Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye aur chubh sakti hai kyunki isme samajh par ek chup faisla hota hai: ki chunne wala abhi itna nahi jaanta ki chun sake.
“Hum tumhare bhale ke liye hi keh rahe hain.”
Andar kahin ek chup niyam ban sakta hai: “Mujhe pakka hona chahiye ki kabhi pachhtana nahi padega,” ya “Pachhtave ki zara bhi gunjaish ho toh nahi karna chahiye.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Ek saal aur taal dete hain, ki kahin kuch galat na ho
- Faisla sahi hone ke saboot jama karke saath le jaate hain
- Aage badh jaate hain aur pachhtava aane ka intezaar karte rehte hain
- Saamne haami bharte hain aur chupke se wahi karte hain
- Faisla hone tak ghar mein kuch batana band kar dete hain
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Ek plan, phir chetavani
Bhagalpur mein Phuphaji ke yahan Sunday ka khaana. Aap batate ho ki sarkari naukri ki taiyaari ki jagah koi aur kaam chunna hai. Phuphaji roti rakhkar kehte hain, “Soch lo, baad mein pachhtana padega.” Kuch rishtedaar sar hilate hain. Jo wajahein aapne sochi thin, wo kho jaati hain. Aap bhi “dekhte hain” keh dete ho, aur wo vaakya jeb ke patthar jaisa ghar le aate ho.
Pehle pakka hona hai
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mujhe pakka hona chahiye ki kabhi pachhtana nahi padega.” Ye ehtiyaat jaisa sunai deta hai, upar se samajhdari lagta hai, aur zyadatar log haami bharenge. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aaj aise chunne ko kehta hai jaise aage ka koi judge dekh raha ho. Ek se zyada nateejon wala har faisla jaal jaisa lagne lagta hai.
Hamein kyun chetaya gaya
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki hamein aksar parwaah karne walon ne chetaya. Shayad paas ke kisi ne sach mein kisi faisle ka pachhtava jhela aur wahin se bola. Dard se bachna chahna achhi baat hai. Niyam usi chaah se aaya, aur use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye. Kai parivaaron mein, kai jagahon par, iska koi na koi roop milta hai.
Cheezein talti jaati hain
Har chetavani aapko thoda aur saavdhan bana deti hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakad mein nahi aata. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Aap cheezein talte ho, idea daraaz mein rakh dete ho, aur doosron ko bas kar guzarte dekhkar sochte ho ki wo kaise kar lete hain. Aapki apni, asli wajahein aur bhi dheemi padti jaati hain.
Kya pakke ki raah dekhna sahi?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko thaamne se, pakke hone tak ruke rehne se, kabhi aap zyada tike hue mehsoos hue? Ya zyadatar intezaar mein atke? Har raasta kuch anjiya chhodta hai, aur na liya gaya raasta door se bedaag dikhta hai, kyunki use jeena nahi pada. Jawab sirf aap de sakte hain. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakde rehna sahi hai?
Aaj ki wajahon par chunna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki soch-vichar band, ya parwaah karne walon ki sunna band. Matlab ye ki aaj ki aapki wajahein ginti mein aa sakti hain. Ye ekdum se nahi hota, aur hona bhi nahi chahiye. Yahin se thoda sukoon lautta hai: jo aaj pata hai us par chuna ja sakta hai, aur chetavani chetavani reh sakti hai, kisi aise ki jo shayad bas fikar mein hai.
If a choice of yours at home is ever met with threats, anger that frightens you, or being hurt, keeping quiet can be the safe choice; that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe pakka hona chahiye ki kabhi pachhtana nahi padega.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleAaj jo wajahein mere paas hain, un par chunna kaafi hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Kisi ek faisle ki wajahein teen panktiyon mein likhiye
- Kadam 2
Khud se poochhiye: pachhtava kis baat ka, kiske muqable?
- Kadam 3
Aaj ek chhota faisla apne liye lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Pichhli baar pachhtave ki chetavani mili thi toh faisla kya tha, aur aapki wajahein kya thin?”
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Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek faisla, aur baad ki chetavani #
Bhagalpur mein Sunday ka khaana, Phuphaji ki thaali. Aap zikr karte hain ki sarkari naukri ki taiyaari ki jagah koi aur raasta chunna hai. Phuphaji roti rakhkar kehte hain, “Soch lo, baad mein pachhtana padega.” Patna ki coaching wali gali ke chai adde par bhi yahi, aur Motihari se Papa ke phone par bhi.
Sunne mein ye aage ki baat batane jaisa lagta hai, par kamre mein kuch aur hota hai: faisle ko koi taulta hi nahi. Wajahein kya thin, doosre raaste kaise the, koi nahi poochhta. Uski jagah ek aane wala ehsaas table par rakh diya jaata hai.
Pichhli baar jab pachhtane ki chetavani mili thi, tab faisla kya tha, aur kisne kaha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Chetavani ke theek baad ka pal #
Kuch logon ke pet mein halka-sa dhakka lagta hai aur pal bhar sochte hain ki kahin sach toh nahi. Kuch turant behas par utar aate hain, wajahein sajakar. Kuch sar hilakar “dekhte hain” keh dete hain aur ek vaakya lekar ghar lautte hain jo kai din peeche-peeche chalta hai.
Chetavani sochne se pehle hi lag sakti hai. Jawab aksar pehle sharir deta hai, aur faisle ki wajahon ke sahi shabd baad mein aate hain, bus mein ya bistar par, aise roop mein jo aur kisi ko sunai nahi deta.
Chetavani ke baad ke us pal mein aapne kya kiya, aur kya karna chahte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Wo us bhavishya se behas karti hai jo dikhta nahi #
Chetavani aaj ke faisle ki baat nahi karti. Wo aane wale ek roop ki taraf ishaara karti hai jo abhi aaya nahi, aur uski taraf se bolne lagti hai. Aaj bani wajahein kal ke sochey hue ehsaas ke saamne rakhi jaati hain, aur sochey hue ehsaas aksar jeet jaate hain.
Ye aur chubh sakti hai kyunki isme samajh par ek chup faisla hota hai: ki chunne wala abhi itna nahi jaanta ki chun sake. Faisle par byauron se behas ho sakti hai, par ek ehsaas ki bhavishyavaani ka jawab byauron se diya hi nahi ja sakta.
Jab chetavani aayi, tab faisle ke peeche aapki wajahein kya thin, aur kya kisi ne unhein poochha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab chetavani andar bolne lagti hai #
Baar-baar suno toh wo kisi aur se pehle khud bolne lagti hai. “Aur agar pachhtana pada toh?” “Kahin unhi ki baat sahi nikli toh?” “Ruk jaana hi theek hai.” Faisla kisi se kehne se pehle hi taula jaata hai, us par shak hota hai, aur tal jaata hai.
Kehne wala door ho sakta hai, par chetavani ab andar chalti hai: aadha bhara form, dost ko plan ke baare mein likha aur mitaya hua message. Awaaz saavdhani jaisi sunai deti hai, isliye samajhdari lagti hai, kisi ka kabhi kaha gaya vaakya nahi.
Aapke dimaag mein kiski awaaz us baad wale roop ke baare mein aagah karti hai jisse aap abhi mile hi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye saavdhani hi parwaah ki boli thi #
“Risk mat lo.” “Sarkari naukri pakki hoti hai.” “Hum tumhare bhale ke liye hi keh rahe hain.” Kuch log aise gharon mein pale jahan parwaah isi tarah jatayi jaati thi, aur koi himmat wala plan sunte hi un logon ki chetavani aa jaati thi jinhone cheezein bigadte dekhi thin.
Kai parivaaron mein ye asli tajurbe se aaya, aur shabd har ghar mein alag hote hain. Ek naujawan chupke se isse ye pakad sakta hai ki uski apni samajh par shak kiya jaata hai, aur badon wala raasta wahi hai jo surakshit ho.
Pehli baar kab gaur kiya ki aapke kisi faisle par baad ki chetavani milti hai, aur tab kamre mein aam taur par kaun hota tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Pakke hone ke baare mein ek chup niyam #
Andar kahin ek chup niyam ban sakta hai: “Mujhe pakka hona chahiye ki kabhi pachhtana nahi padega,” ya “Pachhtave ki zara bhi gunjaish ho toh nahi karna chahiye.” Kuch log ise khaane ki us table ke baad bhi har us faisle mein le jaate hain jiske nateeje ek se zyada ho sakte hain.
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo ehtiyaat jaise lagte hain, yahan tak ki samajhdari jaise. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi nikaalkar dekhna theek rehta hai, bajaye iske ki bina gaur kiye unke andar se chunte rahein.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Kin faislon mein pakka hone wala niyam aaj bhi theek baithta hai, aur kinmein ab nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Pakke hone ka intezaar kitna mehnga pad sakta hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki koi idea barson bina pehle kadam ke ghoomta rahe, koi plan badalkar surakshit wala kar diya jaaye, un doston se chupchaap jalan ho jo bas kar guzre, ya “baad mein” wali daraaz bharti jaaye. Kuch log zyadatar faisle tab lete hain jab mauka nikal chuka hota hai.
Ek aur chupchaap keemat bhi hai. Aise chunna jaise aage ka koi judge dekh raha ho, mehnat maangta hai, aur aaspaas ke log aksar bas saavdhan roop hi dekh paate hain. Ek saal mein kai faisle ek aise baad wale roop ke liye ho jaate hain jisse poochha hi nahi gaya.
Pichhle ek saal mein pakke hone ke intezaar ne aapse kya liya, kisi faisle mein, plan mein ya kisi din mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur baad wale roop ke liye chunna #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “pakka hona chahiye ki pachhtana nahi padega” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad ek form jo bheja nahi gaya, dost ko plan ke baare mein likha aur mitaya message, aakhri pal par chuna gaya surakshit vikalp, ek khaana jisme idea andar hi raha. Kuch jaana-pehchana lagega, kuch bilkul nahi.
Tasveer mein kuch tay nahi hai, aur use jab chahein kinare rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: khule tabs, aadhe likhe messages, ruke hue plan?Is par baat kijiye ›
Baad wale roop ke liye chunte hue poore din ko dekhkar aapki nazar sabse zyada kis par rukti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Pachhtava, magar kis baat ka? #
Har raasta kuch anjiya chhodta hai, aur na liya gaya raasta door se bedaag dikhta hai. Kabhi chetavani kisi asli baat par tiki hoti hai, aur kabhi bas is par ki kehne wale ki apni zindagi kaisi lagi thi.
Faisle ko aaj ki wajahon par taula ja sakta hai, is imaandaar gunjaish ke saath ki wo aage shayad na jache. Kuch logon ko do cheezein alag karna kaam aata hai: jo abhi pata hai, aur kisi aise ehsaas ki bhavishyavaani jo hua hi nahi. Pehli ko dekha ja sakta hai.
Pachhtave ko paimana chahiye: kis baat ka, aur kiske muqable?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar aapki jitni hi umar ke kisi kareebi dost ne theek yahi faisla inhi wajahon se liya hota, toh aap uske baare mein kya sochte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dheere-dheere dohrane par kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log wo pal dheere se dohrate hain toh apni wajahein yaad karte hain: kuch jo chaha, kuch jo aazmaya, kuch jo apne baare mein seekha. Chetavani ke bagal mein rakhne par kuch ko dikhta hai ki un wajahon ke baare mein kabhi poochha nahi gaya.
Kuch ko wo jagahein dikhti hain jahan faislon par jigyasa se baat hoti hai: koi dost jo kehta hai “aur batao”, koi bhai jo poochhta hai ki ye khayaal kaise aaya, koi colleague jo bas “best of luck” kehta hai. Kabhi aisi jagahein kaafi hoti hain, aur kabhi ek khaas faisle par saavdhani sahi nikalti hai.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun chetavani dene se pehle aapki wajahein poochhta hai, aur wo kya karta hai jisse samjhana aasaan ho jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Aaj hi bhavishya tay karna zaroori nahi #
Sukoon ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki faisla samajhdari ka tha, na ye dikhana ki chetavani chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek table ka ek vaakya ye tay na kare ki agli table par koi faisla hoga ya nahi.
Kuch logon ko tab halka lagta hai jab wo pachhtave ko pehle se galat saabit karna chhod dete hain. Aane wale ehsaas se aaj behas nahi ho sakti, kyunki paimana khisakta rehta hai, aur behas ek insaan ki bhavishyavaani ko har faisle ke beechobeech bithaye rakhti hai.
Kuch chetavaniyan aati rahengi, aur unhein aazmane ki zaroorat nahi.
Apni wajahon ko poora thaame rakhna kaisa lagega, tab bhi jab faisla ankaha rahe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ek line jo kuch log paas rakhte hain #
Agar “mujhe pakka hona chahiye ki pachhtana nahi padega” barson se chal raha hai, toh usse seedhe behas ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Aaj jo mujhe pata hai, us par chunna mere liye kaafi hai.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log pehankar dekhte hain, aur kisi faisle ya parivaarik khaane se pehle dheere se kehne par purani line ki kuch jagah le leti hai.
Apne faislon ke baare mein ek sachcha vaakya aapke apne shabdon mein kaisa hoga, jise bhavishya ka vaada na chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har pachhtave ki chetavani ko khandan, saboot ka pulinda ya zindagi kaise chalegi iska vaada nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambi paidal doori ke baad darwaze par bhaari jhola utaar dete hain.
Iska matlab chetavani ko jhatak dena nahi. Ye chunna hai ki energy kahan jaaye, aur kuch log kehte hain isse saamne ke faislon ke liye, aur un logon ke liye jagah bachti hai jo wajahein poochhte hain.
Aaj ki shaam ise neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki use agli baatcheet, agli meeting ya ghar ke agle phone tak saath nahi chalna hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar faisla aaj ki wajahon par tike #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Bhavishya ab bhi asli hai, par akela vote uska nahi raha.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: koi form poora bharkar bhej dena, dost ko plan zor se suna dena, ya koi chhota faisla bina doosri raay ke le lena.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, toh baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Agar faisla aapke paas aaj ki wajahon par tik sake, toh sabse pehle kya alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar aapki wajahein kaafi lagein, toh aap pehle kaun si chhoti cheez karte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi pachhtave ki chetavani”
- Faisle ki apni wajahein teen seedhi panktiyon mein likhiye
- Chupchaap poochhiye: pachhtava kis baat ka, kiske muqable?
- Kisi ek aise insaan ko sochiye jo pehle aapki wajahein poochhta hai
- Aaj ka koi ek chhota faisla gaur kijiye jo aapne apne liye liya
Nijee, chhote aur apni marzi ke. Jo ho paaye, wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Pichhli baar pachhtave ki chetavani mili thi toh faisla kya tha, aur aapki wajahein kya thin?
- Sabse pehle kisne aapko faislon ke pachhtave se darana shuru kiya?
- Kaun sa faisla aap uthaye ghoom rahe hain jise aap apni wajahon par taulna chahenge?
- Jis aam din chetavani zor se bole, aap kya taal rahe hote hain?
- Agar aaj ki aapki wajahein kaafi lagein, toh sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?