tab halka lagta hai jab wo ye hisaab chhod dete hain ki kehne wale ka matlab kya tha aur unke mann mein kaun si photo thi. Ye paheli shayad hi kabhi khatam hoti hai, aur ek album ko us din ke beech bithaye rakhti hai jo aaj ka hai.
Us baat ko kehne wale ka vaakya rehne dena, jo ek baar, ek photo par kaha gaya aur har agle camera tak saath nahi chala, usme kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne layak ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar baat kaafi waqt se laut rahi hai, to usse seedhe behes ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iski jagah ek vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Photo ek din ki hai. Uske baad ke baras bhi mere hain.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki beech-beech mein chupchaap kehne se ek purani tasveer aur aage ke din ke beech thodi jagah ban jaati hai.
Us baat ke baare mein aapka apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, aisa jo jo hua uske baare mein sahi ho aur jiske liye kehne wale ki haami zaroori na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein darwaze par chhoot sakti hain #
Har baat ko satik jawab, poori safai ya agli baar ki yojna nahi chahiye. Kuch baatein dekhi ja sakti hain, ek pal feel ki ja sakti hain, aur rakh di ja sakti hain, jaise Bua ki album band karke wapas shelf par rakh di jaati hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taaqat kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse un baatcheet ke liye jagah bachti hai jinke liye wo aaye the, aur un logon ke liye jinke saath rehna aasaan hai.
Baat ko aaj shaam ke liye rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi ya mamla nipat gaya. Matlab bas itna ki use agle jamavde, agli photo ya aaj ki baaki shaam ke saath chalna zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam ek paydaan dheela pad jaye #
Sochiye, sirf tasveer ki tarah, ki niyam ek paydaan dheema hai. Photo bas photo ho sakti hai, aur jamavda bas jamavda.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: ghar ka aisa phone jo aaj ki khabron par rahe, aasaan saath wali sair ko haan, ya aisi shaam jisme wo baat dobara na baje.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi uthe, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar aap ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Jis din niyam ek paydaan dheema ho, us din sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, purani photo wali tulna phir aayi”
- Dekhiye kya zyada tez hai: shabd ya unke baad ki hansi
- Chupchaap poochiye: ye scoreboard kiska hai, aur maanga kisne?
- Aise ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jo “tab” nahi, “ab” ke baare mein poochhta hai
- Aaj ek aisi cheez dekhiye jo koi purani photo pakad hi nahi sakti
Chhoti, nijee aur sab apni marzi ki. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Us baat ne peeche kya chhoda jo ek jaldi wali hansi nahi dhak paayi?
- Jab wo kahi gayi, tab aapke saath wo photo kaun dekh raha tha?
- Kaun aapki aaj ki zindagi ke baare mein poochta hai, beete kal ke baare mein nahi?
- Agar wo baat aapke liye tez ho jaye, to us waqt aaspaas kya hota hai?
- Agar wo thodi dheeli pade, to aap sabse pehle kya notice karenge?