Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Raftaar abhyas, mahaul aur samjhane ki saafayi par tikti hai, aur ye shabd in sabko chhod deta hai.
Ye us class ki yaad ho sakti hai jahan tez haath pehle uthte the, us ghar ki jahan subah ki bhaagdaud mein aaram se taiyaar hone walon ke liye jagah nahi thi, ya khaane ki table aur exam hall mein hamesha aakhir mein nipatane wala banne ki.
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Main jahan hona chahiye wahan se peeche hoon,” ya “Baaki sab mujhse tez chalte hain.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Jaldi mein nipatana, aur baad mein sab dobara dekhna
- Ek aur minute maangne ki jagah chup rehna
- Der tak rukkar ya jaldi aakar kaam kar lena, taaki koi samay na dekhe
- Kisi ke kehne se pehle hi apni raftaar ke liye maafi maang lena
- Wo kaam taal dena jismein koi dekh raha ho
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Sir ke peeche khade hokar aah
Kozhikode ke accounts office mein pehla mahina. Aap aise software par kaam kar rahe ho jo pehle kabhi nahi dekha. Sir peeche khade hokar aah bharte hain: “Tum bahut slow ho! Party baithi hai, haath chalao.” Ungliyan jam jaati hain. Lagataar do galtiyan ho jaati hain. Baaki din har kaam jaldbaazi mein, dhadkan tez, chhota-sa mehsoos hota hai. Raat ko ghar par aadhi raat tak wahi software aazmate rehte ho.
Har waqt sabke barabar chalna
Pehle seedhi baat: apni raftaar se seekhna koi kami nahi, aur wo tippani jaayaz nahi thi. Par isse ek niyam ug sakta hai aur aapka ban jaata hai: “Mujhe har waqt sabke barabar chalna hai.” Bahut log bina soche iske hisaab se jeete hain. Ye mehnat jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aap bhaagte ho, aur bhaagna wahi galtiyan karaata hai jinka darr tha.
Dheeme hone par taana kyun mila
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki kabhi dheeme hone par taana suna ya saza mili. Ye bahut insaani chaah hai, aur aam hai. Shayad homework par aapko jaldi karwaya gaya. Shayad tez bhai-behnon se tulna hui. Barabar chalne ki chaah bewakoofi nahi, apnepan aur achha karne ki chaah hai. Use narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har tippani ke saath badhta dabaav
Aisi har tippani dabaav badhati hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Dheere-dheere sab judta jaata hai. Kaam jaldi mein nipatata hai. Galtiyan badhti hain. Koi dekhe to ghabrahat hoti hai. Sambhalkar, baareeki se kaam karne ka aapka tareeka, jo aksar taaqat hota hai, khot lagne lagta hai, aur nayi cheezein dilchasp ki jagah daraavni lagti hain.
Kya bhaagna iske layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakadne se aap kabhi tez hue? Ya zyadatar bas zyada ghabraye aur jaldbaazi mein? Log alag raftaar se seekhte aur kaam karte hain, aur sambhalkar karne ka matlab aksar achha hota hai. Ek tippani aapki qaabiliyat ka paimana nahi. Chahein to ek pal iske saath baithiye. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke layak hai?
Aapki raftaar aapki apni hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki kabhi sudharna nahi, ya tippani ko maan lena. Matlab ye hai ki ab har kisi se race nahi lagani. Aap zaroori waqt le sakte ho, aur seekhte-seekhte tez ho sakte ho. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Ye ekdum se nahi hota, aur hona bhi zaroori nahi. Wahin chain lautta hai: raftaar aapki apni ho jaati hai, aur sambhalkar kiya kaam achha kaam banta hai.
Being humiliated again and again, threatened, hurt or frightened at work or at home is not okay and is worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe har waqt sabke barabar chalna hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri raftaar meri hai. Sambhalkar karna achha ho sakta hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aaj ek kaam apni sthir raftaar se kijiye
- Din 2
Ek aisi cheez par gaur kijiye jo aap sambhalkar achhe se karte hain
- Din 3
Jab bhaagne lagein, to ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab unhone ye kaha, tab aap kis kaam ke beech mein the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Kaam aadha beeta hai aur baat keh di gayi #
Kozhikode ke ek accounts office mein mahine ka aakhri hafta hai, GST ki filing sir par, aur software naya. Sir kursi ke peeche khade hokar ghadi dekhte hain: “Tum bahut slow ho! Party baithi hai, haath chalao.” Aur sabki nazar aap par hai.
Ye baatein aksar kaam ke beech mein aati hain, jab kuch poora bhi nahi hua. Inmein kaam ke sahi-galat ki baat nahi hoti, raftaar ki hoti hai, jaise kisi se zyada waqt lagna insaan ki kami ho, us pal ki sachchai nahi.
Aakhri baar kab suna, ya isse milta-julta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap kis kaam ke beech mein the, aur in shabdon ke baad ke minuton mein us kaam ka kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Iske baad haath kyun ladkhadate hain #
Kuch logon ka chehra garam ho jaata hai aur dhyaan kaam se hatkar intezaar karte insaan par kood jaata hai. Koi haath tez kar deta hai; koi theek usi kaam par jam jaata hai jo ek pal pehle sahaj chal raha tha. Isme zaroorat se zyada nazuk hone jaisa kuch nahi.
Dekhe jaane aur jaldi karaye jaane par pal kaam se bahut bada lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko sthir soch baad mein lautti hai, jab koi intezaar nahi kar raha hota, aur saath mein ye saaf samajh ki kaam ko asal mein kya chahiye tha.
In shabdon ke baad ke secondon mein aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Raftaar badhayi, jam gayi, ya aisi chooken hone lagin jo aam taur par nahi hotin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kamre ke dabaav ke baare mein ye reaction kya kehti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye raftaar ko faisla bana deta hai #
“Isme thoda waqt lag raha hai” kaam ki baat hai. “Slow” kaam ko chhodkar karne wale insaan par aa jaata hai, aur mann pal ko nahi, label ko sunta hai. Ek dopahar zyada waqt lagna aisa lagne lagta hai jaise aap har jagah aise hi hain.
Isme ek tulna bhi chhipi hai. Raftaar abhyas, mahaul aur samjhane ki saafayi par tikti hai, aur ye shabd in sabko chhod deta hai.
Kiski tulna mein slow: bhai-behen, wo colleague jisne sau baar kiya hai, ya ye andaaza ki kitna lagna chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jis kaam mein zyada waqt laga, wo theek-theek kya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur use us pal mein kya nahi mil raha tha: waqt, saaf samjhaish, ya bas kisi ka sir par khade na hona?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab andar stopwatch chalne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar bas jaata hai. “Jaldi karo, sab intezaar kar rahe hain.” “Baaki log to kab ke nipta chuke hote.” “Hamesha mera hi number aakhir mein kyun?” Form bharte, office ka naya system seekhte, ya kisi ke dekhte hue type karte waqt ye chalu ho sakta hai.
Kehne wala shayad kab ka ja chuka ho, par stopwatch chalti rehti hai, aur ab wo aapki apni awaaz jaisi lagti hai. Isiliye pakadna mushkil hai: ye kisi ki besabri nahi lagti, aap kaise kaam karte hain, uski seedhi sachchai lagti hai.
Jab ye jaldi karne ko kehti hai to awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki, ya kisi desk ya darwaaze par, nikalne ka intezaar karte hue, barson pehle uthayi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye ye bachpan se chala aa raha hai #
Ye us class ki yaad ho sakti hai jahan tez haath pehle uthte the, us ghar ki jahan subah ki bhaagdaud mein aaram se taiyaar hone walon ke liye jagah nahi thi, ya khaane ki table aur exam hall mein hamesha aakhir mein nipatane wala banne ki. “Jaldi karo, bus chhut jayegi.”
Kuch gharon aur schoolon mein tez hone ki zor se taareef hoti thi aur sambhalkar karne wale peeche ginte jaate the, aur wajahein alag-alag hain. Bachcha chupchaap ye nateeja nikaal leta hai ki uski apni raftaar dikkat hai, aur sweekar hone ke liye bhaagna padega.
Aapki raftaar chhipane ya theek karne ki cheez kab lagne lagi, aur tab aamtaur par intezaar kaun karta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aaj kaun si jagahein wo purana ehsaas lauta laati hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche banta ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Main jahan hona chahiye wahan se peeche hoon,” ya “Baaki sab mujhse tez chalte hain.” Kuch logon mein halka roop hota hai: “Apne waqt se karne par logon ko rukna padega, isliye bhaagna hi theek hai.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti nahi. Wo bas apni haalat jaanna lagti hai, isiliye use kabhi-kabhi dhoop mein nikalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log ise bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: agar waqt lene par aah milti hai to bhaago.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ghadi ke khilaaf jeene ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai us kaam ko jaldbaazi mein nipatana jo ek ghanta aur milta to badhiya hota, aisi deadline par haan keh dena jo kabhi jaayaz thi hi nahi, ya kitna waqt lagta hai, ye subah jaldi aur raat der tak chhipana. Kuch log doosron ke saamne kuch naya seekhna hi chhod dete hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab har kaam race lage, to kisi cheez par dhyaan dena khot chhipane jaisa lagne lagta hai, aur nipatana raahat deta hai, us tarah ke poore hone ka ehsaas nahi jo aap chahte the.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Kisi aur ki set ki hui ghadi ke saath kaam karna mehnat maangta hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein iski keemat kya rahi: jaldi mein nipta kaam, koi course jisse bache, koi shaam jo chupchaap peeche chhoota kaam poora karne mein gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, ghadi se race lagate hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Main jahan hona chahiye wahan se peeche hoon” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad office mein screen share, lunch mein bhara form, jaldi mein type kiya message taaki kisi ko intezaar na karna pade, ek shaam us kaam ko nipatate jiske liye din ne jagah nahi chhodi. Shayad kisi course ki list jo kholi aur band kar di.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, baatcheet, wo nayi cheezein jo aazmayi hi nahi gayin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Slow, magar kiski tulna mein? #
Tezi kaam achha karne ka sirf ek tareeka hai. Kuch log tez hote hain, kuch sambhalkar chalne wale, kuch alag-alag waqt par dono, is par ki kitni thakaan hai, kaam kitna naya hai, aur kaun dekh raha hai. Ek pal ki raftaar poore insaan ke baare mein bahut kam batati hai.
Jawab aksar bahut khaas hota hai: ek naya software, ganit ka wo hissa jo saalon se kiya nahi, ek kaam jo jaldi mein ek baar samjhaya gaya. Jis khaas cheez ko zyada waqt chahiye, use dekhna faisle ko dekhne se kahin aasaan hai.
Poochhiye: kis cheez mein slow, theek-theek, aur kiski tulna mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur tareeka: agar koi kareebi dost kuch naya seekh raha ho aur koi use slow kahe, to aapko raftaar dikkat lagegi, ya jaldbaazi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap use kya sunana chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log us pal ko dheere-dheere dekhte hain, to kuch ko dikhta hai ki wo kuch naya, aspasht ya mushkil kar rahe the, aur koi sir par khada tha.
Kuch ko dikhta hai ki sthir raftaar unke liye kaisi hai: kisi baareeki ko jaanchne ka waqt, jawab se pehle sunne ka, agle step se pehle ek step samajhne ka. Kuch paate hain ki jaldi mein ye cheezein shayad hi kabhi ginti mein aati hain.
Kaam kya tha, aur kamra kaisa tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jab koi intezaar nahi kar raha hota, tab aapki apni raftaar kaisi hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur kaun se kaam tab behtar lagte hain jab unhein wo waqt mile jo aap dena chahein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Kisi se race lagane ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki raftaar galat thi, ya ye dikhana nahi ki shabd chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki shabd ka is par kam chale ki aap kaise kaam karein, kaun se kaam lein, aur kya apni raftaar se seekhne dein.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo tez dikhne ki koshish chhod dete hain. Sir ke bheetar ek andekhi ghadi se race lagana thaka deta hai, aur us ek besabr pal ko har agle kaam ke beech mein rakhe rehta hai.
Kaisa lagega agar shabd unhi ka rehne dein, aur sirf wo hissa rakhein jo kaam aa sakta ho, jaise koi aisa kaam jiska sach mein koi tez tareeka ho, agar ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Hamesha mera hi number aakhir mein aata hai” barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log “Is kaam mein mujhe jitna waqt lagna hai, lagta hai” jaisi line taiyaar rakhte hain, aur shabd tab tak badalte hain jab tak fit na hon.
Ye shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Itna kaafi hai ki purani wali se zyada sahi ho, aur kuch logon ko lagta hai ki dheere se, baar-baar kehne par, khaaskar kisi ke dekhte hue kaam se pehle, wo purane shabd ki thodi jagah le leti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aapki raftaar ke baare mein imaandaar ho, bina maafi maange aur bina use kuch aur dikhaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “slow” ko palatkar jawab, raftaar ka daur ya agli baar tez hone ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe din ke aakhir mein bhaari bag farsh par rakh dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse kaam theek se karne ke liye jagah bachti hai, aur un logon ke liye jo sahi kaam ke liye ek minute intezaar karne ko khush hain.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki ye sahi tha ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki ise aaj baaki har cheez mein saath nahi chalna.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Jaldi karaye jaane par ab bhi bechaini hoti hai, par raftaar raftaar hai, faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: ghar par koi naya hunar shuru karna bina dekhe ki doosron ne kitni jaldi seekha, koi nijee kaam apni sthir raftaar se karna, ya bas mann ke liye koi shauk uthana.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi stopwatch”
- Gaur kijiye ki pal mein kya zyada zor se laga: shabd, ya lehja
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: kiski tulna mein slow, aur kis cheez mein?
- Akele mein dekhiye ki kaam ko kya chahiye: waqt, saaf samjhaish, ya koi sir par na khada ho
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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