Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Khushmizaaj message ise aasaan nahi, mushkil bana sakte hain.
Bahut log wahi rahe jo intezaar karte the.
Neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Mera waqt tabhi ginti mein hai jab wo uski izzat karein,” ya “Mujhe intezaar bura lage to main adiyal hoon.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- “Koi baat nahi” kehna, aisi muskaan ke saath jo theek nahi lagti
- Kya kehna hai uski rehearsal karna, aur phir kuch bhi na kehna
- Khud bhi late aane lagna, taaki farq hi na pade
- Mann mein har pichhli baar ki ginti rakhna
- Kursi par baithe-baithe mann mein nikal chuke hona
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Tapri par chaalis minute
Saturday ki shaam, Hanamkonda ki ek chai ki tapri. Aap saat baje pahunch gaye, jaisa tay tha. Saat bajkar das par dost ka message: “Bas paanch minute, pahunch hi rahe hain!” Saadhe saat par wahi. Aap menu teen baar padh chuke. Paune aath par wo hanste hue aate hain, “Sorry yaar, traffic tha.” Aap “Koi baat nahi” kehte ho. Poore dinner mein mann kahin saat baje akela baitha minute ginta rehta hai.
Waqt tabhi ginti, jab wo ginein
Pehle saaf baat: chaalis minute ke intezaar ko bura maanna nakhra nahi hai, aur ye sach bhi nahi ki aapka waqt kam keemti hai. Par aisi shaamon se ek niyam ug sakta hai, jo aapka ho jaata hai: “Mera waqt tabhi ginti mein hai jab wo uski izzat karein.” Ye self-respect jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: kisi aur ki deri aapki poori shaam ka mood tay karne lagti hai.
Intezaar mein andekha hone ka ehsaas
Aisa niyam hum isliye pakadte hain kyunki intezaar karwaya jaana andekha kiye jaane jaisa lag sakta hai. Ye bahut insaani chaah hai. Shayad aap wo bachche the jo bado ke liye chupchaap intezaar karta tha. Shayad aap sabke liye waqt par pahunchne mein bahut mehnat karte ho. Apne waqt ki qadar chahna khudgarzi nahi. Wo seriously liye jaane ki chaah se aata hai, aur use narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Do baar khoye hue minute
Har intezaar kuch chhota-sa le jaata hai. Ye itne chupke se hota hai ki pata nahi chalta. Aap waqt par pahunchkar khud ko bewakoof mehsoos karte ho. Wo bhaashan rehearse karte ho jo kabhi nahi dete. Dinner khatta shuru hota hai, aur dosti har baar thodi bhaari lagti hai. Minute do baar kho jaate hain: ek baar deri mein, phir ginti, kudhan aur us chup hisaab mein jo aap rakhte ho.
Kya ginte rehna sahi deal hai?
Khud se imaandari se poochhiye: is niyam ko pakde rehne se kabhi koi jaldi pahuncha? Ya zyadatar intezaar aur lamba, aur shaam aur bhaari lagi? Unki deri unki planning ki baat hai, aapke waqt ki keemat ki nahi. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Ek pal is par rukiye. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna aapke mann ki shaanti ki keemat ke laayak hai?
Aapke minute aapke rahein
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki deri theek thi, ya aapka waqt maayne nahi rakhta. Matlab ye ki intezaar mein bhi aapke minute aapke rahein. Kitaab ka ek page, ek cup chai, sadak par dheemi nazar: waqt phir bhi aap par kharch ho sakta hai. Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai, ek pal se. Yahin se thodi shaanti lautti hai: shaam tab shuru hoti hai jab aap baithte ho.
If being kept waiting ever comes with threats, being frightened, or money or papers held back, that is not okay and is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMera waqt tabhi ginti mein hai jab wo uski izzat karein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMera waqt mera hi hai, intezaar mein bhi.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Intezaar shuru ho to ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Din 2
Intezaar ke minuton ko apni ek chhoti cheez dijiye
- Din 3
Aaspaas ki koi cheez dekhiye jise roz andekha karte hain
Is par baat karni hai?
“Intezaar ke un minuton mein aap kya kar rahe the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Paanch minute jo chaalis ban gaye #
Saat bajkar das minute par dost ka message: “Bas paanch minute, pahunch hi rahe hain!” Phir saadhe saat par wahi. Ya clinic ka counter, jahan teesri baar kaha jaata hai “Doctor sahab bas aa hi rahe hain.” Shabd chhote aur meethe hain, aur ghadi phir bhi chalti rehti hai.
Intezaar kabhi ek message ki baat nahi hota. Wo us waqt ki baat hai jo aapne nikaala tha, us shaam ki jo kisi ke hisaab se bani thi, aur us dheemi feeling ki ki aapka ghanta koi aur kharch kar raha hai, bina poochhe ki aapko bura laga ya nahi.
Aakhri baar kab intezaar karna pada?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun tha, asal mein kitni der lagi, aur paanch minute khinchte rahe to aapke haath aur phone kya kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ghadi dekhte hue dheemi tapan #
Roz se kahin zyada baar time dekhna, ek hi menu teen baar padhna, har naye message ke saath jabde ka thoda kasna. Koi tehalne lagta hai; koi bilkul chup aur polite ho jaata hai. Isme besabri ya zyada sakhti jaisa kuch nahi.
Bina kisi ant wala intezaar, tay waqt wale intezaar se bahut alag lagta hai. Body poore waqt aadhi taiyaar rehti hai, jaise abhi nikalne wali ho, jo intezaar se bhi zyada thakata hai. Thande dimaag ki baatein aksar ghar lautte hue aati hain.
Beeswein minute ke aaspaas aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapne sunane ki baat dohrayi, bina dekhe scroll kiya, ya nikalne ka tay karke baithe rahe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo is baare mein kya batata hai ki us waqt ka aapke liye kya matlab tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Lagta hai aapka waqt ginti mein nahi #
Intezaar karwaya jaana isliye chubhta hai ki lagta hai aapka waqt ginti mein nahi. Ghanta aapka tha, aur kisi ne bina poochhe kharch kar diya. Bahuton ko isme ek dheemi baat sunayi deti hai: ki unke plan, unki shaam aur waqt par aane ki unki mehnat kisi aur ki cheezon se kam maayne rakhte hain.
Khushmizaaj message ise aasaan nahi, mushkil bana sakte hain. “Bas pahunch hi rahe hain!” sabr maangta hai jabki intezaar chalta rehta hai, aur ye kehne ki jagah nahi chhodta ki aapko bura laga, bina do minute par nakhre karne wale dikhe.
Isiliye chaalis minute poori shaam saath reh sakte hain.
Ab sochein to kya zyada chubha: intezaar, ya ye lagna ki kisi aur ko uski ginti hi nahi dikhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab intezaar khud se bolne lage #
Baar-baar ho to intezaar andar ghar kar leta hai. “Yahan mera waqt koi cheez nahi.” “Inke liye late aana hamesha theek kyun?” “Kuch bola to baat mere hi sar aayegi.” Ye plan shuru hone se pehle hi chalu ho sakta hai, jab aap waqt par nikalne ki taiyaari kar rahe hote ho.
Der se aane wala dinner tak sab bhool chuka hoga, par awaaz minute ginti rehti hai. Isiliye pakadna mushkil hai: ye ek shaam ki kheej nahi lagti, ye bas cheezein jaisi hain waisa dekhna lagti hai.
Ye kehti hai ki aapka waqt ginti mein nahi, to kiski awaaz mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi clinic ki bench ya ghar ki kisi mehfil mein bahut pehle mili hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch ke liye chupchaap intezaar karna sharafat thi #
Bahut log wahi rahe jo intezaar karte the. Bade jab aate, aate; bachchon se kaha jaata, chupchaap baitho. “Aa rahe hain, baitho na.” “Munh mat banao, mehmaan hain.” Jis bachche ko intezaar bura lagta, use badtameez kaha ja sakta tha, isliye bahuton ne bura maanna chupchaap seekh liya.
Kuch ghar sabke waqt par chalte the: kisi ki raat ki duty, kisi rishtedaar ka lamba phone, ek shaadi jo card par likhe waqt se teen ghante baad shuru hui. Kuch log chupchaap ye nateeja lekar nikalte hain ki apna waqt wo hai jo hamesha khinch sakta hai.
Kab pehli baar seekha ki khinchne wala waqt aapka hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapke ghar mein logon ko intezaar kaun karwata tha, aur us par aapko kya kehne ki ijaazat thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banta ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Mera waqt tabhi ginti mein hai jab wo uski izzat karein,” ya “Mujhe intezaar bura lage to main adiyal hoon.” Kuch log dono saath rakhte hain: bahut bura lagta hai, aur lagta hai ki nahi lagna chahiye.
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte nahi. Lagta hai bas log aise hi hote hain, jaise der se shuru hoti shaadi aam zindagi lagti hai. Isiliye inhein dheere se nikaalkar dekhna theek hai, aise din jab koi late na ho.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se dekha ja sakta hai: agar mere waqt ki keemat doosre tay karein, to mera waqt unhi ka hai.
Ye kin jagahon par ab bhi fit hai, aur kin par nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Intezaar ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai shaamein jo kisi ke aane se pehle hi khatti ho jaayein. Har baar thodi bhaari hoti dosti. Wo plan jo aap banana band kar do, kyunki waqt par taiyaar hokar akele baithne ka kya matlab. Har mulaqat ka pehla aadha ghanta chupchaap chidhne mein jaata hai.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai: intezaar ka waqt do baar kho jaata hai. Pehle der karne wale ke haath, phir kheej, ginti aur us bhaashan mein jo kabhi diya hi nahi gaya. Jo waqt aapka ho sakta tha, wo hisaab rakhne mein chala gaya.
Ye kamzori se nahi. Poori shaam ek shikayat dhona thakata hai.
Haal mein iski keemat kya rahi: koi dinner jiska maza nahi le paaye, koi dost jisse bachne lage, koi ghanta jo aaraam ki jagah gusse mein gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, minute ginte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “mera waqt tabhi ginti mein, jab wo izzat karein” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad aisa dinner jiska pehla ghanta chup chidh mein jaaye, ek dost jiske saath plan banana chhoot jaaye, clinic ka waiting room jahan har minute chhote apmaan jaisa lage. Shayad wo plan jo ab banta hi nahi, kyunki intezaar ghar baithne se bura lagta hai.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko jab chahein neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Usme kya hai: plan, intezaar, log, shaamein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar aapko kya dikhta hai, agar kuch?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Unki deri, aapka waqt #
Do baatein ek saath sach ho sakti hain: intezaar karwaya jaana kheej bhara hai, aur intezaar ke wo minute phir bhi aapke hain. Kab aana hai, ye doosra tay karta hai. Un minuton ka ehsaas wo tay nahi karta, jab tak niyam wo bhi uske haath na de de.
Aksar kuch minute, aur shayad ek plan. Wo sach hai aur bura maanne laayak hai. Par wo “mera waqt ginti mein nahi” se chhota hai, aur shaam sach mein shuru hone par use neeche rakhna kahin aasaan.
Poochhiye: deri ne asal mein kya chheena?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur nazar: koi dost chaalis minute kisi ke intezaar mein baitha hota, to aap kya chahte wo un minuton ke saath kare?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kudhta rahe, ya kuch aisa jo uska apna ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Lamba intezaar dhyaan se dekhne par kuch ko dikhta hai ki deri ka unse bahut kam lena-dena tha. Wo kharab planning thi, aadat thi, traffic tha, ek insaan jo har kisi aur har cheez mein late hai. Isse wo theek nahi ho jaata. Par wo kam sandesh ban jaata hai.
Kuch ko wo minute dikhte hain jo phir bhi achhe the: ek cup chai, kisi ko call jise karne ka socha tha, ek shaant bench, ek kitaab. Kuch ko lagta hai shaam ka sabse bura hissa intezaar nahi tha; kudhna tha.
Pichhle lambe intezaar ko dekhein to kaun se minute sach mein khoye, aur kaun se aapke ho sakte the, agar ginti kuch der chup ho jaati?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Khoye minute wapas jeetne ki zaroorat nahi #
Intezaar karwaye jaane se sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki sab achha hai, ya aapka waqt maayne nahi rakhta. Matlab ye ki der se aane wala pahunchne se pehle hi aapki shaam kaisi lage, isme kam bole.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo deri ke theek se gine jaane ka intezaar chhod dete hain. Maafi aa sakti hai, ya ek hansmukh “Sorry, traffic tha”. Jo bhi ho, aapka waqt abhi, aapke liye bhi kuch maayne rakh sakta hai.
Aisa karna kaisa hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaisa lagega intezaar ko utna hi bura maanna jitna wo banta hai, aur baaki shaam ko apne maze ke liye rehne dena?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha sentence #
Agar “Mera waqt ginti mein nahi” barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladna zaroori nahi. Kuch log iski jagah ek sachcha sentence taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo late hain. Mera waqt phir bhi mera hai, intezaar mein bhi.”
Iska abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas purane se zyada sahi ho, aur kuch paate hain ki dasweein minute ke aaspaas dheere se kehne par ginti ki jagah mein se thoda wapas le leta hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha sentence kya hoga, jo kheej ko imaandari se maane, par apni poori shaam kisi aur ki ghadi ko na saunpe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har der se aane wale ko bhaashan, khamosh berukhi ya pichhli saari baar ki ginti nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise dost ke aakhir mein aane par bag kursi par rakh dete hain.
Iska matlab ye nahi ki aapka waqt maayne nahi rakhta. Ye chunna hai ki taaqat kahan jaaye, aur kuch kehte hain isse us baatcheet ke liye jagah bachti hai jiske liye mile the.
Shaam ke liye intezaar ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab achha tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo dinner, ghar ki drive aur aaj ki baaki har cheez mein saath na jaaye.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Log ab bhi kabhi-kabhi late hote hain, aur wo ab bhi maayne rakhta hai, par intezaar ke minute unke nahi rehte.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: intezaar mein ek page padh lena, chaalisweein minute par bhi dost se garmjoshi se milna, ya aisi shaam jo aapke baithte hi shuru ho jaaye, unke aane par nahi.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Intezaar shuru ho to ek dheemi saans lijiye aur aaspaas ki jagah dekhiye
- Intezaar ke minuton ko apni ek chhoti cheez dijiye: gaana, ek page, koi nazaara
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi ginti”
- Us jagah ki ek cheez dekhiye jo warna chhoot jaati
- Kisi ek ko yaad kijiye jo aapke liye hamesha waqt par rehta hai, aur use ginne dijiye
Chhote, niji aur sab apni marzi ke. Jo aasaan lage, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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