Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Sahi karne ki parwah shaayad hi bhaari hissa hoti hai; wazan tab aata hai jab har galti faisle jaisi lage.
Kuch mein ek drishya se: maa-baap ki saaf likhawat mein bhare form, school trip ki ijaazat wali chitthi jo dobara likhi gayi, counter par “main dekh leta hoon” jab aap bagal mein the.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar tab mujhe asafal hone diya jaata, to aaj mujhe khud par bharosa hota,” ya “Main jo bhi jokhim lun, wo aakhirkaar palatkar jawab dena hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Chhote chunavon par thithak jaana, jaise maa-baap kandhe ke upar se padh rahe hon
- Aadhe isliye jokhim uthana ki kuch saabit karna hai, phir bechain rehna
- Har faisle se pehle teen doston se poochhna, phir bhi jawab par shak karna
- Ghar par galti tab batana jab wo sulajh chuki ho
- Aapke liye kiye gaye purane faisle dohrana, doosra raasta sochte hue
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Do safed rangon ke beech bees minute
Diwali se pehle ka Saturday, Ahmedabad ke Navrangpura ki paint-hardware dukaan. Aap bees minute se do safed rangon ke saamne ho, dono lagbhag ek-jaise. Dukaandaar poochhta hai, “Kuch dikhaun?” Aap kehte ho nahi, aur ghoorte rehte ho. Mann ke peechhe kahin ek dheemi awaaz kehti hai ki ye wala galat niklega, aur pet mein jaani-pehchani gaanth ban jaati hai.
Unhein galtiyan karne deni chahiye thin
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Maa-baap ko mujhe apni galtiyan karne deni chahiye thin.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Seekhna aazmane se aata hai. Par dekhiye ye ab kya karta hai: aaj ki har jhijhak ke liye aapko ateet ko dosh dete rakhta hai. Har chhota chunav uska saboot ban jaata hai jiski aap practice nahi kar paaye, aur chunav apne aakar se zyada bhaari lagne lagta hai.
Hum aazmakar kyun seekhna chahte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki har koi aazmakar seekhne ka mauka chahta hai. Shaayad ghar mein lagbhag har faisla aapke liye ho gaya, kapdon se vishay tak, doston tak. Shaayad aapko hamesha khud jaanne se pehle hi sudhaar diya gaya. Jo bhi ho, ladkhadane ki jagah chahna bilkul nashukrapan nahi. Wo khud par bharosa karne ki chaah se aaya hai. Use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har chunav par purani jhunjhlahat
Har kathin faisla purani jhunjhlahat lauta laata hai. Aap apna mat jaanne se pehle doosron se unka mat poochhte ho. Do baar jaanchte ho, phir teen baar. Aap maa-baap se aur khud se ek hi saans mein chidh jaate ho. Chhote chunav mein ghante lagte hain, aur bade asambhav lagte hain. Ateet har dukaan aur har meeting mein chupchaap aapke bagal mein baitha rehta hai.
Kya ye jhunjhlahat iske laayak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya purane niyantran ko dosh dene se aaj chunna kabhi aasaan hua? Ya zyadatar aap paint ke display par atke rahe? Aapki parvarish ke peechhe kya tha, ye koi pakka nahi keh sakta. Dono haal mein, tab aapko kaise chalaya gaya, wo iska paimana nahi ki aap ab kya seekh sakte ho. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai?
Chhoti galtiyan, jaanboojhkar
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki ateet ne aapko gadha nahi. Matlab ye ki aap aaj se, jaanboojhkar, apni chhoti galtiyan karna shuru kar sakte ho. Safed chun lijiye. Galat nikle, to phir rang dijiye. Har chhoti chook wo abhyaas hai jo aakhir aap khud ko de pa rahe ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: ladkhadane ki jo jagah tab chahi thi, wo ab aap khol sakte ho.
If being kept from mistakes ever meant being frightened, watched or kept from people, that is something else, and worth taking seriously, then and now.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUnhein mujhe apni galtiyan karne deni chahiye thin.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleAb jaanboojhkar chhoti galtiyon ka abhyaas kiya ja sakta hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aaj ek chhota chunav ek minute se kam mein kijiye
- Din 2
Ek chhoti chook ko bina sudhare rehne dijiye, dekhiye kaisa lagta hai
- Din 3
Kisi aur se poochhne se pehle khud se poochhiye ki aap kya sochte ho
Is par baat karni hai?
“Bade hokar apne dum par liya kaun-sa pehla jokhim aapko ab bhi muskura deta hai?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek chhota chunav jo achanak bada lagta hai #
Ek bada-sa insaan paint ki dukaan mein bees minute khada hai, do lagbhag ek-jaise safed rangon ke beech, aur kahin purane zamaane se ek vaakya uthta hai: “Maa-baap ko mujhe apni galtiyan karne deni chahiye thin.” Ye paint se kahin chhoti baaton par bhi aa sakta hai.
Iske peechhe aksar barson purani koi tasveer hoti hai: science project jo ek raat pehle maa-baap ne khatam kar diya, ek phone par badal diya gaya vishay, dost se jhagda jo dost ki maa ko phone karke sulajha diya gaya. Har ek vaajib, phir bhi kuch haath se le liya gaya.
Bade hone ke baad ki zindagi mein kaun-sa aam chunav aakhri baar maa-baap ka ye khayal laya, aur tab aap kya tay kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Chhote jokhim se pehle ka thehraav #
Kuch log ise faisle se theek pehle ki atak ki tarah paate hain: booking button par ruka haath, likhkar mitaya gaya jawab, aur chunav ke baare mein kuch sochne se pehle maa-baap ki uthi bhaunh ki jhatpat, lagbhag apne-aap aayi tasveer.
Kuch aur ko iski jagah akad jaisa kuch bhadakta hai, achanak “ab toh karke dikhana hai” jo yojana theek se dekhne se pehle aa jaata hai, jaise chunav kisi aise ke saath behas ho jo call par hai hi nahi.
Pichhli baar jab aap apne dum par kuch naya aazmane wale the, to kuch tay karne se pehle aapne khud mein sabse pehle kya dekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Aazmakar seekhne ki jagah chahna #
Galti karne ka mauka chahna ek samajhdaar chaah hai, aur isme asli samajh hai. Kharab chunav kaisa lagta hai, aur usse wapas kaise aaya jaye, ye jaanna un tareekon mein hai jinse log seekhte hain ki wo kya sambhal sakte hain aur asal mein kya pasand karte hain.
Sahi karne ki parwah shaayad hi bhaari hissa hoti hai; wazan tab aata hai jab har galti faisle jaisi lage. Jab shuru ki chookein asar karne se pehle pakad li jaati thin, to kuch logon ko bade hokar mili pehli chookein apne aakar se kahin badi lagti hain.
Agar kishoraavastha ki ek galti aapke liye karne ko chhodi ja sakti, to aap kaun-si chunte, aur kya seekhne ki kalpana karte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Maa-baap ke shabd udhaar lene wali awaaz #
“Unhone kabhi mujhe khud jaanne hi nahi diya.” “Baaki sab ko bigadne aur seekhne ka mauka mila.” “Ab toh sofa chunna bhi exam lagta hai.” Ye awaaz dukaanon ki galiyon mein, job ke form par, aur kaam mein chhoti chook ke baad ke ghante mein bolti hai.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki sir mein baithi satark awaaz poori tarah unki apni nahi: usmein maa-baap ka lehja aur maa-baap ke pasandida vaakya hain. Jo “chahiye” sach mein kisi aur ka hai, wo apne tajurbe se ugey “chahiye” se zyada bhaari ho sakta hai.
Jab sir ki satark awaaz chunav taulti hai, to kiske pasandida shabd istemaal karti hai, aur kaun-sa vaakya sabse zyada aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Jagah ki chaah kahan se shuru hui #
Kuch logon mein ye doosron ko dekhkar shuru hui: ek sahpathi jise part-time cafe ki job ki ijaazat mili, ek cousin jisne galat course chuna aur bina paarivarik baithak ke badal liya, ek dost jiski chhoti tabahiyan khaane par mazedaar kisse ban jaati thin.
Kuch mein ek drishya se: maa-baap ki saaf likhawat mein bhare form, school trip ki ijaazat wali chitthi jo dobara likhi gayi, counter par “main dekh leta hoon” jab aap bagal mein the. Kuch log aisi chaah ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Bachpan ka kaun-sa drishya tha jab pehli baar aapne khud kuch jaanna chaha, aur usmein aapke bagal mein kaun khada tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Galat hone ke baare mein chup niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar tab mujhe asafal hone diya jaata, to aaj mujhe khud par bharosa hota,” ya “Main jo bhi jokhim lun, wo aakhirkaar palatkar jawab dena hai.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har naya chunav kaise taula jaye.
Aisa niyam seedhi samajhdaari jaisa lag sakta hai, aur uska kuch hissa shaayad hai bhi. Isiliye ise aaj ki zindagi ke bagal mein rakhkar dekhna kaam ka ho sakta hai, un chunavon ke saath jo aap har hafte bina doosri soch ke apne aap pehle hi kar lete ho.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aapki zindagi ke kin chunavon mein purani galtiyon wala niyam ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Har chhota jokhim kya dhota hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai mahine bhar se khula raha weekend course ka page, doosre shehar ki job itni der taulna ki sawaal apne-aap hal ho jaye, kaam ki report ki ek chook ka poori shaam dohrav, ya ek yatra jo banayi gayi aur phir chhoti, zyada surakshit bana di gayi. Kuch natakeey nahi, phir bhi wazan.
Jo hum pehle se ummeed karte hain wo ho rahe pal ko rang sakta hai, sirf baad mein nahi. Jab koi chunav purani behas ke faisle jaisa lage, to mitti ke bartan ki pehli koshish ya office ka naya raasta bhi ajeeb-sa dabav dho sakte hain.
Is saal apna kaun-sa chunav, chunav se zyada maa-baap ke saath purani behas ke exam jaisa laga, aur uski keemat kya rahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, “wo kya kahenge?” #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “maa-baap ko mujhe galtiyan karne deni chahiye thin” zor se baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad teen baar badla hua email, counter par badla hua lunch order, ek weekend class jo dekhkar band kar di gayi, aur har chhote chunav se pehle ek jhatpat “wo kya kahenge?”
Isme kuch bhavishyavani nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: chunav, doosri soch, na aazmayi cheezein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya tay hota hai, aur kya intezaar mein rehta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Aazmane ki jagah, kis roop mein? #
“Mujhe apni galtiyan karne do” mein kai cheezein aa sakti hain: aazmane ki jagah, bataye jaane ke bajaay poochha jaana, chook par bhashan ke bina saamna, wapsi ka raasta khud khojne ka mauka. Inmein se kuch tab ki thin; kuch aaj bhi apne aap ko di ja sakti hain.
Kya galat ho sakta hai, ye sochna aur ye tay kar lena ki wahi hoga, ek baat nahi. Kuch logon ko jo satarkta mili wo yojana banane mein kaam ki lagti hai, aur tabhi bhaari hoti hai jab use antim baat maan liya jaye, kamre ki ek awaaz nahi.
“Mujhe apni galtiyan karne do” mein jo kuch bhara hai, usmein kaun-sa hissa aap is saal khud ko de sakte ho, aur kaun-sa sirf tab ka tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Ab aapke haath mein pehle se kya hai #
Jis jagah ki chaah thi uske bagal mein kuch aisi cheezein ho sakti hain jo maa-baap pehle se apne dhang se aapko saunpte hain: aapka koi chunav rishtedaar ko bina tippani ke batana, koi recipe jise aap apne hisaab se badalne ke liye de di gayi, kisi purane kisse par saath hansi.
Inhein dekhne se kisi ka kuch nahi banta, aur isse purane saal tay nahi hote; tab ki chaah aur aaj ka achha pal dono sach ho sakte hain. Jo anayas hue, jinka matlab koi ishara nahi tha, unse guzar jaana sabse aasaan hota hai.
Agar kuch khaas yaad na aaye to bhi theek hai.
Maa-baap ab bina tippani ke aapko kya saunpte hain, jise aap agli baar notice karna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Aazmane ki jagah, tab aur ab #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye bahut zyada maangti thi, ya ki sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jo jagah aap chahte the aur jo mili, unke beech ka faasla is hafte har chunav ke wazan ko tay karna band kar de.
Isme jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: aazmakar seekhna chahna, chahna ki chook aapki apni ho. Agar galtiyon se bachaye jaane ka matlab kabhi darr ke saath jeena, nigraani mein rehna ya logon se door rakha jaana tha, to wo kuch aur hai, aur tab bhi, ab bhi, gambhirta se lene laayak hai.
Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hotin, aapke liye aur unke liye. Kuch baatein achhi wajahon se chup rakhi jaati hain, suraksha samet, aur iski ijaazat hai.
Ek aam Saturday ki kalpana kijiye, is chaah se sulah ke saath: kaun-sa chhota chunav aap sirf isliye karenge ki wo aapko pasand hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agle chhote jokhim ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Maa-baap ko mujhe apni galtiyan karne deni chahiye thin” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log taiyaar rakhte hain: “Tab wo jagah nahi mili, aur ab uska kuch hissa khud ko diya ja sakta hai.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas purane ke bagal mein khada rehna hai.
Shuru ke kuch baar ye thoda bebaak, ya thoda feeka lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko apna vaakya istemaal ke saath fit hone lagta hai; kuch ko poora nahi baithta, aur doosra aazmane ki ijaazat hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo purane saalon ke baare mein imaandaar ho aur aaj ka chunav phir bhi aapke paas rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch purane faisle daraz mein reh sakte hain #
Saalon pehle aapke liye kiye gaye har faisle ko aaj phir kholna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek baar palta ja sakta hai, aur wapas rakha ja sakta hai, jaise Vadodara ki kisi daraz mein purana report card ya Ahmedabad ke kisi kamre mein palang ke neeche aadhi bhari sketchbook.
Kuch rasoiyaan iske liye sahi jagah nahi hotin, aur unhein aazmana zaroori nahi. Kuch baatein achhi wajahon se chup rakhi jaati hain, suraksha samet, aur iski ijaazat hai. Purane saalon ki chaah jab tak chahein nijee reh sakti hai.
Aaj shaam is khayal ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya baat tay ho gayi. Bas itna ki aaj ke chhote chunavon ko purani behas ka poora bojh nahi dhona hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar purana sawaal zara dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. “Wo kya kahenge?” ab bhi aata hai, aur phir uske peechhe doosra aata hai: “Aur meri apni raay kya hai?”
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: paanch minute mein chuna hua paint ka rang, kaam ki chhoti chook par kandhe uchkakar aage badhna, ya ghar ka koi naya raasta sirf isliye aazmana ki wo achha laga.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne laayak hai. Aage, dekhiye ki is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Chhote chunav se pehle dekhiye pehle kiski awaaz bolti hai
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: wo kya kahenge se pehle, meri apni raay kya hai?
- Aaj ki ek chhoti chaah dekhiye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Jab koi chook ho, dekhiye uska asli aakar uske mehsoos hone ke aakar ke bagal mein kitna hai
- Wahi chunav kisi dost ka sochiye, aur dekhiye wo kitna chhota dikhta hai
Chhoti, nijee aur sab apni marzi ki. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Bade hokar apne dum par liya kaun-sa pehla jokhim aapko ab bhi muskura deta hai?
- Maa-baap ne aapke liye aisa kya sulajha diya jo aap khud sulajhana chahte the?
- Tab kaun-si galti aap karna chahte the jo karne nahi di gayi, aur uski jagah kya hua?
- Agar maa-baap ke galtiyan karne dene ki chaah thodi dheeli ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?
- Maa-baap ab aapko kya saunpte hain jise aap thoda aur notice karna chahenge?