Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Par ye manyata jadon ko ek tayshuda list ki tarah dekhti hai, jahan ek cheez khoyi to sab kho gaya.
Kuch logon ke liye ye nikalne se shuru hoti hai: kaam ya padhai ke liye doosre desh, chhote shehar se metro, ya naye school mein jahan koi parivaar ka naam nahi jaanta tha.
Is manyata ke neeche aksar ek aur shaant niyam hota hai: “Apna bane rehne ke liye, mujhe theek waisa hi rehna hoga jaisa pehle tha.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Zindagi ke do roop rakhna, ek ghar ke liye aur ek baaki har jagah ke liye
- Parivaar se milte waqt nayi aadatein, pasand ya raay chhupa lena
- Kuch naya achha lagne par guilt feel karna, jaise ye dhokha ho
- Purane tour-tareeqe zor se thaame rakhna, chahe ab fit na hon, bas wafadari dikhane ke liye
- Dono jagah mehmaan jaisa lagna, kahin poori tarah ghar jaisa nahi
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Bengaluru mein chhah saal
Bengaluru mein chhah saal ho gaye, aur ab ye ghar jaisa lagta hai. Dal-bhat se zyada pasta banta hai, English mazaak par hansi aati hai, kabhi sapne bhi English mein aate hain. Phone par Patna se mausi kehti hain, “Tumhare toh rang-dhang hi badal gaye hain.” Halke mein kaha hai. Par baad mein sofe par baithe-baithe ek tez tees uthti hai: kya maine apni jadein bhula deen?
Badalna yaani jadein bhoolna
Andar ek niyam baitha hai: “Badalna yaani jadein bhula dena.” Ye ghar aur parivaar ke prati wafadari jaisa lagta hai, aur wo wafadari asli aur achhi hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har nayi aadat ko chhote dhokhe mein badal deta hai. Aapka badhna ab theek waise hi bane rehne par tika hai, jo bharpoor zindagi jeene wala koi bhi kabhi nahi karta.
Jadein itni keemti kyun lagti hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki jadein keemti lagti hain, aur unhein khona khud ko khone jaisa. Shayad aapke parivaar ne ghar se door parampaaraein zinda rakhne mein mehnat ki. Shayad aapne doosron ko badalte aur door hote dekha, aur unke jaisa banne ka darr hai. Jo bhi ho, niyam bewakoofi nahi hai. Ye uske pyaar se aata hai jahan se aap ho, aur ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har badlaav ke saath aati guilt
Har badlaav thodi guilt lekar aata hai. Ghar ke call par nayi aadatein chhupayi jaati hain. Do duniyaon ke beech khinchaav lagta hai, kahin poori tarah ghar jaisa nahi. Fikr rehti hai ki parivaar kya sochega. Dheere-dheere apne naye roop mein badhna kuch aisa lagne lagta hai jiske liye maafi maangni hai, aur purani jadon aur nayi zindagi, dono ki khushi chali jaati hai.
Kya ye guilt sahi hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya badlaav se darne ne kabhi aapko jadon ke kareeb kiya? Ya bas aur khinche hue-sa mehsoos karaya? Bahut se log apni jadein andar liye chalte hain, jahan bhi jayein, apni values, apne humour aur apne pyaar mein. Jo bhi ho, koi nayi aadat aapki wafadari ka paimana nahi hai. Is niyam ko itni kasakar pakde rehna aapko jitna deta hai, usse zyada leta hai.
Jadein jo saath badhti hain
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki jahan se aaye hain uski qadar chhod dein. Matlab ye ki jadein saath reh sakti hain, jabki aap badhte ho. Ravivaar ko dal-bhat aur Somvaar ko pasta, dono aap ho sakte ho. Yahin se kuch sukoon lautta hai: aap andar ghar lekar chal sakte ho, aur usi jagah poori tarah jee sakte ho jise ab ghar kehte hain.
If a change in you, how you dress, who you see or what you believe, is ever met with threats, pressure to change back, being watched or kept from people, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhmein badlaav aaya, to meri jadein chhoot jayengi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMain badhoon, meri jadein mere saath reh sakti hain.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is hafte ghar ka koi pakwaan banaiye ya khaiye, aur uska maza lijiye
- Din 2
Ghar ki ek value yaad kijiye jo aap roz saath rakhte ho
- Din 3
Ek nayi aadat ka bina guilt ke maza lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapki zindagi ke kaun se badlaav ye fikr sabse zyada jagate hain?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Do jagahon ke beech dhoyi jaane wali chup fikr #
“Badalna yaani apni jadein bhool jaana.” Bengaluru ke flat mein kisi purani recipe ke chhoot jaane par socha gaya, ghar jaati train mein nayi zubaan ke saath, chhote shehar se bade shehar aane ke baad office mein, ya Hindi bolte-bolte beech vaakya mein English par chale jaane par.
Ye niyam jaisa nahi sunayi deta. Ye wafadari jaisa sunayi deta hai. Kapde, khaane ya boli mein kuch bhi badalna dheere-dheere aisa lagne lagta hai jaise un logon ke liye ek darwaza chupchaap band kar rahe hain jo mayne rakhte hain.
Aapko ye ehsaas aakhri baar kab hua tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Abhi kya badla tha: koi shabd, koi aadat, koi plan?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur kaun tha jo ise notice kar sakta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Chhote badlaav ke saath aane wali chubhan #
Kuch logon ko ye ek chubhti guilt ki tarah lagta hai jab wo ghar ki khaane ki mez par English mein jawab de dete hain, ya jab koi cousin kehta hai “Arre wah, sahab ban gaye”, ya rishtedaron ke saamne nayi aadat ki baat karne se pehle saavdhani se ruk jaana.
Body aksar kisi khayal se pehle react karti hai, jaise wafadari ki pariksha shuru ho gayi ho. Kandhe uth jaate hain, awaaz badalti hai, aur bolne ka purana dhang bina chune laut aata hai.
Jab koi kehta hai “tumhare rang-dhang hi badal gaye”, tab aapki body kya karti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Simatati hai, tan jaati hai, ya safai dene daudti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye wafadari kyun lagti hai #
Jadein asli hoti hain. Ek boli, ek pakwaan, badon ko pranam karne ka tareeka, koi purana gaana: ye doori ke paar bhi parivaar ko jode rakhte hain. Isliye samajh aata hai ki inmein se kisi ko chhodna logon ko chhodne jaisa lag sakta hai.
Par ye manyata jadon ko ek tayshuda list ki tarah dekhti hai, jahan ek cheez khoyi to sab kho gaya. Asli jadein ped ki jadon jaisi hoti hain: wo badhti aur phailti hain, aur nayi mitti mein bhi usi ped ko thaame rakhti hain.
Aap jahan se ho, uske kaun se hisse sabse zyada aapke apne lagte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya inmein se koi bina khoye pehle hi naya roop le chuka hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Bhatkaav jaanchne wali awaaz #
“Ab tujhe kya ho gaya hai?” “Shehar ki hawa lag gayi hai.” “Tumhare toh rang-dhang hi badal gaye hain.” Awaaz kisi rishtedaar jaisi sunayi de sakti hai. Kabhi wo asli tippaniyon ko dohrati hai; kabhi wo insaan ka apna fikrmand hissa hoti hai, jo pehle bol padta hai.
Wo har chhota badlaav notice karti hai aur waise ke waise bane rehne ke har tareeke ko chhod deti hai: ghar ke calls, ab bhi banta hua wo pakwaan, purane mazaak jo ab bhi saajha hain, wo values jo bilkul nahi hile.
Har shehar aur har badlaav ke baad bhi aapke andar kya waisa hi raha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya awaaz ne wo bhi gine hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ye fikr aksar kahan se shuru hoti hai #
Kuch logon ke liye ye nikalne se shuru hoti hai: kaam ya padhai ke liye doosre desh, chhote shehar se metro, ya naye school mein jahan koi parivaar ka naam nahi jaanta tha. Har badlaav ke saath ek chup sawaal aaya ki peechhe kaun chhoot gaya.
Kuch gharon mein badlaav par khulkar tippani hoti hai: kapdon, khaane ya bolne ke dhang par. Halke mein kahi gayi aisi baatein bhi insaan ko apne badlaavon ko baareeki se dekhna sikha sakti hain, aur kuch ko nazron se chhupana bhi.
Agar aapke kisi badlaav ka, jaise aap kaise kapde pehente ho, kisse milte ho, kya maante ho ya kise chahte ho, kabhi dhamki, wapas badalne ke dabaav, nigrani ya logon se katav ke saath jawab milta hai, to wo kuch aur baat hai aur use gambhirta se lena theek hai; cheezein nijee rakhna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Pehli baar kab laga ki kuch badalne ka matlab kuch chhodna hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab kaun tha jo dekhta-sa lagta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Fikr ke neeche ka niyam #
Is manyata ke neeche aksar ek aur shaant niyam hota hai: “Apna bane rehne ke liye, mujhe theek waisa hi rehna hoga jaisa pehle tha.” Ye ek asli darr ko samajh deta hai, un logon se door hote jaane ka darr jo aapko sabse pehle jaante the.
Nayi jagah mein kisi jawan insaan ke liye ye niyam shayad kaam aaya ho. Jab baaki sab naya ho, jaane-pehchane se kasakar chipke rehna tikaav de sakta hai. Ye ghar ko paas rakhne ka ek tareeka tha.
Kya hoobahoo waise hi bane rehna aaj bhi aapko paas rakhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ya kabhi-kabhi kisi bhi jagah poori tarah maujood rehna mushkil kar deta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Saal bhar mein is fikr ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ghar ki yatraein jinmein har vaakya kaat-chhaant kar bola jaye, naye dost doori par rakhe jayein, koi shauq ya hunar dabakar rakha jaye, aur har baar kuch naya achha lagne par halki-si guilt.
Kuch log ek thakane wala batwara batate hain: aadha yahan, aadha wahan, kisi bhi jagah ko apna poora hissa na dikhana. Do duniyaon ko alag rakhne ki mehnat chupchaap dono ki khushi kha sakti hai.
Is fikr ne is saal aapse kya liya: koi baatcheet jo rok li, khud ka koi hissa jo airport par chhoot gaya, koi nayi cheez jiska poora maza nahi liya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Kuch saal baad ek aam Tuesday #
Ise tasveer ki tarah sochiye, bhavishyavani ki tarah nahi: kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday, jab ye manyata ab bhi aguwai kar rahi ho.
Shayad ek video call jismein koi khabar chhod di gayi, ek naya dost jo doori par rakha gaya, kitchen mein akele bajta koi purana gaana, din ka ek hissa jo baaki se alag rakha gaya. Bas din, jaisa wo chalta hai.
Ye sirf ek tasveer hai, aur ismein kuch sahi dekhne ki koi shart nahi.
Usmein kya hai: ghar ke calls, kaam, khaana, dost?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch bhi dikhe, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Jadein insaan ke saath chalti hain #
Jahan se aaye hain use bhoolne ka matlab hota ki yaadein, log aur values mayne rakhna band kar dein. Jeene ka tareeka badalna kuch aur hai. Bahut se log apni jadein har nayi jagah saath le jaate hain, jaise koi recipe safar karti hai.
Ghar ka pakwaan naye masalon se bane to bhi ghar ka pakwaan hai. Do bhashaon ki khichdi bhi boli hi ja rahi hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki jadein isme sabse saaf dikhti hain ki wo doosron ke saath kaise pesh aate hain, isme nahi ki kya pehente ya khaate hain.
Aapki zindagi mein jadein saath le chalna aaj kaisa dikhta hai: purane dhang mein nahi, apne dhang mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Gaur se dekhne par kuch logon ko dikhta hai ki ghar bhi badla hai. Bujurg rishtedaar video call seekh gaye, cousins doosre shehar chale gaye, purani dukaanein band huin, aur jis jagah ko bhoolne ki fikr hai, wo bhi apne dhang se aage badh rahi hai.
Kuch ye bhi dekhte hain ki sabse gehri jadon ko kabhi pehre ki zaroorat nahi thi. Logon se milne ka dhang, kis baat par hansi aati hai, parwah kaise jatate hain: ye har safar mein bina bandhe saath aaye.
Bina kisi koshish ke aapke saath kya-kya aaya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ghar ke kaun se hisse kisi aam din aap mein dikh jaate hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Purane aur naye, dono ke liye jagah #
Is manyata se sulah ka matlab ghar ko chhod dena nahi hai. Matlab ye ki ghar aur nayi zindagi, dono ek hi insaan ke hon, bina ye ki ek doosre ko kaate.
Fikr ab bhi ghar ki yatra par saath aa sakti hai, jabki nayi aur purani, dono aadatoin ko jagah milti hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki jab wo apna ek hi roop chunne ki koshish chhod dete hain, to guilt thodi dheeli pad jaati hai.
Agar aapke kisi badlaav ka, jaise aap kaise kapde pehente ho, kisse milte ho, kya maante ho ya kise chahte ho, kabhi dhamki, wapas badalne ke dabaav, nigrani ya logon se katav ke saath jawab milta hai, to wo kuch aur baat hai aur use gambhirta se lena theek hai; cheezein nijee rakhna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Sirf ek ghante ke liye apna poora hissa ek hi jagah le aane par kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun sa hissa aap sabse zyada darwaze par chhodna band karna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne layak ek sachcha vaakya #
“Badalne ka matlab hai jadein bhool jaana” ki jagah kuch log paas mein ek aur pankti rakhte hain: “Jadein mere saath chalti hain, aur mere saath hi badhti hain.” Wo fikr ko nakarti nahi. Wo tasveer ko chauda karti hai.
Shuru mein wo kuch zyada saleeqedaar lag sakti hai. Kuch ko wo kuch aam dinon ye dekhne ke baad behtar baithti hai ki kya-kya bacha raha. Kuch ko apne shabdon mein, ya apni pehli bhasha mein kahi pankti sabse achhi lagti hai.
Aapki apni sachchi pankti kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aisi jo us jagah ko bhi thaame jahan se aap ho aur us zindagi ko bhi jo ab ban rahi hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Jab fikr laut aaye #
Tyoharon mein, ghar ki yatraon mein, ya “tumhara toh sab kuch badal gaya hai” jaisi tippani par, purani fikr zor se laut sakti hai. Ye aam baat hai. Apnapan sabse dagmag tab lagta hai jab wo sabse zyada mayne rakhta hai.
Kuch log bas use dekhkar naam de dete hain: “Lo, phir bhool jaane wali fikr aa gayi.” Yatra chalti rah sakti hai aur nayi aadat bani rah sakti hai, ye tay kiye bina ki asli roop kaun sa hai.
Fikr ko aaj shaam neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya ki baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo ye nahi tay karti ki khaane ki mez par aapka kaun sa roop aayega.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar fikr zara dheeli pad jaye #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki manyata thodi shaant ho gayi. Jahan se aaye hain uske liye pyaar ab bhi hai, par fikr ka ek vote hai, aakhri faisla nahi.
Bahut se log pehle chhoti cheezein sochte hain: nayi gali mein gungunaya purana gaana, ghar ka pakwaan naye tadke ke saath, do bhashayein ek vaakya mein bina dobara soche mil jaana.
Yahan kuch bhi kisi se kehna nahi hai. Jo bhi ubhre, wo aapka hai aur dekhne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to ek chat bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch cheezein jo logon ko kaam ki lagti hain #
- Jab khayal aaye to dheere se poochiye: theek-theek kya bhool rahe hain?
- Koi ek purani aadat dekhiye jo bina kisi koshish ke saath aa gayi
- Aaj koi ek nayi cheez bina safai diye achhi tarah mehsoos kijiye, khud ko bhi nahi
- Ghar ki koi ek cheez pakaiye, gunguniye ya boliye, apne naye dhang se
- Koi ek value dekhiye jo aapke paas hai aur kabhi nahi hili, chahe jahan bhi rahein
Chhota aur nijee. Jo theek lage, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapki zindagi ke kaun se badlaav ye fikr sabse zyada jagate hain?
- Aap jahan se ho, uska kaun sa hissa sabse zyada aapka apna lagta hai?
- Iske neeche kaun sa ehsaas baitha hai: guilt, darr, udaasi, ya kuch aur?
- Kisi aam din, jab ye manyata tez ho, aap ab bhi kya chhupa rahe honge?
- Agar ye thodi dheeli pade, to aapko sabse pehle kya nazar aayega?