Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
“Chehre ko” shabd sujhata hai ki uske saath kuch bigda, mano ek aam roop hai aur ye usse hatkar hai.
Kuch logon ke ghar mein chehre mausam ki tarah dekhe jaate the: nashte par, darwaze par, mehmaanon ke saamne, pyaar se aur aksar is pakki raay ke saath ki aaj ke din ka chehra kaisa hona chahiye.
Kuch logon ke mann mein ek niyam ban jaata hai: “Mera chehra har waqt theek dikhna chahiye,” ya “Chehre par kuch dikhe toh safai mere zimme hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Hanskar kehna “bas raat der ho gayi, aur kuch nahi”
- Us jagah ko chhoona aur baat badal dena
- Zara jaldi se bol dena “kuch nahi, waise hi”
- Us waqt theek rehna, phir baad mein aaina dobara dekhna
- Baaki din ke liye camera band rakhna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Desk par aaya sawaal
Gurugram ke office mein Tuesday ki subah. Hafta lamba gaya, neend kam mili, aur aap bina kisi taiyaari ke office aa jaate ho. Ek colleague desk par rukkar zor se poochhta hai, “Arre, tumhare chehre ko kya hua?” Kuch sir ghoomte hain. Aap hanskar kehte ho, “Raat lambi thi.” Par poori subah camera band rakhte ho, pantry ka raasta bachate ho, aur sochte ho ki log aur kya dekh rahe honge.
Chehra jo theek hi dikhe
Pehle seedhi baat: chehre par poochha sawaal kisi ki hairani ke baare mein hai, aapki qadar ke baare mein nahi. Par isse ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ban jaata hai: “Mera chehra har waqt theek dikhna chahiye.” Kai log ise bina jaane nibhate hain. Ye saleeqe jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har aam din ko pehle se ek jawab chahiye.
Apnaya jaana kyun maayne rakhta hai
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki garmjoshi se apnaya jaana achha lagta hai, aur chehron par har jagah kuch na kuch kaha jaata hai. Ye sabse aam chaahaton mein se ek hai. Shayad ghar mein chehre zor se padhe jaate the. Shayad aap bas ek shaant din chahte ho. Jo bhi ho, apnaye jaane ki chaah ghamand nahi. Ye apnepan ki chaah se aati hai, aur ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har sawaal ka judta bojh
Aisa har sawaal thoda bojh jodta hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye dikhta nahi. Bahar se kuch nazar nahi aata, par aap feel karte ho. Aap aaina do baar dekhte ho. Pantry ka raasta bachate ho. Video call ko chupchaap taal dete ho. Dheere-dheere aam chehra sambhalne ki cheez ban jaata hai, aur office inspection jaisa lagne lagta hai.
Kya theek dikhna iske laayak hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya ye niyam pakde rakhne se aapko zyada aaram mila? Ya zyadatar yahi laga ki aapko dekha ja raha hai? Aapka chehra kisi ke poochhne se pehle bas aapka chehra tha. Chahein toh is par ek pal rukiye. Koi galat jawab nahi hai, jaldi bhi nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iski keemat ke laayak hai?
Ek colleague, koi haadsa nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki colleague ki niyat buri thi, ya aapko bahas karni hai. Matlab ye ki aapke chehre ko swagat paane ke liye hisaab nahi dena padta. Aap keh sakte ho “bas thoda lamba hafta,” aur unke project ke baare mein poochh sakte ho. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin chain lautta hai: aap desk par baithe ek colleague hote ho, koi haadsa nahi.
Being pushed to change how you look, mocked, threatened, hurt or frightened is not okay and is worth taking seriously; a friend or someone you trust can help.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMera chehra har waqt theek dikhna chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleChehra bas chehra ho sakta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Koi toke toh “bas lamba hafta” kahiye aur unka hafta poochh lijiye
- Kadam 2
Aise ek insaan par gaur kijiye jo din poochhta hai, chehra nahi
- Kadam 3
Jab dekhe jaane jaisa lage, dono pair zameen par rakhkar saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Us sawaal ne kya peechhe chhoda jise ek jhat ka mazaak nahi dhak paya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek sawaal jo seedha aap par ungli rakhe #
Gurugram ke office mein Monday ki subah, pantry ke paas koi colleague chai ka cup haath mein liye teen desk paar se poochh leta hai: “Arre, tumhare chehre ko kya hua?” Mausi ke ghar nashte par, school gate par, flatmate se bhi yahi suna ja sakta hai. Hansi ke saath, aur nazar ek khaas jagah par.
Sunne mein fikar ya mazaak lagta hai, aur kabhi-kabhi hota bhi hai. Par sawaal chehre ko aise tatolta hai jaise wo koi haadsa ho, aur ye sabke saamne, zor se kiya jaata hai.
Pichhli baar kab aapke chehre ke baare mein sabke saamne poochha gaya tha, aur aas-paas kaun sun sakta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sawaal ke baad ka pehla pal #
Koi bina soche chehre par haath le jaata hai. Koi hanskar kehta hai “bas raat der tak kaam chala”; koi thoda jaldi bol deta hai “kuch nahi, kyun?”; kisi ke kaan garam ho jaate hain aur wo mazaak mein jawab deta hai. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko safai nahi deni.
Chehra wo hai jisse log ek-doosre se milte hain, isliye us par kahi baat sochne se pehle lag jaati hai. Kuch logon ko asar baad mein feel hota hai, lift mein ya bathroom ke aaine ke saamne, jab baatcheet kab ki aage badh chuki hoti hai.
Sawaal ke baad wale pehle pal mein aapke bheetar kya hua, isse pehle ki aap tay karte ki kya kahein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Aisa sawaal jiska koi achha jawab nahi #
“Kya hua?” ek hisaab maangta hai. Par thaka dikhta chehra, ek daana ya naya look shayad hi koi ghatna hota hai; wo bas kisi ek subah ka chehra hai. Sawaal ek aam subah ko aisi cheez bana deta hai jiski safai chahiye, aur aam taur par koi safai hoti nahi.
“Chehre ko” shabd sujhata hai ki uske saath kuch bigda, mano ek aam roop hai aur ye usse hatkar hai. Kuch logon ke liye ise jhatakna mushkil hota hai, kyunki ye aise waqt aata hai jab palatkar kuch kehne ki jagah kam hoti hai.
Sawaal aane se pehle aap us subah ko kis baare mein chahte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab sawaal aaine ke paas hi reh jaye #
Baar-baar poochha jaye toh aisa sawaal andar bas sakta hai. Kuch logon ke liye ye har subah bathroom ke aaine par laut aata hai, dhoondhta hua ki aaj kis baat par toka jayega, apni hi awaaz mein: “Aaj ye log is par kya kahenge?”
Mausi ka beta ab doosri khabron mein laga hai. Par dhoondhna chalta rehta hai, agli baat ki talaash mein jis par poochha ja sake. Aur kyunki ye jaani-pehchani awaaz mein bolta hai, ye apni raay jaisa lagta hai, kisi nashte ki table se mili hui nahi.
Jab sawaal dohrata hai, toh kiski awaaz mein, aur kis nashte ya kis darwaze se aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye chehre hamesha charcha mein the #
“Chehra utra hua hai. Raat ko neend poori hui thi?” Kuch logon ke ghar mein chehre mausam ki tarah dekhe jaate the: nashte par, darwaze par, mehmaanon ke saamne, pyaar se aur aksar is pakki raay ke saath ki aaj ke din ka chehra kaisa hona chahiye.
Wajahein har ghar mein alag hain aur bachche ko shayad hi kabhi batayi gayin. Jo reh jaata hai wo ek chup-sa khayal hai: aapka chehra wo cheez hai jise doosre zor se padhte hain, aur padhein toh aapke paas jawab taiyaar hona chahiye.
Ghar mein aapke chehre ko zor se padhte pehli baar kab dekha, aur padhne wala aam taur par kaun hota tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Sawaal peechhe ek chup niyam chhod sakta hai #
Kuch logon ke mann mein ek niyam ban jaata hai: “Mera chehra har waqt theek dikhna chahiye,” ya “Chehre par kuch dikhe toh safai mere zimme hai.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo lihaaz jaise lagte hain, logon se milte waqt kya apekshit hai uski samajh jaise. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi nikalkar roshni mein dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Kya aisa koi niyam aap par baithta hai, thoda-bahut, ya bilkul nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
“Hamesha theek dikho” wala niyam aaj kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Dekhe jaane wala chehra chupchaap kya le jaata hai #
Ye subah ki meeting tak pahunch sakta hai, video call, photo aur school gate tak ki sair tak. Kuch log apni subahein is hisaab se baandhne lagte hain ki kaun dekh sakta hai, aur ek aam din ko pehle se ek jawab ki zaroorat padne lagti hai.
Ek aur keemat hai, jo kam dikhti hai: dhyaan ka ek hissa is par rehta hai ki kuch dikh toh nahi raha, kamre mein kya ho raha hai us par nahi. Ye dikhawe ki wajah se nahi. Ek taiyaar jawab saath liye ghoomna thakata hai, aur kisi ko dikhta nahi.
Pichhle ek saal mein chehre par kahi kisi baat ki aapko kya keemat padi, agar padi: koi call, koi photo, koi plan, koi aasaan subah?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, jab niyam tez bole #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din ka jab “mera chehra har waqt theek dikhna chahiye” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki ek tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad metro ka safar, subah ki meeting, colleagues ke saath lunch, shaam ka plan. Usmein bahut kuch ho sakta hai ya bahut kam; tasveer ka koi sahi roop nahi hai, aur usmein kuch bhi aane wale waqt ki bhavishyavani nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye.
Aise Tuesday mein kya bhara hai: aaina, camera, plan, chupchaap bachaye gaye kone?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us niyam ke zor se bolne wale Tuesday ko sochne par aapko, agar kuch, toh kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kis baat ka hisaab, asal mein? #
“Kya hua?” maankar chalta hai ki batane laayak koi kahani hai. Imaandaar jawab aksar ye hota hai ki ek din hua: der raat, thanda kamra, jaldi ki shift, bhaag-daud ka hafta. Chehre din dhote hain, aur zyadatar chehre bas yahi karte hain.
Poochhne wale ka sawaal hairani ke baare mein utna hi ho sakta hai jitna kisi aur baat ke baare mein, aur hairani jaldi guzar jaati hai. Us din ya us hafte mein aapne kya kiya, wo chehre par likha nahi, na poochhne wale ko dikhta hai.
Agar kisi dost se darwaze par yahi sawaal poochha jaye, toh aap chahenge ki log usmein iske bajaye kya dekhein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Thoda dheeme dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, toh unhein dikhta hai ki wo kitni jaldi guzar gaya. Poochhne wala kuch second mein agle topic par tha, baaki logon ne mushkil se gaur kiya, aur sir mein dohrav asli baat se kahin lamba chala.
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jo chehre par kabhi kuch nahi kehte: wo dost jo hafte ke baare mein poochhta hai, wo colleague jise plan par raay chahiye, wo bachcha jise bas khel chahiye. Ve sab pehle se wahin the, aksar zyada shaant.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun hai jo chehre ke baare mein kuch kehne se pehle poochhta hai ki aapke saath kya chal raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Sawaal ka matlab tay karna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab baat se sahmat hona nahi, na usse ladna. Matlab bas itna ki ek sawaal ka is par kam chale ki aap call lete hain ya nahi, photo mein aate hain ya nahi, aur apni subah halki rakh paate hain ya nahi.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo ye taulna chhod dete hain ki wo sawaal fikar thi, mazaak ya bekhayali. Wo paheli shayad hi kabhi suljhti hai, aur kisi aur ki hairani ko aapki subah ke beech mein bithaye rakhti hai.
Kaisa lagega agar wo sawaal bas poochhne wale ka vaakya rahe, darwaze par ek baar kaha hua, koi haadsa nahi jo aapke peechhe ghoome?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar sawaal baar-baar lautta hai, toh usse seedhe bahas ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo ek insaan ki hairani thi, aur meri subah aam thi.”
Ye shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Kuch log ise bas aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki aaine ke saamne kabhi-kabhi kehne par ye kisi ki guzarti baat aur aapke din ke beech thodi jagah chhod deta hai.
Us sawaal ke baare mein aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo jo hua uske baare mein theek ho aur jisme poochhne wale ki haami na chahiye ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baat darwaze par chhodi ja sakti hai #
Har sawaal ke liye badhiya jawab, poori safai ya agli baar ka plan zaroori nahi. Kuch baat dekhi ja sakti hai, ek pal feel ki ja sakti hai aur din ke aakhir mein kursi par chhoote thaile ki tarah neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan lage. Kuch log kehte hain isse un baatcheeton ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinke liye wo aaye the, aur un logon ke liye jinke saath rehna aasaan hai.
Din ke liye ise neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi ya nipat gayi. Bas itna ki ise lunch, agli call ya kal ke aaine tak saath nahi aana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam ek darja dheela pade #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Tuesday ko chehra bas chehra ho sakta hai aur subah bas subah.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: camera on karke li gayi call, ek photo jisme aap rahein, ya ek aisi shaam jisme wo sawaal dobara na baje.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, toh baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Jis din niyam ek darja dheema ho, us din sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir mere chehre wala sawaal”
- Gaur kijiye ki jab koi nahi dekh raha tab subah kaisi lagti hai
- Ek aise insaan ko yaad kijiye jo chehre ki nahi, aapke hafte ki baat poochhta hai
- Din ki ek aisi cheez par dhyaan dijiye jiska rang-roop se koi lena-dena nahi
- “Bas thoda lamba hafta” kahiye aur unka hafta poochh lijiye
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Us sawaal ne kya peechhe chhoda jise ek jhat ka mazaak nahi dhak paya?
- Jab aapka chehra baatcheet ka topic bana, tab aas-paas kaun tha, aur unke chehron ne kya kiya?
- Kaun hai jo chehre par kuch kehne se pehle aapka hafta poochhta hai?
- Aisi line jab aapke liye tez bolne lage, us pal aas-paas kya hota hai?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, toh sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?