Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Maafi kisi hui galti ke liye hoti hai, aur inmein se zyadatar palon mein koi galti hai hi nahi.
Bahut se logon ke liye jaldi maafi maang lena ghar mein shanti rakhne ka tareeka tha.
Sorry ke neeche ek chupchaap niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar main jagah gheroon, to maafi maangni padegi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Senior ko har message maafi se shuru karna
- Koi aur takraye tab bhi khud sorry bol dena
- Bhejne se pehle message ko ek baar aur narm karke dobara padhna
- Apni raay par maafi maangna, aur phir use bahut dheeme se kehna
- Ro padne, thake hone ya ek minute maangne par bhi sorry kehna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Chennai ki branch mein chhutti ka message
Thursday ki dopahar, Chennai ki branch. Friday ko cousin ki mangni hai, chhutti chahiye. Aap Manager Sir ko likhte ho: “Sorry sir, disturb karne ke liye…”, phir jodte ho “Sorry, last moment par”, phir “Sorry, bas agar theek lage to”. Teen baar padhkar aur narm karte ho. Ek minute mein jawab aata hai: “Theek hai, enjoy.” Phir bhi din bhar kandhe kase rehte hain.
Jagah gherne par maafi?
Pehle saaf baat: apni zaroorat ki cheez maangna galat nahi, aur isse aapke baare mein kuch bura nahi nikalta. Par neeche ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ho jaata hai: “Agar main jagah gheroon, to maafi maangni padegi.” Ye tameez jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har sawaal, maang aur na aisi cheez lagne lagti hai jise pehle maaf kiya jaaye.
Pehle sorry se shanti rehti thi
Aisa niyam hum isliye pakadte hain kyunki kabhi pehle sorry bolna shanti rakhta tha. Shayad ghar mein mood pal mein badalte the aur jhat se sorry sab sambhaal deta tha. Shayad suna hoga, “Chal, sorry bol de, baat khatam kar.” Har haal mein, milansaar rehna chaahna bewakoofi nahi. Ye logon ki parwah aur apnapan chaahne se aata hai, aur ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Zaroorataein jo narm hokar gaayab huin
Har chhota sorry thoda chain leta hai. Maangein itni narm ho jaati hain ki lagbhag gaayab. Chhutti der se maangi jaati hai, madad maangi hi nahi jaati. Raay itni dheeme nikalti hai ki suni nahi jaati. Dheere-dheere apni hi zindagi mein mehmaan jaisa lagne lagta hai, jo hamesha thoda raaste mein hai. Aur ye saari narmi roz energy khaati hai, un cheezon ke liye jinhe maafi chahiye hi nahi thi.
Kya itne sorry zaroori hain?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: is niyam ko pakde rakhne se kya logon ne aapki zaroorataon ki kabhi zyada qadr ki? Ya zyadatar aapki zaroorataein chhoti hi huin? Manager Sir ne ek minute mein haan keh di; sorry ki zaroorat thi hi nahi. Maangna kaam aur saath rehne ka aam hissa hai. Thoda rukkar sochiye, agar chahein. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna uski keemat ke layak hai?
Sorry sirf asli galti ke liye
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap narm hona chhod dein ya kabhi maafi na maangein. Matlab ye ki sorry wahan rahe jahan sach mein kuch bigda ho. Chhutti seedhe maangi ja sakti hai, aur uske baad shukriya kaha ja sakta hai. Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai, ek baar mein ek message. Yahin se kuch chain lautta hai: apni zindagi mein jagah gherne ke liye pehle maafi nahi maangni padti.
If saying no or asking for something at home or work brings threats, being hurt or frightened, or money or papers held over you, that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleAgar main jagah gheroon, to maafi maangni padegi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMaangna galat nahi. Sorry asli galti ke liye rahe.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aaj ek sorry notice kijiye, use badle bina
- Din 2
Mann mein ek sorry ki jagah shukriya rakhkar dekhiye
- Din 3
Ek baar khud se poochiye: sorry, par kis baat ke liye?
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aakhri baar aapne kis baat ke liye sorry kaha jo galti thi hi nahi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Sabse pehle nikalne wala chhota-sa shabd #
Chennai ki bank branch mein pehli job ka doosra hafta. Counter ka waqt khatam hai, Manager Sir cabin mein hain. Aap kehte ya likhte ho: “Sorry sir, disturb kiya, ek chhota-sa sawaal tha.” “Sorry, beech mein tok diya.” “Sorry-sorry, meri hi galti hogi.” Maangne se pehle hi maafi nikal chuki hoti hai.
Har ek bahut chhoti hai, aur zyadatar kisi ko khatakti bhi nahi. Par din bhar jodein: sorry ke saath bheje messages, maafi mein lipte sawaal, kisi aur ke takrane par bhi sorry. Lagbhag har zaroorat ke aage ek chhoti-si maafi lagi hoti hai.
Aakhri baar ye kab pakad mein aaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us pal aap asal mein kis baat ki maafi maang rahe the, aur kya maafi jaisa kuch tha bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Maafi soch se pehle kyun aa jaati hai #
Kuch logon mein bolne se theek pehle ek halki jhijhak aati hai, kisi ka time ya dhyaan lene ke khayal se seena kas jaata hai. Maafi use narm karne nikal aati hai, jaise gend aati dekh haath apne aap upar uth jaaye. Isme kamzori ya bewakoofi nahi.
Pehle sorry kehna bachaav jaisa lag sakta hai: kisi ke chidhne se pehle maafi maang lo, to shayad koi chidhe hi nahi. Sharir seekh leta hai ki thodi maafi se pal aasaan ho jaata hai, aur phir har baar pesh karne lagta hai, tab bhi jab kisi ko bura lagta hi nahi.
Kuch maangne, asehmat hone ya na kehne se theek pehle aapke andar kya hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur maafi kis cheez se bachane ki koshish karti lagti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye aapki zaroorat ko khalal bana deta hai #
Har baat par sorry kehna gaur karne par chubh sakta hai, kyunki har sorry chupke se kehta hai ki aapki zaroorataein khalal hain. Sawaal, maang, na, yahan tak ki bas raaste mein khade hona, sab aisi cheezein lagne lagti hain jinhe pehle maaf kiya jaana chahiye.
Maafi kisi hui galti ke liye hoti hai, aur inmein se zyadatar palon mein koi galti hai hi nahi. Jab sorry har baat ki shuruaat, narmi aur ant ban jaaye, to doosron ke liye uska wazan ghatta hai, aur aapke liye ek bhaari matlab judta hai: ki aapki zaroorataein zara zyada hain.
Pichhle kuch sorry yaad kijiye: unmein se kitne kisi asli galti ke liye the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Baaki asal mein kisliye the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo kehti hai, kisi ko tang mat karo #
Us awaaz ki kuch pasandida lines hain. “Kisi ko pareshaan nahi karna.” “Maine abhi sorry kyun bola?” “Thoda aur narm kar doon, to theek rahega.” Wo aksar maangne se theek pehle bolti hai, aur theek baad mein phir.
Ye achhi tameez jaisi lagti hai, aur aksar wahi kehlati hai. Par achhi tameez shukriya, please aur excuse me keh sakti hai. Ye awaaz aage jaati hai: kuch bhi zaroorat hone par maafi maangne ko kehti hai, aur har maang ko chupke se jama hota chhota karz maanti hai.
Jab wo awaaz sorry kehne ko kehti hai, to kiski awaaz ke sabse kareeb hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur agar koi dost wahi sawaal poochne se pehle maafi maangta, to kya aap chahenge ki wo maange?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Bahuton ke liye ye ghar mein shanti rakhne ka tareeka tha #
Bahut se logon ke liye jaldi maafi maang lena ghar mein shanti rakhne ka tareeka tha. Agar kisi ka mood pal mein palat sakta tha, to jhat se “sorry” sab sambhaal deta tha, bhale galti kisi ki na ho. Bachche seekh jaate hain ki kamra shaant kaise rehta hai, aur barson wahi aazmate rehte hain.
Kuch ko sikhaya gaya ki achha bachcha zyada nahi maangta, behas nahi karta, aur pehle maafi maang leta hai: “Chal, sorry bol de, baat khatam kar.” “Bade ho, tumhi jhuk jao.” Kuch ne school ya office mein seekha ki sabse aasaan insaan bane rehna hi sabse surakshit hai.
Aapke ghar mein sabse zyada sorry kaun bolta tha, aur kise kabhi bolne ki zaroorat hi nahi padti thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Usse aapne kya seekha ki jagah gherne par kya hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Saare sorry ke neeche ek chupchaap niyam #
Sorry ke neeche ek chupchaap niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar main jagah gheroon, to maafi maangni padegi.” Kuch log uske kareebi rishtedaar dhote hain: “Meri zaroorataein sabse aakhir mein aati hain,” ya “Sabko khush rakhna mera kaam hai.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo tameez, namrata, milansaar hone jaise lagte hain, jinki zyadatar ghar aur office tareef karte hain. Isiliye wo tike rehte hain, tab bhi jab har baatcheet mein insaan thoda aur sikudta jaata hai.
Kuch ise aise ghar se jodte hain jahan mood upar-neeche hote the, kuch sabse bade ya chup rehne wale bachche hone se, kuch kisi se nahi. Ise dekha ja sakta hai: zaroorat hona takleef hai, to pehle maafi maango.
Ye niyam kahan ab bhi kaam aata hai, aur kahan aapko chhota karta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
In chhote-chhote sorry ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki zaroorataein kabhi kahi hi na jaayein, kyunki jab tak sorry aur narmi poori hoti hai, maang lagbhag gaayab ho chuki hoti hai. Kuch log chhutti, madad ya shift badalwane ke liye bahut der tak ruke rehte hain, kyunki maangna bojh daalne jaisa lagta hai.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Har sorry ek chhota qadam peechhe hai, aur kaafi saare ho jaayein to insaan apni hi zindagi mein mehmaan jaisa feel kar sakta hai, jo hamesha thoda raaste mein hai. Doosre bhi sorry ko sach maankar aapki zaroorataon ko chhota samajh sakte hain.
Kamzori se nahi. Kisi kamre mein hone bhar ki maafi maangte rehna thakata hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein isne kya liya: koi sawaal jo nahi poochha, koi na jo haan ban gayi, koi zaroorat jo narm hote-hote gaayab ho gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch aur saal, pehle sorry bolte hue #
Kisi aam kaam-kaaji din ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Jagah gheroon to maafi maangni padegi” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad chhutti ki arzi chaar baar dobara likhi gayi taaki chhoti lage, ek achha idea “Sorry, ye bewakoofi lag sakti hai” se shuru hua, galat order aaya aur chupchaap kha liya, kisi kursi se takrane par kursi ko sorry bol diya. Koi zaroorat shayad ankahi reh gayi kyunki sorry pehle pahunch gaya.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: messages, meeting, roke hue sawaal?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Sorry, par kis baat ke liye? #
Jab kuch bigda ho, tab maafi kaam ka shabd hai: koi vaada toota, koi chot pahunchi, koi galti hui. Unhin palon ke liye rakhi jaaye to uska matlab hai. Har sawaal aur maang par bikher di jaaye to wo bas raaste mein hone ka ehsaas bankar reh jaati hai.
Aksar imaandaar jawab hota hai “Poochne ke liye,” “Zaroorat hone ke liye,” “Yahan hone ke liye.” Is tarah saaf kehne par kai log dekhte hain ki ye aisi cheezein nahi jinke liye maafi chahiye.
Kai logon ko wo saaf, shishta aur bilkul theek lagta hai, aur saamne wala bhi use waise hi sunta hai.
Poochiye: sorry, par kis baat ke liye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur raasta: maafi ke bina wo vaakya kaisa sunaai deta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur karne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab log ek din apne sorry ginte hain, to kai ginti dekhkar hairaan hote hain, aur is par ki kitne kisi galti ke liye nahi the. Zyadatar poochne ke liye the, asehmati ke liye, darwaaze par khade hone ke liye, jawab ek ghanta der se dene ke liye.
Kuch ye bhi dekhte hain ki jin logon ki wo sabse zyada izzat karte hain, wo maangte samay shayad hi maafi maangte hain. Wo kehte hain “Ek sawaal tha” ya “Isme madad kar denge?” aur kisi ko bura nahi lagta. Maangna kabhi dikkat nahi tha; sorry ek aisa bojh dho raha tha jiski zaroorat nahi thi.
Aaj ka kaun-sa sorry, agar koi, sach mein kisi kiye hue ke liye tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur kaun-se sirf kamre mein aapko surakshit feel karane ke liye the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Maangne ka haq kamana nahi padta #
Sulah ka matlab kabhi maafi na maangna ya rukha ho jaana nahi. Matlab sorry ko wahan ke liye rakhna jahan wo baithta hai, aur apne sawaalon, zaroorataon aur na ko waise khada rehne dena jaise doosron ke rehte hain.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo kuch sorry ki jagah shukriya rakh dete hain. “Der ke liye sorry” ki jagah “Intezaar ke liye shukriya.” “Sorry, disturb kiya” ki jagah “Aapke time ke liye shukriya.” Saamne wale ko phir bhi izzat milti hai, aur aapko sikudna nahi padta.
Aaj ek chhoti-si cheez aise maangna kaisa lagega jaise aap chahte ki koi dost aapse maange: seedhe, garmjoshi se, aage sorry lagaye bina?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Kisi ko pareshaan nahi karna” barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe behas ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iski jagah ek sachcha vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mujhe maangne ka haq hai, aur maangna koi galti nahi.”
Iska abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Itna kaafi hai ki ye purane se zyada sahi ho, aur kuch log paate hain ki dheere aur baar-baar kehne par ye us jagah ka thoda hissa le leta hai jo sorry gherte the.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kaisa hoga, jo aapki narmi banaye rakhe, par yahan hone ke liye maafi na maangne de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har nikal gaye sorry ko pakadkar sudharna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, un par muskuraya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai. Aadat barson mein bani hai, aur usse ek din mein nahi ladna.
Ye khud ko chhoot dena nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki energy kahan jaaye, aur kuch logon ko lagta hai ki bina daante, narmi se gaur karna hi sorry ko dheere-dheere kam karta hai.
Aaj shaam aadat ko neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki ye maayne nahi rakhti. Bas itna ki maafi maangne ki bhi maafi maangna zaroori nahi, aur baaki raat mein ek aur chhota sorry nahi dhona.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda dheela ho jaaye #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam zara dheema pad gaya. Tameez aur narmi rehti hain, par sorry wahan rakha hai jahan kuch bigda ho.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: seedhe “Ek sawaal tha” ke saath poochna, sorry ki jagah shukriya, raay saamanya awaaz mein, aur jagah gherte hue jhijhak na hona.
Isme se kuch bhi kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi ubhre wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak. Ise theek se dekhna chahein to ek chat bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmaate hain #
- Aaj ek sorry notice kijiye, abhi kuch badle bina
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: sorry, par kis baat ke liye?
- Mann mein ek sorry ki jagah shukriya rakhkar dekhiye
- Sorry nikalne se pehle ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Dekhiye ki maafi ke bina maang aapko kaisi sunaai deti hai
Chhote, nijji aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aakhri baar aapne kis baat ke liye sorry kaha jo galti thi hi nahi?
- Bachpan mein aapke ghar mein sabse zyada sorry kaun bolta tha?
- Bina sorry ke maangne par aapko kya hone ka darr lagta hai?
- Ek aam din jab niyam zor se bole, aap kya taal rahe hote ho?
- Niyam thoda dheela ho to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?