Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Upar se, ye nahi batata ki koi kis cheez mein achha hai, kiski parwah karta hai, ya kya notice karta hai.
“Sharma ji ke bete ko dekho, ab America mein hai.”
Kuch logon ke andar ek niyam baith jaata hai: “Meri qadar tabhi hai jab main average se upar rahoon,” ya “Beech mein hona matlab meri koi ahmiyat nahi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Number upar karne ke liye aur zyada padhna ya kaam karna
- Us insaan ko marksheet ya rating dikhana hi band kar dena
- Mazaak bana dena: “Haan bhai, hum to backbencher hain”
- Chupchaap dekhna ki baaki sabke kitne aaye
- Jin cheezon mein top par nahi, unhein dheere se chhod dena
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Annual day, aur lautti gaadi
School ka annual day. Stage par topper ko trophy milti hai, poora hall taali bajata hai, aur aap teesri line se bajate rehte ho. Lautti gaadi mein Papa kehte hain, “Dekha? Trophy use mili. Tum to bas average ho, kuch khaas nahin.” Mummy khidki se bahar dekhti rehti hain. Aap sir hilakar kehte ho, “Haan, pata hai,” aur ghar pahunchkar report card phir se padhte ho, jaise number badal gaya ho.
Qadar bas beech se upar
Ye shabd aise niyam par girte hain jo shaayad pehle se wahan hai: “Meri qadar tabhi hai jab main average se upar rahoon.” Ye aage badhne ki chaah jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: ek din ke ek test ka number uthakar use poore insaan ka naap bana deta hai, aur finish line aisi jagah rakh deta hai jahan koi kabhi khada nahi ho sakta. Hamesha koi Sharma ji ka beta aage hota hai.
Top par rehna mehfooz kyun laga
Hum ye niyam parwah ki wajah se pakadte hain. Shaayad ghar ko fikr thi un darwaazon ki jo list ke beech walon ke liye band ho jaate hain. Shaayad achhe number par dhyaan milta tha aur kam par ghar chup ho jaata tha. Shaayad aaspaas ka muqabla beech ko khatarnaak bana deta tha. Niyam bewajah nahi. Ye mehfooz rehne aur qadar paane ki chaah se bana hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Jab har cheez muqabla ban jaaye
Har “bas average” jo aap andar dhote ho, thoda chain le leta hai. Aap wo cheezein taal dete ho jinmein shaayad sabse aage na rahein. Chupchaap dekhte ho ki baaki sabke kitne aaye. Noida ke office mein appraisal par “meets expectations” milta hai, aur achha din bhi is fikr par khatam hota hai ki aage kaun hai. Jin cheezon mein maza aata tha, wo muqabale ban jaati hain, aur paas wale mehnat zyada dekhte hain, insaan kam.
Kya ye niyam rakhne laayak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: is niyam ko pakde rehne se kya kabhi aapko apne kaam mein maza aaya, ya bas use naapna aaya? Unke shabd unki marzi ke the, aur unka matlab wahi jaante hain. Jo bhi ho, kaagaz par likha number kisi ka qad nahi. Kya wo niyam rakhne laayak hai jo achhe dinon ko bhi race bana de? Is par apna waqt lijiye.
List ke beech se kahin zyada
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki numbers aur rating ki parwah chhod dein, ya ki wo baat pyaar se kahi gayi thi. Matlab ye hai ki number ko number rehne diya jaaye, aur aap list ke beech se kahin zyada ho. Wahin se kuch chain laut sakta hai: aap cheezein bas unke maze ke liye aazma sakte ho, aur wo shabd usi ke paas reh sakta hai jisne kaha.
Where someone's reaction to your marks turns into anger, threats or fear, that is worth taking seriously, and keeping quiet about your results can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMeri qadar tabhi hai jab main average se upar rahoon.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleNumber ek test ke baare mein hai, poore mere baare mein nahi.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Ek cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aap karte hain, marksheet naap na sake
- Kadam 2
Kuch minute kisi aisi cheez par bitaiye jo bas achhi lagti hai
- Kadam 3
Wo shabd lautein to ek cheez yaad kijiye jismein maza aata hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne aapko average kaha, tab abhi-abhi kya hua tha, aur wo pal kaise khatam hua?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
List ke beech se aaya ek shabd #
School ka annual day. Stage par topper ko trophy milti hai, aur aap teesri line se taali bajate rehte ho. Lautti gaadi mein Papa: “Dekha? Tum to bas average ho, kuch khaas nahin.” Barson baad Noida ke office mein appraisal par manager, aur shabd dibbe par chipke label ki tarah poore insaan par baith jaata hai.
Ye aksar seedhe tathya ki tarah kaha jaata hai, kabhi dhakke ki tarah, kabhi aah bharkar. Par ye ek number, rank ya rating uthakar kisi ke baare mein bayan bana deta hai, aur number badalna bayan badalne se kahin aasaan hai.
Aakhri baar kisi ne aapko average kab kaha, aur abhi-abhi kya hua tha: koi number, koi rank, ya koi review?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ye itna sapaat kyun lagta hai #
Kuch log batate hain ki andar kuch dheere se baith jaata hai, jhatke se nahi, jaise koi darwaaza badi tameez se band kar diya gaya ho. Kuch sir hilakar kaagaz dekhte rehte hain. Kuch kehte hain, “Haan, pata hai,” aur phir wo shabd kamre se bahar saath le jaate hain.
“Average” jaisa shabd shaayad hi kabhi garam lagta hai. Ye dheere-dheere baithta hai, kyunki isse behes nahi ho sakti: ye ganit jaisa sunayi deta hai. Sochna aksar baad mein aata hai, ye jodte hue ki isne baaki jo kuch kiya tha, uske baare mein kya kaha.
Jis second aapne ye suna, uske theek baad aapki aankhon ne kya kiya, aur dhyaan kahan gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Bheed ka hisaab, jo ek insaan par aa girta hai #
“Average” ek bheed ka aankda hai. Bahut saare numbers ka beech, aur kisi bhi group ka lagbhag aadha hissa uske dono taraf hota hai. Ek insaan par lagaate hi ye hisaab ko kirdaar bana deta hai.
Upar se, ye nahi batata ki koi kis cheez mein achha hai, kiski parwah karta hai, ya kya notice karta hai. Marksheet ya rating ek din ka ek tukda pakadti hai, par ye shabd use poori kahani jaisa bana deta hai.
Jab kisi ne aapko list ke beech se naapa, to aapka kaun sa hissa us number ki pahunch se bahar reh gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab ranking andar chalne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye apne aap chalne lagta hai. “Main to bas ek aam insaan hoon.” “Isme baaki mujhse behtar hain.” “Koshish kyun karoon, phir beech mein hi rehna hai.” Kabhi ye chhantai kuch shuru hone se pehle hi ho jaati hai.
Ye asliyat jaisa lag sakta hai, apne baare mein ek imaandaar nazar. Par ye aksar kuch jagahon par naape gaye kuch numbers se aata hai, aur shaayad hi batata hai ki koi asal mein kya-kya kar sakta hai.
Jab aap kuch naya shuru karte ho, to wo ranking wali awaaz kya kehti hai, aur kin kamron mein sabse zor se bolti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye bachpan se bas top ginta tha #
“Pachaanve? Aur atthaanve kiske aaye?” “Rank kitni aayi?” “Sharma ji ke bete ko dekho, ab America mein hai.” Kuch logon ke liye top ke paas rehna hi dhyaan paane ki chupchaap keemat thi, aur class ka beech wo jagah thi jahan kisi ki taareef nahi hoti thi.
Aksar ye sachchi fikr se aaya. Jin gharon ne dekha tha ki kuch darwaaze khulwana kitna mushkil hai, wo kabhi-kabhi har us cheez ko kaskar pakad lete the jo seedhi jaisi dikhe. Bachcha chupchaap ye nateeja nikaal sakta hai ki qadar doosron se upar hone se milti hai.
School ke dinon mein parent-teacher meeting wale din ghar par kya hota tha, aur jo beech mein reh gaya uske saath kya hota tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche ek chupchaap niyam #
Kuch logon ke andar ek niyam baith jaata hai: “Meri qadar tabhi hai jab main average se upar rahoon,” ya “Beech mein hona matlab meri koi ahmiyat nahi.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Lagte hain aage badhne ki chaah, muqabla, ya bas duniya ka logon ko chhaantne ka tareeka. Isiliye kabhi-kabhi ek ko bahar nikaalkar dekhna madad kar sakta hai ki wo kitna wazan uthaye hue hai.
Kuch log is niyam ko khaas kamron ya saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
“Beech se upar hi meri qadar hai” jaisa niyam aapke kisi ehsaas ke kitna kareeb hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
“Bas average se upar hi ginti mein hai” ab bhi kahan lagu lagta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Top-ya-kuch-nahi wale niyam ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai wo cheezein kabhi na aazmana jinka nateeja beech mein aa sakta hai, shauq tabhi chhod dena jab unmein sabse aage na rahe, aur un kamron mein bhi aage rehne ka lagaataar dabaav jahan koi score gin hi nahi raha.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab qadar ranking par tiki ho, to achha nateeja bhi khushi kam, beech se bach nikalna zyada lagta hai, aur paas wale mehnat to dekhte hain, par kaam ka maza leta insaan nahi.
Pichhle ek saal mein is niyam ki kya keemat rahi, agar kuch: kuch jo aazmaya nahi, kuch jo chhoot gaya, koi khushi jo muqabla ban gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, jab ranking zor se bole #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Bas average se upar hi ginti mein hai” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad koi shauq jo chheda hi nahi kyunki baaki behtar hain, kisi dost ke nateeje se milaya gaya apna nateeja, office ka achha din jiske baad ye chupchaap fikr ki aage kaun hai. Kuch jaana-pehchana lag sakta hai, kuch bilkul nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein kinaare rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, chhote-chhote shauq, wo pal jab kuch aazmane se pehle baaki sabko tola?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhte hue, agar kuch, to kis cheez par nazar rukti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Average, par kis cheez mein? #
Jaise hi shabd se poochha jaaye ki ye naapta kya hai, ye aksar sikud jaata hai. Bahut log ek list ke beech mein hote hain aur kisi doosri list mein kaafi aage, jise kisi ne likhne ki sochi hi nahi.
Sabr, hansi-mazaak, thehrav, kisi anjaan se apnapan, ya kamre ko halka kar dene ka hunar, inki koi marksheet nahi hoti. Roz ki zindagi mein ye bahut maayne rakhte hain, aur kisi appraisal form mein kabhi nahi aate.
Kis subject mein average, kis saal, kis test mein, kis team mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar kisi kareebi dost ko marksheet average kahe, to aap usse us sab ke baare mein kya kehna chahte jo marksheet mein tha hi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Number se aage logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log us pal par dheere-dheere lautte hain, to wo number ko us saal ki baaki cheezon ke saath rakhte hain: jo achha gaya, jo der se seekha, jiski madad ki. Number ek lambi kahani ki ek patli line jaisa dikhne lagta hai.
Kuch ko yaad aata hai ki kaun unki qadar aisi wajahon se karta hai jinka ranking se koi lena-dena nahi: mushkil mein phone karne wala dost, raay poochhne wala colleague, unhein dekhkar seekhne wala chhota cousin. Wo awaazein bhi thin, bas dheemi.
Aapki kis baat ki koi qadar karta hai jise koi marksheet ya appraisal naap hi nahi sakta tha, aur wo use kya kehte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Beech se upar chadhne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki number aur rating bemaani hain, na ye dikhana ki shabd chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek number ka is par kam chale ki koi insaan kitna maayne rakhe.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo sabse upar rehne ki koshish chhodte hain. Us chadhai ka koi top nahi, kyunki hamesha koi aur upar hota hai, koi Sharma ji ka beta, aur jab tak ye chalti hai, achha din bhi seedhi ke dande ginne mein nikal sakta hai.
Kuch kamre ranking karte rahenge, aur unhein chhodne ki zaroorat kisi ko nahi.
Agar number bas ek number ho, to ek aam din kaisa lag sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ek number ke baare mein sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Beech se upar hi meri qadar hai” saalon se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajay ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Number, number hai. Wo ek test ke baare mein batata hai, mere baare mein batane ke liye wo kabhi tha hi nahi.”
Iska sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log aazmakar dekhte hain, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki result wale din ya appraisal se pehle dheere se kahi gayi, ye us jagah ka thoda hissa le leti hai jo purani ranking bharti thi.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek number ke baare mein sachcha vaakya kaisa sunayi dega, jiske liye kisi ki haami ki zaroorat na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein marksheet par hi reh sakti hain #
Har “average” wali baat ko behes, upar chadhne ka vaada ya use galat saabit karne ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise purana report card tah karke almaari ki daraaz mein rakh dete hain.
Ye uske aage jhukna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un cheezon ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jo unhein sach mein karna achha lagta hai, list ke beech mein hon ya nahi.
Aaj ise marksheet par chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki wo baaki har cheez mein saath na chale, agli class, agle review ya agli kisi koshish mein.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki average-se-upar wala niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Number bas number ho sakta hai, aur shauq bas shauq.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: society mein badminton bas khelne ke liye khelna, antakshari mein bina ye dekhe gaana ki kaun behtar gaata hai, kuch aisa shuru karna ye jaante hue ki wo aam hi reh sakta hai.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Agar niyam dheela ho, to sabse pehle kya alag lagega, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Niyam dheela hone ki aapki pehli chhoti nishaani kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi average wala shabd”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: kis cheez mein average, aur kiske muqable?
- Ek cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aap karte hain aur koi marksheet naap nahi sakti
- Ek cheez sochiye jismein maza aata hai, chahe usmein aap sabse aage na hon
- Kuch minute kisi aisi cheez par bitaiye jo bas achhi lagti hai
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne aapko average kaha, tab abhi-abhi kya hua tha, aur wo pal kaise khatam hua?
- Jab ye suna, wahan kaun tha, aur kiska chehra ab bhi yaad hai?
- Aap kaun si cheezein karte hain jinhein kisi number ya rating ne kabhi nahi naapa?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya aazmane se ruk rahe honge?
- Agar niyam thoda dheela ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?