Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye baat se kahin badi bhi lag sakti hai.
Kuch logon mein ye kisi ek insaan se shuru hui jisne sachmuch suna: dadi jinhone sweater ki salaaiyan neeche rakh kar dusra sawaal poocha, koi mausi, ya teacher jo lambi chuppi mein bhi ruki rahi.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Jinhe parwah hoti, wo sunte,” ya “Jise suna jaata hai, wahi ginta jaata hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Sentence shuru karna, sabko mudte dekhna, aur use adhoora chhod dena
- Pehle se ratt lena ki kya kehna hai, taaki jaldi nikal jaye
- Har baar kam bolna, itna ki “kuch nahi, bas aise hi” hi aadat ban jaye
- Poori mez ki jagah kisi ek ke saath akele mein baat karne ka mauka dhoondhna
- Awaaz oonchi kar dena, aur phir kitni oonchi thi is par bura lagna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Cricket mein kati hui baat
Raat ka khana, Jaipur, Malviya Nagar ka flat. Aap din ki ek baat sabko batane lagte ho, jo aapke liye mayne rakhti thi. Aadhe mein chacha kal raat ke cricket match par bol padte hain, aur poori mez unhi ki taraf mud jaati hai. Aap beech mein ruk jaate ho. Kisi ka dhyaan nahi jaata. Baaki khana chupchaap nipatta hai, aur baad mein bartan dhote hue aapko samajh aata hai ki aisa kitni baar hota hai.
Gharwale tab sunein jab bolun
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Jab main bolun, gharwale sunein.” Ye seedhi izzat jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: ghar mein aapke mayne rakhne ka ehsaas ek bhari, shor wali mez ke bartaav se baandh deta hai. Aapko suna ja raha hai ya nahi, ab un aadaton par tika hai jo ghar mein barson se chal rahi hain, aapke kuch kehne se bhi pehle se.
Suna jaana pyaar jaisa kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki suna jaana pyaar jaisa lagta hai. Shayad aap bachpan mein wo chup bachche the jo bolne ki baari ka intezaar karte rahe aur wo baari aayi hi nahi. Shayad bahar aise log mil gaye hain jo sunte hain, aur lagta hai ghar bhi waisa ho. Dono haal mein sune jaane ki chaah zyada nahi hai. Wo ghar mein mayne rakhne ki chaah se aati hai, aur use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Ghar mein kam baantna
Har baar jab baat beech mein katti hai, aap thoda kam baantte ho. Cheezein apne tak rakhne lagte ho. Bhari mez par akelapan lagta hai. Khabrein doston ke liye bachate ho, ya aajkal kisi ke liye nahi. Dheere-dheere ghar aisi jagah lagne lagta hai jahan aapki awaaz pahunchti hi nahi, aur aap maanne lagte ho ki aapki kahaniyan sunane laayak nahi, jo sach nahi hai.
Kya unke kaanon ka intezaar laayak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya unke sunne ki zaroorat ne kabhi mez ko shaant kiya? Ya zyadatar aapko chup kar diya? Kuch ghar aapas mein hi ek-dusre par bolte rehte hain, aur wo kyun karte hain ye wahi jaante hain, ye aapki baaton par koi faisla nahi. Shor wali mez aapki keemat ka paimana nahi hai. Is niyam ko itna kas kar pakadna deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Aapki kahaniyan kahin bhi ginti hain
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aapki awaaz mayne nahi rakhti. Matlab ye ki aapke mayne rakhne ka ehsaas ab shor wali mez par tika nahi. Aap apni kahani us ek insaan ko suna sakte ho jo sun raha hai, ya khud sunakar maza le sakte ho, ya us insaan ke liye rakh sakte ho jo use pasand karega. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapki kahaniyan ginti hain, kahin bhi sunaiye.
Being threatened, hurt or frightened, watched, kept in or kept from people, having money used to control you, or being pressured to change who you are is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleJab main bolun, gharwale sunein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri kahaniyan ginti hain, kahin bhi sunaun.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Ek kahani us insaan ko sunaiye jo mez par sun raha hai
- Din 2
Din ki ek achhi baat sirf apne liye yaad kijiye
- Din 3
Ghar mein bina bole ek shaant pal ka maza lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapki zindagi mein kisne aapko achhi tarah suna, aur usne kaun si chhoti cheez ki thi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek chaahat, jo baat khatam hone ka intezaar karti hai #
“Jab main bolun, gharwale sunein.” Ye raat ke khane par aa sakti hai, jab TV par news chal rahi ho aur chacha cricket par zor-zor se bol rahe hon. Ya Sunday ko car mein, jab radio band hi nahi hota. Ya us sentence ke beech, jise bua aapke munh se chheen kar khud poora kar deti hain.
Aksar chaahat ye nahi hoti ki sab aapse agree karein. Wo isse chhoti aur seedhi hai: poori baat bolna, aur kamre mein uska pahunch jaana, agla topic aane se pehle.
Ye chaahat aakhri baar kab mann mein aayi thi, aur us waqt sab kahan baithe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Pehle shabd aur tokey jaane ke beech #
Kuch log bolne se pehle ek chhoti si saans andar kheenchte hain, jaise bheed wali sadak cross karne se pehle. Nazar ghoom jaati hai: kaun phone mein hai, kaun pehle hi dusre ki taraf mud gaya, kiska haath roti ki tokri ki taraf badh raha hai.
Kuch logon ko sentence beech mein katne par ek chhoti si dhalaan mehsoos hoti hai: chehra garam ho jaata hai, ya achanak thakaan lagti hai, aur “arre chhodo” ka khayal pehle aa jaata hai, ye yaad aane se pehle ki baat kehni kyun thi.
Pichhli baar ghar par aapne kuch kehna shuru kiya aur wo phisal gaya, to uske theek baad aapke body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Suna jaana, ginna jaana hai #
Is chaahat mein sachmuch dum hai. Bolna wo tareeka hai jisse insaan kisi kamre mein apni jagah banata hai. Aur suna jaana ghar ka sabse seedha tareeka hai ye kehne ka ki “hum aapko dekhte hain, is khane ki mez par aapki jagah pakki hai.”
Ye baat se kahin badi bhi lag sakti hai. Train ke time ya sabzi ki recipe par kahi gayi baat ke neeche ek chupchaap si ummeed ho sakti hai ki bolne wale ko suna jaye, sirf uske shabdon ko nahi. Jab wo nahi milti, to chhoti baatein bhaari lagne lagti hain.
Haal ki koi ek baat sochiye jo aapne kehni chaahi.
Uska kaun sa hissa aap sabse zyada chahte the ki koi sun le?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo beech mein ruk jaati hai #
“Shuru hi kyun karun?” “Sab beech mein hi bol padenge.” “Mujhe pata tha.” Ye awaaz aksar tokey jaane ke theek baad aati hai, ya kisi get-together se lautte hue, jab aapne bahut kam kaha aur jo roka, uska ek-ek shabd yaad raha.
Aisi awaaz mein aur awaazein bhi mili ho sakti hain: koi jisne barson pehle “zabaan mat chalao” kaha tha, koi relative jo hamesha baat apne haath mein le leta tha. Kuch logon ko purane goonjte shor ke neeche apni seedhi si chaahat sunna mushkil lagta hai.
Jab ye awaaz kehti hai ki ghar mein koi nahi sunta, to wo baar-baar kis pal ki taraf ishaara karti hai, aur usmein kaun-kaun hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Sune jaane ki tasveer kahan se aati hai #
Kuch logon mein ye kisi ek insaan se shuru hui jisne sachmuch suna: dadi jinhone sweater ki salaaiyan neeche rakh kar dusra sawaal poocha, koi mausi, ya teacher jo lambi chuppi mein bhi ruki rahi. Wo ehsaas ghar ke dhyaan ka paimana ban sakta hai.
Kuch mein ye us ghar se aayi jahan sab ek saath bolte the aur jo sabse tez bole wahi suna jaye, ya us ghar se jahan bolne wale tay the aur baaki ko “bado ke beech mein nahi bolte” sikha diya gaya. Kuch gharon mein sunna sawaalon se nahi, khane aur kaam karne se dikhta hai.
Sabse pehle wo kaun tha jisne aapko sachmuch suna, aur usne kya kiya tha ki aapko wo mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Sune jaane wala niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Jinhe parwah hoti, wo sunte,” ya “Jise suna jaata hai, wahi ginta jaata hai.” Pehla sentence sunai deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki ek adhoore sentence ka matlab kya hai.
Aisa niyam shayad hi kabhi chuna jaata hai. Wo un palon se ugta hai jab sunna hua aur mayne rakha, aur kuch gharon mein parwah dikhane ka yahi mukhya tareeka hota hai. Isiliye ise dekhna zaroori hai, aaj ke ghar ke baghal mein rakh kar.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ye niyam kahan fit baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Kam bolne ki saal bhar ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai khane ki mez par sambhli hui maujoodgi, khabar pehle dost ko aur ghar ko sabse aakhir mein, raay ko tab tak dabaye rakhna jab tak kahin bhi uski jagah na lage. Kuch bhi shor wala nahi; sab kuch maujood.
Jab suna jaana qadar ka dusra naam ban jaye, to har beech mein kati baat ek faisle jaisi padhi jaane lagti hai. Kuch log dekhte hain ki har saal wo thoda kam bolne lage hain, aur ghar bhi unka ek chupchaap wala roop seekh leta hai.
Pichhle saal bhar mein koi aisi baat kya thi jo aap gharwalon se kehna chahte the aur nahi kahi, aur use rokne ki keemat kya rahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, baat adhoori chhodte hue #
Ek aam Sunday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “gharwale sunein” zor se baj rahi ho. Kisi ko is par kuch karna nahi hai.
Shayad khane par sentence shuru karke adhoora chhod dena, kisi cousin ki kahani ka wo khaali jagah bhar dena, ghar lautte hue khamosh car, kisi dost ko bheja wo message jisme baat theek se kahi gayi.
Ye bas ek tasveer hai, anumaan nahi. Jab chahein band kar dijiye.
Usmein kya hai: khana, baatein, kaun bolta hai, kaun sir hilata hai, kaun si baatein mez ke kinare par reh jaati hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Sunday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya alag dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Sunne ke kai roop hote hain #
Log alag-alag tarah se sunte hain. Koi haathon se sunta hai: thaali aage badha deta hai, ya wo cheez theek kar deta hai jiska aapne zikr kiya tha. Koi yaad rakh kar sunta hai aur teen din baad usi baat ko uthata hai. Koi sirf aamne-saamne sun paata hai, bhari mehfil mein bilkul nahi.
Isse aapki chaahat chhoti nahi hoti, aur beech mein tokne wala mahaul theek nahi ho jaata. Bas itna poochna banta hai ki aapko asal mein kaisa suna jaana chahiye: poori mehfil, ek achha sunne wala, ya bas sentence ka aakhri hissa.
“Jab main bolun to sunein” mein jo kuch lipta hai, usmein sabse zyada kya mayne rakhta hai: dhyaan, yaad rakhna, ya baat poori karne ka mauka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Mez par pehle se kya hai #
Jis sune jaane ki aapne ummeed ki, uske saath-saath aise tareeke bhi ho sakte hain jinse ghar aapko bina kahe sun leta hai: koi pasandida sabzi jo aapke zikr ke baad ban jaati hai, koi relative jo window wali seat aapke liye rok leta hai, koi cousin jo theek aapki kahi baat par hans padta hai.
Inse chaahat mitti nahi, aur inka koi hisaab chukana nahi hai. Ek kami aur ek chhoti meharbani ek hi hafte mein sach ho sakti hain, aur dusri ko usi roop mein dekhna bhi kaam ka ho sakta hai.
Pichhle aam hafte ke ghar ko sochiye.
Kisne kuch aisa kiya jisse chupchaap laga ki usne aapki koi baat andar le li hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Adhoore sentence se sulah #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay kar lena nahi ki ye maangna zyada tha, ya ghar mein koi aapko sunta hi nahi. Matlab ye hai ki sune jaane aur beech mein tokey jaane ka fark har raat ke khane ka mood tay karna band kar de.
Isme jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: poora sentence bolna, aur apni raay ka kamre tak pahunchna chahna. Buniyadi izzat aur safety “zyada ummeed” kabhi nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo hai har tok ka wazan.
Chillakar chup karaya jaana, dhamkaya jaana, nigrani mein rakha jaana, ghar mein rok diya jaana ya logon se milne na diya jaana, paison se kaabu kiya jaana, khud ko badalne ka pressure, ya bolne se darr lagna, ye kuch aur hai aur ise seriously lena chahiye. Wahan chup rehna surakshit chunaav bhi ho sakta hai.
Sochiye aisa khana jisme is chaahat se sulah ho chuki hai: aap sabse pehle kya kahoge, aur kiske baghal mein baith kar kehna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Baat aage nikal jaye tab rakhne ke liye ek line #
“Jab main bolun, gharwale sunein” se takraane ki jagah kuch log taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mujhe suna jaana achha lagega, aur jo main kahun wo har haal mein kehne laayak hai.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas paas rehna hai.
Nayi line pehli baar mein ajeeb lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko wo istemaal se naram padti dikhti hai; kuch ko kabhi jamti nahi aur wo dusri dhoondh lete hain. Inmein se kuch bhi aazmane wale ke baare mein kuch nahi kehta.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo sune jaane ki chaahat ko rakhe aur phir bhi aapki awaaz aapke haath mein chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch sentence thoda aaram kar sakte hain #
Har adhoore sentence ko bolkar poora karna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko ek baar palat kar dekha ja sakta hai, kisi behtar pal ke liye rakha ja sakta hai, aur abhi neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise kursi ki peeth par tangi jacket.
Kuch khane ki mezein nahi badalti, aur aaj use aazmana zaroori nahi. Jo aap kehna chahte the wo ab bhi aapka hai aur jaanne laayak hai. Agar bolne par dhamki ya darr milta hai, to wo beech mein tokey jaane se alag baat hai, aur ise seriously lena chahiye.
Aaj shaam ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab achha tha, ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki is sentence ko aaj raat zabardasti nikaalna nahi hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar chaahat zara bhi dheeli ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Sune jaane ki chaahat ab bhi hai, par beech mein kata sentence bas ek sentence hai, aapke baare mein koi faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: sentence shuru karna aur ghar lautte hue use apne liye poora kar lena, kisi dost ko poori baat batana, ya us insaan ke baghal mein baithna jo sabse achha sunta hai.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Agli baar dekhte hain ki isse sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe thoda sa hi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein dhyaan dijiye ki ghar mein sabse achha kaun sunta hai, aur kab
- Jo sentence phisal gaya, use akele mein mann mein poora kar lijiye
- Dekhiye ki kin baaton ko poora haq milta hai aur kinhe beech mein kaat diya jaata hai
- Kisi ek dost ko poori baat sunaiye aur dekhiye kaisa lagta hai
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: isme kitna sentence ki baat hai, aur kitna ginne jaane ki?
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapki zindagi mein kisne aapko achhi tarah suna, aur usne kaun si chhoti cheez ki thi?
- Haal mein ghar par kaun sa sentence aap sabse zyada poora karna chahte the, aur use kya kehna tha?
- Kis jagah, aamne-saamne ya bheed mein, aapko sabse achha suna jaata hai?
- Agar gharwalon se ye ummeed thodi dheeli ho, to sabse pehle aap kya notice karoge?
- Ghar mein kisi ne kaun sa chhota tareeka dikhaya ki usne aapki baat andar li?