Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Aisi taareef mein pehle ke kisi waqt se ek chup tulna bhi hoti hai, isliye taareef aur tippani ek hi vaakya mein saath aati hain.
“Kitna badlav aa gaya hai, pehchaan mein hi nahi aa raha!”
Kuch log sunte hain ki aisi line ban rahi hai: “Mere sharir ko logon ki manzoori kamani padti hai,” ya “Mera roop tay karta hai ki swagat kitni garmjoshi se hoga.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Jaldi se shukriya kehkar baat kahin aur le jaana
- Muskurana, phir ghar tak ajeeb lagte rehna
- Mazaak kar dena taaki pal jaldi nikal jaye
- Khush aur bechain ek saath hona, aur na jaanna kis par yaqeen karein
- Chup ho jaana, aur raat ko wo taareef dohrana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Mausi ki oonchi taareef
Vellore mein cousin ki sagai. Aap pahunchte ho to ek mausi gale lagakar zor se kehti hain, “Arre waah, wazan utaar liya tune, shabaash!” Aaspaas ke log upar se neeche dekhte hain. Aap muskurakar shukriya kehte ho. Par baaki shaam aapko dekha hua lagta hai, jaise sharir ko number mil rahe hon, aur sochte ho ki dobara badla to ye kya kahenge. Mithai ko na kehte ho, phir sochte ho kiske liye.
Sharir ko manzoori kamani hai
Pehle saaf baat: sharir ki taareef bhi dabaav jaisi lag sakti hai, aur isse aapki qadr par kuch nahi badalta. Par isse ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ho jaata hai: “Mere sharir ko logon ki manzoori kamani padti hai.” Bahut log bina soche isi par chalte hain. Ye achha lagne wala sunayi deta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapka aaram number milne par tikne lagta hai.
Manzoori achhi kyun lagti hai
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki manzoori achhi lagti hai, aur shariron par bahut baat hoti hai. Ye sabse aam ummeedon mein se ek hai. Ye bahut insaani chaah hai, aur aam hai. Shayad ghar mein aisi tippaniyan aam thin. Shayad aap bas pasand kiye jaana chahte ho. Jo bhi ho, manzoori chahna ghamand nahi. Ye apnapan chahne se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har tippani se badhta dabaav
Aisi har tippani thoda dabaav jodti hai. Ye dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap feel karte ho. Thoda-thoda karke sab judta jaata hai. Get-togethers mein aap khud ko dekha hua paate ho. Sochte ho log kya notice karte hain. Sharir naapa jaata lagta hai. Meethi lagi manzoori scorecard jaisi lagne lagti hai, aur get-togethers numaaish jaise.
Kya unki manzoori is layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se kabhi aap zyada sahaj hue? Ya zyadatar aapko naapa hua hi laga? Aapki qadr kabhi aapke sharir ke baare mein nahi thi. Chahein to ek pal iske saath baithiye. Ise narmi se, bina ilzaam ke poochhna theek hai. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke layak hai?
Qadr jo sharir ki thi hi nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki mausi ki neeyat buri thi, ya aapko behas karni hai. Matlab ye ki aapke sharir ko ab manzoori nahi kamani. Aap shukriya keh sakte ho, aur baat kisi aisi cheez par le ja sakte ho jo aapko pasand hai. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin thodi shanti lautti hai: aap sagai mein ek insaan rehte ho, scorecard nahi.
Being pushed to change your body, mocked, threatened, hurt or frightened is not okay and is worth taking seriously; if eating or your body worries you, a doctor or someone you trust can help.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere sharir ko logon ki manzoori kamani padti hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri qadr kabhi mere sharir ki baat nahi thi.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Sharir par tippani ke baad baat kisi pasandida cheez par le jaiye
- Kadam 2
Notice kijiye kaun roop nahi, aapki zindagi ki baat karta hai
- Kadam 3
Jab naape jaane jaisa lage, ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Us taareef ne kya peechhe chhoda jo jaldi ka shukriya dhak nahi paya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Taareef jo sharir ko charcha bana de #
Vellore ke marriage hall mein cousin ki sagai. Darwaze par mausi zor se kehti hain, “Arre waah, wazan utaar liya tune! Shabaash!” Diwali ki chhutti ke baad office mein koi printer ke paas yahi kehta hai. Family group mein photo ke neeche koi yahi likh deta hai. Kamra sir hilata hai, jaise koi seedhi-si khabar ho.
Ye taareef ki tarah kahi jaati hai, aksar pyaar se, aur kehne ki wajahein alag-alag hoti hain. Phir bhi isse sharir baatcheet ka vishay ban jaata hai, aur “shabaash” shabd chupchaap use aisi cheez bana deta hai jiske number hon, jo wahan maujood sabke saamne jaanchi jaye.
Pichhli baar sharir par koi tippani taareef ka chola pehankar kab aayi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur wo number sunne ke liye wahan aur kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Taareef bhi ajeeb kyun lag sakti hai #
Kuch log ek uljha-sa mel batate hain: muskaan, kyunki taareef par muskurana padta hai, aur andar kuch jo chup ya tana hua ho jaata hai. Kuch fauran shukriya kehte hain; kuch hanste hain, kandhe uchkate hain, ya baat doosri taraf mod dete hain. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko samjhane ki zaroorat nahi.
Roop par koi baat, chahe pyaar se kahi gayi ho, sochne se pehle sharir mein darj ho jaati hai. Kuch logon ke liye sochna baad mein aata hai, ghar lautte waqt, ki ek taareef apne peechhe aisa ajeeb ehsaas kyun chhod gayi.
Aapke sharir par taareef ke baad ki pehli second mein aapke andar kya hua, shishtata wala shukriya nikalne se pehle?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Number dene wali taareef #
“Achha laga milkar” insaan ke baare mein hota hai. “Shabaash” nateeje ke baare mein hota hai, aur jab sharir ko nateeja mil jaye to wo ek aisa project lagne lagta hai jise doosre follow kar rahe hon, agli report ki ummeed ke saath. Mann sirf garmjoshi nahi, number dena bhi sunta hai.
Aisi taareef mein pehle ke kisi waqt se ek chup tulna bhi hoti hai, isliye taareef aur tippani ek hi vaakya mein saath aati hain. Kuch logon ke liye isse samajhna mushkil ho jaata hai ki kya feel karein: khush, khula hua, ya dono, bina bolne ki jagah ke.
Aap us baatcheet ko kis baare mein chahte, agar wo aapke sharir par tippani se shuru na hoti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab taareef number ginne lage #
Aisi baat aksar suno to andar bas sakti hai. Kuch logon ke liye taareef apne aap, ajeeb waqton par lautti hai, aur aisa lag sakta hai jaise get-together khatam hone ke bahut baad bhi koi number gin raha hai.
Cousin ab doosri khabron par chala gaya, par dohrav andar chalta hai: shaant waqt mein lautta wo vaakya, doosron ki raay se peechha kiye jaane ka ehsaas. Kyunki wo jaani-pehchani awaaz mein aata hai, wo kisi get-together mein thamayi raay se zyada apna nazariya lag sakta hai.
Jab aapke sharir par taareef baad mein dohrayi jaati hai, to wo kiski awaaz mein hoti hai, aur kis get-together se aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye sharir hamesha ghar ki khabar tha #
“Kitna badlav aa gaya hai, pehchaan mein hi nahi aa raha!” Kuch logon ke liye sharir bahut pehle se ghar ki khabron ka hissa raha hai, get-togethers aur phone calls par result aur nayi job ke saath charcha mein, jo bhi sun raha ho uske saamne.
Aisi baaton ki wajahein har ghar mein alag hoti hain, aur jis par baat ho rahi hai use kam hi samjhayi jaati hain. Jo reh sakta hai wo ek chup nateeja hai: ki sharir sabka vishay hai, aur us par doosron ki manzoori baatcheet ka hissa hai.
Pehli baar kab dhyaan gaya ki aapke sharir par ghar ki khabar ki tarah baat ho rahi hai, aur wo baat aamtaur par kaun shuru karta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ek chup niyam jo taareef chhod jaati hai #
Kuch log sunte hain ki aisi line ban rahi hai: “Mere sharir ko logon ki manzoori kamani padti hai,” ya “Mera roop tay karta hai ki swagat kitni garmjoshi se hoga.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise nahi lagte. Wo is jaankari jaise lagte hain ki get-togethers kaise chalte hain, jaise ye jaanna ki kaun sa rishtedaar kaun sa sawaal poochhega. Isiliye unhein kabhi-kabhi nikaalkar din ki roshni mein dekhna theek rehta hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak khoj lete hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah, use dekha ja sakta hai.
Kya inmein se koi fit hoti hai, ya theek se nahi, ya bilkul nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Roop se manzoori kamane wala niyam ab kin kamron mein fit hota hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Number wali taareef ki chup keemat #
Ye get-togethers, photos, plans aur dekhe jaane ke aam tajurbe ko chhu sakta hai. Kuch log dekhe jaane ke hisaab se plan banane lagte hain, aur agli mulaqat mulaqat kam, follow-up zyada lagne lagti hai.
Ek shaant keemat bhi hai. Jab sharir aisi cheez ban jaye jis par doosre sarahna mein bolein, to dhyaan ka ek hissa is par tika rehta hai ki agli baar wo kya kahenge. Kuch logon ke liye, saal bhar mein, ye aise get-togethers mein badal jaata hai jo aadhe agli tippani ki aahat sunte guzre.
Kamzori se nahi. Doosron ke number dhona sachmuch mehnat hai.
Pichhle saal aapke sharir par taareef ki kya keemat rahi, agar rahi: koi mulaqat, koi photo, koi plan, koi aaram ki shaam?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, jab number tez ho #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din jab “mere sharir ko logon ki manzoori kamani padti hai” tez baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ki koi cheez nahi.
Shayad aana-jaana, family group mein photos ki bheed, ek meeting, doston ke saath shaam ka plan. Usmein bahut kuch ya bahut kam ho sakta hai; tasveer ke dikhne ka koi sahi tareeka nahi, aur usmein kuch bhi bhavishyavaani nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ko abhi jawab nahi chahiye.
Aise Tuesday mein kya bhara hoga: messages, plans, photos, chupchaap taali gayi cheezein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jab aap number wale niyam ko tez rakhkar ek aam Tuesday sochte hain, to kya notice hota hai, agar kuch bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Shabaash, par kis baat ki? #
Kaam ka naam lete hi baat aksar ek aadmi ki sharir par raay nikalti hai, aur us insaan ka saal kaisa raha, iske baare mein bahut kam.
Ek saal mein ek tippani ki nazar se kahin zyada hota hai: kaam, dost, chintayein, chhoti jeetein jinka kisi ne zikr nahi kiya. Kuch log dekhte hain ki taareef ek cheez ki thi, aur sunne wale ke peechhe ka saal kai cheezon ka.
“Shabaash” ko koi kaam chahiye: kis baat ki shabaash, kiski nazar se, kis purani tasveer ke muqable?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar kisi dost ko get-together mein uske sharir par badhai milti, to aap kya chahte ki log uske saal mein iske bajaye kya notice karein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Us pal ko dheere se dekhne par #
Kuch log us pal ko dheere se dobara dekhte hain to notice karte hain ki taareef ne kamre ko kitni jaldi chala diya: kaun saath bola, kaun chup raha, kise laga ki kaash baat badal jaye. Kabhi kamra tippani ke peechhe utna nahi tha jitna laga, aur kabhi tha.
Kuch aur un logon ko notice karte hain jo unke sharir par na idhar kuch kehte hain na udhar: ek dost jo kitaab ke baare mein poochhta hai, ek colleague jo raay maangta hai, ek chhota cousin jo bas khelna chahta hai. Wo log hamesha wahin the, aksar dheeme.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun aapse har baat karta hai siwa aapke sharir ke, aur wo baatcheet aamtaur par kis taraf jaati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Taareef ka matlab tay karna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab tippani se sehmat hona ya use thukrana nahi, chahe wo jaise bhi lagi ho. Matlab ye ki ek taareef is par kam bole ki kin get-togethers par haan ho, kaun si photo khinche, aur shaam kaise beete.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab ve ye hisaab lagana chhod dete hain ki tippani ka theek-theek kya matlab tha aur aage kya ummeed hai. Wo paheli shayad hi suljhti hai, aur ek aadmi ki sharir par raay ko har kamre ke beech mein rakhti hai.
Aapke sharir par taareef ko kehne wale ka vaakya rehne dena kaisa lagega, ek get-together mein kaha hua, na ki har kamre tak peechha karta number?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar taareef kuch waqt se dohrayi ja rahi hai, to usse seedhe behas karne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iski jagah aisa vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo ek aadmi ki raay thi, aur maine koi number nahi maanga tha.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek vaakya hai jo kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki get-together mein jaate waqt kabhi-kabhi kehne par wo doosron ki raay aur din ke beech thodi jagah chhod deta hai.
Us taareef ke baare mein aapke apne shabdon mein ek sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo jo hua uske baare mein sahi ho, bina kamre mein kisi se sehmati maange?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baat darwaze par chhodi ja sakti hai #
Har taareef ko perfect jawab, poori safayi ya agli baar log kya kahenge iska plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko notice kiya ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lautte waqt mithai ka dabba darwaze par rakh diya jaye.
Ye haar maanna nahi. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un baatcheet ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinke liye ve aaye the, aur un logon ke liye jinke saath rehna aasaan hai.
Aaj shaam ke liye tippani ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya mamla nipat gaya. Bas itna ki use agle get-together, agli photo ya aaj ki baaki cheezon mein saath nahi aana padega.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar number ginna zara dheela pade #
Sochiye, bas tasveer ki tarah, niyam zara halka. Get-together bas get-together ho sakta hai, aur photo bas logon wale ek din ka record.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise aisi family call jo kisi ki khabar par rahe, aasaan saath wali outing ke liye haan, ya aisi shaam jisme taareef dohrayi na jaye.
Yahan kuch kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi uthe, aapka hai aur notice karne layak. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to chat bas ek tap door hai.
Jis din number wala niyam zara halka ho, sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jis din doosron ke number kam bolein, aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir number wali taareef”
- Dekhiye ki pal ka kaun sa hissa zyada tez hai: shabd, ya aaspaas ke chehre
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: ye number kiska hai, aur maanga kisne tha?
- Ek aise insaan ko yaad kijiye jo sharir ka naam liye bina aapse baat karta hai
- Aaj chahi hui ek chhoti cheez notice kijiye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhoti, nijee aur sab optional. Jo ho sake, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Us taareef ne kya peechhe chhoda jo jaldi ka shukriya dhak nahi paya?
- Aapka sharir charcha bana tab kaun sun raha tha, aur unke chehron ne kya kiya?
- Kaun aapse sharir ka zikr kabhi nahi karta?
- Agar aisi line kabhi tez ho jaye, to us waqt aapke aaspaas kya hota hai?
- Agar ye zara halki pade, to sabse pehle kya notice hoga?