Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Jo chubhan dheere-dheere baith rahi thi, uske saath ab doosri aa jaati hai: aisa lagna ki is par baat karna bhi had se zyada hai.
“Bas, hum ek hi baat ko baar-baar nahi khinchte.”
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Main zyada hi sensitive hoon,” ya “Mujhe in baaton par gussa nahi karna chahiye.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- “Theek hai” kehkar baat badal dena
- Samjhane ke liye aur zor lagana
- Sab apne tak rakhna aur akele dohrate rehna
- Ab tak parwah karne par sharm aana
- Tab tak rukna jab tak bina kisi ehsaas ke zikr ho sake
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Ab chhodo bhi” wala voice note
Thane ki shared auto mein ghar lautte hue, pichhle Sunday ki Didi wali behes phir mann mein ghoom rahi hai. Aapne Bhaiya ko bataya tha, aur jawab aaya: “Ab chhodo bhi, kab tak wahi purani baat? Mitti daalo.” Aapne “haan” kehkar phone rakh diya. Chot apni jagah hai, aur uske saath ek nayi cheez: ki itna waqt kyun lag raha hai, mano mann mein hi kuch galat ho.
Jaldi ubaro warna bahut zyada
Ye shabd ek niyam par girte hain jo pehle se ho sakta hai: “Jaldi ubar jao, warna bahut zyada ho.” Ye mazboot aur samajhdaar lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke ehsaas par miyaad laga deta hai. Aapka chain ab is par tik gaya ki chot utni hi der rahe jitni doosron ko aaramdeh lage, aur wo aksar bahut kam hoti hai.
Jaldi aage badhna kyun saraha gaya
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki jaldi aage badh jaane ki taareef hoti rahi. Shayad ghar mein naraaz rehne wale ko natakbaaz ya mushkil kaha jaata tha. Shayad aapne seekha ki chot chhipane se sabki shaanti bani rehti hai. Niyam bewakoofi nahi hai. Wo saath nibhane aur jhanjhat na banne ki chaah se aata hai. Use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Chot ka neeche dab jaana
Har “chhodo bhi” chot ko aur neeche daba deta hai. Aap us par baat karna chhod dete ho, par wo raat mein laut aati hai. Ab tak parwah karna sust aur betuka lagta hai. Sab kuch andar rakha jaata hai, jab tak wo thakan ya chidchidahat banakar bahar na aa jaye. Dheere-dheere apne hi ehsaas jhanjhat lagne lagte hain, aur unhein apne waqt par baithne ka mauqa nahi milta.
Kya jaldi karna iske layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya khud ko jaldi karne se kabhi chot jaldi bhari? Ya zyadatar wo chhipkar aur zyada tiki? Choten apna waqt leti hain, aur Bhaiya ke shabd unke apne the. Koi ehsaas kitna tikta hai, isse ye tay nahi hota ki aapke ehsaas bahut zyada hain. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iske layak hai?
Choten apna waqt leti hain
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki chot mein atke rehna hai. Matlab ye ki use bina kisi ki miyaad ke utna waqt mil sakta hai jitna chahiye. Aap use pehchan sakte ho, uske saath narmi barat sakte ho, aur use apne aap narm padne de sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: chot ko baithne ki jagah milti hai, aur “chhodo bhi” usi ke paas reh jaata hai jisne kaha.
If someone puts you down, threatens, hurts or frightens you for having feelings, that is something else, and worth taking seriously; staying quiet can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe jaldi ubar jaana chahiye, warna main bahut zyada hoon.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleChoten apna waqt leti hain.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Khud se kahiye: “Ab bhi chubhta hai, aur ye theek hai”
- Din 2
Aaj shaam apne liye ek narm kaam kijiye
- Din 3
Ek aise insaan ko yaad kijiye jo aapko waqt lene deta hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab unhone ye kaha, tab aapke mann mein kya atka hua tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Kuch shabd, jab chot abhi taaza ho #
Shaam ko Thane station se ghar ki shared auto, din bhar ki thakan ke baad. Dimaag mein pichhle Sunday ki behes phir chal rahi thi. Bhaiya ka voice note aaya: “Ab chhodo bhi, kab tak wahi purani baat pakde rahoge? Mitti daalo us par.” Aur baat wahin band ho gayi.
Ye vaakya koi bhai-behen, dost ya maa-baap bhi keh sakte hain, jab kisi rishtedaar ki chubhti baat ek baar phir nikal aaye: “Phir wahi purana raag,” “Kitni baar wahi baat?” Ye chot ya uski wajah ki baat nahi karta; ye ginta hai ki chot ko kitni der rehne ki ijaazat thi, aur jawab deta hai: bahut hua.
Agar baat kisi apne ke jaane, kisi badi takleef ya kisi gehre zakhm ki hai, to dheere chaliye; ye deck sirf chhoti choton aur jhagdon ki baat karta hai.
Aakhri baar ye kab suna, aur mann mein kya atka tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ye darwaza band hone jaisa kyun lagta hai #
Kuch logon ke gale mein kuch atakta hai, phir jhat se gussa, phir jaldi se “theek hai” jo theek nahi hota. Koi chup hokar baat badal deta hai, koi samjhane ke liye aur zor lagata hai. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko safai nahi deni.
Jab kuch kehna baaki ho aur usi waqt baat kaat di jaye, to body sochne se pehle hi asar pakad leti hai. Kuch logon ko baaki baat baad mein soojhti hai, raat mein, baar-baar dohrate hue.
Us pehli pratikriya se shayad pata chale ki kitna kehna baaki tha.
Jab wo shabd aaye, tab body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Band ho gayi, garam ho gayi, ya tan gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye chot ko nahi, waqt ko number deta hai #
“Wo behes mushkil thi” behes ke baare mein hai. “Chhodo bhi” behes ko chhodkar raftaar par number de deta hai, jaise chot ke bharne ki koi sahi speed ho aur wo chhoot gayi. Mann number sunta hai, baat nahi.
Isse pehli chot badi bhi lag sakti hai. Jo chubhan dheere-dheere baith rahi thi, uske saath ab doosri aa jaati hai: aisa lagna ki is par baat karna bhi had se zyada hai.
Aapke liye taal diya jaana chot ko chhota karta hai ya lamba?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar uske baare mein ek baat thi jo abhi kahi nahi gayi, to wo kya hoti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur use shuru se aakhir tak sunne wala aap kise chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab miyaad andar se aane lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar aa baithta hai. “Ab tak yahi baat kyun atki hai?” “Baaki sab toh aage badh gaye.” “Ab drama band kar.” Purani chot lautte hi ye chalu ho sakta hai, kisi aur ke kuch kehne se pehle.
Kehne wala baatcheet bhool bhi gaya ho, par ghadi ab andar chalti hai. Choten adhoori rakhi ja sakti hain, behes nigli ja sakti hai. Chunki ye aapki apni awaaz mein bolti hai, to kisi aur ki miyaad nahi, samajhdaari lagti hai.
Jab ye kehti hai ki ab tak toh nikal jaana chahiye tha, to awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya bahut pehle kisi ghar mein mili hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye ghadi bachpan mein chalu hui #
“Ro mat, ab ho gaya.” “Bas, hum ek hi baat ko baar-baar nahi khinchte.” Kuch log aise gharon mein bade hue jahan naraazgi se jaldi ubar jaana hi ummeed thi, aur dobara baat uthana tamasha maana jaata tha.
Kuch parivaaron mein jaldi aage badh jaana bhare-pure ghar mein shaanti banaye rakhta tha, aur wajahein alag-alag thi. Bachcha chupchaap ye samajh sakta hai ki chot ki ek chhoti-si miyaad hoti hai, aur uske baad jo bache use nijee rakhna hi theek hai.
Khatam hone se pehle khatam dikhna aapne kab seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab aas-paas kaun tha, aur dobara baat uthane par kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Main zyada hi sensitive hoon,” ya “Mujhe in baaton par gussa nahi karna chahiye.” Kuch logon ke paas iska halka roop hota hai: “Agar ab bhi chubh raha hai, to chup rehna behtar.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi nahi lagti. Wo saath nibhane wale insaan jaisi lagti hai, jaise mehmaan aane se pehle kamra sameit lena seedha-saada saleeqa hai. Isiliye ise dhoop mein nikaalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log ise shuruaati saalon tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Sab nigal jaane ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki choton par baat hi na ho, behesein adhoori reh jayein, aur chhoti-chhoti baatein chupchaap jama hoti rahein. Kuch log jo baat pareshan karti hai, uska zikr karna bahut pehle band kar dete hain, uske pareshan karna band karne se pehle hi.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab ehsaas ki miyaad tay ho, to aas-paas ke log baatein tab sunte hain jab wo khatam ho chuki hon, aur madad ya samajh ka mauqa kam milta hai. Saal bhar mein ye bahut-si shaamein ho sakti hain jo cheezon ko dohrane mein nikal gayin.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Andar rakhne mein mehnat lagti hai.
Pichhle saal iski keemat kya rahi: koi chot jiska kabhi zikr nahi hua, koi behes jo nipti nahi, koi shaam jo akele usi ko dohrane mein gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, waqt par ubarte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “ab tak toh ubar jaana chahiye tha” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad nashte par kaha gaya “theek hai,” office jaate safar mein ghoomti wahi purani behes, kisi dost ke message ka jawab jisme asli baat chhodkar baaki sab aaya, ek shaam jisme wo ek-do baar laut aati hai. Kuch jaana-pehchana ho sakta hai, kuch nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur ye tasveer koi anumaan nahi. Bas dekhne ke liye hai.
Usmein kya hai: baatein, messages, ankahi cheezein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kab tak, theek-theek? #
Chot ke feeke padne ka koi tay timetable nahi. Anjaan aadmi ki baat khane tak bhool sakti hai; kareebi ki teekhi baat zyada tik sakti hai. Ek hi ghatna alag-alag logon mein alag raftaar se baithti hai.
Kisi baat par dobara bolna usmein phanse rehna nahi hai. Ho sakta hai ek baar aur, kisi sunne wale se keh dena, aapke liye uske baithne ka hissa ho. Kuch logon ke liye hai, kuch ke liye nahi.
Ek aur tareeka: agar koi dost usi baat par utne hi din baad bhi pareshan hota, to aapko wo bahut lamba lagta, ya bas jitna lagta hai utna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jo cheezon ko waqt dete hain: ek dost jo kehta hai “phir se bata,” ek colleague jo hafte bhar baad haal poochta hai, ek cousin jise yaad hai ki kya hua tha. Wo awaazein hamesha se thi, bas dheemi thi.
Peeche mudkar dheere se dekhne par kuch log poochhte hain ki ab bhi mann mein kya atka hai: koi teekhi baat, koi toota vaada, koi na-insaaf pal, ya kuch aur?Is par baat kijiye ›
Shabdon mein chhipi miyaad ke baghal mein rakhkar dekhein to ye nazar aapko kya dikhati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Inmein se kaun si awaaz aapke mann mein aajkal chup ho gayi hai, aur jo baat saath chal rahi hai, uske baare mein wo kya kehti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Kisi ki miyaad poori karne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki waqai ubar jaane ka waqt aa gaya tha, na ye dikhana ki shabd chubhe nahi. Matlab itna ki ek tippani tay na kare ki chot ko kitna waqt milega, aur us par baat ho sakegi ya nahi.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo kisi aur ki khaatir khatam dikhne ki koshish chhod dete hain. Khatam hone ka dikhawa thakata hai, aur chot ko bina suljhe nazar se door rakh deta hai.
Jahan koi sach mein dobara zikr par bura bartaav kare, wahan chup rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Kaisa lagega agar shabd unhi ke rahein, aur chot ko utna waqt mile jitna lage?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “ab tak toh ubar jaana chahiye tha” saalon se baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek sachchi line rakhte hain: “Ab bhi chubhta hai, aur ise jitna waqt lage, lagne do.”
Ye sach lagni zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki dheere se, baar-baar kahi jaye to purani ki thodi jagah le leti hai, khaaskar jab koi purani chot laute.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachchi line kya hogi, jo ye bataye ki isme kitna waqt lag raha hai, aur raftaar ke liye daante nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har chot aaj raat nipatni zaroori nahi, aur har “chhodo bhi” ko jawab nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur shaam bhar ke liye neeche rakha ja sakta hai, bhaari bag ki tarah, zaroorat ho to kisi aur din uthane ke liye.
Ye haar maanna nahi, aur hukm par ubar jaana bhi nahi. Ye chunna hai ki aaj ki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse aaram ke liye jagah bachti hai, aur un logon ke liye jo un par ghadi nahi lagate.
Shaam bhar ke liye neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo sahi tha ya baat nipt gayi. Bas itna ki aaj ye baaki har cheez mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya. Jo baat ab bhi chubhti hai, wo bas utna waqt le sakti hai jitna lage.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: mann mein naam lena ki kaun sa hissa ankaha hai, kisi dost se kehna jo “phir se bata” kehta hai, ya “theek hai” ko bolne se pehle pakad lena.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne layak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya thoda bhi alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi miyaad wali awaaz”
- Chupchaap poochhiye: iska kaun sa hissa abhi ankaha hai?
- Gaur kijiye ki us pal mein kya zyada zor se laga: shabd, ya lehja
- Ek aise insaan ko yaad kijiye jo baaton ko unka waqt lene deta hai
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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