Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Chhutti karaar ka hissa hai, ehsaan nahi.
Bahut logon ke liye aaram maangna pehli naukri se bahut pehle jokhim bhara lagne laga.
Neeche-neeche ek chup niyam ban sakta hai: “Meri chhutti tabhi ginegi jab main uski wajah saabit kar sakoon.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Wajah itni zyada samjhana ki kisi ko utne byore ki zaroorat hi nahi thi
- Koi kahe usse pehle hi trip chhoti kar dena
- Maangna hi nahi, aur dinon ko chupchaap lapse hone dena
- Chhutti lekar bhi har ghante mail check karna
- Hafton bheetar-bheetar kudhna aur kisi se kuch na kehna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Haan se pehle ki wo aah
Kozhikode ka ek office, Tuesday ki dopahar. Aap behen ki sagai ke liye chaar din maangte ho. Ticket hain, taareekhein hain, cover karne wala saathi bhi taiyaar hai. Manager kursi par peeche tikkar aah bharte hain. “Sach mein itna zaroori hai? Isi hafte?” Lambi chuppi, phir: “Theek hai. Phone on rakhna.” Aap “Bilkul, shukriya” kehte ho, aur shaam sochte guzarti hai ki kahin ticket cancel hi na kar dein.
Chhutti ki wajah saabit karni padti hai
Pehle seedhi baat: taareekhon par aah aapki lagan par sahi faisla nahi hai, aur aapki chhutti kabhi ehsaan nahi thi. Par aise palon se ek niyam ugta hai aur aapka ho jaata hai: “Meri chhutti tabhi ginegi jab main uski wajah saabit kar sakoon.” Ye achha karmchari hona jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: jo din pehle se aapke the, unhein karz bana deta hai.
Bharosemand hona surakshit kyun lagta hai
Aisa niyam hum isliye pakadte hain kyunki bharosemand hona suraksha jaisa lagta hai: naukri, agla hike, kisi ka visa. Bahut se log unhein dekhte bade hue jo kabhi chhutti nahi lete the. Bharosa paana aur team ko nirash na karna bahut insaani chaah hai. Ise chaahna kamzori nahi. Ye parwah se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Sagai mein bhi phone on
Keemat chupchaap judti hai. Aap kai din maangne ki rehearsal karte ho. Zaroori hafte ki jagah shaant hafta chun lete ho. Kisi ka janmdin chhootta hai, ya sagai video call par dekhte ho. Chhutti mein bhi phone on rehta hai aur shaadi ke pandal mein inbox khula. Thake lautte ho, aur gharwale dekhte hain ki aap wahan the, par poori tarah nahi.
Kya aaram kamana iske layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: is niyam ko pakde rehne se kya kabhi aah mitee, ya mann ki kasak zara bhi chhoti hui? Ya zyadatar ye aapko wo din poore milne se rokta raha jo aapko mile the? Pehle bhi aapki gair-haazri mein office chalta raha hai. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Chahein to ek pal iske saath rukiye. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke layak hai jo aapka chain chukata hai?
Phone bag mein, aur naachte hue
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aah jaayaz thi, ya ki aapko team ki parwah nahi. Matlab ye ki aah manager ki table par reh sakti hai aur aap train pakad sakte ho. Sagai mein phone bag mein rakhkar naach sakte ho, aur apne kaam mein phir bhi achhe reh sakte ho. Ek-ek chhutti karke, wo din phir se apne lagne lagte hain.
If asking for leave brings threats, your passport or pay held back, or being frightened at work, that is not okay and is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMeri chhutti tabhi ginegi jab main uski wajah saabit kar sakoon.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri chhutti meri hai. Ek aah ‘na’ nahi hoti.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Ek chhote vaakya mein chhutti maangne ki kalpana kijiye
- Kadam 2
Gaur kijiye ki wajah mann mein kaise lambi hoti jaati hai
- Kadam 3
Ek shaant ghante ke liye phone ulta rakh dijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Taareekhon se pare, us aah ne aapke baare mein kya kaha, aisa aapko laga?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Haan se pehle ek aah #
Aap chaar din maangte ho, taareekhein, wajah aur cover karne wala sab taiyaar lekar. Manager kursi par peeche tikte hain. Ek lambi saans. “Sach mein itna zaroori hai? Isi hafte?” Phir kaafi der baad, “Theek hai. Phone on rakhna.” Haan toh hai, par kuch aisi haan jo haan jaisi lagti nahi.
Aksar kehne wale par apna dabaav hota hai: team chhoti, target sir par, upar se apne boss ke sawaal. Ye sach ho sakta hai, aur aah phir bhi chubh sakti hai, kyunki wo theek tab aayi jab aapne wo maanga jo pehle se aapka tha.
Aakhri baar kab chhutti maangne par aapko jawab mein sawaal, chuppi ya aah mili?Is par baat kijiye ›
Unhone kya kaha, aur uska kaun sa hissa aap ghar tak le aaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sochne se pehle safai kyun dene lagte hain #
Kuch logon ka chehra garam ho jaata hai aur wo turant safai dene lagte hain: shaadi, ticket, wo maa jo mahino se poochh rahi hain. Kuch kisi ke kahe bina hi trip chhoti karne ko keh dete hain. Kuch chup hokar kehte hain “Koi baat nahi, dekh lenge”. Inmein se kuch bhi kamzori nahi.
Office mein bharosemand dikhna suraksha se juda lagta hai: naukri, agla hike, kisi ke liye visa. Isliye chhutti par ek shak bhari nazar sochne se pehle hi sab sahi karne ki hadbadi jaga deti hai. Zyada shaant khayal, ki chhutti bhi karaar ka hissa hai, aksar baad mein aata hai.
Us pehle khinchaav se pata chal sakta hai ki aapko kya khone ka darr tha.
Aah ke baad wale second mein aapne kya kiya: safai di, maang chhoti ki, ya baat chhod di?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Taareekhon ka sawaal jo shak jaisa sunayi deta hai #
Chhutti ka sawaal aapki lagan ka sawaal jaisa sunayi de sakta hai. Shabd taareekhon ke hain, par mann aksar unke neeche sunta hai “Inhein lagta hai mere liye ye naukri gambhir cheez nahi.” Isiliye ek chhoti aah saaf ‘na’ se zyada chubh sakti hai.
Chhutti karaar ka hissa hai, ehsaan nahi. Jab use ek baar bhi ehsaan ki tarah liya jaata hai, to maangne wale ko lagne lagta hai ki kuch chukana hai, aur chhutti baad mein bharpaai karne wali cheez ban jaati hai.
To chubhan aksar dinon se zyada is baat ki hoti hai ki sawaal kya kehta laga.
Taareekhon se pare, wo aapko kya kehta laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab aah aapke dimaag mein bas jaye #
Aah ke baad ek awaaz saath jud sakti hai. “Unhein yaad rahega ki chhutti li thi.” “Isi hafte maangna hi nahi chahiye tha.” “Rehne do, office hi aa jaate hain.”
Ye zimmedar karmchari jaisi lag sakti hai. Par dekhiye ye karti kya hai: jo waqt pehle se aapka hai use karz bana deti hai, aur aapke bag pack karne se pehle hi wo karz chukana shuru kar deti hai.
Chhutti maangne ki rehearsal karte waqt awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Is manager ki, ya kisi ki jise aap is naukri se bahut pehle jaante the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Aaram maangna bahut pehle se mushkil tha #
Bahut logon ke liye aaram maangna pehli naukri se bahut pehle jokhim bhara lagne laga. School ki bimari ki chhutti par ghar mein sawaal, wo Papa jinhone kabhi ek din ki chhutti nahi li aur ye garv se bataya, koi buzurg jo chhuttiyon ko shauqeeni kehte the.
Kuch gharon aur kuch daftaron mein kabhi chhutti na lene wale ki chupke se taareef hoti hai. Wajahein aksar guzaare aur fikar ki hoti hain. Jo atak sakta hai wo ye ehsaas hai ki aaram kamzori hai jiski safai deni padti hai, aur achha insaan phir bhi aa jaata hai.
Aapne kise bina chhutti liye kaam karte bade hote dekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Unse aapne seekha ki aaram ki kya keemat chukani jaayaz hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ek chupchaap niyam jisse aap shayad chal rahe hon #
Neeche-neeche ek chup niyam ban sakta hai: “Meri chhutti tabhi ginegi jab main uski wajah saabit kar sakoon.”
Iska ek kareebi bhai hai: “Achha karmchari doosron ke liye mushkil nahi banta.” Saath milkar ve har chhutti ki arzi ko ek chhota muqadma bana dete hain, jahan wajah kaafi mazboot aur waqt bilkul sahi hona chahiye, aur aah ek doshi faisla lagti hai.
Aise niyam seedhi sharafat jaise lagte hain, isiliye inhein ek baar dekhna theek hai.
Aapne kahan seekha ki aaram ke liye achhi wajah chahiye, aur kiski wajah kabhi kaafi achhi maani jayegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Is niyam ki keemat aapke chhutti ke dinon par #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai kai din arzi ki rehearsal karna, zaroori hafte ki jagah sabse kam kaam wala hafta chunna, kisi cousin ki sagai ya maa-Papa ka janmdin chhod dena, aur chhutti se jaane ke samay se zyada thake lautna. Kuch log bas maangna chhod dete hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab chhutti kamakar leni ho, to chhutti khud aaram nahi rehti. Houseboat par bhi phone on rehta hai, shaadi ke pandal mein inbox khula rehta hai, aur gharwale dekhte hain ki aap wahan ho, par poori tarah nahi.
Is niyam ki ab tak kya keemat rahi: koi trip, ghar ka koi pal, koi din jo aapka hona tha aur kisi tarah raha nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, isi niyam se chalte hue #
Ek aam saal ki tasveer banaiye jisme “Meri chhutti tabhi ginegi jab main safai de sakoon” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ki nahi.
Shayad behen ki sagai video call par dekhi gayi, hotel ke bistar par khula laptop liye chhutti, ek lamba weekend jo chhota ho gaya, chhutti ka balance jo badhta rehta hai aur saath mein thakaan bhi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: li gayi chhuttiyan, bina istemaal reh gayin, kisi aur ke vyast hafte ke hisaab se bani yatrayein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Chhutti toh pehle se aapki thi #
Naukri lete waqt jo tay hua tha, chhutti usi ka hissa hai, kaam ki tarah. Ek aah ise nahi badalti. Wo staffing ki mushkil par ek insaan ki pratikriya hai, aur aksar aapke baare mein hai hi nahi.
Manager par kaam ka bojh ho sakta hai aur chhutti phir bhi jaayaz ho sakti hai. Dono ek saath sach ho sakte hain. Cover ki unki chinta unke suljhane ki hai, aur din aapke istemaal ke hain.
Ek aur nazar: agar koi saathi inhi teen-chaar dinon ke liye, isi wajah se chhutti maange, to kya aapko lagega ki use safai deni padegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap uske liye kya chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log us pal ko gaur se dekhte hain, to bahuton ko dikhta hai ki manager ne haan kahi thi. Aah tez thi, par jawab phir bhi haan tha, aur zyadatar bojh uske baad ke minuton aur dinon se aaya.
Kuch ko dikhta hai ki pichhli baar jab wo door the tab bhi office chalta raha. Kisi saathi ne cover kiya, koi message intezaar karta raha, jo cheez zaroori lag rahi thi wo nahi nikli. Bahut kam office teen din ke liye rukte hain, bhale lage ki ruk jayenge.
Pichhli baar jab aapne chhutti li tab asal mein kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo darr tha uska kitna hissa sach hua, aur kitna bas intezaar karta raha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Aah aur yatra dono reh sakte hain #
Anmani haan se sulah ka matlab ye nahi ki aah theek thi, ya chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki chhutti ke din kaise lagenge, is par aah ka kam chale.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab aah ko manager ke hafte ki baat rehne dete hain, aur chhutti ko apni zindagi ki. Dono saath-saath baith sakti hain. Kisi ko jeetna nahi hai, aur raat do baje kisi par behas nahi karni.
Kaisa lagega agar aap wo din bina “Kuch galat kiya” wali chubhan chukaye lein, pehle, dauraan ya baad mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Kasak ki jagah kuch sachcha rakhiye #
Agar aah ke baad se “Isi hafte maangna hi nahi chahiye tha” chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log ek sachchi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Jo pehle se mera tha, wahi maanga. Iski ijazat thi.”
Shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ise bas purani line se zyada sahi hona hai, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki baar-baar kehne se ye bahaduri ki awaaz se badalkar apni awaaz jaisi sunayi dene lagti hai.
Jo waqt aap lete ho uske baare mein aapka apna sachcha vaakya kya hoga, seedha aur bina aakhir mein chipki maafi ke?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein unki table par hi reh sakti hain #
Har aah ka matlab nikalna, jawab dena ya bharpaai karna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko suna ja sakta hai, notice kiya ja sakta hai, aur manager ki table par hi chhoda ja sakta hai.
Ye kaam ke prati laparwahi nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki un dinon mein aapki taaqat kahan lage jo aapke hone the: koi shaadi, maa ki rasoi, kisi purane dost ke saath lamba lunch.
Aah ko peeche chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo jaayaz thi, ya bhula di gayi. Bas itna ki use bag pack karke yatra par saath nahi aana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Team aur waqt ki parwah ab bhi hai, par chhutti bina lambi wajah ke aapki hai.
Chhoti cheezein ho sakti hain: ek pankti mein likhi arzi, ek dopahar bag mein pada phone, kisi cousin ki shaadi jahan email ki jagah aap naachein.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch cheezein jo logon ke kaam aati hain #
- Maangne se pehle gaur kijiye ki wajah mann mein kitni lambi ho gayi hai
- Sochiye ki ek chhote vaakya mein maang rahe hain, aur jodne ki khujli par gaur kijiye
- Chhutti ke din ek ghanta chuniye jab phone ulta rakha rahe
- Jab mann bhaari ho to table par haath rakhkar sochiye: ye waqt mera hai
- Koi ek baar yaad kijiye jab aapki gair-haazri bakhoobi sambhal gayi
Sab nijee, sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo chun lijiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Taareekhon se pare, us aah ne aapke baare mein kya kaha, aisa aapko laga?
- Aapko pehli baar kisne sikhaya ki aaram ke liye achhi wajah chahiye?
- Pichhli baar maangna chhod dene par aapne kya khoya?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap kya maangna taal rahe honge?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?