Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Wo theek nikalne se pehle aata hai, jab badalne mein waqt jaata hai aur na badalne mein chain.
Kai gharon aur daftaron mein darwaze par ek nazar daalna rivaaj tha.
Kuch logon ko ek niyam banta sunayi deta hai: “Bahar jaane se pehle mujhe jaanch paas karni hai,” ya “Mera pehnawa mere saath aane walon ki izzat ka sawaal hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Oonchi awaaz mein “haan?” kehkar apni baat par tike rehna
- Kapdon ke baare mein safai dene lagna
- Chupchaap jaakar badal aana
- Pehne rehna, par poori shaam wahi khatakna
- Hanskar poochh lena ki isme dikkat kya hai
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Darwaze par Mummy ki nazar
Pune mein Saturday ki shaam. Parivar ke dinner ke liye aap taiyar ho, haath mein chaabi, darwaze ki taraf badhte ho. Mummy hall mein rukti hain, upar se neeche dekhti hain aur kehti hain, “Ye pehankar jaana hai?” Usmein sawaal kahin nahi hai. Aap thoda zyada chehakkar “haan” kehte ho. Par gaadi mein aap aasteen kheenchte rehte ho, aur poori shaam chupchaap kam aanke hue lagte ho.
Mujhe jaanch paas karni hai
Pehle seedhi baat: aisa sawaal ek insaan ka shak hai, aapke baare mein koi tathya nahi. Par usse ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ban jaata hai: “Bahar jaane se pehle mujhe jaanch paas karni hai.” Kai log ise bina soche jeete hain. Ye taiyari jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har darwaze ko ek chhoti jaanch bana deta hai, jiska nateeja aap dekh nahi sakte.
Achhe se pahunchna kyun mayne rakhta hai
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki achhe se pahunchna achha lagta hai, aur kamra sabse pehle pehnawa hi dekhta hai. Ye sabse aam ummeedon mein se hai, bahut insaani chaah. Shayad ghar par darwaze ki jaanch aam thi. Shayad aap bas shaam ki aasaan shuruaat chahte ho. Jo bhi ho, achhe se pahunchne ki chaah kamzori nahi. Wo apnapan chahne se aati hai, aur use narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har sawaal ka wazan
Har aisa sawaal thoda wazan jodta hai. Wo dheere-dheere jamta hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aapko mehsoos hota hai. Aap ek baar badalte ho, phir dobara. Jacket pehne rehte ho. Sochte ho agla kamra kya kahega. Jo pyaar bhara sawaal laga tha wo imtihaan jaisa lagne lagta hai, aur taiyar hona uski rehearsal.
Kya darwaze ki jaanch iske layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakadne se koi shaam kabhi aasaan hui? Ya zyadatar bas poori raat kapdon ki chaukidari bani rahi? Ye aapne chuna tha, aur iski ijaazat thi. Chahein to iske saath ek pal baithiye. Bina dosh ke, narmi se poochhna theek hai. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna us keemat ke layak hai jo ye maangta hai?
Insaan, koi jaanch nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki Mummy ka irada bura tha, ya darwaze par bahas karni hai. Matlab ye hai ki ek shak bhari chuppi tay nahi karti ki aapki shaam kaise shuru hogi. Aap keh sakte ho “haan, mujhe pasand hai,” aur dinner ki baat kar sakte ho. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: aap hall mein ek insaan rehte ho, jaanch ke liye rakha pehnawa nahi.
Being mocked, threatened, hurt or frightened over how you look or what you wear is not okay and is worth taking seriously; someone you trust can help.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleBahar jaane se pehle mujhe jaanch paas karni hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMaine ye chuna hai, aur iski ijaazat hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Darwaze par ek shaant line mein jawab dijiye
- Kadam 2
Aise ek insaan ko dekhiye jo pehnawa jaanche bina milta hai
- Kadam 3
Aaj ek cheez sirf isliye pehniye ki wo aapko pasand hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Us sawaal ne peechhe kya chhoda jo ek jaldi wala jawab nahi dhak paya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Sawaal jo asal mein faisla hai #
Pune ke Kothrud wale flat mein Sunday ki shaam. Joote pehne hain, haath mein chaabi hai, cousin ki sagai mein jaana hai. Mummy hall mein rukkar upar se neeche dekhti hain: “Ye pehankar jaana hai?” Awaaz upar jaati hai, par usmein sawaal kahin nahi hai.
Jawab kisi ko nahi chahiye. Shabd wajah maangte hain, par unmein ek raay baithi hai, aur uske baad ki chuppi hi faisla hai. Log ise alag-alag wajahon se kehte hain, kabhi function ki ghabrahat se, kabhi bas aadat se.
Aakhri baar kab kisi ne poochha ki aap sach mein yahi pehankar ja rahe ho, aur us waqt aage kya hone wala tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Shuru ke kuch seconds #
Kisi ko pet mein halki giravat mehsoos hoti hai, ya wo kapdon par nazar daalte hain jo abhi tak theek lag rahe the. Koi oonchi awaaz mein “haan?” keh deta hai, koi safai dene lagta hai, koi bina bole kamre mein badalne chala jaata hai. Ye sab hota hai, aur kisi ko samjhana nahi padta.
Roop-rang par tippani sabse pehle sharir mein baithti hai. Sochna baad mein aata hai, lift mein ya gaadi mein, ki jo kapde pasand the wo ek vaakya mein kaise bure ho gaye.
Sawaal ke baad pehle second mein, kuch tay karne se pehle, aapke andar kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Sawaal jo dobara sochne ko kehta hai #
“Ye pehankar jaana hai?” mein ek bhi shikayat nahi hai, phir bhi wo kaam kar jaata hai. Wo bas poochhta hai, chehre ke bhaav ke saath, ki aapne socha tha ya nahi. Baaki sunne wala khud bhar leta hai, aur wo aksar kahi ja sakne wali baat se zyada kadwa hota hai.
Wo theek nikalne se pehle aata hai, jab badalne mein waqt jaata hai aur na badalne mein chain. Darwaze par hone ki wajah se lagta hai jaise poori shaam isi par tiki hai, aur har jawab ya to haar maanna lagta hai ya bahas ki shuruaat.
Jo cheez aapne soch-samajhkar chuni thi us par bina wajah bataye shak ki nazar padi.
Nikalne se pehle ka wo pal agar sawaal ke bina hota, to aap use kis baare mein chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab sawaal darwaze ke bahar saath chale #
Baar-baar sunne par wo andar ghar kar leta hai. Kuch logon ke liye wo apne aap laut aata hai, lift mein, sadak par, function ke beech mein, usi ki awaaz mein jisne pehli baar kaha tha. Wo madadgaar doosri raay jaisa lagta hai, par usmein kisi aur ki nazar baithi hai.
Jaani-pehchani awaaz mein aane ki wajah se wo apni raay lagne lagta hai, hall mein gira hua vaakya nahi. Poochhne wala kab ka peechhe reh gaya, aur sawaal poori shaam saath chalta hai.
Function mein jab wo sawaal lautta hai, to kiski awaaz mein, aur kis darwaze se aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye darwaze ki jaanch roz ki baat thi #
“Check karke niklo.” Kai gharon aur daftaron mein darwaze par ek nazar daalna rivaaj tha. Koi dekhta, theek karta, kuch kehta, aur phir sab nikal padte. Isme chot pahunchane ka irada kam hi hota tha, aur samjhaya to shayad hi kabhi jaata tha.
Aise barson se jo reh sakta hai wo khud ko us jaanchne wale ki nazar se dekhne ki aadat hai, chahe wo ab paas na ho. Iski jad samajh aati hai. Ye bas un galiyaron se lambi umar ji sakti hai jahan ye seekhi gayi thi.
Pehli baar kab dhyan gaya ki nikalne se pehle aapke kapde dekhe jaate hain, aur ye dekhne ka kaam aam taur par kaun karta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Aise sawaal ke baad ek chupchaap bana niyam #
Kuch logon ko ek niyam banta sunayi deta hai: “Bahar jaane se pehle mujhe jaanch paas karni hai,” ya “Mera pehnawa mere saath aane walon ki izzat ka sawaal hai.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo duniya chalne ke tareeke ki samajh jaise lagte hain, jaise meeting se pehle phone dekh lena. Isiliye unhein kabhi-kabhaar ujale mein nikaalkar dekh lena theek rehta hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ki jad bachpan mein paate hain, kuch nahi. Dono soorat mein use dekha ja sakta hai.
Kya aisa koi niyam aapke saath baithta hai, ya thoda, ya bilkul nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo aaj kin darwazon par ab bhi baithta hai, aur kin par nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Darwaze ki jaanch chupchaap kya le jaati hai #
Wo shaamon, interview, ghar ke function aur taiyar hone ki seedhi-saadi khushi tak pahunch sakti hai. Kuch log function ke liye nahi, darwaze ke liye kapde chunne lagte hain, aur do minute ka chunav pehle se liya gaya doosra mashwara ban jaata hai.
Ek khamosh keemat aur bhi hai. Jis poshaak par darwaze par sawaal utha, us par dhyan ka ek hissa poori shaam atka rehta hai. Saal bhar mein ye aise function ban sakte hain jinmein aadha kaan usi sawaal par raha.
Ye kamzori nahi hai. Doosron ki doosri nazar dhone mein sachmuch mehnat lagti hai.
Haal mein us sawaal ne aapse kya liya, agar liya ho: ghar par chhoota koi kapda, der se nikalna, ya koi aasaan shaam?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Saturday, jab sawaal tez ho #
Ek aam Saturday sochiye, jis din “bahar jaane se pehle mujhe jaanch paas karni hai” tez baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ke liye ek tasveer hai, theek karne ke liye kuch nahi.
Shayad aaine mein doosri baar jhaankna, garam hall mein bhi jacket pehne rehna, koi photo taal dena. Usmein bahut kuch ho sakta hai ya bahut kam; tasveer ka koi sahi roop nahi hai, aur usmein kuch bhi bhavishyavaani nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi.
Aise Saturday mein kya-kya bhara hai: almari, darwaza, raasta, function, aur wo cheezein jo chupchaap chhod di gayin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us niyam ke tez hone wale aam Saturday ko sochein to kya dikhta hai, agar kuch dikhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Pehenna hai, par kiske liye? #
Sawaal ko dheere se dekhein to wo aksar poochhne wale ke baare mein nikalta hai: function ko lekar unki ghabrahat, unki tasveer mein shaam kaisi honi chahiye, unka mann mein bana dharra. Aapke din, mausam, aaram ya chunne ki wajah ke baare mein wo bahut kam batata hai.
Pasand ghar, shehar, peedhi aur daftar ke hisaab se badalti hai. Jo ek ke liye function ka pehnawa hai, doosra us par dobara nazar nahi daalega. Sawaal us kamre ke baare mein bahut kuch batata hai jahan se aaya, aur jisse poochha gaya uske baare mein kam.
Agar kisi dost se yahi poochha jaata, to aap chahte ki unke aaspaas ke log iski jagah kya dekhein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Us pal ko dheere se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log us pal ko dheere se dohrate hain to dekhte hain ki sawaal kitna chhota tha. Bolne mein teen second lage, aur dhone mein poori shaam. Saath rakhkar dekhein to poochhna aur dhona bahut alag naap ke hain.
Kuch log unhein yaad karte hain jo pehnawe par kabhi sawaal nahi uthate: wo dost jo hanskar milta hai, wo sahkarmi jo agenda ki baat karta hai, wo chhota cousin jise bas nikalna hai. Wo pehle se wahin the, aksar zyada chupchaap.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun hai jo darwaze par dekhkar bas “chalein?” kehta hai, aur wo pal kaise lagte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Sawaal ka matlab tay karna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab sawaal se sehmat hona nahi, use thukrana bhi nahi, chahe wo jaise bhi laga ho. Matlab bas itna ki ek sawaal ko ye kehne ka haq kam mile ki shaam kaise shuru hogi, almari se kya niklega aur raat kaisi beetegi.
Kuch logon ko tab halka lagta hai jab wo ye hisaab chhod dete hain ki poochhne wale ka matlab kya tha aur kaun sa jawab unhein santusht karta. Ye paheli shayad hi kabhi khatam hoti hai, aur kisi aur ki chinta aapke darwaze ke beechobeech baithi rehti hai.
Sawaal ko poochhne wale ka vaakya rehne dena, jo ek baar ek darwaze par kaha gaya aur agle darwaze tak saath nahi chala, usmein kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne layak ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar sawaal kaafi waqt se laut raha hai, to usse seedhe bahas ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iski jagah ek vaakya taiyar rakhte hain: “Wo ek insaan ki chinta thi, aur maine ye soch-samajhkar chuna.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki lift mein ya sadak par chupchaap kehne se kisi aur ke shak aur aane wali shaam ke beech thodi jagah ban jaati hai.
Us sawaal ke baare mein aapka apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, aisa jo jo hua uske baare mein sahi ho aur jiske liye poochhne wale ki haami zaroori na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein darwaze par chhoot sakti hain #
Har sawaal ko sateek jawab, safai ya agli baar ki yojana nahi chahiye. Kuch baatein dekhi ja sakti hain, ek pal feel ki ja sakti hain, aur rakh di ja sakti hain, jaise joote ke rack ke paas katori mein chaabi rakh di jaaye.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taakat kahan jaaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse un baaton ke liye jagah bachti hai jinke liye wo aaye the, aur un logon ke liye jinke saath aasaani lagti hai.
Sawaal ko ek shaam ke liye rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha ya baat khatam hui. Matlab bas itna ki use khane, lunch ya baaki raat ke saath chalna zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam ek paydaan dheela pad jaaye #
Sochiye, sirf tasveer ki tarah, ki niyam ek paydaan dheema hai. Darwaza bas darwaza ho sakta hai, aur taiyar hona bas taiyar hona.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: aisa dinner jisme baat sabki khabron par rahe, aasaan saath wale outing ko haan, ya aisi shaam jisme sawaal dobara na baje.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi uthe, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar aap ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Jis din niyam ek paydaan dheema ho, us din pehle kya alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, darwaze wala sawaal phir aa gaya”
- Dekhiye kya zyada tez hai: shabd ya unke baad ki chuppi
- Chupchaap poochhiye: ye chinta kiski hai, aur poochha kisne?
- Aise ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jo bina kapde jaanche aapse milta hai
- Aaj ek cheez gaur se dekhiye jo aapne sirf isliye pehni ki pasand thi
Chhoti, nijee aur sab apni marzi ki. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Us sawaal ne peechhe kya chhoda jo ek jaldi wala jawab nahi dhak paya?
- Jab aapka pehnawa baat bana, tab darwaze par kaun tha?
- Kaun aapse bina dekhe ki aapne kya pehna hai, milta hai?
- Agar sawaal aapke liye tez ho jaaye, to us waqt aaspaas kya hota hai?
- Agar wo thoda dheela pade, to aap sabse pehle kya notice karenge?