Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye sabse bhaari waqt par bhi aata hai, chook ke pehle ghante mein.
“Dekha, badon ki baat na maanne ka nateeja.”
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Mujhse kabhi galti nahi honi chahiye,” ya “Madad maangna yaani haar gaye.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Us insaan ko apni yojanayein batana hi band kar dena
- Agli galti tab tak chhipana jab tak sudhar na jaye
- Is par behas karna ki chetavni sach mein di bhi thi ya nahi
- Jaldi se “haan, aap hi sahi the” keh dena, bas baat khatam ho
- Faisle ko akele mein baar-baar dohrana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Surat market ke bahar band scooter
Surat ki kapda market ke bahar aapka scooter start nahi ho raha. Kick marte-marte pair dukh gaya. Ghar phone karte ho to Papa kehte hain, “Maine kaha tha na, second-hand mat le.” Aap “haan” kehkar phone rakh dete ho. Par shabd kamre tak saath aa jaate hain, aur mann mein aata hai ki apne faislon par kabhi bharosa karna bhi chahiye ya nahi.
Chook yaani apne par bharosa nahi
Ye shabd us niyam par girte hain jo shayad pehle se baitha hai: “Kuch bigda to mujhe apne par bharosa karna hi nahi chahiye tha.” Ye sabak lene jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har nirasha ko iska saboot bana deta hai ki aapki samajh par bharosa nahi ho sakta. Faisle daravne lagne lagte hain, aur aatmavishwas is par tik jaata hai ki sab kuch theek nikle.
Galti kabhi mehngi kyun lagi
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki galti kabhi mehngi padi thi. Shayad bachpan se har galat faisla yaad dilaya gaya, ya saalon baad agli parivarik daawat mein phir utha. Shayad aap sabko dikhana chahte ho ki apni zindagi sambhal sakte ho. Niyam bewakoofi nahi hai. Ye achhe faisle aur izzat ki chaah se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har agla faisla bhaari lagta hai
Har “maine kaha tha” agla faisla bhaari karta hai. Kuch tay karne se pehle ijaazat maangne lagte ho. Yojanayein tab tak chhipate ho jab tak wo surakshit na ho. Zaroorat se zyada khud par shak karte ho. Jo faisle khud lena chahte the, wo bhi surakshit rehne ko doosron par chhod dete ho. Dheere-dheere apni samajh se oonchi doosron ki raay sunayi dene lagti hai.
Kya khud par shak iske layak?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya ek bure nateeje ko apni samajh ka faisla banane se kabhi behtar chunna hua? Ya zyadatar chunne se aur darr laga? Yojanayein kai wajahon se bigadti hain, aur shabd unke chune hue the. Ek nirasha aapki samajh ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadne mein jo lagta hai, kya wo iske layak hai?
Sabak bhi rahe, bharosa bhi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki jo seekha use anadekha karein. Matlab ye ki ek bura nateeja aapka chunne ka haq nahi chheenta. Sabak rakhiye, agar tha, aur shabd unhin ke rehne dijiye. Har faisla seekhne ka mauka hai, imtihaan nahi. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: chunav aapke rehte hain, aur apne par bharosa ek-ek faisle mein phir ban sakta hai.
Where someone really does react badly to mistakes, with threats, being hurt or frightened, that is worth taking seriously, and keeping a plan quiet can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleKuch bigde to apne par bharosa nahi karna chahiye tha.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleSabak rakhkar bhi apne chunav par bharosa rakha ja sakta hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is saal ka ek achha faisla yaad kijiye
- Din 2
Ek vaakya mein khud se kahiye ki kya seekha
- Din 3
Shabd lautein to ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab unhone kaha, tab kya bigda tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Chaar shabd, baat bigadte hi #
Surat ki kapda market ke bahar scooter start nahi ho raha. Kick marte-marte pair dukhne laga. Phone par Papa: “Maine kaha tha na, second-hand mat le!” Kabhi chacha, kabhi dost, kabhi office wale: “Dekha? Maine pehle hi kaha tha.” Theek tab, jab baat sabse zyada bigdi ho.
In shabdon mein aage ka koi raasta nahi hota. Ye peeche dekhte hain: kisne pehle hi bhaanp liya tha. Scooter ab bhi wahin khada hai, aur us pal lagta hai jaise poori market dekh rahi hai.
Aakhri baar ye kab suna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab kya bigda tha, aur us pehle ghante mein aapko us insaan se asal mein kya chahiye tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Taana do baar kyun chubhta hai #
Kuch logon ko dohri chubhan lagti hai: ek chook khud, aur phir sabki nazron ke beech hone ki garmi. Jabda kas jaata hai, nazar neeche chali jaati hai, teekha jawab upar aata hai aur nigal liya jaata hai. Inmein se kuch bhi ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko safai nahi deni.
Kuch bigadne ke baad kai log pehle hi sab mann mein dohra rahe hote hain, isliye us waqt ki ek tippani dukhti nas par padti hai. Sharir pehle react karta hai, soch baad mein aati hai, aksar us faisle ke pandrahvein replay ki shakl mein.
Un shabdon par aapke sharir ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sikuda, tan gaya, ya behas ke liye taiyaar hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo pehli harkat is baare mein kya kehti hai ki chook pehle se kitni taza thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Sabak ko faisle mein badal deta hai #
“Scooter mein dikkat thi” scooter ki baat hai. “Maine kaha tha” scooter ko chhodkar is par aa jaata hai ki sahi kaun nikla. Mann faisla sunta hai, usmein chhipa sabak nahi.
Ye sabse bhaari waqt par bhi aata hai, chook ke pehle ghante mein. Kuch logon ko haan, kuch ko nahi.
Wahi baat hafte bhar baad madad ki tarah kahi jaati, to kya aapko alag lagti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar un shabdon ke andar koi sachcha sabak tha, to wo kya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur madad ki tarah aata, nateeje ki tarah nahi, to kitna alag sunayi deta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab hisaab apne aap chalne lage #
Baar-baar suno to andar ghar kar leta hai. “Pehle hi pata hona chahiye tha.” “Kisi ki baat kyun nahi suni?” “Batana hi mat, phir sunayenge ki pehle se pata tha.” Chhoti-si chook par bhi chalu ho sakta hai: galat mod, galat kharidari, bigdi yojana.
Kehne wala shayad aage badh gaya, par ab hisaab andar hota hai, aur bahar ki kisi awaaz se sakht ho sakta hai. Ye aapki apni awaaz mein bolta hai, isliye ek insaan ke ek bure pal ki baat nahi, apni samajh par imaandaar raay lagta hai.
“Pehle hi pata hona chahiye tha” kehte waqt awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya wo jo barson pehle kisi khaas rasoi ya office mein mili thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch ke liye ye bahut purana hai #
“Dekha, badon ki baat na maanne ka nateeja.” “Ab pachhtaye hot kya, jab chidiya chug gayi khet.” Kuch log aise gharon mein bade hue jahan har faisla kisi bade ki nazar se guzarta tha, aur galat nikla faisla agli baar akele na chunne ki daleel ban jaata tha.
Kuch parivaron mein sahi nikalne ka bahut wazan tha, aur wajahein ghar-ghar alag hain. Bachcha chupchaap ye nateeja nikal sakta hai ki galti chhipana hi theek hai, aur bigadne ke baad madad maangne par wahi baatein dobara sunni padengi.
Galti ko madad maangne ke bajaye chhipane ki aadat kab shuru hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab zyadatar kaun hota tha, aur pata chalne par kya kaha jaata tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Mujhse kabhi galti nahi honi chahiye,” ya “Madad maangna yaani haar gaye.” Kuch log halka roop dhote hain: “Galat chuna to khud hi sambhalna padega.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo samajhdaari aur apne pairon par khade hone jaisi lagti hai, jaise darwaze par taala lagana. Isiliye use kabhi-kabhi bahar nikaalkar dhoop mein dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Galti chhipane ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ek phone se suljhne wali baat akele jhelna, yojanayein batayi hi na jaana ki kahin fail na ho jayein, ya faisle isliye lena ki galat na niklein, isliye nahi ki kuch achha mile. Kuch log nayi cheezein aazmana chhod dete hain, dilchaspi khatam hone se bahut pehle.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab har faisla baad mein hisaab ban sakta hai, to kuch bhi chunna bhaari lagta hai, aur achha nateeja bhi raahat deta hai, khushi nahi. Saal bhar mein ye bahut se surakshit, chhote faislon mein badal sakta hai.
Ye kamzori se nahi. Har chook akele dhone mein mehnat lagti hai.
Pichhle saal iski keemat kya rahi: na maangi gayi madad, chhipayi gayi yojana, koi mauka jo zyada mehnga laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, akele chunte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “mujhse galti nahi honi chahiye” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad dopahar se pehle paanch baar jaancha gaya faisla, chupchaap rakhi gayi yojana, ek chhoti dikkat jo ek message se suljh jaati par akele jhelli gayi, koi nayi cheez jo phir kabhi par tal gayi. Kuch jaana-pehchana ho sakta hai, kuch nahi.
Abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer mein kuch tay nahi hai. Dekhna hi kaafi hai.
Usmein kya hai: faisle, yojanayein, jo aazmaya hi nahi gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kise dikh gaya tha, aur kahan se? #
Har faisla tab ki jaankari par hota hai. Peeche mudkar dekho to kamzor kadi saaf dikhti hai, par ye saafi baad mein hi aati hai, aur baad mein sabko aati hai.
Chook ki kai wajahein ho sakti hain: sanyog, waqt, doosre log, aur kabhi faisla bhi. Kaun si wajah kitni thi, ye alag karna kaam ki baat hai. Sab kuch ek insaan ke naam ek number kar dena kaam ki baat ko dhundhla kar deta hai.
Ek aur nazar: agar kisi dost ka scooter aise hi dhokha de jaata, to pehle ghante mein aap usse kya kehna chahte, aur kya baad ke liye rakhte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Faisle ko dheere-dheere dohrane par kuch log dekhte hain ki tab kya pata tha aur kya nahi. Chook sach thi.
Kuch ko wo log yaad aate hain jo hisaab nahi rakhte: ek dost jo poochhe, “bata, kya chahiye?”, ek colleague jo kahe, “arre, sabke saath hota hai,” ek bhai-behen jo chupchaap chai rakh jaaye. Ye awaazein hamesha thi, bas dheemi thi.
Us pal se hatkar dekhein to us chunav ke peeche ki wajahein kya thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Inmein se kaun si awaaz aajkal aapke mann mein chup hai, aur jo bigda uske baare mein wo kya kehti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Hisaab chukane ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye nahi ki kaun sahi tha is par sehmat hon, ya aise dikhayein ki baat chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki wo ek tippani is par kam chale ki agli yojana batayi jayegi ya nahi, aur agli galti khulkar dekhi jayegi ya nahi.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo mann mein behas chhod dete hain ki kisne kya pehle dekha tha. Ye hisaab thaka deta hai, aur us insaan ko har faisle ke beech bithaye rakhta hai, unmein bhi jinka usse koi lena-dena nahi.
Jahan koi galti par sachmuch bura bartaav karta hai, use gambhirta se lena chahiye, aur yojana chupchaap rakhna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Kaisa lagega agar shabd unhin ke rahein aur aap sirf sabak rakhein, agar koi tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “pehle hi pata hona chahiye tha” barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log ek sachcha vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Tab jitna pata tha, usi se chuna. Isse bina hisaab ke bhi seekha ja sakta hai.”
Ye shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Kuch log ise aazmate hain, aur paate hain ki dheere aur baar-baar kehne par ye purani line ki thodi jagah le leta hai, khaaskar kisi bade faisle se pehle.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo chook ke baare mein imaandaar ho, par use apni samajh par faisla na banaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “maine kaha tha” ko jawab, daleel ya agli baar sahi saabit hone ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise safar ke baad bhaari bag farsh par rakh dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch kehte hain isse bigdi cheez sudharne ke liye, aur bina hisaab madad karne walon ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai.
Shaam bhar ke liye in shabdon ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek the, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki wo aaj agli yojana ya agle faisle mein saath na chalein.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Chook chook hai, tab ki jaankari ke saath dekhi gayi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bina hisaab rakhne wale dost ko koi yojana batana, kisi aasaan insaan se keh dena, “ye bigad gaya, madad karoge?”, ya paanchvi jaanch ke bina faisla lena.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi maine-kaha-tha”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: us faisle ke waqt mujhe kya pata tha?
- Gaur kijiye ki pal mein kya zyada zor se laga: shabd, ya lehja
- Aise ek insaan ko sochiye jo chook par bina hisaab rakhe saath deta hai
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyan dijiye jo aapne chahi
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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