Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Kai logon ko milne ki pehli baat sabse zyada yaad rehti hai, shayad isliye ki wahi aage ka mahaul tay kar deti hai.
Kuch logon ke liye badon ka haal poochhna shuru se aisa hi raha: darwaze par, bhai-behenon ke saamne, kabhi pyaar se kabhi tanz se, par hamesha poore kamre ke saamne.
Kuch logon ke bheetar aisi line banti dikhti hai: “Log mujhse pehle mera sharir dekhte hain,” ya “Har mulaqat pehle ek faisle se shuru hoti hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Hanskar “arre chalta hai” keh dena aur baat badal dena
- Muskurate rehna, phir poori shaam wahi baat mann mein dohrana
- Doosron se pehle khud par mazaak kar lena
- Chidh aana, aur phir sochna ki chidhna theek bhi hai ya nahi
- Baaki mulaqat chup rehna, aur baad mein kehna ki bas thakan thi
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Joote utarne se pehle ki tippani
Diwali ki shaam, Coimbatore mein Mausi ka flat. Do saal baad sabse milne ka mauka mila hai, aap khush ho. Joote utarne se pehle hi Mausi upar se neeche dekhkar kehti hain, “Arre, vazan badha liya hai kya?” Baaki log sun lete hain. Aap hanskar kuch halka-sa keh dete ho. Par poori shaam wo baat saath chalti hai, aur swagat ki jagah aapko naape jaane jaisa lagta hai, jaise sabse pehle sharir hi dikha ho.
Sharir par raay, qadr ka paimana
Wo baat theek nahi thi, aur usse aapki qadr par koi fark nahi padta. Par wo ek aise niyam par gir sakti hai jo shayad pehle se aapke paas hai: “Mere sharir par doosron ki raay tay karti hai ki main kitna keemti hoon.” Ye bas apna khayal rakhne jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: apni qadr uske haath mein de deta hai jo pehle tippani kare, har darwaze par.
Sharir par tippaniyan aam kyun hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki kai gharon mein sharir par tippaniyan aam baat hain, aur hum unhein sunte hue bade hote hain. Shayad aisi baatein aapse, ya aapke saamne, barson kahi gayi. Shayad aapne apnon ki nazar mein theek dikhne ki bahut koshish ki. Jo bhi ho, ye niyam bewakoofi nahi. Ye apnaye jaane ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Agli mehfil ka darr
Aisi har tippani aapko apne baare mein thoda aur chaukanna kar deti hai. Aap mehfilon mein pahunchne se pehle hi ghabrane lagte ho. Raat mein wahi shabd dohrate ho. Ek baat kahe bina hi parkha hua feel karte ho. Dukh hota hai. Dheere-dheere parivaar ke saath waqt logon ke saath hone se zyada dekhe jaane jaisa lagne lagta hai, aur jinse milne gaye the unse milne ki khushi thodi ghat jaati hai.
Kya unki raay itni keemti hai?
Khud se sach-sach poochhiye: kya unki tippaniyon ko apni qadr tay karne dene se agli tippani kabhi kam chubhi? Ya zyada-tar har mehfil aur bhaari ho gayi? Shabd unke the, wo meethe nahi the, aur aapka sharir aisa vishay nahi jiska jawab kisi ko dena banta ho. Darwaze ki ek tippani aapka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna jitna maangta hai, kya utna milta bhi hai?
Qadr darwaze par tay nahi hoti
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki tippani theek thi, ya aapko saath mein hansna padega. Matlab ye hai ki aapki qadr ab is par nahi tiki ki koi aapke sharir ke baare mein kya kehta hai. Poora insaan ek tippani se bahut, bahut bada hota hai. Yahin se thoda sukoon lautta hai: shabd kehne wale ke paas reh jaate hain, aur aap apne hi roop mein andar ja sakte ho.
Remarks about your body that come again and again to put you down, or with threats or fear, are something else, and worth taking seriously; staying quiet can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleDoosron ki raay tay karti hai ki main kitna keemti hoon.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri qadr darwaze par tay nahi hoti.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Khud se kahiye: “Wo tippani unki thi, meri qadr ki nahi”
- Kadam 2
Apni teen baatein ginie jinka shakl-soorat se koi lena-dena nahi
- Kadam 3
Kisi mehfil ke baad apne liye ek achhi cheez kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Sharir wali baat aane se pehle aap asal mein kya sunana chahte the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Namaste ki jagah sharir par ek sawaal #
Diwali ki shaam, Coimbatore ke R.S. Puram mein Mausi ka flat. Do saal baad aana hua, joote utare bhi nahi aur Mausi darwaze par: “Arre, vazan badha liya hai kya?” Peeche se Taiji: “Haan, chehra bhar gaya hai.” Phir sab mithai ki plate ki taraf badh gaye, jaise kuch hua hi na ho.
Sawaal jaisa dikhta hai, par jawab ka intezaar koi nahi karta. Namaste ki jagah sharir par ek tippani aa jaati hai, poore galiyare ke saamne, aur jisse kahi gayi wo mulaqat khatam hone ke baad bhi use dhota rehta hai.
Aakhri baar kab namaste ki jagah aapke sharir par kuch kaha gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap kahan the, aur aaspaas aur kaun khada tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jawab dene se pehle kya hota hai #
Kisi ke chehre par garmi chadh jaati hai, kisi ki hansi apne aap nikal padti hai, koi jhat se “arre chalta hai” keh deta hai. Kuch log chup hokar intezaar karte hain ki baat badle. Inmein se kuch bhi galat nahi, aur kisi ko safai nahi deni padti.
Milte hi sharir par kahi gayi baat sochne se pehle darj ho jaati hai. Sochna baad mein aata hai: ghar lautte auto mein, ya raat ko, jab darwaze ka wo pal, lehja aur paas khade log phir se chalne lagte hain.
Namaste ki jagah jab sharir par baat aayi, us pehle second mein aapke sharir ne kya kiya, kisi bhi shisht jawab se pehle?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Hello ki jagah ek naap #
Namaste mein aamtaur par yahi hota hai: achha laga aapko dekhkar. Uski jagah jab sharir par tippani aati hai, to mulaqat ki pehli baat ek naap ban jaati hai. Do saal ki khabrein, lamba safar, mithai ka dabba, sab uske peeche intezaar karte reh jaate hain.
Kai logon ko milne ki pehli baat sabse zyada yaad rehti hai, shayad isliye ki wahi aage ka mahaul tay kar deti hai. Aur sabke saamne poochha gaya sawaal sabke saamne jawab bhi maangta hai, to chand second bahut lambe lag sakte hain.
Us shaam ki pehli baat aap kis baare mein chahte the, isse pehle ki sharir ki tippani uski jagah aa gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab sawaal apne aap dohrane lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar ghar kar leta hai. Kabhi achanak wahi sawaal laut aata hai, pehli baar poochhne wale ki awaaz mein, kabhi agli mulaqat tay hone se bhi pehle.
Mausi toh mithai ki taraf badh gayi, par andar replay chalta rehta hai: chuppi mein wahi vaakya, aur kisi ki nazar mein na aane ki halki-si ichha. Chunki ye apni hi awaaz jaisi lagti hai, ye kisi aur ke shabd nahi, samajhdaari lagti hai.
Jab sharir wali baat mann mein dohrayi jaati hai, to kiski awaaz mein hoti hai, aur kis darwaze se aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye ye darwaze se shuru hua #
“Kitna bada ho gaya re!” “Sehat ban rahi hai teri.” Kuch logon ke liye badon ka haal poochhna shuru se aisa hi raha: darwaze par, bhai-behenon ke saamne, kabhi pyaar se kabhi tanz se, par hamesha poore kamre ke saamne.
Aisi baaton ke peeche ki wajahein har ghar mein alag hoti hain, aur bachche ko unka matlab shayad hi kabhi bataya jaata hai. Jo reh jaata hai wo ek chupchaap nishkarsh hai: ki ghar mein ghuste hi sharir par baat hona tay hai.
Ghar ke kis bade ka naam sunte hi darwaze wali ye baatein yaad aati hain, aur aise mein aapne chehre ko kya karna seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ek mulaqat ki chhodi hui chup baat #
Kuch logon ke bheetar aisi line banti dikhti hai: “Log mujhse pehle mera sharir dekhte hain,” ya “Har mulaqat pehle ek faisle se shuru hoti hai.”
Aisi maanyata niyam jaisi lagti hi nahi. Lagta hai bas pata hai ki mulaqatein kaisi hoti hain, jaise jaani-pehchani sadak ke gadde par pehle se sambhal jaana. Isiliye ise beech-beech mein dhoop mein nikaalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log ise bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise ek tippani ki chhodi hui baat ki tarah dekha ja sakta hai, tathya ki tarah nahi.
Kya inmein se koi fit baithti hai, ya poori tarah nahi, ya bilkul nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sharir par pehle nazar padne wala ye niyam kin kamron mein aaj bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Darwaze ki ek tippani ki chupchaap keemat #
Ye mulaqaton, photo aur plans par asar kar sakta hai, yaani un sabmein jahan log aapko dekhte hain. Kuch log pehle se sochkar chalne lagte hain, aur rishtedaar ke yahan jaane ko kisi ke tay karne se pehle hi chupchaap na mil jaati hai.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Dhyan ka ek hissa agli mulaqat ki pehli baat par tika rahe, to cousin ki kahani, jokes aur bachchon ke saath zameen par khelne ke liye kam bachta hai. Saal bhar mein aisi mulaqatein jud sakti hain jinmein gaye toh, par maza nahi le sake.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Har darwaze par wahi baat sunne ko taiyaar rehna sach mein mehnat maangta hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein darwaze wale sawaal ne kya liya, agar kuch liya: koi mulaqat, photo, plan ya shaam?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, jab ye baat zor se ho #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “log mujhse pehle mera sharir dekhte hain” andar zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad auto ka safar, weekend ko lekar gharwalon ka message, meetings ke beech ki chai, shaam ko kuch logon ke saath baithna. Kuch jaana-pehchana hoga, kuch bilkul nahi, aur tasveer ke liye koi sahi-galat shakl nahi hoti.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko kabhi bhi neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Us din mein kya hai: message, plans, mulaqatein, chupchaap chhodi gayi cheezein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us aam Tuesday ko dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ek sawaal, ek darwaza, insaan ka ek pehlu #
Shabd jo bhi rahe hon, wo insaan ke ek pehlu ke baare mein the, kisi ek ne kahe, ek darwaze par, chand second mein.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki shabd ek cheez ke baare mein the, aur sunne wala usse kahin zyada tha. Lamba safar, do saal ki khabrein, thaile ka tohfa, milne par sunane ko bachakar rakhi kahani, ye sab bhi usi darwaze par the, aur sawaal ne inmein se kisi ko nahi chhua.
Poori zindagi, uske kaam, dost, jokes aur plans, us ek namaste-wali line mein kitne sama sakte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar kisi kareebi dost ka swagat darwaze par aise hi sharir wali baat se hota, to lautte hue aap usse kya kehna chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dheeme replay mein kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log darwaze wala pal dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to chhoti baatein dikhti hain: kisi cousin ne aankhein ghumayi, koi chacha traffic ki baat karne lage, koi bachcha bas apni drawing dikhana chahta tha. Kabhi kamra tippani ke peeche utna nahi tha jitna laga, aur kabhi tha.
Kuch ko wo log bhi dikhte hain jo bilkul alag baat se milte hain: dost jo pehle gossip sunata hai, nani-dadi jo kaam ka haal poochhti hain, padosi jo bas kehta hai ki achha laga dekhkar. Wo namaste hamesha se the, bas awaaz mein dheeme.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun hai jo sharir ki jagah kisi aur baat se milta hai, aur wo aksar kahan se shuru karta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Darwaze par sahi jawab zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab sawaal se sehmat hona nahi, wo jaise bhi laga ho. Matlab bas itna ki un shabdon ka is par kam chale ki kis mulaqat ko haan mile, kaun si photo ho, aur baaki shaam kaisi guzre.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo agle darwaze ke liye “sahi jawab” taiyaar karna chhod dete hain. Wo taiyaari kabhi poori nahi hoti, kyunki har mulaqat alag hai, aur ek rishtedaar ka namaste har mehfil ke beech mein baitha rehta hai.
Kaisa lagega agar darwaze wala sawaal kehne wale ka hi rahe, ek galiyare mein ek din ki baat, na ki kuch aisa jo har kamre mein saath jaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar wo namaste barson se dohra raha hai, to usse seedhe behas ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo kisi ki pehli line thi, meri is mulaqat ki headline nahi.”
Iska shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki kisi mehfil ki taraf jaate hue kabhi-kabhi bolne se purane sawaal ki bhari hui jagah thodi khaali hoti hai.
Us namaste ke baare mein aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo darwaze par hui baat ke baare mein sahi ho aur wahan maujood kisi ki haami na maange?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein khoonti par taangi ja sakti hain #
Darwaze par kahi har baat ko jawab, safai ya agli mulaqat ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch baaton ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur khoonti par taanga ja sakta hai, jaise coat galiyare mein taangte hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi. Ye chunna hai ki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse cousins, kahaniyon aur us wajah ke liye jagah bachti hai jiske liye wo milne aaye the.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise taang dene ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi, ya suljh gayi. Bas itna ki use drawing room, agli photo ya baaki aaj mein saath aana zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki wo niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Darwaza sirf darwaza hai, namaste sirf namaste.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: aisi mulaqat jisme dhyan cousin ki kahani par rahe, aasaan sangat wali mehfil ko haan, ya aisi shaam jisme wo namaste dohraya hi na jaye.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Jis din darwaze wala sawaal kam bole, us din sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi darwaze wala sawaal”
- Gaur kijiye ki us pal mein kya zyada zor se laga: shabd, ya lehja
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: pehli baat kis par hoti to achha lagta?
- Kisi ek aise insaan ko yaad kijiye jiska namaste sharir par tippani ke saath nahi aata
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Sharir wali baat aane se pehle aap asal mein kya sunana chahte the?
- Darwaze wale us pal ka kaun sa hissa sab shaant hone par bhi laut aata hai?
- Kaun hai jo aapse sharir ki bajaye aapki zindagi ke baare mein poochhta hai?
- Agar aisi koi line zor se baje, to us waqt aapke aaspaas kya hota hai?
- Agar wo thodi halki pad jaye, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?