Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Parivaar mein dono taraf se bahut kuch ankaha reh sakta hai.
Kuch logon mein ye school ke us inaam vitaran tak jaati hai jahan doosron ke maa-baap zor se taali baja rahe the, ek bina tippani ke sign hua report card, ya wo cousin jiske har certificate ko Chachi ne frame karwaya.
Andar koi niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Unhein garv hota to wo keh dete,” ya “Jab tak wo kahein nahi, achhi khabar poori nahi hui.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Har khabar ghar bhejna, phir screen par jawab ka intezaar karna
- Achhi khabar batana hi band kar dena, taaki intezaar karne ko kuch na rahe
- Kisi bhai-behen ya mausi se poochhna ki maa-baap ne aapke baare mein kya kaha
- Agli, badi cheez ki or badhna, is ummeed mein ki wahi ab kaam karegi
- Zid karna ki ab zaroorat nahi, aur har baar phir bhi khaalipan mehsoos hona
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Achha hai, khaana time se khaana”
Promotion ke baad Indore se ghar phone karte ho, dil tez dhadakta hai, aur khabar sunate ho. Mummy kehti hain “Achha hai, khaana time se khaana, theek?” Papa agli baar aane ki baat poochhte hain, phir mausam ki. Das minute aur doosri baatein hoti hain. Phone rakhkar aap sofe par baithe rehte ho, phone haath mein, aur jis shabd ka intezaar tha, wo ab bhi ankaha hai.
Garv bolkar kaha jaana chahiye
Andar ek niyam baitha hai: “Agar unhein mujh par garv hai, to unhein kehna chahiye.” Seedha-sa lagta hai: kuch shabd, bas. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki apni achhi khabar par ek taala laga deta hai jo sirf unke vaakya se khulta hai. Jab tak wo nahi bolte, aapki uplabdhi aadhi rehti hai, aur wo shaayad khaane, fikr aur sawaalon ki bhasha mein bol rahe hon.
Maa-baap ke shabd itne bhaari kyun
Hum ise isliye thaamte hain kyunki maa-baap ke shabdon ka wazan kisi aur ke shabdon jaisa nahi hota. Shaayad aapne unhein kisi cousin ki tareef karte suna aur socha ki aapki baari kab aayegi. Shaayad ghar mein tareef kam hoti thi, aur tab se aap usi ek vaakya ki or chalte rahe. Jo bhi ho, ise chahna kamzori nahi hai. Ye unke liye maayne rakhne ki chaah hai, aur use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har phone utaarta hai chamak
Har phone jo bina us shabd ke khatam hota hai, aapke kiye ki chamak thodi utaar deta hai. Aap unhein kam batane lagte ho, ya zyada, is ummeed mein ki is baar pahunchega. Kaam par jaate hue unke jawab dohrate ho. Aapki jeetein chhoti lagne lagti hain, kyunki wo ek muhar ka intezaar kar rahi hain. Aapka sukoon unke vaakya mein rehne lagta hai, aur ghar ki har yatra mein ek chupchaap pariksha chalti hai.
Kya us shabd ka intezaar laayak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya un shabdon ke intezaar ne kabhi aapki achhi khabar ko behtar mehsoos karaya? Ya zyadatar use adhoora chhoda? Kai maa-baap garv tirchha dikhate hain: padosiyon ko batakar, akhbaar ki katran sambhalkar, khaane ka poochhkar. Jo bhi ho, unka vaakya aapke kiye ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar thaame rakhna aapko deta kam hai, leta zyada.
Pehle khud par garv
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki sunne ki aas chhoot jaye. Matlab ye ki aapki achhi khabar ke gine jaane ke liye ab unka vaakya zaroori nahi. Aap pehle, poori tarah, usi pal apne kiye par garv kar sakte ho. Shabd agar aayein, to wo chaabi nahi, tohfa ban jaate hain. Aur shaayad aap dekh lein ki parwah pehle se doosre roopon mein aa rahi hai. Yahin se kuch sukoon laut sakta hai: aapki uplabdhiyan phir aapki apni hain.
If good news at home has ever been met with anger or threats, that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleAgar unhein mujh par garv hai, to unhein kehna chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya rulePehle garv karna mere haath mein hai. Unke shabd bonus hain.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aaj ki ek cheez ke liye khud se “Shabaash” kahiye
- Din 2
Dekhiye parwah doosre roopon mein bhi aati hai, jaise pakaya khaana
- Din 3
Agli achhi khabar baantne se pehle ek din khud jee lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Parivaar ke bahar kisne aapse kaha ki use aap par garv hai, aur wo pal kaisa laga?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek vaakya jiska ab bhi intezaar hai #
Indore ke office ke naye ID card ki photo parivaar ke WhatsApp group mein jaati hai. Jawab jaldi aata hai, pyaar bhara, “Bahut badhiya, khush raho”, aur usmein wo shabd nahi hota. Phir ek vaakya uthta hai: “Mummy-Papa ko kehna chahiye ki unhein mujh par garv hai.”
Ye jo maangta hai, wo chhota aur theek-theek hai: koi bhashan nahi, koi dawat nahi, bas ek seedha vaakya jismein wo shabd ho, ek baar, aapke saamne kaha gaya, aapke baare mein kisi teesre se nahi.
Aakhri baar aapne kab maa-baap ko koi khabar sunayi thi is ummeed mein ki wo vaakya sunne ko mile, aur khabar kya thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Teen baar padha gaya jawab #
Kuch log ise ruki hui saans ki tarah mehsoos karte hain: sandesh bhejne ke baad phone table par seedha rakha, phir jawab ki jhatpat nazar, “Achha hai. Lage raho.” ya “Theek hai beta”, aur phir doosri, dheemi nazar, us shabd ki talaash mein jo wahan nahi hai.
Giraavat kisi bhi soch se pehle aa sakti hai: halka-sa baithta mann, chehre par garmi, phir dimaag mein jaldi ki behas ki is baat ka bura maanna bhi theek hai ya nahi. Kuch log is umar mein parwah karne par khud ko bewakoof lagte hain, jisse chubhan maanna aur mushkil ho jaata hai.
Pichhli baar jab maa-baap ne aapki achhi khabar ka jawab diya, to ye tay karne se pehle ki kaisa mehsoos karna hai, aapko kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Chaah ki mehnat unn tak pahunchi #
Ye sunna chahna ki aapki mehnat maa-baap tak pahunchi, ek jaayaz chaah hai. Pariksha, form aur subah jaldi uthne ke baras aksar aanshik roop se unhin ki aankhon ke saamne beette hain, isliye ye ummeed samajh mein aati hai ki unhone dekha, aur kahenge bhi.
Parivaar mein dono taraf se bahut kuch ankaha reh sakta hai. Maa-baap ka maan shabdon tak pahunche ya na pahunche; aur bade ho chuke bachche ki use sunne ki chaah bhi shaayad kabhi shabdon tak na pahunche. Dono barson tak chup reh sakte hain.
Agar maa-baap wahi vaakya keh dein jo aap sunna chahte ho, shabd-dar-shabd, to wo theek-theek kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Shabd ka intezaar karne wali awaaz #
“Shaayad agli cheez ke baad.” “Doosron ke maa-baap toh kitni aasaani se keh dete hain.” “Ek vaakya kehne mein unka kya chala jaata?” Ye awaaz aksar tab bolti hai jab do shabdon ka jawab dobara padha ja raha ho, ya auto mein us khaane ke baad jahan khabar par ek sir hila aur baat aage badh gayi.
Aisi chaah chupchaap peechha karne mein badal sakti hai: har uplabdhi ek qatar mein jaise wahi ho jo shaayad ab wo vaakya le aaye. Kuch log dekhte hain ki cheez ka maza lena khud mushkil ho jaata hai, kyunki uska ek kaam hamesha ghar par dikhaya jaana bhi tha.
Jab awaaz kehti hai ki agli uplabdhi shaayad wo shabd le aaye, to wo pehle se kaun-si uplabdhi ki or ishara kar rahi hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Shabd ke intezaar ki jad kahan hai #
Kuch logon mein ye school ke us inaam vitaran tak jaati hai jahan doosron ke maa-baap zor se taali baja rahe the, ek bina tippani ke sign hua report card, ya wo cousin jiske har certificate ko Chachi ne frame karwaya. Doosron ke liye kahi gayi shaan sunna tay kar sakta hai ki wo kaisi sunayi deti hai.
Kuch mein ye un shabdon se aati hai jo ulti disha mein gaye: “Sir par mat chadho”, “Ye toh koi bhi kar leta”, ya tareef jo rishtedaaron ke phone ke liye bacha li gayi aur bagal ke kamre se sun li gayi. Kuch log aisi chaah ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Bade hote hue kaun-sa pal tha jisne pehli baar sikhaya ki aapke parivaar mein garv kaise sunayi deta hai, aur tab bolne wala kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Chaah ke neeche ka chup niyam #
Andar koi niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Unhein garv hota to wo keh dete,” ya “Jab tak wo kahein nahi, achhi khabar poori nahi hui.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki koi promotion ya poori ki hui degree aapki apni lagegi ya nahi.
Niyam ke roop mein ye mushkil se dikhta hai; ye ek saamanya chaah jaisa lagta hai, aur neeche ki chaah ek garam chaah hai. Isiliye ise dekhna theek hai, aaj ke maa-baap aur aapki asal zindagi ke saath.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ki zindagi ke kaun-se hisson mein “wo shabd sunna” wala niyam ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kaun-se mein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Peechha karna saal bhar mein kya maangta hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai nayi job ek shaam manayi gayi aur phir ghar ke jawab se naapi gayi, achhi khabar ka ek poora hafta chat refresh karne mein gaya, ya koi chhoti jeet batayi hi nahi gayi kyunki uske baad ki chuppi rakhne se zyada chubhti.
Kuch aur bhi chupchaap kho sakta hai. Jab ghar ka shabd tay kare ki koi cheez ginti jayegi ya nahi, to aapka apna ehsaas ki aapne kya kiya, dhundhla pad sakta hai. Kuch log dekhte hain ki wo har baar ki ginti kar sakte hain jab wo shabd nahi kaha gaya, par ye batana mushkil lagta hai ki unhein kis baat par garv hai.
Pichhle kuch mahino mein aapka kaun-sa achha pal sabse zyada maa-baap ke jawab ke intezaar se aakar leta raha, aur uska kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Shabd ki talaash mein paanch saal aur #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Maa-baap ko mujhse kehna chahiye ki unhein garv hai” zor se baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad unhein khabar bhejna aur unka jawab teen baar us shabd ke liye padhna, kisi sahkarmi ke saath lunch jiska aadha hissa kahin aur beeta, koi chhoti jeet jo tab tak rok li gayi jab tak bhejne laayak badi jeet na aa jaye.
Yahan abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur isse kuch badalna bhi zaroori nahi.
Usmein kya hai: khabar, ghar bheje gaye sandesh, jawab, jo bataya nahi gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya ho jaata hai, aur kya intezaar karta rehta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Garv, kis roop mein? #
Kuch log paate hain ki maa-baap ka maan tirchha dikhta hai: rishtedaaron ko aage bheji gayi certificate ki photo, nayi job ke baare mein do baar poochha gaya sawaal, padosi ko sunayi gayi aapki koi kahani. Kuch aisa kuch nahi paate. Dono hota hai, aur koi bhi us shabd ki jagah nahi leta.
Maa-baap ke kareeb hona aur apni zindagi ka apna paimana rakhna dono saath ho sakte hain. Sunne ki chaah bani reh sakti hai, aur uske bagal mein aapke apne baare mein ek seedha vaakya, jo pehle apne mann mein kaha gaya ho.
Agar ek seedhe vaakya mein kehna ho ki is saal aapko kis baat par garv hai, to wo vaakya kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Chhote sanket jo pehle se aate hain #
Aapke kaam aur khabron ke aaspaas maa-baap se kuch cheezein pehle se aa rahi ho sakti hain, chahe kitni bhi dheemi: station tak chhodne ki gaadi, aapke peshe ke baare mein aadhi raat ko aage bheja gaya koi lekh, naye manager ka naam lekar haal poochhna.
Inmein se kuch bhi lautana nahi hai, aur inhein dekhne ka matlab us shabd ki ummeed chhodna nahi; dono saath khade reh sakte hain. Jawab mein ek khaas shabd dhoondhte hue tirchhe aane wale sanket aasaani se chhoot jaate hain.
Kuch haftom mein aisa kuch nahi hota, aur wo theek hai.
Maa-baap jo chhoti baat pehle se karte hain, usmein se kise aap thoda aur ginne dena chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Wo achhi khabar jo achhi lage #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki chaah bachkani thi, ya wo aapka haq hai. Matlab ye hai ki jis vaakya ki aas thi aur jo jawab aaya, unke beech ka faasla ye tay karna band kar de ki aapki achhi khabar achhi lagegi ya nahi.
Isme jo jaayaz hai, wo reh sakta hai: ye chahna ki aapko bada hote dekhne wale aapki mehnat dekhein, aur use ek baar seedhe shabdon mein kahein. Jo dheela pad sakta hai, wo intezaar hai, taaki khabar ka maza jawab aane se pehle, aur uske baad bhi, chahe wo kuch bhi kahe, liya ja sake.
Ghar mein buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Agar ghar mein achhi khabar ka jawab kabhi gusse ya dhamkiyon se mila ho, to use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Apni agli achhi khabar ki shaam sochiye, is ummeed se sulah ke saath: aap kahan honge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agli achhi khabar ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Mummy-Papa ko kehna chahiye ki unhein mujh par garv hai” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log aisa vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Unse sunna mujhe achha lagega, aur aaj is baat ki khushi meri apni bhi hai.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas purane vaakya ke bagal mein baithna hai.
Shuru ke kuch baar ye atpata lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki apna vaakya dheere-dheere thodi jagah banata hai; kuch ko lagta hai ki wo kabhi poora fit nahi hota, aur doosra hamesha aazmaya ja sakta hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo chaah ko banaye rakhe aur phir bhi aapki achhi khabar ko aapki rehne de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch chaahatein daraz mein intezaar kar sakti hain #
Maa-baap ko lekar har chaah isi saal nipatani zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek minute thaama ja sakta hai aur kisi mahfooz jagah rakh diya ja sakta hai, jaise Jaipur ke kisi ghar ki daraz mein pada purana certificate, ya palang ke neeche ke box mein rakhi convocation ki tasveer.
Kuch parivaar us tarah nahi kahenge jaisa aapne chaha, aur phone ke paas baithe rehna zaroori nahi. Agar ghar mein achhi khabar ka jawab kabhi gusse ya dhamkiyon se mila ho, to use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai. Sunne ki chaah nijee reh sakti hai, aur phir bhi asli hai.
Aaj shaam ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi, ya sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki aaj ki khabar ko ghar ke ek vaakya ka intezaar nahi karna hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja shaant hai. Sunne ki chaah ab bhi hai, par chhota jawab bas chhota jawab hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: khabar bhejna aur unke jawab se pehle apne bheetar ke garv ko mehsoos karna, kisi dost ke saath chai par achhe din ka jashn, ya ek certificate ko uske apne liye dekhna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne laayak hai. Aage, is par nazar ki is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur kya pehle se maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, thoda-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Is mahine ki ek cheez par dhyaan dijiye jis par aap chupchaap khush hain
- Ghar ka jawab padhne se pehle dekhiye ki khabar ke baare mein aap khud kaisa mehsoos karte ho
- Aaj ki ek cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: isme kaun-sa hissa karke mujhe achha laga?
- Dekhiye kaun-si baat zyada zor se hai: khabar khud, ya jawab ka intezaar
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Parivaar ke bahar kisne aapse kaha ki use aap par garv hai, aur wo pal kaisa laga?
- Ghar se aapki achhi khabar par kaun-sa jawab aap ab bhi dho rahe ho, aur usmein asal mein kya likha tha?
- Aap maa-baap se theek-theek kya sunna chahenge, aur wo kehte samay aap kahan hona chahenge?
- Agar maa-baap ke ye bolkar kehne ki chaah thodi halki ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?
- Is saal aapko kis baat par pehle se garv hai, chahe koi uske baare mein kuch bhi kahe?