Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
“Mujhe pata nahi tha” bahana lag sakta hai, “mujhe laga aapne dekh liya hoga” ilzaam, aur sorry is par haami ki yaad dilana hamesha se aapka hi kaam tha.
“Tumhein toh pata hai wo kaisa hai, tum yaad dila diya karo.”
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Kuch bigda to shayad meri hi galti hai,” ya “Agar main sabke liye yaad na rakhun, to koi nahi rakhega.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Turant sorry bol dena, tab bhi jab kaam unka tha hi nahi
- Lambi safai dena ki unhein bataya hi nahi gaya
- Chup ho jaana aur sab sametne mein lag jaana
- Doosron ki taareekhon ke bhi alarm lagane lagna
- Palatkar jhidak dena, aur baad mein bahut bura lagna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Wo form jo aapka tha hi nahi
Bhagalpur, Sunday, chachere bhai ke saath saajha kamra. Wo ek chitthi kholkar karaah uthta hai: university ke pariksha form ki aakhri taareekh Friday thi. “Tumne yaad kyun nahi dilaya?” Wo form aapka tha hi nahi, aur aapko taareekh pata bhi na thi. Phir bhi chehra garam ho jaata hai, aur aap sorry bolne lagte ho. Baad mein, nal ke neeche, aap poora hafta doharate ho.
Chhoota to meri hi chook
Sabse pehle saaf baat: kisi aur ke bhoole kaam ka jawab aapse maanga jaana theek nahi hai. Par isse ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ban jaata hai: “Kuch chhoota to meri hi chook hai, maine pakda kyun nahi.” Ye bharosemand hone jaisa lagta hai. Par iska asar dekhiye: aap doosron ki taareekhein thaame rehte ho, aur unki chookein apni tarah dhote ho.
Sawaal kyun chubhta hai
Aisa niyam hum isliye pakadte hain ki ilzaam chubhta hai, aur cheezein pakad lena pakde jaane se zyada surakshit lagta hai. Ye bahut insaani aur aam chaahat hai. Shayad bachpan mein ghar mein samajhdaar banne ki zimmedari aapke hisse aayi. Shayad aapko fikr hai ki koi aahat na ho. Jo bhi ho, bharosemand hona chahna bewakoofi nahi, parwah se aata hai. Use narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har chook par aur chaukanna
Har “tumne yaad kyun nahi dilaya” aapko thoda aur chaukanna bana deta hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Baat-baat par judta jaata hai. Aap doosron ka kaam dobara jaanchte ho. Jo taareekhein aapki nahi, unke alarm lagate ho. Aaraam mushkil hota hai, aur aas-paas ke log shayad kabhi na dekhein ki kitna thama ja raha hai.
Sabki taareekhein thaamna sahi hai?
Is niyam ko pakde hue imaandaari se poochhiye: kya sabki taareekhein thaamne se kabhi agli bhool ruki? Ya zyadatar aapko thakaya? Ek sawaal kisi kaam ko aapka nahi bana deta. Jiski deadline thi, wo ab bhi uski reh sakti hai. Chahein to ek pal iske saath baithiye, narmi se, bina ilzaam ke. Itni kaskar thaamna is keemat ke laayak hai kya?
Yaad dilana meharbani hai
Chhodne ka matlab madad band karna ya dosh qubool karna nahi. Matlab ye ki reminder ek meharbani ban jaaye jise aap chunte ho, bojh nahi jo aap dhote ho. Aap ek baar pyaar se yaad dila sakte ho, aur doosre ko apni diary khud rakhne de sakte ho. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapki parwah aapki rehti hai, aur deadline unki.
Where someone really does react badly, threatens or frightens you, that is worth taking seriously, and staying quiet or going along can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleKuch chhoota to meri hi chook hai, maine pakda kyun nahi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleReminder meri chuni hui meharbani hai, farz nahi.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Ek reminder, ek baar, apni marzi se dijiye
- Din 2
Aaj ki ek taareekh par gaur kijiye jo kisi aur ki hai
- Din 3
Sawaal goonje to ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab unhone poochha ki aapne yaad kyun nahi dilaya, tab kya bhoola gaya tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Bhoola hua kaam ab aapka kaam ban jaata hai #
Form ki aakhri taareekh nikal jaati hai, chachere bhai ki shaadi ka tohfa kharidna reh jaata hai, kisi client ki call chhoot jaati hai. Phir kitchen ke aar-paar ya office ki chat par, teekhi aur thodi haanfti awaaz mein: “Tumne yaad kyun nahi dilaya?”
Kaam unka tha. Sawaal chupchaap yaad dilane ki zimmedari aapki bana deta hai, jaise koi doosra bhi wo kaam thaame khada tha. Bhooli cheez wahin padi rehti hai, aur jisne kuch nahi kaha, wahi jawab de raha hota hai.
Pichhli baar ye suna to kya bhoola gaya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sawaal poochhe jaane se pehle wo kaam kiska tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Pet kyun baith jaata hai #
Kuch logon ka pet dhak se baith jaata hai, pichhle kuch din dimaag mein ghoom jaate hain, aur aadhi-adhoori sorry shuru ho jaati hai, isse pehle ki samajh aaye ki kis baat ki. Kuch bilkul sthir ho jaate hain. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur iski safai nahi deni padti.
Jo sawaal “tumne mujhe nirash kiya” jaisa sunayi de, wo sochne se pehle, ek second mein sharir par lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko saaf baat baad mein soojhti hai, seedhiyon par ya raat ko: mujhe toh pata hi nahi tha ki taareekh kab hai.
Sawaal ke baad wale pal mein aapne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yaad khangaali, sorry bola, ya chuppi saadh li?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Bina poochhe kaam sarka deta hai #
Chhooti hui taareekh uski hai jiski wo taareekh thi. Sawaal uska ek hissa paas khade insaan ko thama deta hai. Kuch log ye adla-badli ek vaakya mein hoti mehsoos karte hain, haan ya na kehne ka mauka diye bina.
Iska saaf jawab bhi nahi banta. “Mujhe pata nahi tha” bahana lag sakta hai, “mujhe laga aapne dekh liya hoga” ilzaam, aur sorry is par haami ki yaad dilana hamesha se aapka hi kaam tha. Har jawab badlaav ko pakka karta lagta hai.
Agar sawaal poochha hi na jaata, to baatcheet kis baare mein hoti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Taareekh kise pata thi, aur kise nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab yaad dilane ki duty andar bas jaaye #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar ghar kar leta hai. “Ek baar aur dekh lo, kahin bhool na jaayein.” “Bigda toh mere hi sir aayega.” “Message bhej do, chahe unka hi kaam ho.”
Saamne wale ko wo baatcheet kab ki bhool chuki ho, par ab doosron ke calendar par nazar rehti hai: raat nau baje bheja gaya message, do baar jaancha form, taareekh paas aaye to ek halki khinchaav. Aur kyunki ye sirf saavdhani jaisa lagta hai, ye khoobi jaisa bhi lag sakta hai.
“Kahin bhool na jaayein” ye kiski awaaz hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya wo jo barson pehle kisi khaas ghar ya office mein mili thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye sabko yaad dilana jaldi shuru hua #
“Tum samajhdaar bano.” “Bhaiya par nazar rakhna.” “Tumhein toh pata hai wo kaisa hai, tum yaad dila diya karo.” Kuch log ghar ki yaaddasht bankar bade hue: school ke form, birthday aur bilon ka hisaab unhi ke paas rehta tha.
Kuch gharon mein jo bachcha yaad rakhne mein achha tha, use bas aur yaad rakhne ko de diya gaya, aur wajahein har ghar mein alag rahin. Kuch log ek chup nishkarsh lekar chalte hain: ki kuch bhoola jaaye to kisi ko use pakadna tha, aur wo koi wahi hain.
Pehli baar kab sabki yaad sambhalni padi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab kamre mein aam taur par kaun hota tha, aur kuch chhootne par usne kya kaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Kuch bigda to shayad meri hi galti hai,” ya “Agar main sabke liye yaad na rakhun, to koi nahi rakhega.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo bharosemand hone jaisi lagti hai, aur isiliye use kabhi-kabhi bahar nikaalkar dhoop mein dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log ise bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Sabka calendar dhone ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai sar mein doosron ki taareekhon ka jamavda, aam shaamon mein halki fikr ki bhanbhanahat, aur itni safai se bheje reminder ki kisi ko mehnat dikhti hi nahi. Kuch logon se poochhna band ho jaata hai aur ummeed shuru ho jaati hai.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab koi hamesha kami bhar deta hai, kami kabhi dikhti nahi, aur doosre ko shayad kabhi pata na chale ki kitna kuch thama ja raha tha. Saal bhar mein ye aisi thakaan ban jaati hai jiska naam nahi milta.
Kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Doosre ki deadlines ki nigrani mein mehnat lagti hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein iski keemat kya rahi: koi khaali shaam, koi shaant subah, koi halka mood?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, sabki taareekhein thaame hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, aise din ki jab “yaad na rakhun to mere sir aayega” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, sudharne ki cheez nahi.
Shayad usmein raat nau baje kisi sahkarmi ko bheja message hai, do baar jaancha form, ghar ki ek taareekh jo apne calendar mein isliye likh li ki kahin chhoot na jaaye, aur taareekh paas aane par ek chup ghabrahat. Kuch jaana-pehchana lage, kuch nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer mein kuch bhi pakka nahi hai. Abhi dekhna hi kaafi hai.
Usmein kya hai: alert, dobara jaanch, “kahin bhool na jaayein” wale toke?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Yaad dilana meharbani ho sakta hai, farz nahi #
Yaad dilana wo cheez hai jo ek bada doosre bade ko de sakta hai, aur bada apni diary khud bhi rakh sakta hai. Meharbani har baar ho to farz jaisi dikhne lagti hai, aur chhooti meharbani nakaami jaisi.
Sawaal ise bhi chhod deta hai ki asal mein kya pata tha. In sawaalon ke jawab maujood hain, bas vaakya unmein se ek bhi nahi deta.
Kya taareekh saajhi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya kisi se use thaamne ko kaha gaya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur nazar: agar barabari ke kisi sahkarmi ne kisi doosre sahkarmi se yahi shabd kahe hote, to wo jaayaz sawaal lagta ya bojh sarkana?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Us pal ko dheere-dheere doharane par kuch ko dikhta hai ki wo asal mein kitna dho rahe the: wo taareekhein jo yaad rakhin, wo pehle ki toka-toki jiska kisi ne zikr nahi kiya, wo baatein jo unhi ki wajah se theek chalin.
Kuch ko yaad aata hai ki chhoote kaam ke waqt wo khud kya kar rahe the. Apne kaam mein the, so rahe the, safar mein the, ya bas unhein bataya hi nahi gaya tha. Ye baatein hamesha thin; sawaal mein bas unke liye jagah nahi thi.
Sawaal ko ek pal alag rakhein, to us pal ka imaandaar byora kya kahega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur aapki zindagi mein kaun apni diary khud rakhta hai aur madad karne par shukriya kehta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Jo thamaya hi nahi gaya, use dhone ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab madad se mana karna nahi, na ye dikhana ki sawaal chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki wo ek vaakya is par kam chale ki aaj raat aap sabki deadlines khangaalein ya nahi, aur kal unki taareekhein apne sar mein rakhein ya nahi.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo wo jawab doharana chhod dete hain jo kabhi de nahi paaye. Mann mein wo behas baar-baar jeetna thakata hai, aur ek sawaal kamre ke beech tika rehta hai.
Jahan koi sach mein buri tarah pesh aaye, wo baat gambhirta se lene laayak hai, aur chup rehna ya haan mein haan milana surakshit chunaav ho sakta hai.
Kaisa lagega agar sawaal unhi ka rehne dein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “yaad na rakhun to mere sir aayega” saalon se andar baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek sachchi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Yaad dilane mein madad karna aur deadline ka maalik na banna, dono saath ho sakte hain.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Kuch log ise bas aazmate hain, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki dheere se, baar-baar kehne par ye purani line ki thodi jagah le leti hai, khaaskar kisi vyast hafte se pehle.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo madad karne aur maalik na banne, dono ke liye jagah banaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “tumne yaad kyun nahi dilaya” ko safai, pehle ki toka-toki ki list ya iska hisaab nahi chahiye ki kise kya pata tha. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise din ke aakhir mein bhaari jhola zameen par rakh dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse un dinon ke liye jagah bachti hai jab yaad dilana meharbani ho, bojh nahi.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi, ya nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo aaj baaki har cheez mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Madad karna aur maalik hona alag-alag reh sakte hain, aur chhooti taareekh uski ho sakti hai jiski wo thi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: jaanna ki kaun si taareekhein aapki hain, ek baar reminder de dena kyunki mann kiya, ya purana alarm bajta dekhkar use bajne dena, bina jawab diye.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi yaad dilane ki duty”
- Khud se poochhiye: kya ye kaam kabhi mere thaamne ka tha?
- Gaur kijiye ki kaun sa hissa zyada chubha: shabd ya lehja
- Kisi ek aise insaan ko yaad kijiye jo apni diary khud rakhta hai
- Aaj ki ek taareekh par gaur kijiye jo sirf aapki hai
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab unhone poochha ki aapne yaad kyun nahi dilaya, tab kya bhoola gaya tha?
- Sawaal aane se pehle wo kaam kiska tha?
- Sabse pehle kya aaya: glaani, gussa, thakaan, ya kuch aur?
- Jis aam din yaad dilane ki duty zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?