Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye zyada chubh sakta hai kyunki khel aur gussa aksar kisi asli cheez se jude hote hain: mushkil hafte ke baad ki raahat, aisi khushi jise jagah nahi mili, ya koi chubhan jo tedhi hokar nikli.
Kuch logon ne jaldi seekha ki bada hone ka matlab shaant aur gambhir dikhna hai, aur zor ki hansi ya dikhta hua dukh kisi chhote ka kaam hai.
Neeche-neeche ek niyam ban sakta hai: “Khelne-hansne se meri izzat ghatati hai,” ya “Bada aadmi shararat aur zor ke jazbaat nahi dikhata.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Hanskar taal dena aur din bhar ke liye sab dheema kar lena
- Ekdum serious ho jaana, maano baat galat saabit karni ho
- Koi chubhti baat palatkar bol dena, phir baad mein bura lagna
- Kuch kiya bhi na ho, phir bhi jaise the uske liye sorry bol dena
- Khelne wala hissa bas ek-do pasandida logon ke liye rakhna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Ek hansi, ek thappa
Cousin ki sangeet ki raat, Banaras. Cousins zor ka khel shuru karte hain aur aap usmein kood padte ho, itna hanste hue ki khade rehna mushkil hai. Hall ke us paar Taiji sapaat awaaz mein kehti hain, “Ye kya bachpana hai?” Kuch sir mudte hain. Hansi gale mein atak jaati hai, chehra garam ho jaata hai, aur aap chupchaap baith jaate ho jabki khel aapke bina chalta rehta hai.
Bade log khelte nahi
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Bade log khelte nahi.” Ye seedhi samajhdaari lagti hai. Oopar se jaise sab yahi seekhte hain, aur ise shayad hi koi parakhta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har hansi ko pehle jaanchne ki cheez bana deta hai. Khushi, shararat aur zor ke jazbaat galti jaise lagne lagte hain, aur koi kuch kahe isse pehle aap khud ko kaatne-chhaantne lagte ho.
Humne gambhir rehna kyun seekha
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki bahuton ko sikhaya gaya ki gambhir hona hi bada hona hai. Kai log is niyam ka koi na koi roop saath lekar bade hote hain, aur us waqt uska matlab bhi tha. Shayad zor ke khel par nazarein uthti thin. Shayad shaant rehne par taareef milti thi. Gambhirta se liya jaana chahna galat nahi. Wo apnapan chahne se aata hai, aur use narmi chahiye.
Chhota hota maza
Har “bachkana” maze ko thoda aur chhota kar deta hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Hansi dheemi ho jaati hai. Khel chhoot jaata hai. Bewakoofana awaaz gaadi ke liye rakh li jaati hai. Aapka khilandda hissa, jo garmjosh aur tez hai, peeche aur peeche dhakela jaata hai.
Kya gambhir hona bada hona hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya khilandde hisse ko daba lene se kabhi aap zyada bade mehsoos hue? Ya zyadatar sab bas feeka hua? Bahut se bade khelte hain, aur unmein se zyadatar phir bhi bharosemand rehte hain. Jawab sirf aap de sakte ho, aur koi jawab galat nahi. Gambhir hona aur samajhdaar hona ek baat nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna theek hai?
Bade hokar bhi khelna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap kamra padhna chhod do. Matlab ye ki khel aur bade jazbaat bada hone ke saath baith sakte hain. Aap khulkar hans bhi sakte ho, aur apne mauke chun bhi sakte ho. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Wahin se kuch sukoon lautta hai: samajh aapke paas rehti hai, aur maza aapka rehta hai, un kamron mein jo use sambhalein.
If speaking up or laughing at home is ever met with threats, anger that frightens you, or being hurt, keeping quiet can be the safe choice; that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleBade log khelte nahi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleKhilandda-pan aur badappan, dono mere saath chal sakte hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Aaj ek chhoti si bewakoofi kijiye, bas apne liye
- Kadam 2
Aaj ek aisi clip dekhiye jo hansa de
- Kadam 3
Ek hansi ko poori lambai tak chalne dijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Pichhli baar kisi ne bachkana kaha, tab aap kya kar rahe the ya kya mehsoos kar rahe the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Khel ya dukh ke jawab mein ek thappa #
Banaras ke banquet hall mein cousin ki sangeet ki raat hai. Antakshari aur dance ka khel thoda zor pakadta hai, ya office ke group mein hansi ek second zyada khinch jaati hai. Tabhi sapaat aur jhat se awaaz aati hai, “Ye kya bachpana hai? Apni umar toh dekho.”
Sunne mein sawaal lagta hai, par jawab maangta kuch bhi nahi. Ye thappe jaisa kaam karta hai, aur usse pehle jo hua, khel, hansi ya koi chubhan, us par koi nazar nahi daalta. Uski jagah thappa baith jaata hai.
Pichhli baar “ye kya bachpana hai?” suna, tab aap kya kar rahe the ya kya mehsoos kar rahe the, aur kaun itna paas tha ki sun le?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Thappa lagne ke baad ka pal #
Kuch logon ka chehra garam ho jaata hai aur muskaan ekdum bujh jaati hai. Kuch hanskar taal dete hain, par andar kuch aur chalta hai. Kuch sikudkar seedhe baith jaate hain, jaise seedhi peeth se kuch saabit ho jaayega.
Sabke saamne thappa lagna ek second mein mehsoos ho sakta hai, sochne se pehle. Jo pal abhi hansi ka tha, wo sharm ki cheez lagne lagta hai, chahe usse kisi ka kuch bigda na ho.
Thappa lagne ke baad ke pehle second mein aap apne chehre, haathon aur awaaz ka kya karte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye insaan par faisla deta hai, pal par nahi #
“Khel thoda lamba ho gaya” pal ke baare mein hota. “Ye kya bachpana hai” insaan ke baare mein hai, aur ghatna nahi, khaami ginata hai. Mann khaami sun leta hai, aur pal khud nazar se hat jaata hai.
Ye zyada chubh sakta hai kyunki khel aur gussa aksar kisi asli cheez se jude hote hain: mushkil hafte ke baad ki raahat, aisi khushi jise jagah nahi mili, ya koi chubhan jo tedhi hokar nikli. Thappa ye sab chhod deta hai, aur haath mein bas faisla reh jaata hai.
Jab aapko bachkana kaha gaya, tab neeche asal mein kya chal raha tha, maza, raahat ya koi chot?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab thappa pehle bolne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye pehle hi bol padta hai. “Dheere hanso.” “Yahan nahi, log kya kahenge, bachcha samjhenge.” “Samajhdaar bano.” Mazaak banta hai, jaancha jaata hai aur muh se nikalne se pehle chhoot jaata hai.
Kehne wala kamre se kab ka ja chuka hoga, par jaanch ab bhi chalti hai: meeting mein aadhi roki gayi muskaan, na bheja gaya meme, daba liya gaya khushi ka shor. Awaaz samajhdaari jaisi sunayi deti hai, isliye kisi aur ka kaha vaakya nahi, apni pasand lagti hai.
Aapke sar mein kiski awaaz kehti hai ki kisi aur ke kehne se pehle khud ko dheema kar lo?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye bada hona matlab sab band kar dena #
“Badon ki tarah baitho.” “Apni umar toh dekho.” “Bade bachche halla nahi machate.” Kuch logon ne jaldi seekha ki bada hone ka matlab shaant aur gambhir dikhna hai, aur zor ki hansi ya dikhta hua dukh kisi chhote ka kaam hai.
Kuch gharon mein ye chhoti jagah mein shaanti banaye rakhne ka tareeka tha, ya bheed mein nazar na khinchne ka, aur wajahein ghar-ghar alag hain. Bachcha chupchaap isse bada sabak rakh leta hai: khelna chhodne ki cheez hai, kisi aisi deadline par jiska kisi ne naam nahi liya.
Aapne pehli baar kab dekha ki aapke khel ya aapki naaraazgi ko badon ke paimane par taula ja raha hai, aur taul kaun raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Bade hone par ek chup-sa niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek niyam ban sakta hai: “Khelne-hansne se meri izzat ghatati hai,” ya “Bada aadmi shararat aur zor ke jazbaat nahi dikhata.” Kuch log ise us din se bahut aage bhi dhote hain.
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo samajhdaari jaise lagte hain, achhi shirt ke saath aane wali seedhi peeth jaise. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi bahar nikaalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuru ke saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Kin kamron mein “bade shararat nahi karte” ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Khelne wala hissa andar rakhne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai team lunch mein na kaha gaya mazaak, parivarik jamavde mein chhoda gaya khel, ya naam lene ke bajaye nigal li gayi naaraazgi. Kuch log nijee taur par khilandde rehte hue bhi sabke saamne aisa hona bahut pehle chhod dete hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Har hansi ko naap-taulkar jaanchne mein taakat lagti hai, aur aaspaas ke log ek nape-tule roop se milte hain, jabki asal mein wo tez aur garmjoshi wala insaan hai. Saal bhar mein kai shaamein aisi ho sakti hain jinmein maza tha, magar table tak pahuncha nahi.
Pichhle ek saal mein khelne wala hissa andar rakhne ki aapko kya keemat chukani padi: koi dosti, koi gharelu shaam, ya apna maza?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, maza chhota rakhte hue #
Kisi aam Saturday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “gambhir dikhna hai” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad parivarik lunch par taali gayi hansi, gaadi ke liye bachayi gayi bewakoofana awaaz, shisht muskaan ke saath mana kiya gaya khel, ek lambi shaam jo samajhdaari mein nikli. Kuch jaana-pehchana ho sakta hai, kuch bilkul nahi.
Tasveer mein kuch bhi pakka nahi, aur ise jab chahein neeche rakh sakte hain.
Usmein kya hai: jamavde, group chat, roke hue mazaak?Is par baat kijiye ›
Maza chhota rakhne wale poore din ki tasveer mein sabse zyada kya ubharta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Bachkana, kiske muqable? #
Kabhi koi baat sach mein kisi khaas pal mein betuki baithti hai, aur koi dost seedhe keh sakta hai. Kabhi ye shabd bas “mujhe asahaj laga” kehne ka jaldi ka tareeka hota hai.
Khel bade bhi khelte hain, aur zor se pareshan hona bhi badon ka hi kaam hai. Pehle ko taula ja sakta hai, doosre ko bas ek thehraav chahiye.
“Bachkana” ko paimane ki zaroorat hai: kiske muqable?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kuch log do sawaal alag karna kaam ka paate hain: kya ye is kamre mein baitha, aur kya mujhmein kuch gadbad hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar aapki umar ka koi dost bilkul wahi karta jo aapne kiya, to kya “bachkana” aapke mann mein aata?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dheere doharane par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log us pal ko dheere-dheere doharate hain, to dekhte hain ki asal mein kya ho raha tha: aisa khel jismein baaki sab bhi the, aisi hansi jo poori table ne baanti, aisi chot jo asli thi. Thappe ke bagal mein rakhein, to kuch ko dikhta hai ki pal kitna chhota tha aur shabd kitna bada.
Kuch ko wo jagahein dikhti hain jahan ye hissa pasand kiya jaata hai: ek dost jo saath hanse, bhai-behen jo khel shuru kare, colleague jo sabse pehle bewakoofana message bheje. Kabhi aisi jagahein kaafi hoti hain, aur kabhi saavdhani sahi thi, par kisi ek kamre ke baare mein.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun aapke khilandde hisse ka maza leta hai, aur wo aisa kya karta hai jisse use bahar laana aasaan ho jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Bade hone ki behas jeetna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki pal bilkul sahi tha, ya dikhana ki shabd chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek vaakya is par thoda kam chale ki agli mehfil mein koi kitna khilandda ya pareshan ho sakta hai.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo samajhdaar saabit karne ki koshish chhodte hain. Wo saboot kabhi poora nahi hota, kyunki paimana khisakta rehta hai, aur har kamre ke beech mein kisi ek ka shabd baitha rehta hai.
Kuch kamre sach mein khel pasand nahi karenge, aur unhein parakhne ki zaroorat nahi.
Kaisa lagega apna khilandda hissa poora rakhna, chahe wo kisi ko dikhe nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “mujhe aur serious hona chahiye” saalon se andar baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Bade bhi khelte hain, aur jazbaat kabhi-kabhi zor ke bhi hote hain.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log aazmaate hain, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki parivarik jamavde ya raat ki mehfil se pehle dheere se kahi jaaye to purane thappe ki thodi jagah le leti hai.
Apne khilandde hisse ke baare mein aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jise kisi ki manzoori ki zaroorat na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “ye kya bachpana hai” ko palatkar jawab, maafi ya agli baar zyada gambhir chehra nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe safar ke baad bag daalan mein rakh dete hain.
Ye shabd ke saamne haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un shaamon ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinmein hansna aasaan hota hai, aur unke liye jinke saath wo hanste hain.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki wo agle dinner, agle phone ya agli party mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar thappe ka wazan utar jaaye #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Gambhirta ab bhi zindagi ka hissa hai, par bade hone ka poora matlab nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: sahi waqt par sunaya gaya mazaak, kisi dost ko bheji bewakoofana photo, ya hansi ko poori lambai tak chalne dena.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Agar khelne ko bahana na chahiye hota, to sabse pehle kya alag lagta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar khilandda hona jaayaz lagta, to aap sabse pehle kaun si chhoti cheez karte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi bachpana wala thappa”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: bachkana, kiske muqable?
- Us pal ko ek seedhe vaakya mein bayaan kijiye ki wo asal mein kya tha
- Aisa ek insaan yaad kijiye jo aapke saath hansta hai, aur us baat ka maza lijiye
- Aaj ek chhoti si bewakoofi kijiye jise kisi ko dekhna na pade
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Pichhli baar kisi ne bachkana kaha, tab aap kya kar rahe the ya kya mehsoos kar rahe the?
- Sabse pehle kisne aapko ehsaas dilaya ki khelne ki bhi umar hoti hai?
- Apne kaun se khilandde hisse ko aap aur zyada dekhna chahenge?
- Jis aam din serious rehne wala niyam zor se bole, aap kya rok lete hain?
- Agar thappe ka wazan thoda ghate, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?