Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Kisi ke kareeb hone par hum maan lete hain ki wo hamari bahut si bina kahi baatein samajhta hai.
Kuch logon mein ye tasveer apne hi ghar se aati hai: ek TV ke saamne saara parivaar, sab ek saath khaana khate hue, chachere-mausere bade bhi badon ke saath hi baithe hue.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar hum kareeb hain, to wo mere aaspaas rehna chahenge,” ya “Jo waqt wo bahar bitate hain, wo humse chheena hua hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Chai ya nashta lekar dastak dena, taaki bahane se ek minute ruka jaye
- Sawaal par sawaal poochna, phir jawabon ko chhota hote dekhna
- Sabke saath ghoomne ka plan banana, phir ek thande “Theek hai” ko faisla maan lena
- Beparwah ban jaana aur unke kamre se door hi rehna
- Pados ke us bachche se tulna karna jo ab bhi Mummy-Papa se baatein karta dikhta hai
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Poha-jalebi ka plan aur ek “nahi”
Sunday ki subah, Indore. Poha-jalebi ke liye Chappan Dukan chalne ka plan rakha jaata hai, jaise bachche ke chhote hone par har Sunday hota tha. Phone se nazar uthakar jawab aata hai: “Nahi, doston ke saath plan hai.” Paanch minute mein darwaza bhid jaata hai. Haath mein chaabi, hall mein thithki chuppi, aur haath pakadne wale chhote bachche ki halki si kasak uthti hai.
Teenager ko aapka saath chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere teenage bachchon ko mere saath waqt bitana chahiye.” Ye komal chaah jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke pyaar paane ka ehsaas unke Sunday ke plan se bandh deta hai. Aap kareeb hain ya nahi, ye us yuva par tik jaata hai jiske plan umar ke baare mein shayad zyada batate hain, aapke baare mein kam.
Shuru ke baras anmol kyun the
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki shuru ke baras ki nazdeeki anmol thi. Shayad ghar lautne par darwaze ki or daudte bachche yaad hon, baahein phailaye. Shayad apne maa-baap ke saath aisi nazdeeki kabhi mili hi nahi, isliye ye aur keemti lagti hai. Saath waqt chahna chipku hona nahi hai. Ye pyaar aur kami se ugta hai, aur ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har “nahi” ka chhota nuqsaan
Har “nahi” ek chhote nuqsaan jaisa lagta hai. Phir plan banana band ho jaata hai, ki kahin ek aur na na mile. Peeche chhoota hua lagta hai, phir itna farq padne par bewakoofi jaisa. Bachche ka purana roop aur aasaan gale lagna yaad aata hai. Dheere-dheere unki zindagi mein ajnabi hone ka ehsaas aata hai, aur judne ke pal isliye chookte hain ki mann agli na ke liye taiyaar rehta hai.
Kya purani nazdeeki ka peecha theek hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya unke saath ki zaroorat ne unhein kabhi saath chahne ki taraf badhaya? Ya zyadatar har “nahi” ko aur tez chubhaya? Unke Sunday ke plan unki umar ki zyada baat karte hain, aapki kam; sach sirf unhein pata hai. Sunday ki ek “nahi” unke pyaar ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna har hafte, har Sunday, dene se zyada maangta hai.
Chhote palon ka maza lena
Chhodne ka matlab saath waqt ki chaah chhodna nahi. Matlab ye ki pyaar paane ka ehsaas unke plan par na tike. Aap garmjoshi se paas reh sakte ho, chhote palon ka maza le sakte ho, der raat ka nashta, car ka safar, aur apne Sunday ko achhi cheezon se bhar sakte ho. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: aap kareeb rehte ho, usi shaant tareeke se jo wo abhi chahte hain.
If a change in your teenager worries you for their sake, or if anyone at home is threatened, hurt or frightened, that is a different thing from this hope, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere teenage bachchon ko mere saath waqt bitana chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleGarmjoshi bani rahe, to chhote palon ka bhi maza hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Teenager ke saath ek chhota pal jiyein, jaise nashta ya car ka safar
- Din 2
Is Sunday ka ek plan sirf apne liye banaiye
- Din 3
Ek darwaza khula rakhiye: halka sa nyota, bina dabaav ke
Is par baat karni hai?
“Pehli baar kab dikha ki teenager ka darwaza band rehne laga, aur us shaam ka kya hua?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Band darwaze ke bahar ruki chaah #
“Mere teenage bachchon ko mere saath waqt bitana chahiye.” Ye aksar kisi dahleez par aati hai: band kamre ke bahar, car mein jahan bas earphone se rista gaana sunai de, ya khaane ki table par jahan sab alag-alag waqt par aakar kha jaate hain. Kabhi mann mein halka sa taana bhi uthta hai: “Ghar ko hotel bana rakha hai.”
Zyadatar ye kisi yaad ki awaaz hoti hai jo aage chalte rehna chahti hai: zebra crossing par pakdi chhoti ungli, sone se pehle ke sawaal, wo baras jab har khabar sabse pehle aapko sunayi jaati thi. Isiliye band darwaza itna chubh sakta hai.
Bachche ka saath chahne ki ye chaah aakhri baar kab mann mein uthi, aur us waqt aapke aaspaas kya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Dahleez par halki si dhansan #
Kuch maa-baap ise ek chhoti dhansan ki tarah mehsoos karte hain: jab hanskar kaha gaya “Good morning” ek bina dekhe sir hilane mein kho jaye, ya kisi kamre se hansi bahar aaye aur kadmon ki aahat par darwaza phir bhid jaye.
Ehsaas aksar soch se pehle aata hai: ek chubhan, ek jhatpat “Theek hai, toh”, darwaze se ek kadam peeche hatna, khaane ke baare mein poochha gaya sawaal jo irade se tez nikal jaye. Sochna baad mein hota hai, aksar bartan maanjte hue.
Pichhli baar jab aapke teenager ne aapka saath thukraya, to kuch bhi kehne se pehle shuru ke pal mein aapko kya laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Wo nazdeeki sachchi thi #
Ye ummeed jaayaz isliye lagti hai ki wo nazdeeki sachchi thi. School ki chhutti par lene jaana, ghutnon ki choten, sone se pehle ki kahaniyan aur saajha mazaak milkar saath bitaye waqt ko rishte ki seedhi shakl bana dete hain, koi alag se maangi cheez nahi.
Kisi ke kareeb hone par hum maan lete hain ki wo hamari bahut si bina kahi baatein samajhta hai. Maa-baap mahinon tak saath waqt ki chaah chupchaap dhote rah sakte hain, jabki doosri taraf se wo sirf ek dastak aur homework ka sawaal dikhta hai.
Agar teenager ke saath waqt ek aam Sunday ka ek ghanta ho, to us ghante mein aap dono ke beech kya chal raha hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Shuru ke barson ko yaad karti awaaz #
“Pehle toh sab batate the.” “Main toh ab bas driver hoon.” “Doston ko poora bachcha milta hai, humein bacha-khucha.” Ye awaaz aksar darwaza band hone ki khat ke baad bolti hai, ya kisi rishtedaar ki family photo scroll karte hue.
Kuch nirashayein isliye chubhti hain ki wo waade jaisi lagin, chahe kisi ne kaha na ho. Shuru ki nazdeeki ek aise qaraar jaisi lagti hai jo bas chalte rehna chahiye, jabki kisi teenager ke saath uski sharten kabhi tay hi nahi huin.
Jab ye awaaz aaj ki tulna un barson se karti hai jab wo sab batate the, to wo kaun sa pal uthati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Shaamon ki tasveer kahan se aati hai #
Kuch logon mein ye tasveer apne hi ghar se aati hai: ek TV ke saamne saara parivaar, sab ek saath khaana khate hue, chachere-mausere bade bhi badon ke saath hi baithe hue. Kuch gharon mein har umar mein shaam ka matlab hi saath baithna tha.
Kuch mein iska ulta hota hai: un barson mein apne maa-baap se doori, aur ye irada ki main aisa maa-baap banunga jiske paas bachcha is umar mein bhi baithna chahe. Kuch log aisi tasveer ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Aapke apne teenage mein maa-baap ke saath shaamein kaisi hoti thin, aur aage kya alag ho, ye kaise socha jaata tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Band darwaze ko padhne wala niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar hum kareeb hain, to wo mere aaspaas rehna chahenge,” ya “Jo waqt wo bahar bitate hain, wo humse chheena hua hai.” Pehla vaakya sunai deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har band darwaza aur har chhota jawab kaise padha jaye.
Ye niyam jaisa nahi lagta. Ye pyaar jaisa lagta hai, aur asli nazdeeki se ugta hai. Isiliye ise dekhna theek hai, apne teenager ko aaj jaisa hai waisa saamne rakhkar, sirf aath saal wale ko dekhkar nahi.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Nazdeeki ka matlab saath bitaya waqt, ye niyam aapke teenager ke saath kahan ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Darwaze par intezaar ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai: muskaan taakti shaamein, har chhote jawab ko taulna ki wo hum dono ke baare mein kya kehta hai, aur apne kisi kaam ki jagah darwaze ke aaspaas mandrana. Kuch dramatic nahi, phir bhi dhone mein bhaari.
“Na” ke liye taiyaar rehna shaam ka kaafi hissa kha sakta hai. Kuch maa-baap ko lagta hai ki ye taiyaari sawaal poochne se pehle hi shuru ho jaati hai, aur sawaal ke lehje ko rang deti hai.
Pichhle saal ghar ki kaun si aam shaam sabse zyada isi intezaar mein rangi rahi ki teenager aapka saath chahe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Dastak dete paanch saal aur #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “mere teenage bachchon ko mere saath waqt bitana chahiye” zor se baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad chai lekar dastak aur earphone ke beech se ek sir hilana, khaana khate hue seedhi par kadmon ki aahat par kaan lagana, Sunday ke baare mein ek message likhkar bhejna, ek film lagakar rok dena.
Ye tasveer hai, bhavishyavaani nahi, aur kabhi bhi rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usme kya hai: darwaze, khaane, earphone ke paar poochhe sawaal, jo ankaha reh gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us shaam mein kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us shaam ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Saath waqt, kis shakl mein? #
Saath ka waqt kai shakalein le sakta hai: poori dopahar bahar, car mein das minute, aadhi raat ko ghar ke doosre kamre se bheja gaya video, khaana kaise banta hai iska sawaal, ya ek hi kamre mein do log apna-apna kaam karte hue. Inmein se kuch pehle se ho raha hoga.
In barson mein kareeb hona aur apni zindagi hona, dono saath chal sakte hain. Kuch maa-baap paate hain ki is umar mein nazdeeki chhoti, atpati jagahon mein chali jaati hai, kitchen ki der raat ki baatcheet, kisi show par saajha mazaak, wo ghante nahi jo pehle bhare rehte the.
“Mere saath waqt bitao” mein jo kuch bhara hai, usme sabse zyada kya maayne rakhta hai, aur kaun sa hissa das minute mein sama sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Aapka teenager pehle se kya laata hai #
Kuch maa-baap kabhi-kabhi dekhna pasand karte hain ki unka teenager pehle se kya laata hai, chahe chhota ya adhoora ho: car mein oonchi awaaz mein bajaya gaya gaana, baghal ke kamre se bheji gayi mazedaar clip, aadhi raat ka koi sawaal, nikalte-nikalte ek jhatpat gale lagna.
Ye koi farz ya karz nahi, aur isse chaah waisi ki waisi rehti hai: yaad aana aur dekh paana saath-saath reh sakte hain. Bina maange mile chhote pal hi shayad sabse zyada dekhne laayak hote hain.
Kuch din kuch yaad nahi aata, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapka teenager aam hafte mein pehle se kya laata hai jise aap thoda zyada dekhna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Sulah, aur nazdeeki banaye rakhna #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki chaah zyada thi ya sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jitna waqt aap chahte ho aur jitna milta hai, uska faasla har shaam aur har band darwaze ka matlab tay karna band kar de.
Jo isme jaayaz hai, wo reh sakta hai: apne teenager ki zindagi ka hissa banne ki chaah, shuru ke barson ki nazdeeki ko aage kahin jagah milne ki chaah. Jo dheela pad sakta hai, wo pakad hai, taaki ek chhota jawab bas chhota jawab rahe, aur achhe paanch minute achhe ginte jaayein.
Ghar mein buniyaadi izzat aur hifazat kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, na aapke liye, na unke liye. Agar aapke teenager mein koi badlaav aapko unke liye fikar mein daale, aapke apne liye nahi, to wo is chaah se alag baat hai, aur use gambheerta se lena zaroori hai.
Is chaah ke saath sulah wali ek shaam sochiye: aapke apne ghanton mein kya hota, aur kis baat ka maza hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Seedhiyon ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Mere teenage bachchon ko mere saath waqt bitana chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah, kuch log taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo nazdeeki yaad aati hai, aur ab wo jo bhi shakl le, uska swagat hai.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas purane vaakya ke baghal mein khada hona hai.
Ye shuru mein feeka lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki unki apni line dheere-dheere purani ki thodi jagah le leti hai; kuch ko nahi lagta, aur dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo unki kami ko imaandaari se maane aur phir bhi unhein bade hone ki jagah de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch chaahatein seedhiyon par ruk sakti hain #
Teenager se judi har chaah isi hafte suljhani zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, pal bhar mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise Indore ke kisi flat ki seedhi par chhod di gayi chai ka cup.
Unke saath ki chaah jitne din chahein nijee reh sakti hai, aur phir bhi aapki rehti hai. Agar aapke teenager mein koi badlaav aapko unke liye fikar mein daale, aapke apne liye nahi, to wo is chaah se alag baat hai, aur use gambheerta se lena zaroori hai.
Aaj ki shaam ke liye khayal neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki ek band darwaze ko aapki baaki shaam ka faisla nahi karna.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar chaah thodi bhi dheeli ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Unke saath ki chaah ab bhi hai, par aam shaam mein band darwaza bas ek teenager ka darwaza ho sakta hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: chai darwaze par rakhkar apni chai kisi aaramdeh jagah peena, koi kitaab ya sair jo tal rahi thi, ya raat ka ek aasaan “Good night” jis par kuch daav par na ho.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Aage is chaah ke saath sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai, ye dekhte hain.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Unke darwaze se guzarte hue dhyaan dijiye ki aap kya sunne ki ummeed mein the
- Koi chhota jawab aaye to dekhiye ki wo mann mein kaun si kahani shuru kar raha hai
- Aaj apne liye jo kuch chaha, chahe chhota, use notice kijiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: shuru ke barson mein sabse zyada kya yaad aata hai?
- Apni usi umar ki tasveer sochiye, aur wo kamra jisme aap sabse zyada rehna chahte the
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Pehli baar kab dikha ki teenager ka darwaza band rehne laga, aur us shaam ka kya hua?
- Unke chhote dinon ka kaun sa pal sabse zyada yaad aata hai, aur wo itna kareeb kyun laga?
- Pandrah ki umar mein kiska saath sabse zyada bhaata tha, aur apne maa-baap ne use kaise liya?
- Agar teenager ke saath ki chaah thodi dheeli ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?
- Is hafte apne teenager ke saath ka kaun sa chhota pal aap thoda aur dekhna chahoge?