Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Isiliye ye fikr se bhi zyada chubh sakta hai.
“Tere bina toh ghar ka patta bhi nahi hilta.”
Kuch logon ke neeche ek niyam baith jaata hai: “Mujhe un logon ke liye pareshani nahi banna chahiye jo mujh par tike hain.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Sabko fauran tasalli dekar baat khatam kar dena
- Ginane lagna ki kaun kya sambhalega
- Koi chutkula maar dena taaki maahaul halka rahe
- Agla bhaari din apne tak rakhna
- Baad mein baatcheet dohrana ki asal mein chahte kya the
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Table par rakhi chammach
Raat ke khaane par aap ghar walon se kehte ho ki ye hafta bhaari raha. Mummy chammach rakh deti hain. “Tujhe kuch ho gaya toh hamein kaun dekhega?” wo poochhti hain, aadha hanskar, aadha nahi. Aap fauran kehte ho, “Arre nahi, kuch nahi,” phir ginane lagte ho ki roti kaun belega aur school kaun chhodega. Baad mein bartan dhote ho, awaaz seedhi rakhte ho, aur tay karte ho ki agli baar kam bolenge, taaki koi dare nahi.
Aapki baat, sabke liye khatra
Ye shabd aise niyam par girte hain jo shayad pehle se wahan hai: “Mujhe un logon ke liye pareshani nahi banna chahiye jo mujh par tike hain.” Ye samarpan jaisa lagta hai, pyaar jaisa bhi. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki apni baat sabke liye khatra ban jaati hai. Aap kya kehte ho, kya tasalli dekar taalte ho aur kya apne tak rakhte ho, sab is par tik jaata hai ki ghar kitna ghabrayega.
Reedh banna surakshit kyun laga
Hum mein se bahut log ye niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki reedh banne se kabhi ghar sthir raha tha. Shayad aapne ek bade ko sab kuch thaame dekha, aur wo kabhi nahi dagmagaya. Shayad ek dare hue sawaal se bachpan mein seekha ki dheela padna sabke liye khatra hai. Niyam bewakoofi nahi hai. Ye logon se pyaar se aata hai, aur use narmi chahiye. Itni chhoti umar mein seekhna bahut hai.
Vaakya se pehle bana roster
Har baar jab aap apna vaakya poora hone se pehle kamre ko tasalli dete ho, aapki asli zindagi ka thoda hissa ankaha reh jaata hai. Bhaari hafte ke baare mein kehte ho “kuch nahi.” Sir dukhte hue roster banate ho. Dheere-dheere paas ke log usi se milte hain jo kabhi nahi dagmagata, aur baaki aap akele dhote ho, bhari table par bhi.
Kya ye niyam keemat ke laayak?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se aap un logon ke kareeb aaye jinhein aap tasalli de rahe the? Ya zyadatar baat ghar ki hoti rahi, aapki kabhi nahi? Doosre jo kahein wo unki baat hai, aur wajah wahi jaante hain. Khaane ki table par koi dara hua sawaal aapki jagah ka paimana nahi. Kya ye niyam apni keemat ke laayak hai?
Aapki baat, bas aapki baat
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap un logon ki parwah karna chhod dein jo aap par tike hain, ya ye ki sawaal najaayaz tha. Matlab bas itna ki aapki baat ko roster mein badalne ke baad hi jeene ki ijaazat nahi chahiye. Aap seedhi baat seedhe shabdon mein keh sakte ho aur use apni rehne de sakte ho. Yahin se kuch chain lautta hai: chinta uske paas rehti hai jisne poochha, aur hafta aapka rehta hai.
If something about how you feel is worrying you, or anyone answers it with anger, threats or fear, that is worth taking seriously, and going along for now can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe unke liye pareshani nahi banna chahiye jo mujh par tike hain.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleJo mujhse pyaar karte hain, bojh mere saath utha sakte hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Aaj ke baare mein “main” se shuru hone wala ek vaakya likhein
- Kadam 2
Ek haath table par sapaat rakhkar use dheere-dheere padhein
- Kadam 3
Kisi ek ko yaad karein jisne aapki baat mein aapki hi baat suni
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aakhri baar jab kisi ne poochha ki unhein kaun dekhega, to aap kahan the, aur aapne abhi kya kaha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek sawaal jo aap hi par laut aata hai #
Patiala ke ghar mein raat ka khaana hai. Aap kehte ho ki is hafte bahut thak gaye. Mummy chammach rakh deti hain: “Tujhe kuch ho gaya toh hamein kaun dekhega?” Kabhi papa: “Tu hi toh ghar ki reedh hai.” Kabhi Chandigarh se bhaiya ka phone, aadha mazaak mein, aadha sach mein. Ye aapki apni baat ke theek baad aata hai.
Bolne wala sachmuch dara hua ho sakta hai ki aapke bina ghar kaise chalega. Par vaakya aapki kahi baat ko uthakar unhi ki fikr bana deta hai, isse pehle ki aap apni pehli baat poori kar paayein.
Aisa kuch aakhri baar kahan suna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kisne kaha, aur aapne abhi kya bataya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Wo tasalli jo fauran nikalti hai #
Kuch log turant tasalli dene lagte hain: “Arre nahi, kuch nahi, aise hi bola,” aur kaam ki baat par aa jaate hain. Kuch ginane lagte hain ki roti kaun belega, bachchon ko kaun layega. Kuch chup hokar dekhte hain ki unka apna vaakya table se phisal gaya.
Apni baat ka jawab kisi aur ki ghabrahat se milna ek second mein lag jaata hai, sochne se pehle. Kai log batate hain ki kuch bolne par hi halka-sa apradh-bodh utha.
Uske agle pal aapne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tasalli di, intezaam ginane lage ya chup ho gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehli harkat aapke apne hisse ke baare mein kya batati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye aapki baat ka jawab unki zaroorat se deta hai #
“Hamein kaun dekhega” ek sachcha dar hai, aur saath hi kisi aur hi sawaal ka jawab. Aapne apne baare mein kuch kaha. Jawab ghar ke baare mein aaya. Dono itni jaldi badal jaate hain ki pehli baat ko suna hi nahi jaata.
Isiliye ye fikr se bhi zyada chubh sakta hai. Sawaal banta hai ki kya kabhi aapki dekhbhaal hogi, aur kya doosre aapka mushkil din apne plan se pehle ginenge.
Jab aapki baat unki chinta se mili, to mann mein kya sawaal utha: unka dar, ya ghar mein apni jagah?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab sawaal andar chalne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar baith jaata hai. “Bahut log mujh par tike hain.” “Kuch mat batana.” “Chupchaap sambhal loon.” Kabhi-kabhi kisi ke poochhne se pehle hi tasalli taiyar rehti hai.
Kehne wala shaam tak bhool gaya hoga, par jaanch chalti rehti hai. Chunki ye aapki apni zimmedaari jaisi sunayi deti hai, ye wafadaari lagti hai, ghar mein ek dare hue pal mein boli gayi baat nahi.
Bhaari din mein mann ki awaaz sabse pehle ye kehti hai ki kise aapki zaroorat hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kin jagahon par ye sabse tez hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye reedh banna hi kaam tha #
“Tere bina toh ghar ka patta bhi nahi hilta.” “Sab tujh par tike hain.” Kuch logon ne bachpan mein ek bade ko sab kuch thaame dekha aur seekha ki mazboot ka kaam kabhi dagmagana nahi hai, aur doosron ki zaroorateinn har baat ka vishay hoti hain.
Wajahein ghar-ghar alag hoti hain. Paise kam the, munh zyada the, ya ek hi insaan zyadatar bojh uthata tha. Bachche tak nateeja pahunchta hai: sehat dheeli hona sabke liye khatra hai, aur chup rehna surakshit.
Pehli baar kab samajh aaya ki aapka dheela padna poore ghar ko dara sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us waqt kaun kis par tika tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche baitha ek chupchaap niyam #
Kuch logon ke neeche ek niyam baith jaata hai: “Mujhe un logon ke liye pareshani nahi banna chahiye jo mujh par tike hain.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo samarpan jaise lagte hain, ghar ka sahara banne jaise. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi narmi se nikalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log ise bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono theek hai.
Aisa niyam aapke anubhav ke kitna kareeb hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kin jagahon par “main pareshani na banoon” ab bhi chalta hai, aur kinmein kabhi zaroorat nahi padi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Reedh bane rehne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ek bhaari hafta apne tak rakhna ho sakta hai, kisi ke poochhne se pehle tasalli dena, aur sabke khaane ka intezaam karna jabki apna sir dukh raha ho. Shukriya milta hai sthir rehne ka, aur poochha bahut kam jaata hai.
Ek shaant keemat aur hai. Ghar akele thaamna thaka deta hai, aur paas ke log sirf usi se milte hain jo kabhi dagmagata nahi. Saal bhar mein aise bahut din jud jaate hain jo bharosemand bane rehne mein gaye, jaane jaane mein nahi.
Pichhle mahine mein “pareshani na banoon” wale niyam ne aapse kya liya, agar kuch liya: koi ankahi baat, jaldi di hui tasalli, koi din jo akele uthaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Thursday, jab niyam tez ho #
Ek aam Thursday sochiye, jab “mujhe pareshani nahi banna chahiye” tez hai. Ye bas dekhne ke liye ek tasveer hai.
Shayad “sab badhiya hai” wala jawab, kalchhi thodi zyada chupchaap chalana, ya phone “aap bas apna kaam dekhiye” par rakhna. Kuch jaana-pehchana lagega, kuch bilkul nahi.
Abhi iska jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein kinare rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: baat poori hone se pehle bana roster, chhoti baatein jo ankahi rahin, thodi madad maangne ke mauke jo dikhe aur nikal gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Thursday ko dekhkar, agar kuch bhi, kya aankh mein atakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Dar kiska hai? #
“Hamein kaun dekhega” ek dar hai jo zor se bola gaya, aur wo bolne wale ka hai. Dheere se dekhein to ye ghar ke kisi ghabraye pal ki baat nikal sakti hai, jo aapke baare mein jaayaz sawaal ki tarah kahi gayi.
Isme kisi ke sharir ya parivar ko kya karna chahiye, is baare mein kuch nahi kaha ja raha. Sawaal ye nahi hai. Sawaal ye hai ki kya aapki baat ko hamesha unki chinta mein badalna zaroori hai, aur pehle kiski suni jaaye.
Agar koi kareebi dost bataye ki usse yahi kaha gaya, to ghar lautte waqt aap usse kya kehna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Palatkar dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log us pal ko dobara dekhte hain to sunte hain ki vaakya mein kitna dar anjaane ka tha, aur aapke baare mein faisla kitna kam. Jis rasoi se wo aaya, uske saath rakhkar dekhein to wo pehli baar jaisa nahi lagta.
Kuch ye bhi dekhte hain ki kisne alag jawab diya. Wo beti jo kehti hai “Batao tumhein kya chahiye,” ya wo dost jo bhaari hafte ko bhaari hafta rehne deta hai. Ye awaazein pehle se thi, bas sawaal se dheemi.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun hai jo aapki baat ko aapki hi baat rehne deta hai, aur uske saath kamra kaisa lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Reedh banna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye nahi ki ghar sirf aap par tika hai, na ye ki baat chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek insaan ka ek vaakya ye tay karna band kar de ki aapke apne dinon ko kitni jagah mile.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo sabka beema banna chhod dete hain. Us kaam ki finish line nahi hai, kyunki koi na koi hamesha chintit ho sakta hai, aur jab tak wo chalta hai har bhaari din ke saath ek duty-roster juda rehta hai.
Kuch log poochhte rahenge, aur kisi ko unhein manana nahi padta.
Agar koi shaam aisi ho ki roster tab tak ruke jab tak aapse sachmuch poochha na jaaye, to wo kaisi hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Sahare ke baare mein ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “mujhe pareshani nahi banna chahiye” barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladna zaroori nahi. Kuch log iski jagah ye line taiyar rakhte hain: “Jo mujhse pyaar karte hain, wo is ghar ka thoda bojh mere saath utha sakte hain.”
Ye sach mehsoos ho, zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log pehankar dekhte hain, aur kuch paate hain ki rasoi mein ya kisi bhaari call ke baad chupchaap keh lene par wo purane niyam ki thodi jagah le leti hai.
Doosron par tikne ke baare mein aapka apna sachcha vaakya kaisa hoga, aapke apne shabdon mein, jise kisi ki manzoori na chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Thoda-sa rasoi mein hi chhoot sakta hai #
Har “hamein kaun dekhega” ko tasalli, roster ya taiyar rehne ka vaada nahi chahiye. Kuch ko bas dekh liya jaaye, pal bhar mehsoos kar liya jaaye, aur rakh diya jaaye, jaise khaana khatam hone par kalchhi wapas khoonti par.
Iska matlab haar maanna nahi. Iska matlab chunna hai ki dhyaan kahan jaaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse un dinon aur logon ke liye jagah bachti hai jo sachmuch unke hain.
Aaj raat sawaal ko rasoi mein chhod dene se wo jaayaz nahi ho jaata, na kuch tay hota hai. Bas itna ki use agli call, agle khaane ya agli subah tak saath chalna nahi padega.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam zara dheela pade #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki “pareshani na banoon” wala niyam thoda dheema ho. Bhaari hafta sirf bhaari hafta reh sakta hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi hain: apne baare mein ek vaakya jo akela khada rahe, intezaam ki list pehle se na banana, ya “aapko kya chahiye” wala sawaal thodi der baitha rehne dena.
Isme se kisi ko kuch batana zaroori nahi. Jo bhi ubhre, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne laayak, chahe kitna bhi chhota. Ise theek se dekhna chahein to chat ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagega, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Niyam ke dheele padne ka aapka pehla chhota nishaan kya ho sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dein: “Lo, phir wahi reedh wala niyam”
- Aaj ke baare mein “main” se shuru hone wala ek seedha vaakya likhein
- Sunein ki kaun-sa tez hai: aapse kaha sawaal ya andar ka roster
- Kisi ek ko yaad karein jisne aapki baat ke jawab mein aapki hi baat suni
- Ek haath table par sapaat rakhein aur apna vaakya dheere-dheere padhein
Chhoti, personal aur sab optional. Jo ho sake, wahi aazma lijiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aakhri baar jab kisi ne poochha ki unhein kaun dekhega, to aap kahan the, aur aapne abhi kya kaha tha?
- Jab aapki baat unki chinta ban gayi, tab kamre mein kaun tha, aur kiska chehra yaad hai?
- Pehli baar kab seekha ki aapka dheela padna poore ghar ko dara sakta hai?
- Jis din reedh wala niyam tez ho, aap kya nahi keh paate?
- Agar aapki baat bas aapki baat reh sake, to aap sabse pehle kya gaur karenge?