Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Isiliye ye kai baar din se zyada chubhta hai.
Kuch gharon mein chhutti par ek chubhti chuppi milti thi, aur bachcha seekh jaata tha ki aaram ke liye sorry bolna padta hai.
Kuch logon ke andar ek niyam baith jaata hai: “Aaram tabhi milta hai jab main saabit kar doon ki zaroorat hai,” ya “Aaram ka matlab hai main kaamchor hoon.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Subah ka poora haal bareeki se suna dena
- Uthkar dugna kaam kar daalna, taaki din asli dikh jaaye
- “Arre nahi, main theek hoon” kehkar waise hi kaam par lag jaana
- Agla mushkil din kisi ko bataye bina nikaal dena
- Baad mein baar-baar sochna ki kya kehna chahiye tha
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Chai par chadhi bhaunh
Aapne office mein message kiya ki aaj ka din chahiye. Nashik ke flat mein Bua aayi hui hain, band darwaaza dekhkar kehti hain, “Bas aaram karne ka bahana hai, hai na?” Aap subah ki baat ginane lagte ho, jaise gawahi de rahe ho. Dopahar tak aap uthkar wo kapde tah karne lagte ho jinhein tah karna zaroori nahi tha, taaki koi ye na kahe ki din yun hi gaya.
Chhutti jaise koi muqadma
Ye shabd aise niyam par girte hain jo shaayad pehle se wahan hai: “Aaram tabhi milega jab main saabit kar doon ki zaroorat hai.” Ye anushasan jaisa lagta hai, imaandaari jaisa. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: chhutti ko muqadma bana deta hai. Aap kya kahein, kya chhodein aur kis baat ki maafi maangein, ye is par tik jaata hai ki koi shak kar sakta hai ya nahi.
Saabit karna kyun surakshit laga
Hum mein se bahut log ye niyam isliye pakadte hain ki kabhi saabit karna hi surakshit laga. Shaayad aise ghar mein bade hue jahan “Aaram haraam hai” kaha jaata tha, ya ek chubhti nazar ne jaldi sikha diya ki ghar par rukne ki keemat hoti hai. Niyam bewakoofi nahi hai. Ye bharose ki chaah se aata hai, aur use narmi chahiye. Itna kuch chhoti umar mein seekhna aur itne baras dhona bahut hai.
Wo kapde jo kisi ne nahi maange
Har baar jab aap bhaagkar behes jeette ho, aapke asli din ka thoda hissa jiya nahi jaata. Aap aisi subah ki safai dete ho jise kisi ne poochha nahi. Pajama mein kapde tah karte ho. Aaram kiye bina kaam par laut jaate ho. Dheere-dheere apne log us insaan se milte hain jo hamesha busy rehta hai aur jise kuch nahi chahiye, aur aap baaki aaram ke saath akele reh jaate ho.
Kya ye niyam keemat ke laayak?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se aapko un logon ka zyada bharosa mila jinhein aap manana chahte the? Ya zyadatar bas thakaan mili? Doosre jo kehte hain, wo unki baat hai, aur wajah wahi jaante hain. Jo bhi ho, ek chadhi hui bhaunh is baat ka paimana nahi ki aapka din asli tha ya nahi. Kya ye niyam us keemat ke laayak hai?
Chhutti ka din, bas chhutti ka din
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki kisi ko batana hi nahi, na ye ki wo baat theek thi. Matlab ye hai ki aapke aaram ko ab safai ki wakalat nahi chahiye. Aap seedhe shabdon mein bata sakte ho, aur phir bas din ghar par reh sakta hai. Wahin thoda chain laut sakta hai: bhaunh usi ke paas rahe jisne chadhayi, aur poora din aapka rahe.
If something about how you feel is worrying you, or anyone answers it with anger, threats or fear, that is worth taking seriously, and going along for now can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleAaram tabhi milega jab main saabit kar doon ki zaroorat hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleAaram insaan ke chalte rehne ka hissa hai, use faisla nahi chahiye.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Aaj ke baare mein ek seedha vaakya likhein, jismein “lekin” na ho
- Kadam 2
Ek haath table par rakhein aur use dheere-dheere padhein
- Kadam 3
Ek aise insaan ko yaad karein jisne kabhi saboot nahi maanga
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne aapki chhutti ko bahana kaha, tab aap kahan the, aur us subah ka haal kaisa tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Chai ke saath ek chadhi hui bhaunh #
Nashik ki subah hai. Aapne office mein message kar diya ki aaj ka din chahiye. Bua aayi hui hain, Mummy chai rakhti hain, aur Bua bhaunh chadhakar kehti hain: “Achha, bas aaram karne ka bahana hai.” Band darwaaza dekhkar aisa kabhi koi colleague ya dost bhi keh deta hai. Ek nazar mein din ka faisla ho jaata hai.
Kehne wala aksar khud thaka-bhaga hota hai, aur usne apne kai mushkil din bina chhutti ke nikaale hote hain. Par aapne jo din mushkil bataya tha, wo ek naatak ban jaata hai, aur baat poori hone se pehle aap kathghare mein khade ho jaate ho.
Aisi baat, ya uske aas-paas ki koi baat, aapne aakhri baar kahan suni?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kisne kahi, aur us din aapka haal kaisa tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Safai jo khud-ba-khud nikal padti hai #
Kuch log turant safai dene lagte hain aur batate hain ki subah kitni bhaari thi. Kuch uthkar poora din kaam mein jut jaate hain, taaki baat saabit ho jaaye. Kuch chup ho jaate hain aur mann mein tay kar lete hain ki agli baar kam batayenge.
Jab aapki batayi baat par hi shak kiya jaaye, to ek second mein andar kuch chubh jaata hai, sochne se pehle. Kai log kehte hain ki sawaal se pehle hi ek apraadh-sa bhaav chala aata hai, jabki samajh nahi aata ki galti kya hui.
Us pal ke theek baad aapne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Safai di, zyada kaam kiya, ya chup ho gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo pehli harkat aapke apne din ke baare mein kya batati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye aaram ko kamayi ki cheez bana deta hai #
“Aaram ka bahana” sunne mein chhoti-si baat hai. Iske andar ek poora niyam baitha hai. Wo kehta hai ki aaram chupke se liya jaata hai aur chhutti ko pehle manzoori chahiye. “Bahana” shabd sabse zyada kaam karta hai: wo aapki baat ko bani-banayi kahani bana deta hai.
Isiliye ye kai baar din se zyada chubhta hai. Ye is sawaal ko chhoota hai ki aapke batane par bharosa kiya jaayega ya nahi, aur bina faisla sunaye aaram ki ijaazat hai ya nahi.
Jab aapki chhutti ko bahana kaha gaya, to aapke mann mein kya sawaal utha: din ka, ya is baat ka ki aapki baat kaafi hai ya nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab shak andar se bolne lage #
Baar-baar suna ho to ye andar se bolne lagta hai. “Shaayad chala jaata.” “Aur log to nibha lete.” “Itna bhi bura tha kya?” Kai baar koi kuch kahe, usse pehle hi mann chhutti par muqadma chala deta hai.
Kehne wala shaam tak bhool bhi gaya ho, par muqadma chalta reh sakta hai. Choonki ye apni hi antaraatma jaisa sunayi deta hai, ye imaandaari lagti hai, kisi ek pal mein suni ek baat nahi.
Jis din aapko aaram chahiye, tab aapke mann ki awaaz sabse pehle kya kehti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kin kamron mein wo sabse tez hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch ke liye aaram pehle se kamana padta tha #
“Pehle kaam, phir aaram.” “Aaram haraam hai.” “Ravivaar hi aaram ka din hai.” Kuch gharon mein chhutti par ek chubhti chuppi milti thi, aur bachcha seekh jaata tha ki aaram ke liye sorry bolna padta hai.
Wajahein alag-alag hoti hain. Paise kam the, bade thake rehte the, ya ghar chalta hi ruke bina tha. Bachcha sirf nateeja sunta hai: aaram shak ki cheez hai, aur sabse achha wahi hai jise kabhi zaroorat hi na pade.
Aapne pehli baar kab seekha ki aaram ki safai deni padti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us waqt zyadatar kaun aaspaas hota tha, aur aap kya kehna seekh gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche baitha ek chup-sa niyam #
Kuch logon ke andar ek niyam baith jaata hai: “Aaram tabhi milta hai jab main saabit kar doon ki zaroorat hai,” ya “Aaram ka matlab hai main kaamchor hoon.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise nahi lagte. Wo anushasan jaise lagte hain, bharosemand banne jaise. Isiliye unhein kabhi-kabhi bahar nikaalkar narmi se dekhna theek rehta hai.
Kuch log ise bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono theek hai.
Aisa koi niyam aapne kitna mehsoos kiya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapke kaun se kamron mein ye ab bhi chalta hai, aur kaun se kamron mein iski kabhi zaroorat hi nahi padi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Saboot dene ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai us din bhi kaam par jaana jab din saaf taur par bhaari tha, ya apraadh-bhaav ki gaanth ke saath aaram karna, ya us chhutti ke liye mann mein safai dohrate hue jaagna jo aapka haq thi.
Ek chupchaap keemat bhi hai. Jin dinon aap aaram karte ho, wo aaram jaise lagte hi nahi, kyunki wo apni safai mein nikal jaate hain. Saal bhar mein bahut-se ghante muqadme par lagte hain, aaram par nahi.
Pichhle mahine mein, agar kuch to, saabit karne ke is niyam ki aapko kya keemat padi: koi din kheenchkar nikaala, koi aaram jo aaram nahi tha, koi baat jo nahi kahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Niyam tez ho to ek aam Monday #
Ek aam Monday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Mujhe saabit karna padega” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai.
Shaayad pajama mein hi koi chhota kaam nipta liya gaya taaki koi aapko nikhattu na kahe, ek jawab “Main log-in kar loonga” jaisa, ek aaram jo kabhi tikta nahi. Kuch jaana-pehchana lage, kuch bilkul nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko jab chahein kinaare rakh sakte hain.
Usmein kya hai: office ka message jo chaar baar likha gaya, safai ki list jo mann mein taiyaar hai, ghar par ruk jaane ka mauqa jo dikha aur nikal gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Monday ko dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapki nazar kis par rukti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Faisla kiska hai? #
“Bahana” aisa shabd hai jo kehta hai ki bolne wale ne aapke din ke andar jhaank liya hai. Dheere se dekhein to wo apni thakaan ho sakti hai, kaam ke bant jaane ki chinta, ya ghar ki wo aadat jismein koi rukta hi nahi, jo baat tathya ki tarah keh di gayi.
Isse wo baat meethi nahi ho jaati, aur aapko safai dene ki bhi zaroorat nahi.
Yahan sawaal chhota hai: kya chhutti apni hone ke liye kisi aur ki muhar chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar aapka koi kareebi dost bataye ki use bhi yahi kaha gaya, to ghar lautte waqt aap usse kya kehna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Lautkar dekhne par log kya dekhte hain #
Kuch log us pal ko dobara dekhte hain to gaur karte hain ki vaakya ka kitna hissa bolne wale ke apne din ka tha: uski shift, uska plan, uski fikr. Aur aapke din ka kitna kam. Us din ke saath rakhkar dekhein to wo baat alag lagti hai.
Kuch log ye dekhte hain ki kisne saboot nahi maanga. Wo dost jo likhta hai “Aaram kar, main sambhaal loonga,” wo colleague jo bas itna kehta hai “Jaldi achha lage.” Wo awaazein hamesha thin, bas bhaunh se dheemi thin.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun hai jo chhutti ko bas chhutti rehne deta hai, aur kamre mein uski maujoodgi kaisi lagti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Muqadma jeetna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye nahi ki aap maan lein ki wo bahana tha, na ye ki shabdon ne chot nahi ki. Matlab bas itna ki kisi ek aadmi ka ek vaakya ye tay karne mein kam bole ki aapka aaram asli hai ya nahi.
Kuch logon ko tab halka lagta hai jab wo us muqadme ki behes chhod dete hain. Us muqadme ka koi judge nahi, kyunki shak to koi bhi kar sakta hai, aur jab tak wo chalta hai, koi bhi chhutti poori chhutti nahi lagti.
Kuch log shak karte rahenge, aur kisi ko unhein manana nahi padta.
Agar aap aaram ke din ko bas aaram ka din rehne dein, to wo kaisa hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Aaram ke baare mein ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Mujhe saabit karna padega ki zaroorat hai” barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhi ladai zaroori nahi. Kuch log iski jagah ek pankti paas rakhte hain: “Aaram insaan ke chalte rehne ka hissa hai, use kisi faisle ki zaroorat nahi.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek pankti hai jise kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki dheemi subah mein chupchaap kehne par wo purane niyam ki thodi jagah le leti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein aapke aaram ka sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jise kisi ki manzoori na chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein darwaaze ke bahar reh sakti hain #
Har shak bhari nazar ko jawab, raseed ya kal dugna kaam karne ka vaada nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise darwaaze par rakha wo parcel jise kholna kisi ki zimmedari nahi.
Ye uske aage jhukna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki dhyaan kahan jaaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse un dinon aur un logon ke liye jagah bachti hai jo sach mein unke apne hain.
Aaj us baat ko darwaaze ke bahar chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya kuch suljh gaya. Bas itna ki wo poore din aapke peechhe-peechhe chalna zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki saabit karne wala niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Chhutti ka din bas chhutti ka din reh sakta hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: teen seedhe shabdon ka message, ek subah jo dheemi hi rahe, ya dopahar ka aaram jismein mann mein koi list na chale.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagega, chahe thoda-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Niyam dheela padne ka aapka pehla chhota nishaan kya ho sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dein: “Lo, phir wahi muqadma”
- Aaj ke baare mein ek seedha vaakya likhein, jismein “lekin” na ho
- Gaur karein ki kaun zyada tez hai: aapse kahi gayi baat, ya andar ki awaaz
- Ek aise insaan ko yaad karein jisne kabhi saboot nahi maanga
- Ek haath table par sapaat rakhein aur apna vaakya dheere-dheere padhein
Chhoti, nijee aur bilkul apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne aapki chhutti ko bahana kaha, tab aap kahan the, aur us subah ka haal kaisa tha?
- Jab aapke aaram par muqadma chala, tab kamre mein kaun tha, aur kiska chehra aapko yaad hai?
- Aapne pehli baar kab seekha ki aaram ki safai deni padti hai?
- Jis din saabit karne wala niyam zor se bolta hai, us din aap aakhir mein kya karte ho?
- Agar chhutti bas chhutti reh sake, to aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?