Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Par bahar se shaant hona aur bheetar kuch na hona ek baat nahi.
Kuch logon mein ye bachpan mein sune shabdon se shuru hua: “Rona-dhona band karo.”
“Emotions dikhana kamzori hai” ke neeche kuch logon ko ek shaant sa niyam milta hai: “Agar unhone dekh liya ki mujhe chot lagi hai, to wo iska fayda uthayenge.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Jab sachmuch dukh raha ho tab hans dena ya mazaak kar dena
- Koi poora poochhe usse pehle hi “Main theek hoon” keh dena
- Akele hone tak rukna, phir sab ek saath mehsoos karna
- Jab bhi koi ehsaas uthe, kaam mein lag jaana
- Ek baar aankh bharne ke baad kai din sharminda rehna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Team ke saamne palken jhapakna
Bhopal, M.P. Nagar ke office mein Friday. Manager poori team ke saamne ek badi galti ka zikr karte hain. Gala kasta hai, aankhein chubhti hain. Palken jhapakti hain, peeth seedhi hoti hai, aur munh se nikalta hai “Koi baat nahi, dekh lenge.” Baad mein, akele lift mein, ek lambi, kaanpti, thaki saans nikalti hai, ehsaas ab bhi seene mein atka. Ek pal sab kuch shaant ho jaata hai.
Ehsaas dikhana kamzori hai
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Emotions dikhana kamzori ki nishani hai.” Ye taaqat aur sanyam jaisa lagta hai, upar se seedhi samajhdaari jaisa. Zyadatar log is par sir hila denge. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har ehsaas ko chhipane ki cheez bana deta hai. Udaasi, chinta, yahan tak ki khushi bhi taale mein band ho jaati hai, aur sab kuch akele dhoya jaata hai, ek shaant chehre ke peeche jiske paar koi dekh nahi paata.
Ehsaas dikhana jokhim kyun laga
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki kabhi ehsaas dikhana jokhim bhara laga tha. Bahut log kisi roop mein ye niyam lekar bade hote hain, aur us waqt aksar ye theek hi tha. Shayad bachpan mein rone par chidhaya gaya. Shayad kaha gaya ki mazboot bano. Shayad ghar mein ehsaas ansune kiye gaye. Jo bhi ho, unhein andar rakhna bewakoofi nahi. Ye surakshit aur sammanit rehne ki chaah se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Chhipe ehsaason ka wazan
Har chhipa hua ehsaas wazan badhata hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par bheetar mehsoos hota hai. Chot lagne par bhi muskurana, theek na hone par bhi “Main theek hoon” kehna. Log madad ka tareeka nahi jaante, kyunki jo dhoya ja raha hai wo unhein dikhta nahi. Bheed mein bhi akelapan lagta hai. Duniya ko dikhayi jaati taaqat bhaari lagne lagti hai, aur ehsaas ajeeb maukon par bahar aate hain.
Kya chhipana sahi keemat hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya har ehsaas ko chhipane se kabhi andar se zyada mazbooti aayi? Ya zyadatar akelapan aaya? Ehsaas insaan hone ka hissa hain, aur bahut se mazboot log unhein surakshit jagahon par dikhate hain. Iska jawab sirf aapka hai, aur koi jawab galat nahi. Jo bhi ho, ek aansoo aapki taaqat ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko har jagah itna kasakar pakadna uski keemat ke layak hai?
Chunna ki kahan dikhayein
Chhodne ka matlab har kisi ko sab kuch dikhana nahi. Matlab ye ki ehsaason ko hone ki ijaazat hai, kam se kam apne saath, aur shayad kisi bharosemand ke saath. Jo mehsoos ho, use chupchaap notice karke naam diya ja sakta hai. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Yahin se kuch sukoon lautta hai: sab kuch akele dhona band hone lagta hai, aur taaqat kuch naram banti hai.
If showing a feeling somewhere has been mocked, punished, threatened or used against you, keeping it in there can be the safe choice, and that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleEmotions dikhana kamzori ki nishani hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleEmotions mera hissa hain. Kahan dikhein, ye chuna ja sakta hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aaj ek ehsaas ko khud ke liye naam dijiye
- Din 2
Ek ehsaas ko bina chhipaye ek minute rehne dijiye
- Din 3
Kisi aise ko dekhiye jo ehsaas dikhakar bhi mazboot lagta hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kaun se ehsaas dikhne dena sabse mushkil hai?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek niyam jo chehre ko sakht rakhta hai #
“Emotions dikhana kamzori ki nishani hai.” Sochi jaati hai vidaai ke waqt gala nigalte hue, family lunch par kisi ki chubhti baat ko hanskar taalte hue, ya bus ki khidki ki taraf munh pherte hue taaki koi aankhon ka bharna na dekh le.
Ye kathor kam hi lagti hai. Aatm-samman jaisi lagti hai: “Sambhalo khud ko.” “Abhi nahi.” Aur kuch waqt ke liye ye kaam bhi karti hai. Chehra shaant rehta hai, awaaz sadhi rehti hai, aur kisi ko kuch pata nahi chalta.
Aakhri baar kab kisi ehsaas ko andar roka, chahe chhota hi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo jagah kaun si thi, kaun aas-paas tha, aur uske baad us ehsaas ka kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Gale mein khatak se band hota taala #
Kuch log ise gale mein taala band hone ki tarah mehsoos karte hain: jabda kasna, nazar phir jaana, jhat se baat badal dena. Ye tezi se hota hai, aksar tab jab ehsaas ko naam bhi nahi mila hota.
Sharir pehle second mein hi band hona seekh sakta hai, itni safai se ki lage kuch hua hi nahi. Phir kabhi, kai baar bahut baad mein, ehsaas phir bhi aa jaata hai: nahate samay, traffic mein, raat ko jaagte hue.
Jab chehre par koi ehsaas dikhne lage to aapka sharir kya karta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dhakne ke liye sabse pehle kis cheez ki taraf badhta hai: mazaak, khaansi, phone?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye taaqat jaisa sunayi deta hai #
Shaant rehne ki aksar taareef hoti hai, aur kabhi-kabhi ye sachmuch kaam aata hai: kisi aapaat sthiti mein, office mein, jab kisi bachche ko koi sthir chahiye. Isliye ye yakeen ek asli khoobi udhaar lekar use har pal par phaila deta hai.
Par bahar se shaant hona aur bheetar kuch na hona ek baat nahi. Ehsaas aam taur par isliye nahi jaata ki wo dikhaya nahi gaya. Aksar wo bas intezaar karta hai, aur chupchaap uthaye jaane se bhaari hota jaata hai.
Ye taaqat hai, ya sirf khamoshi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar kisi dost ki aankhein aapke saamne bhar aayein, to kya aap use kam samjhenge, ya uske paas jhukkar baithenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
“Abhi nahi” kehne wali awaaz #
“Khud ko sambhalo.” “Inke saamne nahi.” “Tamasha mat karo.” Ye awaaz pakki aur tez hai, aur ehsaas ke uthte hi bol padti hai, kisi aur ke dekhne se pehle.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki wo har ehsaas ke saath ek sa bartaav karti hai: udaasi, chot, yahan tak ki khushi bhi. Shaadi mein aayi khushi ki nami utni hi jaldi daba di jaati hai jitni dukh wali. Niyam rukkar nahi dekhta ki kaun sa ehsaas hai.
Ye kiski awaaz jaisi lagti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jab ye “Abhi nahi” kehti hai, to kya kabhi “Ab” bhi kehti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur agar kehti hai, to kahan aur kiske saath?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ye niyam kahan seekha gaya #
Kuch logon mein ye bachpan mein sune shabdon se shuru hua: “Rona-dhona band karo.” “Itna natak mat karo.” “Bade bachche halla nahi machate.” Pyaar se kahe jaayein to bhi aise shabd sikha sakte hain ki ehsaas ek samasya hai jise jaldi nipatana hai.
Kuch parivaaron mein ehsaason ki baat hoti hi nahi thi, aur wajahein alag-alag hoti hain: busy zindagi, mushkil saal, badon ke apne paalan-poshan ka tareeka. Dekhta hua bachcha seekh sakta hai ki andar rakhna hi badon ka tareeka hai. Kuch log ise wahin se jodte hain, kuch nahi.
Agar kahin ehsaas dikhane par mazaak udha ho, saza mili ho ya wo aapke khilaaf istemaal hua ho, to wahan use andar rakhna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai; niyam ka wo hissa sachmuch kaam kar raha hai, aur use gambhirta se lena theek hai.
Sabse pehle kisne dikhaya ki ehsaas andar rakhna behtar hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab, jin dinon koi ehsaas dikh gaya, kya hua, aur usse kya seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Niyam kiski hifazat kar raha tha #
“Emotions dikhana kamzori hai” ke neeche kuch logon ko ek shaant sa niyam milta hai: “Agar unhone dekh liya ki mujhe chot lagi hai, to wo iska fayda uthayenge.” Ya: “Shuru ho gaya to rukna mushkil hoga.” Pehli line kahi jaati hai; doosri raasta tay karti hai.
Aise niyam kabhi samajhdaari wale the. Agar ehsaason ka mazaak udta, unhein ansuna kiya jaata ya unke khilaaf istemaal hota, to unhein chhipaye rakhna chaalaki aur hifazat thi. Us jagah, un logon ke beech, ye bachaye rakhta tha.
Kya inmein se kuch baithta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aaj aapki zindagi ki kaun si jagahon mein wo pehra ab bhi zaroori hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur ab kin jagahon ya kin logon ke paas shayad uski zaroorat nahi rahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Sab kuch andar rakhne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai office ke kathin hafte mein muskurate rehna, kisi zaroori vidaai par kuch na kehna, ya ek hi khane ki table par baithe logon se bahut door mehsoos karna.
Kuch log ek kasa, thaka hua ehsaas batate hain jo hafton mein jama hota hai. Kuch ko achhe doston ke beech bhi thoda door lagta hai, kyunki kisi ko sachmuch nahi pata ki un par kya beet rahi hai.
Ye koi khami nahi. Ye har cheez bina dikhaye dhone ka wazan hai.
Pichhle saal iski kya keemat rahi: koi pal jo chhoot gaya, koi nazdeeki, koi achha ro lena?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday #
Ise bhavishyavaani nahi, bas ek tasveer ki tarah dekhiye: kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday, jismein “Emotions dikhana kamzori ki nishani hai” ab bhi chal rahi hai.
Shayad office ka ek kathin call, jiska jawab sadhi awaaz mein diya gaya; koi mazedaar video akele seedhe chehre se dekha gaya; ghar lautte hue lamba raasta aur radio ki awaaz oonchi. Kuch natakiya nahi. Bas bheetar bahut kuch chalta hua aur bahar bahut kam dikhta hua.
Dekhne layak koi sahi cheez nahi, aur theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Din mein kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya mehsoos hota hai, aur kya dikhaya jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday aur uski satah ke neeche chalti har cheez ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Taaqatwar, kiski tulna mein? #
Koi ehsaas mehsoos karke uska thoda hissa dikhne dene mein himmat lagti hai. Aksar seedha chehra rakhna awaaz ka kaanpna dekhne se aasaan hota hai. Kuch logon ko doosron ke sabse bahadur pal wahi lage hain jo naram the.
Ehsaas dikhane ka matlab baadh nahi. Wo chhota ho sakta hai: ek second bheegi rehti aankhein, jawab se pehle ek thehraav, baat ko foran na badalna. Sthirta aur narmi ek hi insaan mein reh sakte hain.
Kisi aise ko sochiye jiske liye mann mein izzat hai.
Kya kabhi unhein bhaavuk hote dekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya us pal wo aapko kamzor lage, ya zyada asli, zyada insaan jaise?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Gaur se dekhne par kuch logon ko dikhta hai ki jo ehsaas unhone chhipaye, wo kahin nahi gaye. Wo tedhe raaste se nikle: chhoti baaton par jhallahat mein, Sunday ki bhaari shaam mein, raat ko jaagkar din dohrane mein.
Kuch ye bhi dekhte hain ki wo ehsaas dikhate hi rahe hain, bas un roopon mein jo chalne diye gaye: kisi call ki udaasi ki jagah traffic par gussa, ghar lautkar khaali kamre mein jaane ki jagah office mein der tak baithna.
Aapke ehsaas tedhe raaste se kahan nikalte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo shayad kya kehna chah rahe hain, us ikalaute tareeke mein jismein unhein kehne diya gaya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Sab kuch dikhane ki zaroorat nahi #
Is yakeen se sulah ka matlab har kisi ko sab kuch dikhana nahi. Kab aur kahan ehsaas dikhe, ye chunna samajhdaari hai. Maqsad bas itna hai ki wo chunav aapka ho, purane niyam ka nahi.
Agar kahin ehsaas dikhane par mazaak udha ho, saza mili ho ya wo aapke khilaaf istemaal hua ho, to wahan use andar rakhna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai; niyam ka wo hissa sachmuch kaam kar raha hai, aur use gambhirta se lena theek hai.
Kya aisi koi ek jagah hai, chahe sirf apne kamre mein akele, jahan koi ehsaas thoda bahar aa sake?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek-do minute ke liye wo kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Emotions dikhana kamzori ki nishani hai” se uljhne ki jagah, kuch log paas rakhte hain: “Emotions insaan hone ka hissa hain. Kahan dikhein, ye chunna mere haath mein hai.” Ladai ki zaroorat nahi.
Ye shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Kuch logon ko aisi line agle chhote ehsaas ko thoda kam daravna bana deti hai. Kuch ko koi aur line zyada jamti hai, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo nijta ka aapka poora haq bachaye rakhe aur phir bhi aapko ehsaason samet poora insaan rehne de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Jab koi ehsaas phisal jaaye #
Kuch dinon mein purana niyam phir zor se lautta hai, aksar tab jab koi ehsaas kisi ke saamne phisal gaya ho. Sharmindagi ki ek lehar, aur taala phir band. Ye purani aadat hai jo apna purana kaam kar rahi hai.
Kuch logon ko naam de dena kaam aata hai: “Lo, purana niyam aa gaya.” Sharmindagi ko bina faisle ke dekha ja sakta hai ki jo hua uska kya matlab tha. Ek pal ke liye ek ehsaas dikha. Bas itna hi tha.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki use har ghante saath nahi chalna.
Ek naram shaam kaisi dikhegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheela hai. Nijta ab bhi maayne rakhti hai, par koi ehsaas bina alarm baje ek pal ko dikh sakta hai.
Kai log pehle chhoti cheezein batate hain: ek khulkar nikli hansi, film par bheegi rehne di gayi aankhein bina mazaak se dhake, din ko mehsoos karne ke liye akele ek shaant minute.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch cheezein jo logon ko kaam ki lagti hain #
- Jab koi ehsaas uthe, mann mein naam dijiye: “Ye udaasi hai”
- Ek ehsaas ko aage badhne se pehle kuch second rehne dijiye
- Dekhiye ki sharir mein kis jagah cheezein dabayi jaati hain
- Akele mein koi gaana ya film bina roke aapko chhoo jaane dijiye
- Jab awaaz kahe “Abhi nahi”, usse narmi se poochiye: toh kab?
Sab chhote, sab apni marzi se. Jo sabse aasaan lage, wo chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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