Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Kuch logon ke liye yahi sabse chubhta hai: jawab dene ko kuch hai nahi, bas us cheez ko saabit karne ka bojh hai jis par kabhi shak tha hi nahi.
Kuch logon ke baare mein sabse pehle umar ki baat hoti rahi: ghar mein sabse chhote, team mein sabse chhote, sabse chhote jinhe project mil gaya.
Kuch logon ko ek niyam banta sunayi deta hai: “Mujhe saabit karna hai ki main is kursi ke laayak hoon,” ya “Mera look kaisa hai, usi se tay hota hai ki log mujhe kitna gambhirta se lenge.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Hanskar kehna “Haan, sab yahi kehte hain”
- Koi poochhe usse pehle apna experience gina dena
- Jhat se agenda par aa jaana
- Muskura dena, phir poori dopahar wahi dohrana
- Sochna ki kamre ka bharosa ab kam toh nahi hua
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Client ki muskaan
Dehradun ke office mein Monday ki meeting. Naya client haath milata hai, nameplate dekhta hai aur muskurakar kehta hai, “Aap toh bachche lag rahe hain, is kursi par?” Log halka hanste hain. Aap kehte ho sab yahi kehte hain. Par baaki meeting mein aap khud ko naapa hua feel karte ho, jaise chehra ek aisa biodata ho jo mel nahi khaata, aur apna experience do baar gina dete ho.
Saabit karna ki main laayak hoon
Pehle seedhi baat: umar jaise dikhne ki baat kehne wale ki tasveer batati hai, aapke kaam ke baare mein kuch nahi. Par usse ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ban jaata hai: “Mujhe saabit karna hai ki main is kursi ke laayak hoon.” Bahut log bina soche yahi maanke chalte hain. Wo mehnat jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye wo karta kya hai: har meeting mein aapka chain ek chupchaap test paas karne par tik jaata hai.
Gambhirta se liya jaana kyun zaroori
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki gambhirta se liya jaana achha lagta hai, aur pehli chhaap tezi se banti hai. Ye sabse aam ummeedon mein se hai, bahut insaani chaah. Shayad ghar mein bhi aisi baatein aam thin. Shayad aapko bas achha kaam karna aur uske liye dekhe jaana pasand hai. Jo bhi ho, izzat chahna kamzori nahi hai. Wo apnapan chahne se aata hai. Us par narmi banti hai, ilzaam nahi.
Har baat ka wazan
Har aisi baat thoda wazan jodti hai. Wo dheere-dheere jamta hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aapko feel hota hai. Aap zaroorat se zyada taiyaari karte ho. Degree pehle bata dete ho. Jo baat sahi jaante ho, use rok lete ho. Jo taareef jaisa laga tha, wo kursi par sawaaliya nishaan banne lagta hai, aur meetings imtihaan jaisi lagne lagti hain.
Kya saabit karte rehna iske laayak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya is niyam ko pakadne se koi meeting kabhi aasaan hui? Ya zyadatar bas apni hi kursi par katghare mein baithe rahe? Aapka kaam asli tha, aur post se chehra milana kisi ko nahi padta. Chahein to ek pal is par rukiye. Ise bina ilzaam ke, narmi se poochna theek hai. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi hai. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakde rehna uski keemat ke laayak hai?
Insaan, koi chehra nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki client ki neeyat buri thi, ya kisi ko tokna hai. Matlab ye hai ki ab aapki kursi ko safai ki zaroorat nahi. Aap muskurakar keh sakte ho “Chaliye, shuru karein?” aur kaam ko khud dikhne dein. Iske liye pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aap kaam karte insaan ho, kisi ki jaanch mein paas hota chehra nahi.
Being mocked, threatened, hurt or frightened over how you look is not okay and is worth taking seriously; someone you trust can help.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe saabit karna hai ki main is kursi ke laayak hoon.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMera kaam meri pehchaan hai, aur mere chehre ko safai nahi deni.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Jab baat uthe, muskurakar kahiye “Chaliye, shuru karein?”
- Kadam 2
Aise ek insaan ko dekhiye jo pehle kaam ki baat karta hai
- Kadam 3
Din ke aakhir mein ek cheez likhiye jo achhi ki
Is par baat karni hai?
“Us baat ne peeche kya chhoda jo ek jaldi wali hansi nahi dhak paayi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Chehre ko kursi ka faisla bana dene wali baat #
Dehradun, Rajpur Road ke office mein Monday ki meeting. Haridwar ki party ke sahab haath milate hain, nameplate par nazar daalte hain aur muskurakar kehte hain: “Aap toh bachche lag rahe hain, itni badi kursi par?” Table ke sab log sunte hain, koi halka-sa hans deta hai.
Ho sakta hai kehne wale ne taareef ke taur par kaha ho, log alag-alag wajahon se aisa bolte hain. Phir bhi isme chehre ko biodata ki tarah padha gaya hai, aur “itni badi kursi” mein chupchaap ye tay ho jaata hai ki is kursi wale ko kaisa dikhna chahiye.
Aakhri baar jab kisi ne aapse aisa kaha, tab aap kahan the, aur table ne uske baad kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Shuru ke kuch second #
Kisi ko halki jakdan feel hoti hai, ya muskaan pehle aa jaati hai aur ehsaas baad mein. Koi hanskar kehta hai “Haan, sab yahi kehte hain,” koi apne experience ke saal gina deta hai, koi turant agenda par aa jaata hai. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko safai nahi deni padti.
Roop-rang par kahi baat sochne se pehle sharir mein utarti hai. Kuch logon ko sochna baad mein aata hai, lift mein ya scooter par ghar lautte hue, ki kahin kamre ka bharosa ek paydaan kam toh nahi ho gaya.
Us baat ke baad pehle second mein, jawab dene se pehle, aapke andar kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Chehre aur qaabiliyat ko jodti baat #
Chehre se kisi ki padhai, ghante, faisle ya samajh ka pata nahi chalta. Phir bhi ye baat chehre ko post ke baghal mein rakhkar kamre ko sochne deti hai ki dono mel khaate hain ya nahi, maano kursi ki liyaaqat table ke paar se dikh jaati ho.
Iska paimana bhi chhupa rehta hai. Kuch logon ke liye yahi sabse chubhta hai: jawab dene ko kuch hai nahi, bas us cheez ko saabit karne ka bojh hai jis par kabhi shak tha hi nahi.
Post aapne kamayi hai; chehra aapko mila hai. Jab dono ki zubani tulna hoti hai to lag sakta hai ki kamayi ko ek taraf rakh diya gaya.
Kiske muqable chhote, aur kis kaam ke liye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Chehre par nazar jaane se pehle aap kamre ko apne baare mein kya batana chahte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab baat peecha karti hai #
Baar-baar sunne par wo andar ghar kar leti hai. Kuch logon ke liye wo meeting, presentation ya kisi naye client ki pehli call se pehle apne aap laut aati hai, usi ki awaaz mein jisne pehli baar kahi thi. Wo saleeqe ki taiyaari jaisi lag sakti hai, par usme kisi aur ki dharna baithi hai.
Jaani-pehchani awaaz mein aane ki wajah se wo apni raay lagne lagti hai, kisi lunch mein bola hua vaakya nahi. Kehne wala kab ka apni seat par laut gaya, aur baat agle introduction tak chali aayi.
Meeting se pehle jab wo baat lautti hai, to kiski awaaz mein, aur kis kamre se aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye sabse chhota hona hamesha charcha thi #
“Arre, ye sambhal lega?” Kuch logon ke baare mein sabse pehle umar ki baat hoti rahi: ghar mein sabse chhote, team mein sabse chhote, sabse chhote jinhe project mil gaya. Ye kam hi hamla hota tha, aur kam hi samjhaya jaata tha.
Aise barson se jo reh sakta hai wo hai hamesha saboot saath lekar pahunchne ki aadat: degree pehle bata dena, experience pehle hi vaakya mein keh dena. Ye aadat bewajah nahi thi, kabhi kaam aayi thi. Bas un kamron se lambi umar ji sakti hai jinmein seekhi gayi thi.
Pehli baar kab dhyaan gaya ki aapke chhote dikhne par baat hoti hai, aur aam taur par ye baat kaun uthata tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Aisi baat ke baad ek chupchaap bana niyam #
Kuch logon ko ek niyam banta sunayi deta hai: “Mujhe saabit karna hai ki main is kursi ke laayak hoon,” ya “Mera look kaisa hai, usi se tay hota hai ki log mujhe kitna gambhirta se lenge.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo office chalne ke tareeqe ki samajh jaise lagte hain, jaise ye jaanna ki kaun se rishtedaar kaun sa sawaal poochte hain. Isiliye unhein kabhi-kabhaar ujaale mein nikaalkar dekhna kaam ki baat hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ki jad bachpan mein paate hain, kuch nahi. Dono soorat mein use dekha ja sakta hai.
Kya aisa koi niyam aapse mel khaata hai, ya thoda, ya bilkul nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo aaj kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Wo baat chupchaap kya le jaati hai #
Wo meetings, presentations, introductions aur bas kaam karne ke sahaj chain tak pahunch sakti hai. Kuch log zaroorat se zyada taiyaari karne lagte hain, jitna chahte hain usse der se bolte hain, ya wahan chup rehte hain jahan jawab unhein pata hai.
Ek khamosh keemat aur bhi hai. Jab chehra aapki jagah par sawaal bana diya gaya ho, to dhyaan ka ek hissa isi mein laga rehta hai ki kamra aapko kaise le raha hai. Saal bhar mein ye aisi meetings ban sakti hain jinmein aadha kaan shak ki jhalak par laga raha.
Ye kamzori nahi hai. Doosron ki dharnayein dhone mein sachmuch mehnat lagti hai.
Pichhle saal us baat ne aapse kya liya, agar liya ho: koi ankahi baat, koi aasaan introduction, koi poori shaam jo rehearsal mein gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, jab baat tez ho #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, jis din “Mujhe saabit karna hai ki main is kursi ke laayak hoon” tez baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki ek tasveer hai, sudhaarne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad ek slide teen baar jaanchi gayi, meeting mein koi baat rok li gayi, kisi colleague ko bheja jaane wala message nahi gaya. Usme bahut kuch ho sakta hai ya bahut kam; tasveer ka koi sahi roop nahi hai, aur usme kuch bhi bhavishyavaani nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi.
Aise Tuesday mein kya-kya bhara hai: taiyaari, aana-jaana, meeting, shaam, aur chupchaap taali gayi cheezein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us niyam ke tez hone wale aam Tuesday ko sochein to kya dikhta hai, agar kuch dikhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Chhota kiske hisaab se, aur naapa kisne? #
Aisi baat ko dheere se dekhein to uska jawab khud nikal aata hai: kaam kursi par baitha insaan kar chuka hai, ya kar raha hai. Baat zyadatar kehne wale ki tasveer ke baare mein hai ki is post wala kaisa dikhta hai, aur kaam ke baare mein bahut kam kehti hai.
Kis kursi par kaun jachta hai, iski tasveerein desh, office aur peedhi ke hisaab se badalti hain. Aisi baat bolne wale ki pali hui tasveer ke baare mein bahut kuch keh sakti hai, aur jisse kahi gayi uske baare mein bahut kam.
Agar kisi dost se nayi job ke pehle din yahi kaha jaata, to aap chahte ki unke aaspaas ke log iski jagah kya dekhein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Us pal ko dheere se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log us pal ko dheere se dohrate hain to dekhte hain ki baat kitni chhoti thi aur dhona kitna lamba. Shabdon mein chaar second lage, aur dohrane mein poori dopahar. Saath rakhkar dekhein to dono ka size bahut alag hai.
Kuch log unhein dekhte hain jo umar ya shakl ki baat kabhi karte hi nahi: wo colleague jo kisi plan par raay maangta hai, wo client jise bas aankde chahiye, wo senior jo sirf file ke baare mein poochte hain. Wo log hamesha se wahin the, aksar zyada chupchaap.
Aapki kaamkaaji zindagi mein kaun hai jo pehle kaam ki baat karta hai, aur un baatcheet ka rukh kidhar jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Baat ka matlab tay karna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab baat se sehmat hona nahi, use thukrana bhi nahi, chahe wo jaise bhi lagi ho. Matlab bas itna ki ek vaakya ko meetings, introductions aur baaki din ke mood par kam haq mile.
Kuch logon ko tab halka lagta hai jab wo ye hisaab chhod dete hain ki kehne wale ka matlab kya tha aur wo taareef thi ya nahi. Ye paheli shayad hi kabhi khatam hoti hai, aur jis meeting ko kaam ke baare mein hona tha uske beech chehre ko bithaye rakhti hai.
Us baat ko kehne wale ka vaakya rehne dena, jo ek baar, ek table par kaha gaya aur agli meeting tak saath nahi chala, usme kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne layak ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar baat kaafi waqt se laut rahi hai, to usse seedhe behes ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iski jagah ek vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo ek insaan ki tasveer thi, aur kaam wahi hai jo hai.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki beech-beech mein chupchaap kehne se kisi aur ki tasveer aur agli meeting ke beech thodi jagah ban jaati hai.
Us baat ke baare mein aapka apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, aisa jo jo hua uske baare mein sahi ho aur jiske liye kehne wale ki haami zaroori na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein darwaze par chhoot sakti hain #
Har baat ko satik jawab, poori safai ya agli baar ki yojna nahi chahiye. Kuch baatein dekhi ja sakti hain, ek pal feel ki ja sakti hain, aur rakh di ja sakti hain, jaise andar aate waqt chhatri stand mein chhod di jaati hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taaqat kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse un baatcheet ke liye jagah bachti hai jinke liye wo aaye the, aur un logon ke liye jinke saath rehna aasaan hai.
Baat ko aaj shaam ke liye rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi ya mamla nipat gaya. Matlab bas itna ki use agli meeting, agle lunch ya aaj ki baaki shaam ke saath chalna zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam ek paydaan dheela pad jaye #
Sochiye, sirf tasveer ki tarah, ki niyam ek paydaan dheema hai. Meeting bas meeting ho sakti hai, aur namaste bas namaste.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: aisi meeting jisme sirf kaam par baat ho, aasaan saath wale lunch ko haan, ya aisi shaam jisme wo baat dobara na baje.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi uthe, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar aap ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Jis din niyam ek paydaan dheema ho, us din sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, wahi ‘bachche lag rahe hain’ wali baat phir aayi”
- Dekhiye kya zyada tez hai: shabd ya unke aaspaas ke chehre
- Chupchaap poochiye: is kursi ki ye tasveer kiski hai?
- Aise ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jo pehle aapke kaam ki baat karta hai
- Aaj ek cheez gaur se dekhiye jo aapne achhi ki aur kisi ne nahi dekhi
Chhoti, nijee aur sab apni marzi ki. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Us baat ne peeche kya chhoda jo ek jaldi wali hansi nahi dhak paayi?
- Jab aapka chehra charcha bana, tab kaun sun raha tha?
- Kaun aapse sabse pehle kaam ki baat karta hai?
- Agar wo baat aapke liye tez ho jaye, to us waqt aaspaas kya hota hai?
- Agar wo thodi dheeli pade, to aap sabse pehle kya notice karenge?