Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye ummeed ki koi bina kahe samajh jaye, bahut insaani hai, aur saamne wale ke liye ek mushkil paheli bhi.
Kuch logon mein ye kisi aise insaan se aayi jisne suna: ek dadi jo “Hoon, phir?” kehkar sarson ka saag chalati rahin, ek teacher jinhone ek bhi sawaal poochhne se pehle poori baat nikalne di, ek dost jisne bas kaha “Yaar, ye toh bura hua.”
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar unhein mere ehsaas ki parwah hoti, to salaah dene se pehle poochhte,” ya “Pehle madad milna yaani bilkul suna na jaana.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Shuru mein hi keh dena: “Salaah nahi chahiye, bas batana tha”
- Khabar tabhi dena jab sab sulajh chuka ho, taaki sudharne ko kuch na bache
- Chhota, halka roop sunana, aur asli hissa apne paas rakhna
- Salaah se behas karna, aur phir call jaise khatam hui us par bura lagna
- Badle mein kisi dost ko batana, aur baad mein halki-si kasak mehsoos karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Wo bura din jiske liye phone kiya
Wednesday ki shaam, Gurugram ke PG se ghar ki call. Office mein din bura raha: ek client chillaya, aur aapka project phir tal gaya. Aap Mummy ko batate ho, bas itna chahte hue ki koi kahe “Beta, ye toh mushkil hai.” Jawab aata hai “Apne manager se baat kar le,” aur Papa bhi batane lagte hain ki wo kya karte. Aap “Achha, achha” kehkar mausam ki baat chhed dete ho. Call ke baad din bhaari lagta hai.
Wo bas sun lein
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Jab main bura din bataun, wo bas sunein.” Ye chahne mein chhoti baat lagti hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: ghar ki har call ko is exam mein badal deta hai ki wo sahi jawab dete hain ya nahi. Har salaah is saboot ki tarah padti hai ki wo baat chook gaye. Aur jo mushkil din aap rakhna chahte the, wo call mein bhi saath chalta hai, aur bahar bhi.
Gharwalon ka sunna sukoon kyun deta hai
Hum ye isliye pakadte hain kyunki jinhone hamein pala, unke sunne mein ek khaas sukoon hota hai. Shaayad kabhi kisi dadi ne ghante bhar bina ek tok ke aapko suna. Shaayad ghar jawabon ki jagah raha, aur aap hamesha doosri cheez chahte rahe. Jo bhi ho, ye chaah nashukri nahi. Ye bade insaan ki tarah bade ehsaason ko manyata chahne se aati hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Call ke baad aur door lagna
Salaah mein badalti har call aapko thoda aur door chhodti hai. Aap phone karne se pehle apne din kaatne-chhaantne lagte ho, mushkil hisse bahar rakhte ho. “Tu aisa kar” aane se pehle hi taiyaar rehte ho. Shaam ki sair mein call dohrate ho, mann mein jawab dete hue. Ghar ki callein chhoti aur halki hoti jaati hain, aur jo nazdeeki chahi thi wo patli padti hai. Aapka chain unke jawab se bandh jaata hai.
Kya sahi jawab itna zaroori hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya unke bas sunne ka intezaar karne se kabhi call ka rang badla? Ya zyadatar callein aur mushkil se achhi lagin? Salaah kai jagah se aa sakti hai, aur apni kahan se aayi, ye bas wahi jaante hain. Jo bhi ho, wo kaise jawab dete hain ye is baat ka paimana nahi ki aapke ehsaas ginte jaate hain ya nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna call dar call deta kam hai, leta zyada.
Aapke ehsaas phir bhi ginte jaate hain
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki sune jaane ki chaah chhoot jaye. Matlab ye ki mushkil din ginta jaata hai, jawab aap jaisa chahein waisa ho ya na ho. Aap salaah ko mausam ki tarah guzarne de sakte ho, aur call ke jo hisse achhe lage wo rakh sakte ho. Aap khud ko pehle “Ye toh mushkil hai” keh sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: ghar ki callein halki ho sakti hain, aur ehsaas aapke apne rehte hain.
If talking at home ever leads to a reaction that frightens you, that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleJab main bura din bataun, wo bas sunein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere ehsaas ginte jaate hain, salaah mile tab bhi.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Mushkil din ke baad khud se kahiye, “Ye toh mushkil hai”
- Din 2
Jo salaah nahi chahiye thi, use bas guzar jaane dijiye
- Din 3
Agli ghar ki call ka ek hissa dekhiye jo aapko achha laga
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapki zindagi mein sabse achha kaun sunta hai, aur wo kya karta hai jo aur koi nahi karta?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Vaakya ke beech mein ugti ek chaah #
PG ki roommate se hui anban ke baare mein Mummy ko batate-batate beech mein hi sujhav aane lagte hain, aur vaakya ke beech ek chaah ubharti hai: “Mummy-Papa ko bas sunna chahiye, hal nahi batana chahiye.”
Iske peechhe ek chhoti, saaf chaah hai: kisi bure din ki kahani aakhir tak pahunche aur bas sun li jaye, isse pehle ki koi tay kare ki uska kya karna hai.
Aakhri baar kab aapne Mummy ya Papa ko kuch mushkil batana shuru kiya, aur kahani ke kis mod par hal aane lage?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Kahani ke beech girta shutter #
Kuch log ise halki-si giraavat ki tarah pehchante hain, jab Mummy ya Papa kehte hain “Achha, toh tu aisa kar…”: ek band hota-sa ehsaas, kahani achanak munh mein chhoti, aur baaki kisi aur din ke liye ya kisi aur ke liye rakh di jaati hai.
Kuch ko “Arre, positive socho” ya “Itna serious mat lo” par garmi ki ek lapat lagti hai, behas ka ek tez mann jiska salaah se kam aur poori baat na keh paane se zyada lena-dena hota hai.
Pichhli baar jab Mummy ya Papa kisi hal ke saath beech mein koode, to aapne jawab dene se pehle us pal kya mehsoos kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Pehle suna jaana chahna jaayaz hai #
Madad milne se pehle sune jaane ki chaah bahut aam hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki ek mushkil din ko soche jaane se pehle zor se kaha jaana zaroori hai, aur beech mein kati kahani din ka ehsaas wahin chhod deti hai, kisi plan se achhoota.
Ye ummeed ki koi bina kahe samajh jaye, bahut insaani hai, aur saamne wale ke liye ek mushkil paheli bhi. Bahar se, pareshani ki kahani madad ki maang jaisi hi dikh sakti hai, jab chahiye tha bas uske saath koi saath baithe.
Agar Mummy-Papa ke sunne ki tasveer ek aam phone call mein banani ho, to wo kya kahenge, aur kya ankaha chhod denge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Kahani poori karne wali awaaz #
“Maine ye thodi poochha tha ki kya karna hai.” “Poori baat kyun nahi sunte?” “Agli baar se kuch batana hi nahi hai.” Ye awaaz aksar call katte hi bolti hai, jab kahani ka ankaha aadha hissa ab bhi mann mein ghoom raha hota hai.
Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki “Chal chhod, khush reh” mushkil din ko wahin chhod deta hai jahan wo tha, aur “Is baare mein mat socho” upar se ek doosri chhoti chot jod sakta hai. Kaise mehsoos karna hai, ye bataya jaana aur suna jaana do alag cheezein hain.
Jab awaaz Mummy-Papa ke saath wo baatcheet dohrati hai jo seedhe hal par pahunchi, to kahani ka kaun-sa hissa wo chahti hai ki suna jaata?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Sune jaane ki tasveer kahan se shuru hui #
Kuch logon mein ye kisi aise insaan se aayi jisne suna: ek dadi jo “Hoon, phir?” kehkar sarson ka saag chalati rahin, ek teacher jinhone ek bhi sawaal poochhne se pehle poori baat nikalne di, ek dost jisne bas kaha “Yaar, ye toh bura hua.”
Kuch mein ye ulte se aayi: bachpan mein ghutna chhilne par “Rona band karo, kuch nahi hua hai,” report card thamaya aur minute bhar mein tuition ka plan aa gaya. Kuch log aisi tasveer ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Sabse pehle kis insaan ne aapko bina kuch theek kiye poori kahani khatam karne di, aur jab aap bol rahe the to wo kya kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Har jawab ko taulne wala niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar unhein mere ehsaas ki parwah hoti, to salaah dene se pehle poochhte,” ya “Pehle madad milna yaani bilkul suna na jaana.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har jawab kaise liya jaye.
Ye niyam kam aur seedhe-saade shishtachar jaisa zyada lagta hai, aur isme asli dum hai. Isiliye ise dekhna zaroori hai, Mummy-Papa ke saath aur unke aaj ke aapse baat karne ke dhang ke saath.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ki Mummy-Papa se baatcheet mein pehle sune jaane wala niyam kahan ab bhi baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Beech mein kati kahaniyan kya le jaati hain #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai office ka koi mushkil hafta jo ghar par kabhi nahi bataya gaya, kisi dost ki fikr jo parivaar ki call se bahar rakhi gayi, ghar ka ek weekend jismein har vishay halka raha kyunki bhaari baat kahin plan mein na badal jaye.
Ye lautkar bhi aa sakta hai. Jab Mummy-Papa ko batana samasya saunpne jaisa lagne lage, to kuch log batana band kar dete hain, aur phir Mummy-Papa kam jaante hain, jisse unki agli salaah aur bhi door padti hai.
Pichhle kuch mahino ko dekhein to zindagi ka kaun-sa hissa aapne Mummy-Papa se baat mein chhod diya, us salaah ki wajah se jo wo saath le aata?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Aadhi sunayi kahaniyon ke paanch saal aur #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “wo bas sun lein” zor se baje. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad ek call jismein kisi mushkil meeting ki kahani aadhe mein ruk jaye kyunki pehla hal aa gaya, ek jhatpat “Haan, ho jayega,” aur baaki din ki baat metro mein dost ke liye bachi hui.
Isme kuch bhi bhavishyavani nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein hatayi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: ghar ki call, aadhi sunayi kahaniyan, baad ke liye rakhi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Suna jaana, kis tarah? #
Nazdeeki kisi zaroorat ko aisa dikha sakti hai jaise wo bina kahe saaf ho. Kuch log paate hain ki apni zaroorat seedhe kehna, jaise “Mujhe bas batana hai, abhi koi plan nahi,” andaaze se behtar jaata hai; kuch paate hain ki nahi jaata, aur us gunjaish ki bhi asliyat hai.
“Bas sun lo” ke kai matlab ho sakte hain: poori baat kehne di jaye, koi sawaal poochha jaye, “Ye toh mushkil hai” sunayi de, ya kaise mehsoos karna hai ye na bataya jaye. Mummy-Papa inmein se ek kar paayein aur doosra nahi.
“Bas sun lo” ke shabdon mein jo kuch bhara hai, usmein se kaun-sa hissa Mummy-Papa ke saath ek aam call par sabse zyada farq daalega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Salaah ke neeche kya chala aata hai #
Jis sunne ki aapko aas thi, uske bagal mein aisi cheezein ho sakti hain jo Mummy-Papa ki taraf se pehle se aati hain, chahe kitni bhi bedhangi: agle din wapas call ki baat kaisi rahi, phone par aapki awaaz bujhi lagi to pasandida pakwan banana, ek message jo bas kahe “Kuch kha lena.”
Inhein pehchanna koi udhaar chukana nahi hai, aur isse chaah najayaz nahi hoti; dono sach ho sakti hain. Plan ya recipe mein lipatkar tirchha aane wala pyaar chhoot jaana aasaan hai, jab salaah ab bhi goonj rahi ho.
Aaj kuch na soojhe to theek hai.
Saari salaah ke neeche, ek aam hafte mein Mummy-Papa pehle se aapko kya dete hain jise aap thaame rakhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Poori kahani, apni rakhi hui #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye zyada maangna tha, ya ki ye sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jaisi baatcheet ki aas thi aur jaisi hui, unke beech ka faasla iska faisla karna band kar de ki Mummy-Papa ke saath kya baanta jaye aur kya rok liya jaye.
Jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: kahani poori karne ki chaah, ek mushkil din ka hal nikalne se pehle suna jaana. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo hai ek salaah ka kitna faisla ban jaana, taaki use table par pada rehne diya jaye aur poori baatcheet haath se na jaye.
Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Agar ghar par baat karne se kabhi aisi pratikriya mile jisse darr lage, to use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Is chaah se sulah wali ek call sochiye: aap unhein kya batayenge, aur usmein aapko kya achha lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Call ke baad ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Mummy-Papa ko bas sunna chahiye, hal nahi batana chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mujhe pehle suna jaana chahiye tha, aur kahani ab bhi meri hai, wo chahe jo sujhayein.” Ise bas purane vaakya ke bagal mein khada hona hai.
Shuru mein ye ajeeb lag sakta hai, jaise unke paar baat karna. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki apne shabdon ka vaakya purane wale ki thodi jagah le leta hai; kuch ko nahi, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo sune jaane ki chaah ke baare mein imaandaar ho aur phir bhi kahani aapke haath mein rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch salaahein table par padi reh sakti hain #
Har salaah ka jawab dena, usse behas karna ya use maanna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, sir hilaya ja sakta hai aur table par chhoda ja sakta hai, jaise Ludhiana ke family group mein forward ki gayi tips ki list jo bina padhe padi rahe.
Ek kahani doston ke paas ya apne paas jitni der chahein reh sakti hai. Agar ghar par baat karne se kabhi aisi pratikriya mile jisse darr lage, to use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai. Ek mushkil din bataya jaye ya na bataya jaye, aapka hi rehta hai.
Aaj shaam is khayal ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki ye theek tha, ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki ghar wali pichhli call aaj raat dobara nahi bajani.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar salaah zara kam bhaari lage #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Sune jaane ki chaah ab bhi hai, par salaah bas salaah hai, baatcheet ka ant nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: kisi aise dost ko poora mushkil din batana jo bas sunta hai, ghar lautte hue paidal kahani mann mein poori kar lena, ya call ko uske garam hisson ke liye yaad rakhna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Aage, is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Call se pehle dekhiye ki is baar aapko hal chahiye ya saath
- Salaah aaye to dekhiye ki wo kahani par pad rahi hai ya aap par
- Aaj ki ek cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Kahani apne mann mein poori kar lijiye, aakhir tak
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: us baatcheet se mujhe kya chahiye tha, ek shabd mein?
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapki zindagi mein sabse achha kaun sunta hai, aur wo kya karta hai jo aur koi nahi karta?
- Mummy ya Papa ki kaun-si salaah aapke sir mein ab bhi goonjti hai, aur kab?
- Kaun-si kahani aapne Mummy-Papa ko sunani shuru ki aur kabhi poori nahi kar paaye, aur uska ant kya tha?
- Agar Mummy-Papa se bas sunne ki chaah thodi halki ho, to sabse pehle aap kya dekhenge?
- Saari salaah ke neeche, Mummy-Papa kaun-si chhoti cheez pehle se karte hain jise aap aur dekhna chahenge?