“ab aap bachche nahi rahe!” ke neeche kya chal raha hai?

Ye isliye bhi chubh sakta hai ki isme sudharne ko kuch nahi. “Hamari umar mein to hum poore ghar ka khaana banate the.” Andar kahin ek chup niyam ban sakta hai: “Bade insaan se chook nahi hoti,” ya “Agar mujhse chhoti galti hui, to saaf hai ki badappan abhi aaya hi nahi.”

“ab aap bachche nahi rahe!” par log aksar kya karte hain?

Turant maafi maangte hain, chahe baat kitni bhi maamooli lage. Chup ho jaate hain aur bina kuch kahe theek kar dete hain. Der tak samjhate hain ki aisa kyun hua. “Theek hai” kehte hain aur din bhar use dohrate rehte hain. Har cheez do baar jaanchne lagte hain, taaki dobara koi na kahe.

Agli baar kya try kiya ja sakta hai?

Jaanbujhkar ek chhoti cheez adhoori rehne dijiye. Aaj ki koi ek cheez ginaiye jo aapne achhe se ki. Chhoti chook aaye to khud se kahiye: chalta hai.

“ab aap bachche nahi rahe!” itna kyun chubhta hai?

Andar

Andar kya chal raha hai #

Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.

Ye isliye bhi chubh sakta hai ki isme sudharne ko kuch nahi.
“Hamari umar mein to hum poore ghar ka khaana banate the.”
Andar kahin ek chup niyam ban sakta hai: “Bade insaan se chook nahi hoti,” ya “Agar mujhse chhoti galti hui, to saaf hai ki badappan abhi aaya hi nahi.”

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Log aksar kya karte hain #

Turant maafi maangte hain, chahe baat kitni bhi maamooli lage
Chup ho jaate hain aur bina kuch kahe theek kar dete hain
Der tak samjhate hain ki aisa kyun hua
“Theek hai” kehte hain aur din bhar use dohrate rehte hain
Har cheez do baar jaanchne lagte hain, taaki dobara koi na kahe

Deck

6 cards mein poori kahani #

Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.

Ek plate, phir faisla
Darbhanga mein ghar ka khaana. Plate table par rakhi reh jaati hai, sink tak nahi pahunchti, aur Mausa-ji kehte hain, “Ab aap bachche nahi rahe.” Kamra aage badh jaata hai, par aapka chehra garam ho uthta hai. Aap jaldi se plate uthate ho, sorry kehte ho, aur baaki shaam thoda chhota mehsoos karte ho, jaise ek maamooli-si cheez kisi badi baat ka saboot ho.
Bade logon se chook nahi hoti
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Bade insaan se chook nahi hoti.” Ye seedhe badappan jaisa sunayi deta hai. Zyadatar log is par haami bharenge. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har chhoti galti ko faisla bana deta hai. Ek plate, der se diya jawab ya bhoola kaam plate ya jawab nahi rehta, is baat ka paimana ban jaata hai ki aap sach mein bade hue ya nahi.
Savdhaan rehna kyun sikhaya gaya
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki hum mein se bahuton ko sikhaya gaya ki bada hone ka matlab savdhaan rehna hai. Shaayad ghar mein chook par kade shabd mile, ya jinki aap qadar karte the unse chook kabhi hoti hi nahi dikhi. Bharosemand aur qaabil hona chahna achhi baat hai. Niyam usi chaahat se aaya, aur use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye. Bahut se log ise baantte hain, kai gharon mein.
Din bhar khud par nazar
Har daant aapko thoda aur chaukanna kar deti hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakad mein nahi aata. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Aap chhoti baaton par maafi maangte ho, har cheez do baar jaanchte ho, aur koi bada kamre mein aaye to tan jaate ho. Bada dikhne ki koshish aapko kam sahaj aur apne aap se thoda door chhod sakti hai.
Kya ye tanaav sahi hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko thaamne se, kabhi chook na karne se, aap kabhi zyada bade mehsoos hue? Ya zyadatar tanaav aur thakaan? Bade log plate bhoolte hain aur der se jawab dete hain, aur phir bhi bade hain, khaane ki table par koi kuch bhi kahe. Jawab sirf aap de sakte ho, aur koi jawab galat nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakde rehna sahi hai?
Chook bas chook hai
Chhodne ka matlab kaam achhe se karne ki parwah chhodna nahi. Matlab ye ki chook bas chook hai, aur bada hona har khaane par saabit nahi karna padta. Ye ekdum se nahi hota, aur hona bhi nahi chahiye. Yahin se thoda sukoon lautta hai: aap badhte rehte ho, aur ek tippani bas ek plate ke baare mein ho sakti hai.
If a small mistake at home is ever met with threats, shouting that frightens you, or being hurt, keeping quiet can be the safe choice; that is worth taking seriously.

Palat

Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #

Purana ruleBade insaan se chook nahi hoti.

Try karne ke liye naya ruleChook hona bade hone ka hissa hai.

Agli baar ke liye

Agli baar try kijiye #

Kadam 1
Jaanbujhkar ek chhoti cheez adhoori rehne dijiye
Kadam 2
Aaj ki koi ek cheez ginaiye jo aapne achhe se ki
Kadam 3
Chhoti chook aaye to khud se kahiye: chalta hai

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Aur gehraai mein #

Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.

Yeh kaisa lagta hai

Kya kaha gaya

Chhoti chook, bada vaakya #

Darbhanga mein ghar ki shaam. Chai ke baad cup sink ke paas rakha reh jaata hai. Sofa se Mausa-ji ki awaaz aati hai, “Ab aap bachche nahi rahe.” Kabhi baramde ke beech mein padi chappal par, kabhi family group mein der se diye jawab par. Baat chhoti hoti hai, aur jawab usse bahut bada.

Vaakya shaayad hi kabhi batata hai ki galti kya thi. Wo seedha insaan par girta hai, jaise cup ya message umar aur swabhaav ka koi sanket ho, aur chhoti-si baat khud table par ankahi padi reh jaati hai.

Pichhli baar jab “Ab bachche nahi rahe” suna tha, tab chhoti baat kya thi, aur kamre mein kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›

Pehle kuch pal

Daant ke theek baad ka pal #

Kuch logon ka chehra garam ho jaata hai aur sochne se pehle “sorry” nikal jaata hai. Kuch chup aur sapaat ho jaate hain, cup uthate hain aur aage badh jaate hain. Kuch ko jhat se ek ubaal uthta hai, jawab banta hai, aur wo use nigal lete hain kyunki mauqa itna chhota lagta hai ki ladne laayak nahi.

Daant sochne se pehle hi lag sakti hai. Jawab aksar pehle sharir deta hai, aur theek shabd baad mein aate hain, nahate hue ya lautte hue, aise roop mein jo aur kisi ko sunayi nahi deta.

Jab kaha gaya ki ab bachche nahi rahe, uske baad ke pal mein aapne kya kiya, aur kya karna chahte the?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kyun lagta hai

Chhoti baat, poore insaan par faisla #

Vaakya umar ke baare mein hai, cup ke baare mein nahi. Wo ek chook ko is faisle mein badal deta hai ki koi kitna bada hua hai. Ye isliye chubh sakta hai ki daant galti se badi hai, aur bade vaakya ka jawab dena kisi chhoti maang se mushkil hai.

Ye isliye bhi chubh sakta hai ki isme sudharne ko kuch nahi. Cup hataya ja sakta hai, message bheja ja sakta hai, par “bachche nahi rahe” ke baad karne ko kuch nahi bachta siwaye peechhe mehsoos karne ke.

Jab suna, tab chhoti baat aapke liye maayne rakhti thi, ya vaakya ka aakaar hi yaad raha?Is par baat kijiye ›

Andar ki awaaz

Jab vaakya pehle bolne lagta hai #

Baar-baar suno to wo aapke pahunchne se pehle pahunch sakta hai. “Apni umar ka khayal karo.” “Laparwahi mat karo.” “Aur log bhi to sambhalte hain.” Cup istemaal hone se pehle dhul jaata hai, message fauran chala jaata hai, aur har chhote faisle ke neeche ek chup jaanch chalti rehti hai.

Kehne wala doosre shehar mein ho sakta hai, phir bhi nigraani chalu rehti hai. Awaaz zimmedari jaisi sunayi deti hai, isliye gun lagti hai, kisi ka kaha vaakya nahi, aur use shaayad hi kabhi chhutti milti hai.

Aapke dimaag mein kiski awaaz chhoti cheezon ko bada hone ke paimane par tolti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kahan se aata hai

Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai

Kuch logon ke liye bada hona report-card ke saath aaya #

“Hamari umar mein to hum poore ghar ka khaana banate the.” “Akal kab aayegi?” Kuch log aise gharon mein pale jahan bade hone par bareek nazar rakhi jaati thi, aur har chhoti chook us tasveer ke saamne rakhi jaati thi jo ab tak ban jaani chahiye thi.

Kai parivaaron mein wo tasveer pyaar aur fikr se aayi, aur shabd ghar-ghar alag hote hain. Koi naujawaan chupke se isse ye pakad sakta hai ki bada hona ek aisa imtihaan hai jiski jaanch hamesha hoti hai, aur kisi umar mein paas nahi gina jaata.

Sabse pehle kisne mehsoos karaya ki aapki chhoti galtiyan is paimane par toli ja rahi hain ki aap kitne bade hue, aur tab aap kya kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iske neeche ki maanyata

Chook ke baare mein ek chup niyam #

Andar kahin ek chup niyam ban sakta hai: “Bade insaan se chook nahi hoti,” ya “Agar mujhse chhoti galti hui, to saaf hai ki badappan abhi aaya hi nahi.” Kuch log daant ke bahut baad bhi ise uthaye chalte hain, aisi naukriyon aur rishton mein jahan koi number de hi nahi raha.

Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo star jaise lagte hain, yahan tak ki badappan jaise. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi nikaalkar dekhna theek rehta hai, bajay iske ki andekhe unke andar jiya jaaye.

Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.

Zindagi ke kin hisson mein “Bade se chook nahi hoti” aaj bhi theek baithta hai, aur kinmein ab nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iski kya keemat hai

Nigraani rakhne ki keemat #

Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki jin baaton par maafi ki zaroorat nahi thi un par maafi maangi jaaye, ek seedha email paanch baar jaancha jaaye, ya koi kaam is dar se taala jaaye ki galat na ho jaaye. Kuch log bachche na dikhne ki koshish mein hi bachche jaisa mehsoos karne lagte hain.

Ek aur chupchaap keemat bhi hai. Bedaag bane rehne ki mehnat mein wo urja jaati hai jo kahin aur lag sakti thi, aur paas ke log aksar sambhala hua, sanwara roop dekhte hain, aaram se bhara nahi.

Pichhle ek saal mein bedaag bane rehne ne aapse kya liya, urja, sahajta ya apni yojanayein?Is par baat kijiye ›

Agar yeh aisa hi rahe

Paanch saal aur har chook par nazar #

Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Mujhse kabhi chook nahi honi chahiye” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.

Shaayad bhejne se pehle chaar baar jaancha email, kisi chhoti baat par nikli maafi, is dar se tala kaam ki galat na ho jaaye, phone par ek khaas naam aate hi tanta kandha. Kuch jaana-pehchana lagega, kuch bilkul nahi.

Tasveer mein kuch tay nahi hai, aur use jab chahein kinaare rakha ja sakta hai.

Usmein kya hai: messages, ghar ke kaam, kisi bade ke chehre par ek nazar?Is par baat kijiye ›

Chook par nazar rakhne wale poore din ko dekhkar aapki nazar sabse zyada kis par rukti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka

Chook bhi bade hone ka hissa hai #

Bade log bhi cheezein bhoolte hain, kho dete hain, der se pahunchte hain aur galat shabd bol jaate hain. Ek chook kisi Tuesday ki baat batati hai, zindagi ke kisi padav ki nahi. Is tarah dekhein to tippani ek pal ki tulna ek aise kaalpanik insaan se karti hai jiske saath aise pal kabhi nahi aate.

Chhoti baat ko chhoti baat ki tarah uthaya ja sakta hai: “Cup rakh dijiye” kehne se kaam ho jaata hai, bina insaan par faisle ke. Kuch logon ko ye poochhna madad karta hai ki asal mein chaha kya gaya tha, us vaakya se alag jo saath aaya.

Agar aapki umar ke kisi dost ne usi sink ke paas wahi cup chhoda hota, to aap uske baare mein kya sochte?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise jaldi pehchanna

Dheere-dheere dohrane par kya dikhta hai #

Kuch log wo pal dheere se dohrate hain to dekhte hain ki baat asal mein kitni chhoti thi, aur kitni garmi vaakya se aayi. Kuch ko dikhta hai ki kehne wale ka din bhaari tha, wo thake the, ya kisi aur cheez ki fikr mein the, haalanki isse vaakya halka nahi ho jaata.

Kuch ko wo kamre dikhte hain jahan chook bina faisle ke nikal jaati hai: koi dost jo hans deta hai, koi colleague jo kehta hai “Chalta hai”, koi bhai jo bas cup utha leta hai. Kabhi aise kamre kai hote hain, aur kabhi dar ek khaas ghar ke baare mein sahi nikalta hai.

Aapki zindagi mein kahan ek chhoti chook bas chhoti chook reh sakti hai, aur wo log kya karte hain jisse aisa hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Isse sulah

Bada saabit karna zaroori nahi #

Sukoon ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki chook kabhi maayne nahi rakhti, na ye dikhana ki vaakya chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek insaan ka ek vaakya ye kam tay kare ki agle kamre mein aap khud ko kitna bada mehsoos karein.

Kuch logon ko tab halka lagta hai jab wo har chhoti baat ko saboot samajhna chhod dete hain. Badappan ek din mein saabit nahi hota, aur jo number koi gin hi nahi raha, use neeche rakha ja sakta hai.

Kuch log tolte rahenge, aur unse behes ki zaroorat nahi.

Bina kisi ki haami ke khud ko bada mehsoos karna kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ek zyada sachcha vaakya

Ek line jo kuch log paas rakhte hain #

Agar “Mujhse kabhi chook nahi honi chahiye” barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe behes ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajay ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Bade logon se bhi cup chhoot jaate hain, aur badappan phir bhi bana rehta hai.”

Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log pehnkar dekhte hain, aur family khaane ya meeting se pehle dheere se kehne par purani line ki kuch jagah le leti hai.

Apni chookon ke baare mein ek sachcha vaakya aapke apne shabdon mein kaisa hoga, jise daant se bachkar nikalne ki zaroorat na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›

Kya rehne dein

Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #

Har “Ab bachche nahi rahe” ko jawabi tark, maafi ya ek bedaag hafte ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambi paidal doori ke baad jhola farsh par rakh dete hain.

Iska matlab vaakya ko jhatak dena nahi. Ye chunna hai ki urja kahan jaaye, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un cheezon ke liye, jinki unhein sach mein parwah hai, aur un logon ke liye jo unki chook ko chhota maante hain, zyada jagah bachti hai.

Aaj ki shaam ise neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki use agli baatcheet, agli meeting ya ghar ke agle phone tak saath nahi chalna hai.

Agar yeh dheela pade

Aur agar chook bas chook ho #

Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Chook ab bhi chook hai, par ab wo aapki umar ke baare mein kuch nahi kehti.

Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: teesri baar padhe bina bheja gaya message, bina bhaashan ke kal par chhoda gaya koi kaam, ya sink ke paas chhoota cup aur kisi ke yaad dilane par ek shaant “Haan, abhi rakh doon”.

Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.

Agar chhoti galtiyan chhoti hi rahein, to sabse pehle kya alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›

Agar chook ki ijaazat hoti, to aap pehle kaun si chhoti cheez karte?Is par baat kijiye ›

Try karne ki chhoti cheezein

Try karne ke liye kuch

Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #

Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi ‘Ab bachche nahi rahe’ wali line”
Chupchaap poochhiye: chhoti baat asal mein kya thi?
Aaj koi ek chhoti cheez adhoori rehne dijiye, aur gaur kijiye
Kisi ek aise insaan ko sochiye jiske saamne chook chalti hai
Aaj ki koi ek cheez gaur kijiye jo aapne theek ki, kitni bhi maamooli

Nijee, chhote aur apni marzi ke. Jo ho paaye, wahi chuniye.

Ek sawaal chuniye

Baat kijiye #

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