Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Manager ki dilchaspi kaam ki list se kuch alag baat kehti hai.
Kuch logon mein ye us teacher se aati hai jo class ke baad rukkar samjhate the, us coach se jo unka tareeka dekhta tha, ya pehle manager se jinhone kaha, “Aao, main dikhata hoon main kaise karta.”
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Achha manager mujhe aage badhne mein madad karta hai,” ya “Kisi ko mujhme dum dikhega toh wo bolega.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Shaam ko video aur course se khud seekhna
- Izzat wale saathiyon ko dekhna aur unki aadatein apnana
- Koi bhi feedback sunne ke liye review ka intezaar karna
- Baaton-baaton mein koi lakshya batana aur dekhna ki koi uthata hai ya nahi
- Maan lena ki aage badhne ka intezaam apne hi star par karna hai
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Saheli ki mahine ki career-baatein
Chandigarh ke office mein aapki saheli batati hain ki unke manager har mahine unke bhavishya par baat karte hain. Aap sunkar muskurate ho. Aapke apne manager ne saal bhar mein ek baar bhi aapki yojana nahi poochhi. Aapke one-on-one mein bas deadline hoti hai. Us shaam aap khud ko sochte paate ho, “Mere aage ka koi nahi soch raha.” Wo soch ummeed se zyada bhaari baithti hai.
Manager ko parwah honi chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Manager ko mere aage badhne mein dilchaspi leni chahiye.” Jaayaz ummeed lagti hai. Achhe managers lete bhi hain. Par dekhiye ye kya karta hai: aapki disha ka ehsaas kisi aur ke dhyaan ko saunp deta hai. Aapka raasta kahin ja raha hai ya nahi, ab is par tik gaya hai ki ek vyast insaan waqt nikalta hai ya nahi, jiske dimaag mein zyada-tar isi hafte ki deadline hai.
Margdarshan dekhbhaal jaisa kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki margdarshan dekhbhaal jaisa lagta hai. Shayad kisi teacher ne kabhi aapke sir par haath rakha tha aur aap pehle se kahin teji se badhe. Shayad kisi ne nahi rakha, aur aap bahut samay se akele hi sab samajh rahe hain. Jo bhi ho, kisi ki dilchaspi chahna mohtaji nahi hai. Wo sahare ke saath badhne ki chaah se aati hai, aur use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Raasta jo soona lagta hai
Us dilchaspi ke bina har mahina raasta aur soona kar deta hai. Aap apne manager ki doosron ke managers se tulna karne lagte ho. Lagne lagta hai ki office mein aapke bhavishya ki kisi ko parwah nahi. Agla kadam sochna band kar dete ho, kyunki fayda kya. Job deadlinon ki qataar ban jaati hai, aur apne badhne ki badi tasveer dheere-dheere nazar se hat jaati hai.
Kya mentor ka intezaar theek hai?
Khud se sach-sach poochhiye: kya unke dilchaspi lene ka intezaar karne se aap apne lakshyon ke paas pahunche? Ya zyada-tar andekhe hi feel hue? Ho sakta hai manager ko kabhi kisi ne sikhaya hi na ho, ya unhe tareeka na pata ho. Jo bhi ho, unka dhyaan aapke bhavishya ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna deta kam, leta zyada hai.
Aaj se khud ko aage badhana
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki margdarshan ki qadar khatam. Matlab ye ki aapki disha ab kisi aur ke tay karne ka intezaar nahi karti. Aap soch sakte ho ki kahan jana hai, kitaabon, logon aur kaam se seekh sakte ho, aur apne aage badhne ko gambhirta se le sakte ho. Mentoring aaye toh bonus hai. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapka bhavishya aapke gadhne ke liye hai.
Threats, shouting, harassment, humiliation, being singled out for who you are, pay or papers held back, or being frightened at work, are something else, and worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleManager ko mere aage badhne mein dilchaspi leni chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleAaj se apne aage badhne ki pehal mere haath mein hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is saal jis ek cheez mein behtar hona chahein, use chuniye
- Din 2
Pandrah minute kisi kitaab ya talk se seekhiye
- Din 3
Is mahine ki ek baat sochiye jo aapne khud seekhi
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kiski di hui salah aap aaj bhi istemaal karte hain, aur wo kya thi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Lunch mein kisi saathi ki sunayi baat #
Lunch mein ek saathi batati hain ki is hafte unke mentor ne kya sujhaya, aise hi baaton-baaton mein kahi ek tip, jisse unka poora mahina badal gaya. Baat aage badh jaati hai, aur ek vaakya peeche reh jaata hai: “Manager ko mere aage badhne mein dilchaspi leni chahiye.”
Kuch logon ke liye chaahat aise ek insaan ki hai jo jaanta ho ki wo kahan ja rahe hain aur raaste ke baare mein kuch sochta ho. Kaam bahut kuch sikhata hai, aur koi batane wala ho ki kis par nazar rakhni hai toh aur zyada.
Kaam ki zindagi mein kabhi kisne sachmuch dilchaspi li ki aap kaise chal rahe ho, aur unhone kya kiya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Mentor ki kahani sunkar chhayi khamoshi #
Kuch logon ke andar ek chup thehrav aata hai jab koi apni mentoring ki baatcheet sunata hai. Kuch ko pehle tez dilchaspi hoti hai, phir jaldi se bujh jaana, jaise hi wo apne hafte se milan karein.
Aisi kahani par sharir mann ke koi matlab chunne se pehle jawab de sakta hai: aadhi muskaan, chabana dheema, aur tiffin mein agle niwale par ek nazar. Chhantai baad mein aati hai.
Pichhli baar jab kisi ne office mein achhe margdarshan ki baat ki, toh koi nateeja nikalne se pehle aapne sabse pehle kya feel kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Raaste mein ek rahnuma ki chaah #
Ye ummeed ki manager aapke aage badhne mein lage, samajh mein aati hai. Career lamba hota hai, aur jo insaan us raaste ka kuch hissa chal chuka ho, wo bahut andaze aur kuch galat mod bacha sakta hai.
Manager ki dilchaspi kaam ki list se kuch alag baat kehti hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki jab sirf output nahi, disha ke baare mein poochha jaye toh kaam ek din ka nahi, ek zindagi ka hissa lagta hai.
Aap abhi kis sawaal par kisi zyada tajurbe wale insaan se madad lena sabse zyada chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Disha ke baare mein sochti awaaz #
“Ye sab kis taraf ja raha hai?” “Kya koi soch raha hai ki mere liye aage kya hai?” “Seekhna toh chal raha hai, par sahi cheez hai bhi?” Ye awaaz aksar shaant shaamon mein aur do projects ke beech ke khaalipan mein bolti hai. “Koi toh batae ki aage kya hai.”
Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki awaaz mein fikr ke saath jigyasa bhi hai. Use naqsha chahiye, ya kam se kam disha-soochak, aur wo dekhti hai ki dono mein se koi nahi thamaya gaya.
Jab awaaz disha ke baare mein sochti hai toh kaun sa sawaal sabse zyada poochhti hai, aur kaam ka jawab kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Rahnuma ki tasveer kahan se aati hai #
Kuch logon mein ye us teacher se aati hai jo class ke baad rukkar samjhate the, us coach se jo unka tareeka dekhta tha, ya pehle manager se jinhone kaha, “Aao, main dikhata hoon main kaise karta.” Aisa dhyaan lambe samay tak nishaan chhodta hai.
Kuch mein ye ghar ki un kahaniyon se aati hai ki falan Chacha aage isliye badhe kyunki kisi bade ne unke sir par haath rakha. Kai jagah bado ki ungli pakadkar chalne ko hi wo mauka samjha jaata tha jisse sab kuch mumkin hua.
Aapke seekhne mein sabse pehle kisne sachchi dilchaspi li, aur unhone kya kaha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Kisi ki dilchaspi paane ka niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Achha manager mujhe aage badhne mein madad karta hai,” ya “Kisi ko mujhme dum dikhega toh wo bolega.” Pehla vaakya wahi hai jo log sunte hain; neeche wala niyam har chup mahine ko ek ishaara bana deta hai.
Aise niyam gambhirta se liye jaane ki chaah se ugte hain, jo izzat ke layak hai. Inhe asli managers ke bagal mein rakhkar dekha ja sakta hai, jinme se kai apne kaam mein hi itne dabe hain ki poochhne ka khayal hi nahi aata.
Ho sakta hai ye beete saalon se aaya ho, ho sakta hai raah mein bana.
“Koi raasta dikhayega” aaj kahan baithta hai, aur kahan wo aise kandhe thapthapane ka intezaar maangta hai jo shayad na aaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Bina rahnuma ke chalna kya le sakta hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai koi project bina jaane poora karna ki wo achha tha ya nahi, Itwaar ki shaam ek ankahi bechaini, aur apni raftaar ko unse naapne ki aadat jinhe koi disha deta dikhta hai.
Saal bhar mein kuch log dekhte hain ki career thaka dene ki hadd tak khud hi chalana pad raha hai. Agla kadam akele sochne mein jo mehnat lagti hai, wo urja kaam mein lag sakti thi.
Pichhle saal par nazar dalein toh apne kaam ka kaun sa faisla aapne achha liya, aur usme kisne ya kis cheez ne madad ki?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Andaze se chalne ke kai saal #
Ek aam Guruvar mein thodi der rukiye, jab “Manager ko mere aage badhne mein dilchaspi leni chahiye” zor se bol rahi ho. Dekhne bhar ki tasveer hai.
Shayad ek project jama hua aur uske baad kuch nahi kaha gaya, browser mein ek course ka tab khula, ye soch ki agle do saal kahan jayenge, aur bus-stand tak ki sair jisme sawaal ab bhi poochha nahi gaya.
Inmein se kuch theek karne ko nahi hai, aur aap jab chahein tasveer se bahar aa sakte ho.
Usme kya hai: task list, one-on-one ka khaali calendar, kisi saathi ki batayi tip, ek aadha bana sawaal?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din aur kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar, agar kuch, toh aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Margdarshan ke kai darwaze hote hain #
Aage badhne ki seekh manager se aa sakti hai, par ek kadam aage ke saathi se, doosri team ke kisi insaan se, purane boss se, usi field ke dost se, ya aisi kitaab se bhi jo theek waqt par haath lag jaye.
Manager alag-alag tarah ke hote hain aur bahut se manage karte hue apni raah khud khoj rahe hote hain. Margdarshan ki chaah jaayaz rehte hue ek se zyada taraf se poori ho sakti hai.
Agar is mahine aage badhne ki shuruaat ek chhoti cheez se karni ho, toh wo kya hoti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo margdarshan pehle se mil chuka hai #
Jis mentoring ki aapne ummeed ki, uske saath aisa margdarshan bhi ho sakta hai jo chupchaap aa gaya: koi saathi jisne shortcut samjhaya, kisi client ka feedback jo mann mein reh gaya, manager ka ek vaakya jisne aapke kaam ka dhang badal diya.
Inhe yaad karne se nazdeeki dilchaspi ki chaah radd nahi hoti. Chaah aur ye dekhna saath reh sakte hain, aur dekhne ke liye kisi se kuch nahi chahiye.
Kaam par ya uske bahar kisne aapko kuch aisa dikhaya jisse aap aage badhe, aur uske baare mein aap kya yaad rakhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Apni disha khud pehchanna, khushi se #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ho sakta hai ki ek chup mahina aapke bhavishya par bayaan na ban jaye. Jaayaz baat reh sakti hai: apne badhne mein dilchaspi ki chaah, aur gambhirta se liye jaane ki. Dheeli ho sakti hai pakad, taaki manager ka vyast hafta bas wahi rahe, aur seekh kai logon se aa sake.
Office mein darr lagna kuch aur baat hai, aur use gambhirta se lena chahiye, chahe wajah koi bhi ho: koi boss, client ya saathi jo aapko dhamkaye, pareshaan kare, neecha dikhaye, ya is wajah se alag kare ki aap kaun hain (gender, jaati, dharm, rang, umar, koi disability ya aap kahan se aaye hain).
Bina paise ka kaam, roka gaya vetan ya kaagzaat, aur asurakshit kaam bhi aise hi hain. Saath chalna ya saavdhan rehna surakshit chunaav ho sakta hai.
Office mein buniyadi izzat aur suraksha maangna kabhi “zyada maangna” nahi hai, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi.
Ek aise saal ki tasveer banaiye jisme ye ummeed halki baithi hai: aap kiske kaam karne ke dhang se seekhte ho, aur kya seekhte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Bina rahnuma ke mahine ke liye ek sachchi line #
“Manager ko mere aage badhne mein dilchaspi leni chahiye” ke bagal mein, kuch log aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mujhe ek rahnuma chahiye, aur aaspaas ke logon se bhi mujhe seekhne ko mil raha hai.” Ise purani line ko haraana nahi hai, bas uske barabar khadi rehna hai.
Aisa vaakya pehle bahut aasaan lag sakta hai aur istemaal se zyada bharose layak. Kuch log apne shabd pasand karte hain, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo margdarshan ki chaah mein imaandaar ho aur ye na maange ki sab kuch koi ek insaan de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Ek chup mahina aaraam kar sakta hai #
Har bina margdarshan ke daur ke liye Shukravar tak yojana zaroori nahi. Use dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur almaari mein diary ki tarah rakha ja sakta hai, jab tak phir uthane ka mann na ho.
Rahnuma ki chaah jitni der chahein nijee reh sakti hai. Office mein pareshaan kiya jaana, neecha dikhaya jaana ya darna, boss ki taraf se ho ya kisi aur ki, kuch aur baat hai, aur use gambhirta se lena chahiye.
Aaj raat ke liye ise rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki baat sahi thi, ya nipat gayi. Bas itna ki shaam ko jawab ki zaroorat nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar rahnuma ki chaah halki baithe #
Bas ek pal ke liye, ummeed ko ek darja naram rakhkar dekhiye. Rahnuma ki chaah ab bhi hai, par ek chup mahina idhar-udhar dekhne ki jagah chhodta hai.
Shayad koi saathi apne mentor ki baat karta hai, aur aap chubhan ki jagah dilchaspi se sunte ho, phir dhyaan jaata hai ki kis saathi ke kaam se aap sabse zyada seekhte ho.
Isme se kuch bhi kisi aur ko sunane ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Aage: is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein, jo achhi lagein toh aazmaiye #
- Rahnuma ki chaah ko kuch shabdon mein mann hi mann naam dijiye
- Kisi saathi ke baare mein sochiye jiske kaam ki aap chupchaap qadar karte ho, aur kyun
- Is hafte ki ek seekh par gaur kijiye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Kalpana kijiye ki aapke liye sabse kaam ka rahnuma kaisa hoga
- Bahut pehle ka wo pal yaad kijiye jab kisi ki salah se aapko madad mili thi
Chhoti, nijee aur apni marzi ki. Jo aasaan lage wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kiski di hui salah aap aaj bhi istemaal karte hain, aur wo kya thi?
- Kisi ne aapke seekhne mein aisi dilchaspi kab dikhayi jo yaad reh gayi?
- Aapne khud se seekhi sabse achhi cheez kya hai, aur kaise?
- Agar rahnuma ki chaah thodi dheeli pade, toh aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?
- Aapke aaspaas kaun pehle se aapko badhne mein madad karta hai, jise aap aur dekhna chahenge?