Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
“Jach nahi raha” mein ek ankahi baat hai ki aapka koi aisa roop hai jo fit baithta hai aur ye wala nahi.
“Wo wala nahi, wo tumhare rang par nahi jaata.”
Kuch logon ke mann mein ek niyam ban jaata hai: “Wahi pehenna hai jo baaki log pass karein,” ya “Meri pasand ko doosri raay chahiye.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Hanskar kehna “Mujhe toh achha laga tha na”
- Dupatta ya jacket daalkar use dhak lena
- Jaldi se haan keh dena taaki baat khatam ho
- Muskura dena, phir poori shaam usi ke baare mein sochna
- Us kapde ko almirah ke peeche daal dena, phir kabhi na pehenna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Gate par khadi Bua
Rohini ke banquet hall mein cousin ki sagai. Aap hafton pehle chuna hua colour pehenkar aate ho aur bahut achha lag raha hai. Gate par Bua upar se neeche dekhti hain: “Ye colour tum par jach nahi raha.” Aap hanskar kehte ho, “Ho sakta hai!” Par poori raat aasteen kheenchte rehte ho, photo wale kone se bachte ho, aur sochte ho ki ve aur kya sochte honge.
Chunaav ko manzoori chahiye
Pehle seedhi baat: colour par kahi baat kisi ki pasand ke baare mein hai, aapki qadar ke baare mein nahi. Par isse ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ban jaata hai: “Wahi pehenna hai jo baaki log pass karein.” Kai log ise bina jaane nibhate hain. Ye samajhdaari jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har chunaav ko doosri raay ka intezaar rehta hai.
Manzoori achhi kyun lagti hai
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki manzoori achhi lagti hai, aur kapdon par har jagah kuch na kuch kaha jaata hai. Ye sabse aam chaahon mein se ek hai. Shayad ghar mein aise faisle aam the. Shayad aap bas ek shaant shaam chahte ho. Jo bhi ho, logon ko achha lagna chahne mein ghamand nahi. Ye apnepan ki chaah se aata hai, aur ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har faisle ka judta bojh
Aisa har faisla thoda bojh jodta hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye dikhta nahi. Bahar se kuch nazar nahi aata, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Aap safe shade kharidte ho. Pehle kisi dost se poochh lete ho. Photo chhod dete ho. Jo colour aapko pasand tha, wo jokhim ban jaata hai, aur almirah judges ka panel lagne lagti hai.
Kya manzoori iske layak hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya ye niyam pakde rakhne se aapko zyada aaram mila? Ya zyadatar yahi laga ki aapko parkha ja raha hai? Aapka chunaav kisi ke kuch kehne se pehle aapka tha. Chahein toh is par ek pal rukiye. Koi galat jawab nahi hai, jaldi bhi nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iski keemat ke layak hai?
Mehmaan, numaish nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki Bua ki neeyat buri thi, ya aapko behes karni hai. Matlab ye ki aapke chunaav ko bahar nikalne se pehle doosri raay nahi chahiye. Aap keh sakte ho “Thank you, mujhe toh achha laga,” aur khane ki taraf chal sakte ho. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin chain lautta hai: aap daawat ke mehmaan hote ho, numaish ki cheez nahi.
Being pushed to change how you look, mocked, threatened, hurt or frightened is not okay and is worth taking seriously; a friend or someone you trust can help.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleWahi pehenna hai jo baaki log pass karein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere chunaav mere hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Koi kuch kahe: “Thank you, mujhe pasand hai”, aur aage badhiye
- Kadam 2
Gaur kijiye kaun kapdon ki nahi, zindagi ki baat karta hai
- Kadam 3
Parkhe jaane jaisa lage toh pair zameen par rakh, dheere saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Us line ne kya peeche chhoda jise ek jhat ki hansi nahi dhak paayi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Dekhte hi suna diya gaya faisla #
Rohini ke banquet hall mein cousin ki sagai. Gate par Bua lifafe liye khadi hain aur namaste se pehle bol deti hain: “Arre, ye colour tum par jach nahi raha.” Office ki meeting mein, saheli se milte hi, ghar ke darwaaze par bhi yahi sunne ko mil sakta hai.
Kai baar ye pyaar se kaha jaata hai, “Bura mat manna, bas bata rahi hoon.” Par baat faisle ki hai, aur wo us cheez par aata hai jo aapne khud chuni aur pehni, aur jo aapke saath ghar se bahar aa chuki hai, sabke saamne.
Pichhli baar kab aapki apni pasand par aise dekhte hi faisla suna diya gaya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur aas-paas aur kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Faisle ke baad ka pehla pal #
Koi apni aasteen ko aise dekhne lagta hai jaise pehli baar dekhi ho. Koi hanskar kehta hai “Achha? Mujhe toh pasand hai.” Koi chup ho jaata hai, koi “Arre, badal lunga” keh deta hai aur mann hi mann bas ek minute ise maanta hai. Ye sab ho sakta hai.
Pehni hui cheez par kahi baat jaldi lagti hai, kyunki wo saamne hi hai aur baatcheet ke beech na chhupai ja sakti hai, na wapas li ja sakti hai. Kisi ko chubhan baad mein mehsoos hoti hai, aaine ke saamne ya dukaan ke rack par.
Faisle ke baad wale pehle pal mein aapke bheetar kya hua, isse pehle ki aap kuch kehte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Jo chunaav pehle hi ho chuka tha #
Jo aaj pehna hai, wo pehle tay hua tha, aaine ke saamne, achhe mood mein aur thodi taiyaari ke saath. Gate par mila faisla us sab ke baad aata hai, isliye colour ki raay kam aur ek faisle ka review zyada lagta hai.
“Jach nahi raha” mein ek ankahi baat hai ki aapka koi aisa roop hai jo fit baithta hai aur ye wala nahi. Ek kurte ya ek shade ke baare mein ye bahut badi baat hai.
Kuch logon ke mann mein sawaal reh jaata hai: aur kya-kya bina kahe judge kiya gaya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo colour chunte waqt aapko usmein kya achha laga tha, aur is baat ne uske paas baithkar kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab faisla almirah mein aa baithe #
Ek baar ho ya kai baar, aisi line andar ghar kar sakti hai. Kuch logon ke liye ye almirah kholte, dukaan mein ya trial room mein haath mein koi colour liye laut aati hai, apni hi awaaz mein: “Shayad jachega nahi.”
Kehne wali Bua shayad kab ki bhool gayi. Par jaanch chalti rehti hai, agli kis baat par toka jayega, wo dhoondhti hui. Aur kyunki ye jaani-pehchaani awaaz mein bolti hai, ye apni banayi raay jaisi lag sakti hai.
Jab ye line dobara bajti hai, toh kiski awaaz mein bajti hai, aur kaun si almirah ya dukaan se aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye rangon ke niyam the #
“Wo wala nahi, wo tumhare rang par nahi jaata.” Kuch logon ke liye colour chunna hamesha aisi cheez rahi jis par baaki sabki raay hoti thi: Karol Bagh ke darzi ke yahan chachi aur mami, Sarojini ke trial room ke bahar didi, sab pyaar se aur pakki raay ke saath.
Wajahein har ghar mein alag hain aur bachche ko shayad hi kabhi batayi gayi. Jo reh jaata hai wo ek chup sa khayal hai: colour ka chunaav kamre se poochkar hota hai, aur khud pasand aa jaana kaafi nahi.
Rangon ke chunaav par pehli baar kiski raay ki mohar lagte aapne dekha, aur faisla aam taur par kaun sunata tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Faisla peeche ek chup niyam chhod sakta hai #
Kuch logon ke mann mein ek niyam ban jaata hai: “Wahi pehenna hai jo baaki log pass karein,” ya “Meri pasand ko doosri raay chahiye.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo achhe saleeqe jaise lagte hain, doosron ke saamne samajhdaari se pehenne jaise. Isiliye inhe kabhi-kabhi nikalkar roshni mein dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Kya aisa koi niyam aap par baithta hai, thoda-bahut, ya bilkul nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Manzoori wala niyam aaj kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ek faisla chupchaap kya le jaata hai #
Ye shaadi ke outfit par asar daal sakta hai, nayi jacket par, baalon ke rang par, us cheez par jo bag mein hi reh gayi. Kuch log wahi colour chunne lagte hain jis par koi kuch na kahe, aur almirah dheere-dheere safe jawabon ki list ban jaati hai.
Ek aur keemat hai, jo kam dikhti hai: dhyan ka ek hissa is par rehta hai ki colour kaise dekha ja raha hai, kamre mein kya ho raha hai us par nahi. Ye dikhawe ki wajah se nahi. Doosri raay saath liye ghoomna thakata hai, aur kisi ko dikhta nahi.
Pichhle ek saal mein kisi chuni hui cheez par aaye faisle ki kya keemat rahi, agar rahi: koi outfit, koi plan, koi naya prayog, koi aasaan subah?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, jab niyam tez bole #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din ka jab “wahi pehenna hai jo baaki log pass karein” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki ek tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad metro ka safar, subah ki meeting, doston ke saath lunch, shaam ka plan. Usmein bahut kuch ho sakta hai ya bahut kam; tasveer ka koi sahi roop nahi hai, aur usmein kuch bhi aane wale waqt ki bhavishyavaani nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye.
Aise Tuesday mein kya bhara hai: almirah, aaina, plan, chupchaap peeche rakh di gayi cheezein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us niyam ke zor se bolne wale Tuesday ko sochne par aapko, agar kuch, toh kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kiske hisaab se jachta hai? #
“Jachta nahi” ke liye ek judge chahiye, ek paimana aur ek roshni. Ye naam le liye jayein toh baat aksar ek dopahar mein ek insaan ki pasand nikalti hai, aur pehenne wale ke baare mein bahut kam batati hai.
Aaine mein, hanger par, dopahar mein aur lamp ki roshni mein colour alag dikhta hai. Jo aapne uthaya, uski wajahein bolne wale se judi nahi thi: wo din, wo plan, wo mood. Ye aap hi jaante ho.
Kiske hisaab se, kis paimane par, kis tubelight ke neeche?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi dost wahi colour pehne aur use yahi sunne ko mile, toh aap use kya sunana chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Thoda dheeme dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, toh unhe dikhta hai ki baat kitni jaldi kahi gayi aur kitni jaldi chali gayi. Bua ka dhyan seconds mein khane ya lifafon par chala gaya, par sar mein dohrav bahut der chalta raha.
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jo kabhi kapdon par kuch nahi kehte: wo dost jo kisi kitaab ke baare mein poochta hai, wo colleague jise plan par raay chahiye, wo bachcha jise bas khel chahiye. Ve sab pehle se wahin the, aksar zyada shaant.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun hai jo is par baat karta hai ki aap kya sochte aur mehsoos karte ho, is par nahi ki aapne pehna kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Kiski pasand sahi thi, ye tay karna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab faisle se sehmat hona nahi, na usse ladna. Matlab bas itna ki ek insaan ki pasand ka kal aapke chunaav par, almirah mein kya rahega us par aur shaam ke baaki hisse par kam chale.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo ye tolna chhod dete hain ki baat sahi thi ya pyaar se kahi gayi thi. Wo paheli shayad hi kabhi suljhti hai, aur har dukaan aur aaine ke beech kisi aur ki raay rakhe rehti hai.
Kaisa lagega agar wo line bas bolne wali ki rahe, gate par ek baar kahi hui, aur agli dukaan tak aapke peeche na aaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha sentence #
Agar ye line baar-baar lautti hai, toh usse seedhe behes ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajay ek sentence taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo ek insaan ki pasand thi, aur ye maine apne liye chuna.”
Ye shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Kuch log ise bas aazmaate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki almirah ke saamne kabhi-kabhi kehne par ye kisi ki guzarti raay aur aapke din ke beech thodi jagah chhod deta hai.
Us line ke baare mein aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha sentence kya hoga, jo jo hua uske baare mein theek ho aur jismein kehne wale ki haami na chahiye ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baat gate par chhodi ja sakti hai #
Har line ke liye badhiya jawab, poori safai ya agle outfit ka plan zaroori nahi. Kuch baat dekhi ja sakti hai, ek pal mehsoos ki ja sakti hai aur shaam ke aakhir mein chair par chhoot gaye bag ki tarah neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taaqat kahan lage. Kuch log kehte hain isse un baatcheet ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinke liye wo aaye the, aur un logon ke liye jinke saath rehna aasaan hai.
Shaam ke liye ise neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi ya nipat gayi. Bas itna ki ise ghar, agli dukaan ya kal ki almirah tak saath nahi aana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam ek darja dheela pade #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Shirt bas shirt ho sakti hai aur baalon ka shade bas ek shade.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: almirah ke peeche wala colour nikalna, apni pasand ka pehenkar dukaan tak tahal aana, ya ek aisi shaam jismein wo faisla dobara na baje.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, toh baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Jis din niyam ek darja dheema ho, us din sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmaate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir mere chunaav par faisla”
- Gaur kijiye ki colour tab kaisa lagta hai jab koi dekh nahi raha
- Ek aise insaan ko yaad kijiye jo kapdon par kabhi kuch nahi kehta
- Aaj ek cheez sirf isliye chuniye ki wo aapko pasand hai
- Halka jawab dijiye, phir unke din ke baare mein poochh lijiye
Chhote, private aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Us line ne kya peeche chhoda jise ek jhat ki hansi nahi dhak paayi?
- Jab aapki pasand par faisla suna diya gaya, tab aas-paas kaun tha, aur unke chehron ne kya kiya?
- Kaun hai jo aapse aapke kapdon ki nahi, aapki zindagi ki baat karta hai?
- Aisi line jab aapke liye tez bolne lage, us pal aas-paas kya hota hai?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, toh sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?