“koi aage badhe, toh mera number peeche khisak jaata hai” par log aksar kya karte hain?

Jhat se “Badhai!” type karna, phir phone ulta rakh dena. Har khabar ke baad hisaab lagana ki wo kitna aage hain aur hum kitna peeche. Result ki khabrein aane par family group mein chup ho jaana. Kisi ki achhi khabar mein chhoti si khaami dhoondh lena, aur phir dhoondhne ka bura lagna. Jis hafte koi dost aage nikle, us hafte kaam mein zaroorat se zyada jut jaana.

Agle 3 din kya try kiya ja sakta hai?

Jalan aaye toh use narmi se naam dijiye aur guzarne dijiye. Is mahine ki ek cheez dekhiye jo aapne achhi ki. Khabrein bhaari lagein toh ek din ke liye ek group mute kijiye.

“koi aage badhe, toh mera number peeche khisak jaata hai”…

Andar

Andar kya chal raha hai #

Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.

Par zyadatar achhi cheezein ek inaam wali daud nahi hotin.
Kuch logon mein ye bachpan ki tulna se ugta hai: class mein number padhkar sunaye jaana, har mehmaani mein cousin ke result ka zikr, “Falane ka beta dekho”, school ke board par tangi rank.
“Jab koi aage badhta hai, mera number peeche khisak jaata hai” ke neeche kuch logon ko ek aur dheema niyam milta hai: “Achha seemit hai, aur mujhe apna hissa chheenna hai.”

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Log aksar kya karte hain #

Jhat se “Badhai!” type karna, phir phone ulta rakh dena
Har khabar ke baad hisaab lagana ki wo kitna aage hain aur hum kitna peeche
Result ki khabrein aane par family group mein chup ho jaana
Kisi ki achhi khabar mein chhoti si khaami dhoondh lena, aur phir dhoondhne ka bura lagna
Jis hafte koi dost aage nikle, us hafte kaam mein zaroorat se zyada jut jaana

Deck

6 cards mein poori kahani #

Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.

Cousin ka top college mein selection
Patna mein Thursday ki shaam. Family group mein cousin ne bataya ki uska top college mein selection ho gaya. Sab badhai aur hearts bhej rahe hain. Aap “Badhai ho!” type karte ho, par pet mein marod uthti hai. Phone rakhkar chhat taakte ho. Lagta hai us daud mein number aur peeche khisak gaya, jismein utarna yaad hi nahi. Ye ehsaas soch se zyada der tikta hai.
Unki jeet, meri haar
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Jab koi aage badhta hai, mera number peeche khisak jaata hai.” Ye zindagi ki sachchai jaisa lagta hai, khaaskar hod wali duniya mein. Bahut log bina soche isi par chalte hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aas-paas ki har kaamyabi ko aapka chhota nuksaan bana deta hai. Dost ka promotion, cousin ka admission, colleague ki khabar, sab ek scoreboard ban jaata hai jismein aap phisalte rehte ho.
Humein doosron se kyun taula gaya
Hum ise isliye thaamte hain kyunki aksar hamari tulna hoti rahi. Bahut log is niyam ka koi roop saath liye bade hote hain. Shayad school ne sabko rank mein khada kiya. Shayad rishtedaar har jamavde mein bachchon ki tulna karte rahe. Daud ka ehsaas tuchh nahi hai. Wo saath chalne aur kaafi hone ki chaah se aata hai. Wo narmi ka haqdaar hai, ilzaam ka nahi.
Paas ki achhi khabar ki chubhan
Aas-paas ki har achhi khabar ek chubhan jodti hai. Dheere-dheere sab judta jaata hai. Jinhe aap chahte ho, unke liye khush hona mushkil lagta hai. Jalan par galti si lagti hai, phir aur bura. Aap apni raftaar ki tulna sabke chamakdaar hisson se karte ho. Jo khushi baanti ja sakti thi, wo apni jagah ki fikr mein dab jaati hai, aur achhi khabar se pehle taiyaari karni padti hai.
Kya ye tulna keemat ke layak hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya doosron ki jeet ginne se kabhi aap aage badhe? Ya zyadatar achhi khabar buri khabar jaisi lagne lagi? Kisi ki kaamyabi aapke raaste se kuch nahi leti; zindagiyan ek daud nahi hotin. Chahein toh ek pal iske saath rukiye. Unki jeet aapki keemat ka paimana nahi hai. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna, jitni keemat par, theek hai?
Unki jeet aapse kuch nahi leti
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki jalan kabhi nahi hogi. Matlab ye ki kisi aur ki achhi khabar ko aapka nuksaan hona zaroori nahi. Chubhan aa sakti hai, use pehchaana ja sakta hai, aur phir bhi unke liye khush hua ja sakta hai. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin se thoda sukoon lautta hai: aap doosron ki jeet ka maza le sakte ho, aur aapka raasta aapka hi rehta hai, apni raftaar se.
If someone at home keeps comparing you, puts you down or frightens you over others' success, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.

Palat

Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #

Purana ruleJab koi aage badhta hai, mera number peeche khisak jaata hai.

Try karne ke liye naya ruleUnki jeet mere raaste se kuch nahi leti.

Teen chhote din

3 din try kijiye #

Din 1
Jalan aaye toh use narmi se naam dijiye aur guzarne dijiye
Din 2
Is mahine ki ek cheez dekhiye jo aapne achhi ki
Din 3
Khabrein bhaari lagein toh ek din ke liye ek group mute kijiye

Is par baat karni hai?

“Kiski achhi khabar aapko sabse zyada chubhti hai?”

Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.

Dr. Thoughts ke saath baat kijiye

Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai

Aur gehraai mein #

Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.

Yeh kaisa lagta hai

Kya kaha gaya

Achhi khabar ke saath aane wala khayal #

“Jab koi aage badhta hai, mera number peeche khisak jaata hai.” Chupchaap kaha gaya, jab family group mein cousin ke selection ki khabar aati hai, kisi dost ki nayi job ki post dikhti hai, ya office mein usse promotion milta hai jiski sabko ummeed thi.

Ye khayal ki tarah kam hi sunai deta hai. Ye dil baithne jaisa aata hai, theek us “Badhai ho!” ke baghal mein jo aap type karte ho. Dono ek saath sach hain: unke liye khushi, aur usi second apne aap ka chhota lagna.

Kiski achhi khabar ne aakhri baar aapko aisa mehsoos karaya?Is par baat kijiye ›

Tab aap kya kar rahe the, aur baad mein khud se kya kaha?Is par baat kijiye ›

Pehle kuch pal

Achhi khabar ke saath aane wali dhakk #

Kuch logon ko ye pet mein achanak dhakk jaisa lagta hai, chehra garam, aur “Bahut badhai!” type karne se pehle angootha hawa mein ruka hua. Body khabar ko aise sunti hai jaise scoreboard badal gaya ho.

Ye bahut aam hai, aur koi khaami nahi. Bahut log apnon ke aas-paas jalan ki ek chingari mehsoos karte hain, khaaskar apni umar ke logon mein, jo milte-julte kaam kar rahe hon. Ye chingari charitra se zyada batati hai ki wo khud kya chahte hain.

Kisi aur ki achhi khabar ke pehle second mein aapki body kya karti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Use kis baat ka darr lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kyun lagta hai

Ye daud jaisa lagta hai, toh har jeet ginti hai #

Agar zindagi ek lambi daud lage, toh kisi aur ka har qadam aapka na uthaya qadam dikhta hai. Ye yakeen chupke se doston, cousins aur colleagues ko baghal ki lane ke dhaavak bana deta hai, unhe bhi jinhe aap chahte ho.

Par zyadatar achhi cheezein ek inaam wali daud nahi hotin. Cousin ka admission aapki seat nahi chheenta, aur dost ka promotion aapki salary se nahi katta. Zyadatar, unki khabar aur aapki zindagi alag-alag raaston par chalti hain.

Kiski jeet aakhri baar aapko apne peeche hatne jaisi lagi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Gaur se dekhein toh usne aapse theek-theek kya liya?Is par baat kijiye ›

Andar ki awaaz

Scoreboard rakhne wali awaaz #

“Phir aage nikal gaye.” “Mujhe bhi bharna chahiye tha.” “Maine aakhir kiya hi kya hai?” Ye awaaz imaandaari jaisi lagti hai, aur achhi khabar ke ghanton baad sabse zyada bolti hai, aksar der raat, scroll karte hue.

Kuch log dekhte hain ki ye sirf kuch cheezein ginti hai: ohde, number, paisa, makaan, shaadiyan. Bhalmansahat, dostiyan, ek kathin saal jo kaat liya, ya jo cheezein soch-samajhkar chuni, inhe ye kam hi ginti hai.

Jab ye score sunati hai, toh kiski awaaz jaisi lagti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aur kisne tay kiya ki kya gina jayega, kya nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kahan se aata hai

Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai

Daud ka ehsaas aksar kahan se shuru hota hai #

Kuch logon mein ye bachpan ki tulna se ugta hai: class mein number padhkar sunaye jaana, har mehmaani mein cousin ke result ka zikr, “Falane ka beta dekho”, school ke board par tangi rank. Bachcha seekh sakta hai ki kisi aur ka sona aapki chaandi hai.

Kuch gharon mein tulna bachchon ko aage badhane ke liye hoti thi, aur wajahein alag-alag ho sakti hain. Kuch log daud ke ehsaas ko aise saalon se jodte hain; kuch nahi. Ye kahan se shuru hua, usse kam matlab rakhta hai ki aaj ki zindagi mein ye baithta hai ya nahi.

Sabse pehle aapki tulna kisse hui thi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Us baare mein kya kaha gaya, aur taulne wala kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iske neeche ki maanyata

Neeche baitha chupchaap niyam #

“Jab koi aage badhta hai, mera number peeche khisak jaata hai” ke neeche kuch logon ko ek aur dheema niyam milta hai: “Achha seemit hai, aur mujhe apna hissa chheenna hai.” Pehli line sunai deti hai; neeche wali gaadi chalati hai.

Shuru mein aisa niyam samajh mein aa sakta hai. Jis class mein topper ek ho, ya jis ghar mein taareef sabse achhe nateeje wale bachche ko mile, wahan sach mein inaam ek hi tha. Bachcha usi kamre ke qaayde seekhta hai jismein palta hai.

Kuch log ise bachpan ke saalon se jodte hain; kuch nahi. Dono tarah aaj ise dekha ja sakta hai.

Kya ye line baithti hai ya nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aapki zindagi mein kahan sach mein ek hi inaam hai, aur kahan bahuton ki jagah hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iski kya keemat hai

Ye daud chupchaap kya le jaati hai #

Iska matlab result wale din family group mute karna, kisi get-together se katrana, dost ki shaadi mein mann na lagna, ya achhe hafte ka swaad tab bigadna jab screen par kisi aur ka behtar hafta dikh jaye.

Kuch aur chupchaap chala jaata hai. Jab aas-paas ki har jeet ek qadam peeche jaisi lage, toh kaamyaab logon ke kareeb rehna mushkil ho jaata hai, aur apne achhe dino ka maza bhi, kyunki koi na koi hamesha thoda aage dikhta hai.

Yahan jalan samasya nahi hai; aisi daud daudna thakata hai jiska kisi ne elaan nahi kiya.

Pichhle saal iski keemat kya rahi: dost jise doori par rakha, jashn jo feeka laga, apni achhi khabar jo baanti nahi gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Agar yeh aisa hi rahe

Kuch saal baad, ek aam Tuesday #

Ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye, bhavishyavaani nahi: kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday, jismein “jab koi aage badhta hai, mera number peeche khisak jaata hai” ab bhi chal raha hai.

Shayad nashte par story mein kisi dost ka naya flat, team call mein kisi colleague ki jeet ka zikr, family group mein cousin ki khabar ka shor, aur usi din aapka apna chhota achha pal, jise aasani se andekha kiya ja sakta hai. Bas din, jaisa chalta hai.

Yahan abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur theek karne ko kuch nahi.

Usmein kya hai: khabrein, scroll, chupchaap tulna?Is par baat kijiye ›

Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, toh aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka

Jalan bata sakti hai ki aap kya chahte ho #

Jalan ek aam ehsaas hai, sharm ki baat nahi. Bahut log paate hain ki ye ishaare ki tarah kaam karti hai: aksar unhi cheezon ke paas aati hai jo wo chupchaap apne liye chahte hain. Dost ki nayi job par chubhan keh rahi ho sakti hai, “Mujhe apne kaam se aur chahiye.”

Aise dekhein toh kisi aur ki jeet peeche hatne jaisi kam, aapki apni chaahon ki khabar zyada hai. Unki zindagi apne raaste chalti rehti hai, aur aapki chaah wahin rakhi hai, theek se dekhe jaane ke liye.

Aakhri baar jab kisi ki achhi khabar chubhi, us chubhan ko agar kisi chaah ki taraf ishaara karna ho, toh wo kis taraf karegi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise jaldi pehchanna

Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #

Jab log gaur se dekhte hain, toh kuch paate hain ki wo apni poori zindagi ki tulna kisi aur ke ek chamakdaar hisse se kar rahe hain: admission letter, wo mushkil hisse nahi jo koi post nahi karta; promotion, uske peeche ki lambi shaamein nahi.

Kuch ye bhi dekhte hain ki scoreboard baar-baar badal deta hai ki kise chune. Hamesha koi aur aage hota hai, aur koi jisse wo khud aage hain. Jis daud ki finish line nahi aur bheed badalti rahe, use jeeta hi nahi ja sakta.

Agar apna saal imaandaari se gina jaye, jo kiya aur jo kaata, un sab ke saath, toh list mein kya-kya aayega?Is par baat kijiye ›

Isse sulah

Kuch chahna band karne ki zaroorat nahi #

Is yakeen se sulah ka matlab kabhi jalan mehsoos na karna nahi hai, ya sirf khush hone ka dikhawa. Dono ehsaas saath ho sakte hain. Maqsad bas ye hai ki din kaisa jaye, ismein daud ki baat kam chale.

Kuch log pehle chubhan ko bina behes kiye guzarne dete hain: “Lo, aa gayi”, phir apni dopahar par laut aate hain. Kuch paate hain ki dheere-dheere doosron ke liye khush hone ki bhi thodi jagah ban jaati hai, baaki sab ke saath.

Chubhan mehsoos karte hue bhi apna din bachaye rakhna kaisa hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›

Is hafte ki kaun si khabar bas unki ho sakti hai, score nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ek zyada sachcha vaakya

Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha sentence #

“Jab koi aage badhta hai, mera number peeche khisak jaata hai” se behes karne ki jagah, kuch log ek sachchi line paas rakhte hain: “Unki khushkhabri unki hai, aur mera raasta ab bhi mera hai.” Purani line se seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi.

Shuru mein iska sach lagna zaroori nahi, khaaskar result wale din. Kuch logon ko bas itna kaafi lagta hai ki purani line ke baghal mein ise ek baar sun lein, aur dekhein ki dono mein kaun si tathyon ke zyada kareeb hai.

Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha sentence kya hoga, jismein unki achhi khabar aur aapki apni chaah, dono ki jagah ho?Is par baat kijiye ›

Kya rehne dein

Kuch din daud ka ehsaas laut aata hai #

Kuch din purana ehsaas zor se laut aata hai: shaadi ka season, school ka reunion, cousin ki badi khabar theek usi din jab aapka apna din bhaari ho. Ye soch ki purani aadat hai jo guzar rahi hai, jaise koi gaana bina maange laut aaye.

Kuch logon ko bas use pehchaanna aur naam dena kaafi lagta hai: “Lo, phir wahi scoreboard.” Phir phone neeche rakha ja sakta hai, aur shaam phir aapki ho sakti hai.

Aaj shaam ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo sahi thi, ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki use har ghante aapke peeche nahi chalna.

Agar wo aaj shelf par rahe, toh aaj raat mein kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›

Agar yeh dheela pade

Aur agar daud zara bhi dheeli pade #

Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki daud ka ehsaas ek darja dheema hai. Chubhan kabhi-kabhi ab bhi aati hai, par uska ek vote hai, aakhri faisla nahi.

Kai log pehle chhoti cheezein batate hain: “Badhai” type karna halka laga, dost ki story dekhkar turant apni zindagi nahi jaanchi, apna koi achha din jo sach mein notice hua.

Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, toh baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.

Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Try karne ki chhoti cheezein

Try karne ke liye kuch

Kuch cheezein jo logon ko kaam ki lagti hain #

Jab achhi khabar chubhe, mann mein naam dijiye: lo, phir wahi daud
Chubhan se chupchaap poochhiye: ye mujhe kya chahne ka ishaara de rahi hai?
Apne hafte ki ek aisi cheez dekhiye jo scoreboard nahi ginta
Tulna se pehle yaad kijiye ki ye unki kahani ka sirf ek hissa hai
Kisi ki achhi khabar ka ek hissa aaj bas unhi ka rehne dijiye

Chhote aur sab apni marzi se. Jo ho sake, wo aazmaiye.

Ek sawaal chuniye

Baat kijiye #

Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.

Mann mein baar-baar “koi aage badhe, toh mera number peeche khisak jaata hai” kyun aata hai?