Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Saajha jagahon ke ankahe niyam hote hain: kis taraf chalna hai, lift ka intezaar kahan karna hai, shelf ke paas kitna kareeb khada hona hai.
“Jao, kahin baitho, mehmaan aane wale hain.”
Neeche kahin ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Khade hone ki jagah pehle kamani padti hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Jhat se kinaare ho jaana, kisi ke bolne se pehle hi sorry kehte hue
- Ek pal thithakna, phir chal padna aur ghanton use dohrate rehna
- Uske baad har galiyare mein deewar se satkar chalna
- Shelf par cheez milne se pehle hi dukaan se nikal aana
- Palatkar kuch teekha keh dena, aur ghar tak use mehsoos karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Bus adde par board padhte hue
Visakhapatnam ka RTC Complex, shaam ka waqt. Aap ek pal rukkar board par apni bus ka number padhte ho. Peechhe se koi bag liye nikalta hai aur badbadata hai, “Arre bhai, raaste mein kyun khade ho?” Aap jhat se hatte ho, sorry bolte ho, jabki wo ja chuka hai. Dil tez dhadak raha hai, kaan garam hain, aur baaki safar hadbadi mein katta hai.
Jagah mat gheriye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mujhe jagah nahi gherni chahiye.” Ye sharafat jaisa lagta hai, aur zyadatar log isse sehmat honge. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har bheed mein aapko chhota kar deta hai. Rukkar sochna, apna waqt lena, bhari jagah mein bas hona bhi takleef dene jaisa lagne lagta hai, aur aap duniya se bachte-bachate guzarte ho.
Lihaaz achha kyun lagta hai
Ise hum isliye pakadte hain kyunki doosron ka khayal rakhna achha hona lagta hai. Bahut log is niyam ka koi roop saath lekar bade hote hain, aur us waqt wo theek bhi tha. Shaayad bachpan mein kaha gaya tha ki tang mat karo. Shaayad hatna aapke hisse ka kaam raha. Doosron ka lihaaz rakhna bewakoofi nahi. Wo parwah se aata hai, aur use narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har teekhi baat, thoda chhota
Har teekhi baat aapko thoda chhota kar deti hai. Ye itna dheere hota hai ki pata nahi chalta. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Jagah hone par bhi aap sorry bolte ho. Dukaanon mein hadbadate ho. Bheed wali jagahon se bachte ho. Label padhne jaisi apni zaroorat bhi takleef lagne lagti hai, aur aap kase hue, thake mann se nikalte ho.
Kya chhota bane rehna sahi hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: khud ko chhota karne se bheed kabhi aasaan lagi? Ya zyadatar aap aur kas gaye? Har koi jagah gherta hai, dukaan mein hone ka matlab hi yahi hai. Ek anjaan kis mood mein hai, ye koi nahi jaanta. Ek badbadayi baat aapke wahan hone ke haq ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna iske laayak hai?
Ek pal, sabki tarah
Chhodne ka matlab bheed mein doosron ko anadekha karna nahi. Matlab ye ki ek pal lene ki ijaazat aapko bhi hai. Aap khade hokar label padh sakte ho, aur jab taiyaar ho tab hat sakte ho. Ye ek saath nahi hota, aur hona bhi nahi chahiye. Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai, ek pal se. Yahin se thodi shaanti lautti hai: duniya mein bina maafi maange rehna.
Being pushed, grabbed, followed, threatened or picked on for who you are is something else, and worth taking seriously; moving away can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe jagah nahi gherni chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleEk pal lene ki ijaazat mujhe bhi hai, sabki tarah.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aaj dukaan mein bina hadbadi ek pal lijiye
- Din 2
Dhyaan dijiye ki kab aapne bina zaroorat sorry kaha
- Din 3
Teekhi baat ke baad ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aap theek kahan khade the, aur shabd aane se pehle wahan kya kar rahe the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Chaar shabd, tang jagah mein #
Visakhapatnam ka RTC Complex, shaam ki bheed. Aap rukkar board par apni bus ka number dhoondh rahe ho ki peechhe se awaaz aati hai: “Arre bhai, raasta chhodo! Raaste mein kyun khade ho?” Ya Poorna Market ki gali mein, ya office ki seedhiyon par, aur kahin bhi khade hona theek nahi lagta.
Ye kabhi nahi batata ki kahan jaana hai. Jagah sabki thi, pal aam tha, aur ye shabd khade hone ko galti bana dete hain, jaise us jagah par khade hone se pehle kisi ki ijaazat chahiye thi.
Aakhri baar ye kahan suna tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap wahan kya kar rahe the, aur phir kahan khisak gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sochne se pehle hi ek kadam kinaare #
Koi jhat se peechhe hat jaata hai, insaan se bhi aur deewar se bhi sorry bolte hue. Koi thithak jaata hai, samajh nahi aata kidhar jagah hai. Koi ek pal ada rehta hai aur baaki raasta uski garmi mehsoos karta hai. In sabmein samjhane jaisa kuch nahi.
Jab koi keh de ki ye jagah aapki nahi, to wo sochne se pehle hi darj ho jaata hai. Soch aksar baad mein aati hai, bus mein ya seedhiyon par, is sawaal ke saath ki sahi jagah aakhir kaun si thi jahan khada hua ja sakta tha.
Un shabdon ke theek baad aapne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kinaare hue, jam gaye, sorry kaha, kuch palatkar kaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo pehli harkat us pal ke baare mein kya batati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Baat raaste ki hai, par chubhti insaan par hai #
“Zara side dijiye” raaste ki baat hai. “Raaste mein khade ho” raasta chhodkar insaan ko hi rukawat bana deta hai, jaise wo galiyare mein rakhi koi peti ho, na ki koi jiske paas wahan hone ki wajah hai.
Saajha jagahon ke ankahe niyam hote hain: kis taraf chalna hai, lift ka intezaar kahan karna hai, shelf ke paas kitna kareeb khada hona hai. Har jagah ke niyam alag hain, aur naya aane wala tab tak nahi dekh paata jab tak koi teekhe dhang se na bata de.
Agar baat sirf raaste ki hoti, to seedha vaakya kya hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur kya footpath par khade hone ki jagah sach mein khade insaan ke baare mein kuch batati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab awaaz hi tay karne lage kahan khada hona hai #
Baar-baar suno to wo pehle hi bolne lagti hai. “Yahan mat khade ho.” “Hato, koi aa raha hai.” “Koi kona pakad lo.” Kisi ke paas aane se pehle hi aap kinaare ho chuke hote ho.
Anjaan kab ka ja chuka, par jaanch chalu rehti hai. Kuch log jagah aise chunte hain ki kam se kam ghire: lift ke liye ek taraf khade hona, ya shelf ka naam galiyare ke chhor se padhna, taaki koi sikudkar na nikle.
Ye hatne ko kehti hai to awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us anjaan ki, ya kisi bhare hue kamre ki jo bahut pehle ki baat hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye kinaare rehna bachpan se shuru hua #
“Rasoi ke darwaaze par mat khade raho.” “Jao, kahin baitho, mehmaan aane wale hain.” “Bachchon ka yahan kya kaam, hato.” Kuch log bhare-pure gharon mein bade hue jahan mauqon par bachche ka kaam pairon ke neeche na aana tha, aur achha bachcha wo jisse koi takraye nahi.
Kuch gharon mein jagah tang thi aur din bhara hua, wajahein har ghar ki alag hoti hain. Bachcha chupchaap ye nateeja nikaal sakta hai ki jagah gherna takleef dena hai, aur sabse achhi jagah hamesha kinara hai.
Kab pehli baar seekha ki dekh lein kahin aap kisi ke raaste mein to nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo kaun sa kamra tha, aur aamtaur par wahan se kaun guzar raha hota tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Jagah ke baare mein ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche kahin ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Khade hone ki jagah pehle kamani padti hai.” Kuch log uska halka roop rakhte hain: “Mera kaam raaste se hate rehna hai,” ya “Mujhe sabke hisaab se dhalna hai.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte nahi. Shishtachar lagte hain, jaise escalator par ek taraf khade hona. Isiliye inhein dekhna theek hai: jo sharafat jaisa lage, wo har kamre mein tay karne lagta hai ki aap kahan khade ho.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bhare ghar ke bachpan se jodte hain, kuch ko pata hi nahi chalta kahan se aaya. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Ye kin jagahon par ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kin par nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Kinaare rehne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki jo cheez chahiye thi uske bina dukaan se nikal aana, kamre ke peechhe khade rehna jahan kuch dikhta nahi, ya teesri lift ka intezaar karna taaki kisi ko khisakna na pade. Kuch log apni jagah tab chhod dete hain jab chaah baaki hoti hai.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Har galiyare aur darwaaze par dekhte rehna ki kahan khada hona hai, lagaataar mehnat maangta hai, aur daftar, bazaar jaisi aam jagahein bhi kisi aur ki lagne lagti hain. Saal bhar mein aisi kai jagahein jud jaati hain jahan mann kabhi basa hi nahi.
Ye kamzori se nahi. Din bhar apni jagah ki nigraani thaka deti hai.
Pichhle saal iski keemat kya rahi: koi nazaara jo chhoota, koi cheez jo li nahi, koi kamra jismein apne liye jagah kabhi lagi hi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, kamre ke kinaare par #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Khade hone ki jagah pehle kamani padti hai” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad ek lift chhooti kyunki bhari lag rahi thi, shelf door chhor se dekha, meeting darwaaze se dekhi, bheed wali kitaabon ki dukaan bina idhar-udhar dekhe chhod di. Kuch jaana-pehchana lage, kuch bilkul nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko kabhi bhi ek taraf rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: galiyare, liftein, dukaanein, wo jagahein jahan khade hue aur wo jo chhod din?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapko kya dikhta hai, agar kuch?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kiske raaste mein, aur kitni der? #
“Raaste mein ho” ek pal ki baat hai, insaan ki nahi. Bheed mein kahin bhi khada har insaan kisi na kisi pal kisi ke raaste mein hota hai: lift rokne wala, board padhne wala, call uthane ke liye rukne wala.
Saajha jagahein saajha karne ke liye hain, aur unmein khada hona unke istemaal ka hissa hai. Raasta aksar kuch second mein khaali ho gaya, jabki shabd us pal se kahin zyada der tike rahe jiske baare mein the.
Ek aur nazar: koi dost usi jagah wahi karta khada hota, to aapko wo rukawat lagta, ya bas koi jo wahan tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Galiyare ko dheere se dohrane par kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log wo pal dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to unhein dikhta hai ki jagah sach mein kitni tang thi: ek bande bhar ka galiyara, lift ka darwaaza, trolley se pehle hi bhara raasta.
Kuch ko baaki sab dikhte hain: baatein karte ruke log, raasta rokti saaman ki trolley, usi shelf ko dekhta koi aur customer. Kabhi jagah sach mein tang thi, aur kabhi shabdon ne bheed mein se ek ko chun liya.
Shabdon ke bagal mein rakhkar dekhein, to wo pal asal mein kya dikhata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din us jagah se kitne aur log bina kisi ke kuch bole guzar gaye, aur yahi pal kyun tik gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Sahi jagah dhoondhne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki aap rukawat the, ya ye dikhana nahi ki shabd chubhe nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek anjaan ka vaakya is par kam chale ki baaki safar kaisa beete aur aap aage kahan khade ho.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo wo ek jagah dhoondhna chhod dete hain jahan kisi ko kabhi nikalna hi na pade. Bhari jagah mein waisi jagah hoti nahi, aur khoj har darwaaze par anjaan ki baat ko chalu rakhti hai.
Kaisa lagega agar shabd unhin ke rahein, aur bas kaam ki cheez rakhein, jaise koi kahe to kinaare ho jaana, bina kamre se hi kinaare hue?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Thoda khula vaakya, paas rakhne ke liye #
Agar “Main raaste mein hoon” barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladna zaroori nahi. Kuch log ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Saajha jagahein saajha karne ko hain, aur raaste ko bas ek pal ki side chahiye.”
Iska sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki bhari lift mein dheere se kahi jaaye to wo ek pal aur apni jagah par tike rehte hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo doosron ke liye jagah chhode, par apni saari jagah na de de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein galiyare mein hi chhodi ja sakti hain #
Darwaaze par kahi har teekhi baat ko palatkar jawab ya maafiyon ki ladi nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur wahin chhod diya ja sakta hai jahan kahi gayi, jaise peechhe kahin darwaaza band ho jaaye.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki din ki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse uske liye jagah bachti hai jiske liye wo wahan aaye the: meeting, kharidari, ya mod par intezaar karta koi.
Galiyare mein chhod dene ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo agli lift, agli gali ya agle kamre tak saath na aaye.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam ko thodi jagah mile #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Kisi ko kabhi-kabhi nikalna padega hi, par kahin khada hona bas kahin khada hona hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: label poora padhna, lift ke liye lobby ke beech mein khade hona, ya footpath par rukkar bina sorry bole map dekh lena.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo dikhe wo aapka hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Ise aur kareeb se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi raaste mein wali line”
- Chupchaap poochhiye: raasta asal mein kitni der ruka tha?
- Aaj koi ek jagah gaur kijiye jahan khade rehna aam laga
- Usi jagah kisi dost ko sochiye, aur dekhiye aapko kya lagta hai
- Us dukaan ya galiyare mein jo chaha tha, uski ek chhoti cheez par dhyaan dijiye
Chhote, nijee aur apni marzi ke. Aaj jo fit baithe, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aap theek kahan khade the, aur shabd aane se pehle wahan kya kar rahe the?
- Uske turant baad aap kahan sarke, aur kya wo kaafi jagah lagi?
- Aapki zindagi mein kaun si jagah rahi jahan bina maange aapke liye jagah thi?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, to bheed mein sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?