Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye aur chubh sakti hai jab sunne wala khoob koshish karke lihaaz rakhta raha ho.
Kuch log aise gharon mein bade hue jahan izzat kuch aise kaam the jo dikhte the, aur ek chhootte hi kamre ke paar se tok aa jaati thi.
Neeche-neeche ek niyam ban sakta hai: “Bharosa milne se pehle mujhe saabit karna hai ki mujhmein lihaaz hai,” ya “Jawan log tab tak shak ke daayre mein hain jab tak kuch aur saabit na ho.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Chup rehna aur khaas taur par tameezdaar dikhne ki koshish karna
- Us hafte jitni bhi lihaaz ki baatein kin, mann mein jodna
- “Sab nahi hain aise” kehna aur use beasar girte dekhna
- Zor se haan kehna aur mann mein kuch aur sochte rehna
- Baad mein dost ko batana aur hansi milna, ek chhoti raahat
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Ek aah jo aap par aayi
Jabalpur mein bus stand ke paas chai ki tapri. Kuch ladke dhakka dekar nikalte hain, aur ek buzurg aah bharkar kehte hain, “Aajkal ke bachchon mein lihaaz hi nahi raha.” Log sir hilate hain. Aap cup liye khade ho, abhi bus mein apni seat chhodkar aaye ho, aur kuch nahi kehte. Vaakya aapke baare mein nahi tha, phir bhi kisi tarah aap par aa padta hai, aur chai thandi ho jaati hai.
Bolne se pehle hi shak
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Jawan logon ko saabit karna padta hai ki wo lihaaz wale hain.” Ye aam tehzeeb jaisa lagta hai, aur zyadatar log sir hilayenge. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: ek shabd kehne se pehle hi aapko shak ke ghere mein rakh deta hai. Aapki har parwah chupchaap maan li jaati hai, aur har chook saboot ginti jaati hai, chahe kitni chhoti ho.
Izzat dikhni kyun zaroori thi
Hum ise isliye thaame rehte hain ki izzat aksar dikhne wale tareekon se jatayi jaati thi. Bahut log aise gharon mein bade hue jahan sir jhukana ya khade ho jaana maayne rakhta tha, aur ye aadatein bhare-pure ghar ko chalati thin. Izzat ki chaah galat nahi. Wo parwah se aati hai, aur use narmi chahiye, dosh nahi, tab bhi jab kisi anjaan ki aah us tak pahunche.
Ek lamba audition
Har “lihaaz nahi” wali tippani ek chhota nishaan chhodti hai. Ye dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se koi nahi dekhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Bolne se pehle lehja jaanchte ho. Raay ko itna naram kar dete ho ki kuch na bache. Chaukanne rehte ho, aur rishtedaaron ke saath ek aam dopahar aisa lamba audition ban jaati hai jiska kisi ne elaan nahi kiya.
Kya saabit karna theek hai?
Khud se sach-sach poochiye: kya saabit karte rehne se kabhi zyada aaram mila? Ya zyadatar bas aisa laga ki koi dekh raha hai? Izzat dono taraf chal sakti hai, aur har umar ke log use dikha sakte hain. Ye aap hi bata sakte ho, aur koi galat jawab nahi. Kisi anjaan ki aah aapka bayaan nahi hai. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna theek hai?
Aapki tameez aapki hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap parwah karna chhod dein. Matlab ye ki aapki tameez aapki hai, aur koi badi si tippani use number nahi deti. Aap narami se aur seedhe reh sakte ho, chupchaap aur dikhawe ke bina. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: parwah aapki rehti hai, aur aah ki pakad dheeli padti hai.
If speaking up at home is ever met with threats, anger that frightens you, or being hurt, keeping quiet can be the safe choice; that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleBharose se pehle mujhe saabit karna hai ki mujhmein lihaaz hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleEk badi si tippani mera bayaan nahi hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Aaj ki ek parwah bhari baat yaad kijiye
- Kadam 2
Aaj ka ek pal yaad kijiye jab aap bas khud the
- Kadam 3
Aise ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jo aapki tameez par bharosa karta hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Pichhli baar jab aapki peedhi par tippani aap par padi, tab kamre mein kaun tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Poori peedhi par tippani, sunai aap par padi #
Jabalpur mein bus stand ke paas chai ki tapri par koi buzurg dhakka-mukki karte ladkon ko dekhkar sir hilate hain. Kisi drawing room mein padosi, staff room mein senior, kisi naye joiner par aah bharte hue. Koi kehta hai, “Aajkal ke bachchon mein lihaaz hi nahi raha,” aur jis par ye padti hai, wo wahin baitha hai.
Ye kisi ek ke baare mein nahi hai, aur isi wajah se iska jawab dena mushkil hai. Na koi naam hai jo sudhaara jaye, na koi waqya jo samjhaya jaye. Phir bhi kamre mein ek jawan insaan hai, aur vaakya uske sir ke upar se seedha uske din mein ghus jaata hai.
Aakhri baar “Aajkal ke bachchon mein lihaaz nahi” kab suna, aur kamre mein kis par ye gir raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ek peedhi bayaan hone ka pal #
Kisi ko jhat garmi chadh jaati hai aur wo din bhar ki apni tameez ki list ginne lagta hai. Koi mez ki taraf dekhkar halka sir hilata hai aur topic badalne ka intezaar karta hai. Kuch ko “Main aisa nahi hoon” kehne ki ichchha hoti hai aur wo usi pal tay kar lete hain ki nahi kehna.
Aise faisle mein shaamil ho jaana, jo kisi ne aapse kaha hi nahi, sochne se pehle, ek pal mein lag jaata hai. Jo baatein jawab deti, bus mein chhodi seat, lautaya phone, rakha gaya khayal, wo aksar baad mein yaad aati hain, ghar lautte waqt, jab koi sunne wala nahi.
“Aajkal ke bachchon mein lihaaz nahi” ke baad pehle palon mein aap kya karte ho, aur kya karna chahte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Aisa faisla jis par kisi ka naam nahi #
Ye tippani poori umar ke logon ka haal batati hai aur maangti kuch nahi. Isi wajah se ye phisalni hai: ilzaam nahi hai, isliye jawab nahi diya ja sakta, phir bhi ilzaam ki tarah suni jaati hai. Mann faisla sunta hai aur chupchaap khud ko usme gin leta hai.
Ye aur chubh sakti hai jab sunne wala khoob koshish karke lihaaz rakhta raha ho. Lihaaz aksar chhote tareekon se dikhta hai jo koi nahi dekhta: dheemi awaaz, chhodi gayi seat, roka gaya sawaal. Aisi badi tippani in sabko mita deti hai aur dikhane ko kuch nahi chhodti.
Aapke lihaaz ke kaun se chhote nishaan aap chahte the ki tippani gin leti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab peedhi wala vaakya andar chalne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye aage-aage chalne lagta hai. “Awaaz kuch zyada oonchi toh nahi thi?” “Ye badtameezi toh nahi lagi?” “Sab dekh rahe hain ki mera bartaav kaisa hai.” Har ishaara hone se pehle jaancha jaata hai, aur seedha-saada jawab itna naram kar diya jaata hai ki usme kuch bachta nahi.
Kyunki awaaz tehzeeb jaisi lagti hai, ye khayal rakhna lag sakta hai, kisi ki zor se kahi baat nahi. Phone bina kahe jeb mein chala jaata hai, raay gol kar di jaati hai, hansi dheemi ho jaati hai, sab ek tippani ko galat saabit karne ko jo kabhi kisi ke baare mein thi hi nahi.
Aapke andar kiski awaaz poochti hai ki aap kaafi izzat karte dikh rahe ho ya nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye izzat ek dikhne wali aadat thi #
“Pair chhuo.” “Bade aayein to khade ho jao.” “Zubaan mat ladao.” Kuch log aise gharon mein bade hue jahan izzat kuch aise kaam the jo dikhte the, aur ek chhootte hi kamre ke paar se tok aa jaati thi.
Kai gharon mein in aadaton ne ghar ko jode rakha, aur wajahein har ghar mein alag hain. Jo chupchaap reh jaata hai wo badi baat hai: ki aapki keemat isse naapi jaati hai ki nishaan kitne achhe se nibhaye, aur nishaanon ki list kabhi poori nahi hoti.
Pehli baar kab laga ki izzat ke liye aap par nazar rakhi jaati hai, aur zyadatar nazar rakhne wala kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Jawan hone ke baare mein ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek niyam ban sakta hai: “Bharosa milne se pehle mujhe saabit karna hai ki mujhmein lihaaz hai,” ya “Jawan log tab tak shak ke daayre mein hain jab tak kuch aur saabit na ho.” Kuch log ise tippani ke bahut baad tak dhote hain.
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte nahi. Wo tehzeeb jaise lagte hain, jaise “Please” kehna seedhi samajhdaari hai. Isiliye inhein beech-beech mein nikalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Kin kamron mein “izzat saabit karni hai” ab bhi baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Khud ko saabit karne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki khaane ki table par raay rok li jaye ki kahin zubaan ladana na lage, asahmati itni naram kar di jaye ki kuch na bache, poori dopahar chehre par shisht muskaan tangi rahe. Kuch log badon ke aage apni baat kehna tab band kar dete hain jab sochna band bhi nahi hua.
Ek shaant keemat bhi hai. Chaukanna rehne mein taaqat lagti hai, aur aaspaas ke log aksar bas sanwara hua roop dekhte hain. Saal bhar mein kai baatcheetein ho sakti hain jinmein insaan maujood tha par poori tarah wahan nahi tha.
Pichhle ek saal mein khud ko saabit karne ne kya liya: koi baatcheet, koi mood, koi plan?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, chaukanna rehte hue #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Mujhe saabit karna hai ki mujhmein lihaaz hai” zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad zaroorat se jaldi chhodi gayi seat, meeting mein nigla gaya mazaak, jawab jo itna naram hua ki kuch bacha nahi, shishtata se bhari ek lambi dopahar. Kuch jaana-pehchana hoga, kuch bilkul nahi.
Tasveer mein kuch bhi tay nahi, aur jab chahein ise neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Usme kya hai: bolne ka lehja, phone kinare, haan mein sir, na kahi gayi baat?Is par baat kijiye ›
Har mumkin shikayat se upar rehne ki koshish ke poore din ki tasveer mein sabse zyada kya atakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kaun se bachche, aakhir? #
Kabhi peeche koi asli waqya hota hai, shor karta jhund ya koi badtameez message. Kabhi koi waqya nahi bataya jaata, bas ek ehsaas ki pehle kuch aur tha.
Aisi tippaniyan lagbhag har daur mein ki gayi hain, aur lagbhag har badi hoti peedhi ke baare mein. Kuch logon ko do cheezein alag karna kaam aata hai: poore samooh wala vaakya, aur kamre mein apna bartaav. Pehli aam shikayat hai; doosra aapka apna jaanna hai.
“Aajkal ke bachchon” wali baat ko paimana chahiye: kaun se bachche, aur kya karte hue?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi dost apni peedhi ke baare mein yahi tippani sun raha hota, wahi tameez lekar, to aap usse kya kehte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dheere se dohrane par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to dhyaan jaata hai ki asal mein baat kiski ho rahi thi: koi anjaan, ek jhund, ek adhoori yaad ki kahani. Us din ke apne bartaav ke baghal mein rakhkar kuch ko dikhta hai ki vaakya ne unhein bataya hi nahi.
Kuch ko wo jagahein dikhti hain jahan izzat dono taraf chalti hai: pados ke uncle jo unki raay poochte hain, manager jo theek se samjhata hai, nani-dadi jo unke mazaak par hansti hain. Kabhi wahi kaafi hoti hain, kabhi bechaini kisi ek kamre ke baare mein hoti hai.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun aapki raay ko pehle saabit karwaye bina izzat deta hai, aur aisa kya karta hai ki ye aasaan ho jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Tippani ko galat saabit karne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye nahi ki tippani se sahmat hon, ya ye dikhayein ki wo chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki poori peedhi par ek vaakya ye kam tay kare ki aap agli mez par kaise baithein.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo har aisi baat ko aisa case nahi maante jiska jawab dena hai. Koi sunwai nahi, koi faisla nahi jise palatna ho, aur galat saabit karne ki koshish kisi anjaan ki aah ko din ke beechobeech rakhe rehti hai.
Kuch mezein aah bharti hi rahengi, aur unhein baar-baar kaatne ki zaroorat nahi.
Kaisa lagega agar waise hi rahein jaise waise bhi rehte, narami se aur seedhe, us mez par bhi jahan aah bhari jaati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek vaakya #
Agar “Mujhe saabit karna hai ki mujhmein lihaaz hai” saalon se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe behes ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Ek badi si tippani mera bayaan nahi hai.”
Ye sach lagni zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log aazmate hain, aur ghar ke khaane ya staff meeting se pehle chupchaap kehne par, kuch paate hain ki purani line ki thodi jagah ye le leti hai.
Apni tameez ke baare mein aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jise sunne walon ki haami na chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “Aajkal ke bachchon mein lihaaz nahi” ko jawab, bedaag din ya apni peedhi par bhashan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise wo coat jo kabhi theek aaya hi nahi, darwaze par taang diya.
Ye sahmat hona nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un baatcheeton ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinmein izzat sach mein dono taraf chalti hai, aur sahaj rehne ke liye.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki baat sahi thi, ya sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki wo agle paarivaarik khaane, agli meeting ya agli bus ki line tak peeche-peeche na aaye.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar aah halki pad jaye #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Izzat ab bhi logon se bartaav ka hissa hai, par din bhar chalne wala imtihaan nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: apni aam awaaz mein hansna, halki asahmati zor se keh dena, ya phone jeb mein isliye rakhna ki mann hai, isliye nahi ki karna pada.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Agar koi chook pakadne ko na dekh raha ho, to sabse pehle kya alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar tippani kabhi aapko ginti hi nahi, to aap pehle kya karenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi peedhi wali line”
- Chupchaap poochiye: kaun se bachche, aakhir?
- Aaj ki koi ek lihaaz wali baat yaad kijiye jo kisi ne nahi dekhi
- Kisi aise bade ko yaad kijiye jo aapki baat ko gambheerta se leta hai
- Aaj ka koi ek pal yaad kijiye jab aap bas khud the
Nijee, chhote aur apni marzi ke. Jo aasaan lage, wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Pichhli baar jab aapki peedhi par tippani aap par padi, tab kamre mein kaun tha?
- Aap lihaaz ke kaun se chhote nishaan dikhate ho jinka koi zikr nahi karta?
- Kisne sabse pehle aapko lagwaya ki aapki tameez par hamesha nazar rehti hai?
- Jis aam din saabit karne wala niyam zor se bole, aap kya rok rahe honge?
- Agar aah halki pad jaye, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?