Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Kisi ke beete kal se tulna aaj ke sach jaisi lag sakti hai, kyunki uske saath saal jude hote hain.
“Sharma ji ka beta chaar saal ki umar mein pahaade sunata tha.”
Kuch logon ko neeche ek niyam baithta sunayi deta hai: “Mujhe ab tak aur aage hona chahiye tha,” ya “Har cheez ki ek sahi umar hoti hai aur meri nikal rahi hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Sir hilana aur chupchaap saalon ka jod-ghatana karna
- Apni uplabdhiyan ginana, aur phir aur bura lagna
- Kahani jamne se pehle baat badal dena: “arre, jalebi to lijiye”
- Timetable ke peechhe bhaagkar koi faisla jaldbaazi mein le lena
- Baad mein dohrana, aur wo sab sochna jo kaha nahi gaya
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Aangan mein Phuphaji ki ginti
Dadaji ke pachhattarwein birthday par Prayagraj ke aangan mein cake kata hai. Phuphaji chai ka cup thaame kehte hain, “Hum to tumhari umar mein do bachchon ke baap ban chuke the.” Sab hanste hain. Aapke munh se bhi nikalta hai, “Zamana alag hai.” Par lautte rickshaw mein ginti shuru ho jaati hai: naukri, ghar, plan. Subah jis baat par garv tha, ab chhoti lagti hai, jaise kisi aisi daud mein utaar diye gaye jiska pata bhi nahi tha.
Mujhe ab tak aage hona tha
Ye baatein ek aise niyam par girti hain jo shayad pehle se wahan hai: “Mujhe ab tak aur aage hona chahiye tha.” Ye mahatvakanksha jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki zindagi ko kisi aur ke beete kal se naapta hai, doosre daur mein, doosre maukon ke saath. Aap theek chal rahe hain ya nahi, ye us timetable ki daud par tik jaata hai jo kabhi aapka tha hi nahi.
Padaav itne saaf kyun lagte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki bachpan se saaf padaav sunte aaye: kaun kis umar mein kya bana. Shayad har paarivarik jamavde mein “Sharma ji ka beta” chalta raha. Shayad mann hai ki gharwalon ko aapki banayi zindagi par garv ho. Ye niyam bewakoofi nahi. Ye chaah se aata hai ki zindagi achhi chale. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Lautte rickshaw mein jod-ghatana
Har tulna aapke apne kadam chhote kar deti hai. Umar aur tarakki ke hisaab lagne lagte hain. Jamavdon mein apna kaam chhota karke bataya jaane lagta hai. Achhe dinon mein bhi lagta hai ki peechhe hain. Dheere-dheere jo zindagi asal mein aapke paas hai, apni saari asli uplabdhiyon ke saath, us zindagi ka waiting room lagne lagti hai jo honi chahiye thi.
Kya ye timetable iske layak hai?
Imaandaari se poochhiye: kya kisi ke beete kal se apni tulna ne kabhi aage badhne mein madad ki? Ya zyadatar kadam bas chhote lagne lage? Unki kahani doosre daur aur doosre maukon ki thi, aur shabd unke apne the. Kisi ka timetable aapki zindagi ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna uski keemat ke layak hai?
Aapke raaste ki apni raftaar
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap apni zindagi se kuch chahna band kar dein. Matlab ye ki aapka raasta kisi aur se mel khane ko bandha nahi. Aap dekh sakte ho ki ab tak kitna raasta tay hua, aur agla kadam apni raftaar se rakh sakte ho. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: zindagi phir apni lagti hai, kisi aur ki jawaani ki yaadon se daud nahi.
Where someone really does react badly, with threats, anger or fear, to the choices you make, that is worth taking seriously, and going along can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe ab tak aur aage hona chahiye tha.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere raaste ki apni raftaar hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Teen aisi cheezein ginie jo ab aati hain aur pehle nahi aati thin
- Kadam 2
Tulna laute to ek lambi saans lijiye
- Kadam 3
Is hafte apni chahi cheez ki or ek chhota kadam rakhiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne “hamare time mein to…” kaha, us kahani ne aapke raaste ki kaun si baat chhod di?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek kahani, jo aapki umar se shuru hoti hai #
Dadaji ke pachhattarwein birthday par Prayagraj ke aangan mein cake kat chuka hai, samose-jalebi ghoom rahe hain. Phuphaji chai ka cup thaame kehte hain, “Tumhari umar mein to hum do bachchon ke baap ban chuke the.” Chachaji jodte hain, “Aur main do saal ki naukri nikaal chuka tha.”
Ye yaadon ki tarah sunaya jaata hai, kabhi pyaar se, kabhi aah bharkar. Par do zindagiyan ek-doosre ke barabar rakh di jaati hain, beech mein ghadi lagakar. Sunne wala chupchaap saalon aur faasle ka hisaab lagane lagta hai, aur kahani aage badhti rehti hai.
Pichhli baar “tumhari umar mein to hum…” suna, to uske baad kya aaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur theek usse pehle baat kis par ho rahi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Hisaab apne aap kyun shuru ho jaata hai #
Kuch logon ko pet mein halka-sa dhakka lagta hai, chehre par muskaan jami rehti hai, aur dimaag mein jod-ghatana chal padta hai: umar, naukri, ghar, “settle” hona. Koi sir hilata rehta hai, koi chupchaap chai mein chammach ghumata hai.
Apne kareebi se tulna hona sharir ko ek second mein lag jaata hai, sochne se pehle. Sochna baad mein aata hai: lautte rickshaw mein, ya raat ko chhat taakte hue, aur tab wo saare jawab soojhte hain jo tulna chhod gayi thi.
“Tumhari umar mein to…” ke theek baad wale pal mein mann kin cheezon ki ginti karne laga, aur kinhein ginti se bahar chhod diya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Do zindagiyan, ek hi paimana #
“Aajkal kya chal raha hai?” ek zindagi ke baare mein poochhta hai. “Hamare time mein to…” use naapta hai, kisi aur daur ke feete se, jahan naukriyan alag thin aur darwaze bhi. Mann pehle naap ko sunta hai.
Kisi ke beete kal se tulna aaj ke sach jaisi lag sakti hai, kyunki uske saath saal jude hote hain. Par saal bas itna batate hain ki kab. Ye nahi ki raasta kaisa tha, kisne haath thama, aur tab zamana kya kar raha tha.
Jab kisi ne apna beeta kal aapke aaj ke bagal mein rakha, to aapke apne raaste ka kaun sa hissa us tulna mein aaya hi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab ghadi aapki apni awaaz mein chalne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar bas jaata hai. “Ab tak to mera kuch ho jaana chahiye tha.” “Meri umar ke sab to kab ke set hain.” “Time nikla ja raha hai.” Birthday par, 31 December ki raat, ya school ke dost ki har khushkhabri par ye hisaab phir chal padta hai.
Sunane wale Phuphaji shayad doosre shehar mein hon, par ghadi ab andar tik-tik karti hai, aapki apni awaaz mein. Isliye wo imaandaar hisaab-kitaab lagti hai, kisi aur ka thamaya timetable nahi, jo aangan ki kisi shaam mein pakda diya gaya tha.
Aapke dimaag ki ghadi kiske timetable par chal rahi hai, aur usne aapki apni awaaz mein use padhna kab shuru kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye ghadi bachpan mein chal padi #
“Sharma ji ka beta chaar saal ki umar mein pahaade sunata tha.” “Bhaiya to is umar mein class mein first aata tha.” Kuch logon ke liye kisi aur ke timetable se naapa jaana pehli naukri se bahut pehle shuru ho gaya: result ke din, ya Sunday ko kisi rishtedaar ke yahan.
Kai gharon mein uplabdhiyan ginna hi garv jatane ka tareeka tha, aur wajahein har ghar ki alag hain. Bachcha chupchaap ye maan sakta hai ki har cheez ki ek sahi umar hoti hai, aur der se pahunchoge to sabki nazar mein aa jaata hai.
Aapne pehli baar kab jaana ki har cheez ki ek “sahi umar” hoti hai, aur tab aapko kiske timetable se naapa ja raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Tulna ke neeche baitha ek chup niyam #
Kuch logon ko neeche ek niyam baithta sunayi deta hai: “Mujhe ab tak aur aage hona chahiye tha,” ya “Har cheez ki ek sahi umar hoti hai aur meri nikal rahi hai.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo seedhe ganit jaise lagte hain: ek umar, ek list, ek faasla. Isiliye inhein nikaalkar dekhna theek hai, kyunki ganit utna hi sahi hota hai jitne sahi usmein daale gaye aankde.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
“Mujhe ab tak aur aage hona chahiye tha” jaisa niyam aapko kitna apna-sa lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
“Mujhe ab tak aur aage hona chahiye tha” wala niyam kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Kisi aur ki ghadi par jeene ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki faisle barabari karne ke liye liye jaayein, chaahat ki wajah se nahi: title ke liye pakdi naukri, birthday paas aa raha tha isliye shuru kiya course, mann banne se pehle uthaya koi bada kadam. Zindagi ka koi daur naapne mein hi nikal jaata hai, jeene mein nahi.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Achhi khabar “der se aayi” lagti hai, khushi jaisi nahi, aur aage badhne par bhi mann mein “chalo, aakhir” hi aata hai. Saal bhar mein aisi kai jeetein ginni jaati hain, mehsoos nahi ki jaatin.
Pichhle ek saal mein “tumhari umar mein to” wali tulna ki kya keemat rahi, agar kuch rahi: koi jaldbaazi ka faisla, koi daur jiska maza nahi liya, koi khabar jo der se aayi lagi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Kisi aur ki ghadi par ek aam Tuesday #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din ka jab “mujhe ab tak aur aage hona chahiye tha” zor se baj raha hai. Ye bas dekhne ke liye ek tasveer hai, sudharne ke liye kuch nahi.
Shayad bus mein school ke dost ki khabar do baar padhi gayi, job listing kaam se zyada title ke liye dekhi gayi, calendar par birthday nayi tarah se gina gaya, ghar ki call mein plan wala sawaal jaldi se taal diya gaya.
Isme abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer kabhi bhi ek taraf rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, messages, scrolling, plans jo umar se taule ja rahe hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhte hue, kuch alag se dikhta hai kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
“Pehle hi” kehne ke liye shuruaat kahan se? #
“Pehle hi” ke liye ek shuruaati line chahiye. Alag saal mein, alag shehar mein, alag naukriyon aur alag logon ke beech bade hue do log shayad hi ek line se chalte hain, ek hi parivar mein bhi nahi.
Kuch logon ko dikhta hai ki beete kal ki kahani mein headline reh jaati hai aur baaki chhoot jaata hai: sahi waqt par mili madad, ittefaq, jo cheezein bigdin, jo chhodni padin. Do raaste tabhi taule ja sakte hain jab dono poore dikhein.
Agar koi kareebi dost paarivarik jamavde mein kisi aur ke timetable se naapa jaata, to us shaam use apne raaste ke baare mein kya yaad dilana theek rehta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log baatcheet ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to unhein dikhta hai ki kya poochha hi nahi gaya: unhein kya achha lagta hai, unhone kya khada kiya, wo kis or badh rahe hain. Kahani poore aangan mein phaili rahi, aur wo sawaal pahunche hi nahi.
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jo unki zindagi ko usi ke apne hisaab se poochhte hain: ek dost jo naye project ke baare mein sunna chahta hai, ek colleague jo course ka haal poochhti hai, chhota cousin jise unki naukri dilchasp lagti hai. Wo awaazein pehle se thin.
Aapki zindagi ke baare mein bina ghadi rakhe kaun poochhta hai, aur aap unse kis baare mein baat karne lagte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Kahani ki barabari karne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki tulna sahi thi, ya ye dikhana ki wo chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek insaan ke beete kal ki ek kahani ka is par kam chale ki is saal ko kaise naapa jaaye, aur aaj ki shaam kaise beete.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo jawab mein apni uplabdhiyon ki poori list banana chhod dete hain. Wo list kabhi itni lambi nahi lagti, aur jab tak ban rahi hai, kisi aur ka timetable kamre ke beech mein rakha rehta hai.
Kuch kamre sach mein nahi sunte, aur wahan kisi ko aazmana zaroori nahi.
Agli paarivarik call kaisi hogi agar “tumhari umar mein to” wali kahani sunane wale ke paas hi reh jaaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachchi line #
Agar “mujhe der ho rahi hai” saalon se andar chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyar rakhte hain: “Saal alag, raaste alag, aur mera raasta wahi hai jis par main hoon.”
Ye shuru mein sach lage, zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki paarivarik jamavde ya birthday se pehle dheere se keh lene par wo purani ghadi ki thodi jagah le leti hai.
Apni raftaar ke baare mein aapke apne shabdon mein sachchi line kya hogi, aisi jise maanne ke liye khane ki mez par kisi ki haan ki zaroorat na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein mez par hi reh sakti hain #
Har “hamare time mein to” ka jawab dena, uplabdhiyan ginana ya barabari ka naya plan banana zaroori nahi. Kuch baatein dekhi ja sakti hain, ek pal feel ki ja sakti hain, aur sabke uth jaane par chai ke khaali cupon ke saath mez par chhodi ja sakti hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi. Ye chunna hai ki urja kahan jaaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse un plans ke liye jagah bachti hai jo sach mein mayne rakhte hain, usi raftaar se jo unki zindagi ki apni hai.
Kahani ko aaj ki shaam mez par chhod dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki use lautte raaste, agle message ya kal ki subah tak saath nahi aana padega.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar ghadi thodi dheemi pade #
Bas tasveer ke taur par sochiye ki ghadi ka niyam ek notch dheema ho gaya. Doosron ki kahaniyan ab bhi sunayi jaati hain, par zindagi apne raaste se naapi ja sakti hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: achhi khabar usi din mana li jaaye, plan isliye chuna jaaye ki wo chahiye tha, dost ki khabar ek baar padhkar bas khush ho liya jaaye.
Isme se kisi ko kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi uthe, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai, chahe kitna chhota ho. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to chat bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagega, zara-sa bhi, agar ghadi ka niyam dheela pade?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ghadi dheeli padne ka pehla chhota nishaan kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi umar wali ghadi”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: “pehle hi”, magar kis saal aur kis raaste ke hisaab se?
- Gaur kijiye ki kya zyada zor se laga: kahani, ya uske baad ka hisaab
- Apne raaste ki koi ek baat sochiye jo kisi kahani mein aayi hi nahi
- Aaj ki ek chhoti cheez par dhyan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne “hamare time mein to…” kaha, us kahani ne aapke raaste ki kaun si baat chhod di?
- Jab wo kahani sunayi ja rahi thi, aapke dimaag mein kaun sa number gina jaane laga?
- Aapki zindagi ka kaun sa hissa aisa hai jiske baare mein bina ghadi rakhe poochha jaana achha lage?
- Jis aam din ghadi wala niyam zor se bajta hai, us din aap kya taalte rahenge?
- Agar ghadi ka niyam thoda dheela pad jaaye, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?