Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
“Kisi ne bataya nahi” bahana lag sakta hai, aur sorry is baat par haami ki niyam toh saaf tha.
“Samajhdaar bachcha hota toh samajh jaata.”
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Mujhe pata hona chahiye tha,” ya “Kuch galat hua toh isliye ki maine theek se socha nahi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Turant sorry, poori safai ke saath
- Waise har pal ko khangaalna ki aur kya chhoota
- “Kisi ne bataya nahi” bolna aur sunna ki kaisa lag raha hai
- Uske baad har cheez chupke se do baar jaanchna
- Nayi cheezein aazmana hi chhod dena
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Do kursiyan, ek anlikha niyam
Muzaffarpur, chachere bhaiya ki shaadi ka pandal. Aap aage ki khaali kursiyon par baith jaate ho, jo asal mein baraat walon ke liye rakhi thin. Mausi paas aakar dheemi, kasi awaaz mein kehti hain: “Tumhein itna toh pata hona chahiye tha.” Kursiyon ka koi niyam kisi ne kabhi bataya hi nahi tha. Pet dhak se baithta hai, aap safai dene lagte ho, aur apne hi vaakya ke beech sunte ho ki wo kaisa lag raha hai.
Pehle khud samajh lo
Sabse pehle saaf baat: jo niyam kisi ne kaha hi nahi, uska hisaab maangna theek nahi hai. Par isse ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ban jaata hai: “Mujhe pata hona chahiye tha, isliye pehle khud samajh lena hai.” Ye savdhaani jaisa lagta hai. Par iska asar dekhiye: aap har kamre ki toh lete ho, sawaal nigalte ho, aur un lines ke liye sorry bolte ho jo dikhi hi nahi thin.
Vaakya kyun chubhta hai
Aisa niyam hum isliye pakadte hain ki chook chubhti hai, aur sahi andaza lagana surakshit lagta hai. Yah bahut insaani aur aam chaahat hai. Shayad bachpan mein ghar mein samajhdaar samjha jaana aapke hi hisse aaya. Shayad aapko achha karne ki bahut fikr hai. Jo bhi ho, sahi karna chahna bewaqoofi nahi, parwaah se aata hai. Use narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har baar thoda kam poochhna
Har “Tumhein pata hona chahiye tha” aapko thoda kam poochhne deta hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap feel karte ho. Baat-baat par judta jaata hai. Aap sawaal taal dete ho. Aazmane ki jagah dekhte ho. Har naye kamre ko imtihaan maante ho, aur shuru ke mahine patle hote jaate hain.
Hamesha sahi andaza lagana sahi hai?
Is niyam ko pakde hue imaandaari se poochhiye: kya har anlikhe niyam ka andaza lagane se kabhi chook se bachav hua? Ya zyadatar un kamron mein chuppi rahi jahan sawaal aam baat hota? Ek vaakya kisi niyam ko jaayaz nahi bana deta. Jo bhi hua, bahut kuch kabhi kaha hi nahi gaya tha. Chahein to ek pal iske saath baithiye, narmi se, bina ilzaam ke. Hamesha sahi andaza lagana is keemat ke laayak hai kya?
Chook hai, kami nahi
Chhodne ka matlab behes ladna ya dosh odhna nahi. Matlab ye ki chook chook hi rahe, aur aapka sawaal phir bhi gina jaye. Aap ek baar seedhe poochh sakte ho, aur baaki doosron par chhod sakte ho. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapki parwaah aapki rehti hai, aur anlikhi list unki rehti hai.
Where someone really does react badly, threatens or frightens you, that is worth taking seriously, and keeping your head down for a while can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe pata hona chahiye tha, isliye pehle khud samajh lena hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleAb tak jitna dikhaya gaya hai, utna hi jaana ja sakta hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Ek chhota sawaal jaldi poochhiye, phir use waise hi rehne dijiye
- Din 2
Aaj ki ek cheez par gaur kijiye jo theek hui
- Din 3
Vaakya goonje to ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab unhone kaha ki aapko pata hona chahiye tha, tab kya hua tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Jo niyam kaha nahi gaya, uska hisaab #
Naya colleague galat group mein jawab de deta hai. Shaadi mein koi mehmaan baraat walon ke liye rakhi kursiyon par baith jaata hai. Kishor Maa ki achhi kainchi se akhbaar ki jagah kapda kaat deta hai. Phir kasi awaaz mein, kisi bade ya senior ki: “Tumhein itna toh pata hona chahiye tha.”
Line kahan thi, ye kisi ne bataya nahi. Wo line baad mein hi dikhi, aur ab usi se sab naapa ja raha hai. Chook chhoti hai, par vaakya use us insaan ki kami bana deta hai jisse wo hui.
Pichhli baar ye suna to kya hua tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya us din se pehle kabhi aapko wo niyam zubani bataya gaya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Pet mein dhak se kyun lagta hai #
Kuch logon ke pet mein dhak se lagta hai, gardan tak garmi chadhti hai, aur turant safai dene ka mann hota hai. Kuch sunn hokar farsh dekhne lagte hain, ya chhupane ko ek baar halke se hans dete hain.
Ye faisla sunna ki aapko kya samajh lena chahiye tha, apni poori samajh par faisle jaisa lag sakta hai. Dimaag ye poochh paaye ki theek-theek kya pata hona chahiye tha, usse pehle sharir jawab de deta hai.
Un pehle palon mein aapke andar kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Safai di, sorry bola, ya dimaag khaali ho gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ek imtihaan jiske baare mein pehle nahi bataya gaya #
Vaakya kehta hai ki imtihaan tha, aur usme chook hui. Par imtihaan tabhi theek hai jab sawaal pehle pata hon. Yahan niyam pehli baar ilzaam bankar aata hai, aur ilzaam ye hai ki aapko uska andaza laga lena chahiye tha.
Iska koi achha jawab bhi nahi. “Kisi ne bataya nahi” bahana lag sakta hai, aur sorry is baat par haami ki niyam toh saaf tha. Har jawab yahi pakka karta lagta hai ki aapko pata hona hi tha.
Agar vaakya ki jagah seedhi baat hoti, jaise “Baraat walon ki kursiyan aage hain, aap idhar aa jaiye”, to wo pal kaisa hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kitna alag lagta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab paharedaar andar bas jaye #
Baar-baar suno to ye aage-aage toh lene lagta hai. “Yahan anlikha qayda kya hai?” “Kuch chhune se pehle dekh lo baaki kya kar rahe hain.” “Pehle aazmane wale mat bano.”
Saamne wale ko agle din shabd yaad bhi na hon, par toh andar se chalti hai: bhejne se pehle rukna, dekhna ki baaki log kya pehne hain, wo sawaal nigal jaana jo kahin ye na khol de ki kya pata hona chahiye tha. Kyunki ye savdhaani jaisa lagta hai, ye samajhdaari bhi lag sakta hai.
“Pehle samajh lo” ye kiski awaaz hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya wo jo barson pehle kisi khaas kamre mein suni thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye niyam bhaampna bachpan mein shuru hua #
“Is umar mein bhi!” “Samajhdaar bachcha hota toh samajh jaata.” “Pehle bhi toh bataya tha na?” Kuch log aise gharon ya schoolon mein bade hue jahan niyam mood, nazron aur aadaton mein rehte the, aur unka pata tabhi chalta tha jab wo toote.
Kuch parivaron mein bada ya saleeqedaar hone ka matlab tha bina madad ke mahaul padh lena, aur wajahein har ghar mein alag rahin. Kuch log ek chup nishkarsh lekar chalte hain ki unhein ye pehle hi seekh lena chahiye tha.
Niyam ka pehli baar kab pata chala, jab wo toot gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab kaun tha, aur kya bola?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Mujhe pata hona chahiye tha,” ya “Kuch galat hua toh isliye ki maine theek se socha nahi.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo zimmedaari nibhane jaisi lagti hai, aur isiliye use kabhi-kabhi bahar nikaalkar dhoop mein dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log ise bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Har baar sahi andaza lagane ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai nayi job, naye sheher ya naye parivar mein na poochha gaya sawaal, bahut saara chupchaap dekhna, aur har anjaane kamre ko imtihaan ki tarah lene ki aadat. Kai log poochhna band kar dete hain, isse bahut pehle ki maanein ki unhein jaanne ki zaroorat nahi.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jo kabhi poochhta nahi, log sochte hain use pehle se pata hai, aur kamiyan tab tak chhipi rehti hain jab tak koi line phir paar na ho. Saal bhar mein ye bahut saara waqt ban jaata hai, tankar taiyaar rehne ka.
Kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Andaza lagane mein mehnat lagti hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein iski keemat kya rahi: koi sawaal jo poochha nahi gaya, koi nayi cheez jo aazmayi nahi gayi, koi aasaan pehla hafta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, har baar sahi andaza lagate hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, aise din ki jab “pehle samajh lo” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, sudhaarne ki cheez nahi.
Shayad usmein ek meeting hai jisme aapne poochha nahi, ek parivaarik function jahan aapne baaki sabki nakal ki, ek form jo aadhi raat ko akele bhara. Kuch jaana-pehchana lage, kuch nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer mein kuch bhi pakka nahi hai. Abhi dekhna hi kaafi hai.
Usmein kya hai: nigle hue sawaal, chupchaap dekhna, har kamre ko sambhalkar padhna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Zyadatar niyam unse takrakar hi seekhe jaate hain #
Office, parivar aur samaj aise niyamon par chalte hain jo kahin likhe nahi hote, aur zyadatar log unhein paar karke hi jaante hain. Nayi jagah par anlikhi list lambi hoti hai, aur koi naya aane wala use pehle se padhkar nahi aata.
Vaakya un logon ko bhi chhod deta hai jo ise keh sakte the. Jo niyam sirf ek ke dimaag mein raha, use doosre ke sar par theek se nahi thopa ja sakta. Line paar karke seekhne se is baare mein zyada pata chalta hai ki jagah sikhati kaise hai.
Ek aur nazar: agar koi dost batata ki use aisi baat par daant padi jo kisi ne kahi hi nahi thi, to aapko jaayaz ummeed sunayi deti, ya kahi gayi baat mein ek khaali jagah?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap use kya kehte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Use dheere-dheere dohrane par kuch ko dikhta hai ki kamre mein baaki logon ko bhi kabhi bataya nahi gaya tha, ya saalon pehle kisi aur jagah bataya gaya tha. Niyam sabki aadaton mein tha, par kisi ki deewar par nahi.
Kuch ko wo cheezein dikhti hain jo unhone achhi kin: jhatpat jawab, sambhalkar kiya kaam, pehli koshish. Wo sach rahin, tab bhi jab doosri baat ka naam liya ja raha tha.
Vaakya ko ek pal alag rakhein, to us pal ke imaandaar byore mein kya-kya aayega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur aapki zindagi mein kaun hai jo line paar hone se pehle niyam bata deta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Mann padhne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab asli chook se inkaar karna nahi, na ye dikhana ki shabd chubhe nahi. Matlab bas itna ki wo ek vaakya is par kam chale ki agli nayi jagah aap poochhein ya nahi, aur imtihaan ki ummeed lekar ghusein ya nahi.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo har kamre mein anlikhe qanoon dhoondhna chhod dete hain. Aage-aage toh lena thakata hai, aur ek vaakya din ke beech mein tika rehta hai.
Jahan koi sachmuch buri tarah pesh aaye, wo baat gambhirta se lene layak hai, aur kuch der sar jhukakar rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Kaisa lagega agar vaakya unhin ka rehne dein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “pata hona chahiye tha” saalon se andar baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek sachchi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Ab tak jitna dikhaya gaya hai, utna hi jaana ja sakta hai.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Kuch log ise bas aazmate hain, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki dheere se, baar-baar kehne par ye purani line ki thodi jagah le leti hai, khaaskar chook ke baad wale ghante mein.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo thokar khaakar seekhne ke liye jagah banaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “Tumhein pata hona chahiye tha” ko safai, kahi baat ka replay ya gawah nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise din ke aakhir mein bhaari jhola zameen par rakh dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse baaki hafte ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai.
Aaj ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo jaayaz tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo aaj baaki har cheez mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Chook sirf chook ho sakti hai, sawaal aam sawaal, aur kisi ko anlikhi list padhkar nahi aana padta.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: ek sawaal jaldi poochh lena, yaad rakhna ki kya theek gaya tha, ya purana imtihaan uthta dekhkar use mood tay na karne dena.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi anlikha imtihaan”
- Khud se poochhiye: usse pehle asal mein kya kaha gaya tha, ek seedhi line mein?
- Us pal ki ek cheez par gaur kijiye jo theek hui
- Kisi ek aise insaan ko yaad kijiye jo line se pehle niyam bata deta hai
- Agli baar ek chhota-sa sawaal poochhiye, phir use waise hi rehne dijiye
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab unhone kaha ki aapko pata hona chahiye tha, tab kya hua tha?
- Kya us din se pehle kisi ne aapko wo niyam bataya tha?
- Sabse pehle kya aaya: sharm, gussa, khaalipan, ya kuch aur?
- Jis aam din “pehle samajh lo” zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya rokkar rakhe honge?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?