Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Isiliye iska jawab dena mushkil hai, aur isiliye ye tika rehta hai.
“Hamare zamaane mein koi shikayat nahi karta tha.”
Kuch logon ke andar ek niyam baith jaata hai: “Jab baaki jhel lete hain, to mujhe mushkil lagne ki ijaazat nahi,” ya “Zyada chahiye, matlab mujhmein dum kam hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- “Theek hoon” kehkar lage rehna
- Aur zyada karna, taaki kisi ke paas dobara kehne ki wajah na rahe
- Kam se kam us insaan ko batana chhod dena ki kya mushkil hai
- Ye dekhte rehna ki baaki log kya-kya sambhal lete hain, aur mann ki ek list mein jodte jaana
- Sab chupchaap sehna, jab tak wo kahin aur na phoot pade
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Lamba hafta, aur ek line
Pehla bachcha, teen mahine ka. Raat bhar mein chaar baar utha, subah nau baje office ki call hai, aur neend kab ki ud chuki. Aap bas itna kehte ho ki bahut ho raha hai. Bachche ki Dadi use aapki godi se lete hue kehti hain, “Sab kar lete hain, ek tumse hi nahi hota? Humne toh chaar-chaar paale.” Aap muskurakar kehte ho, “Haan, ho jaata hai,” aur saara bojh kandhe par liye rasoi mein laut jaate ho.
Baaki jhelte hain, to mujhe bhi
Ye shabd aise niyam par girte hain jo shayad pehle se wahan hai: “Jab baaki jhel lete hain, to mujhe mushkil lagne ki ijaazat nahi.” Ye samajhdaari, balki mazbooti jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: bhaari din ko uthakar aapki kamiyon mein darj kar deta hai, aur aapko aisi bheed ke saamne khada kar deta hai jiske din kisi ne kabhi dikhaye hi nahi. Mushkil din ko mushkil rehne ki ijaazat ab bhi hai.
Mazbooti niyam kaise bani
Hum ye niyam sachchi wajahon se pakadte hain. Shayad hamse pehle walon ne bina kisi madad ke bahut kuch dhoya, aur mazboot rehna hi unka raasta tha. Shayad Mummy din bhar kaam karti rahin, teen bachche pale, aur kabhi nahi kaha ki mushkil hai. Shayad ek baar kaha to jawab mein aankhein ghoomin. Niyam bewajah nahi. Ye mehnat ki izzat aur saath mein fit hone ki chaah se bana hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Theek dikhna, bahut kuch dhona
Har “sab kar lete hain” jo aap andar le jaate ho, thoda chain le leta hai. Aap kehte ho, “Theek hoon.” Aur zyada karte ho, taaki koi dobara na kahe. Mushkil hisse nazar se door rakhte ho, aur dheere-dheere chhoti baatein bhi pahaad lagne lagti hain. Din milkar theek dikhne ki ek lambi naukri ban jaate hain, aur koi sach mein nahi dekhta ki ismein kitna lagta hai. Itna nibhaye rakhna bahut hai.
Kya ye niyam rakhne layak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: is niyam ko pakde rehne se kya kabhi koi mushkil din halka hua, ya bas chup hua? Unke shabd unki marzi ke the, aur unka matlab wahi jaante hain. Jo bhi ho, “sabse” ki gayi tulna aapke bojh ka naap nahi. Kya wo niyam rakhne layak hai jo kam kehkar zyada dhone ko kahe? Is par apna waqt lijiye.
Mushkil din mushkil reh sakta hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki apna hissa nibhane ki parwah chhod dein, ya ki wo baat pyaar se kahi gayi thi. Matlab ye hai ki mushkil din ko mushkil rehne diya jaye, bina kisi bheed se naape. Wahin se kuch chain laut sakta hai: aap ek minute rukkar bojh neeche rakh sakte ho, jab bachcha Dadi ki godi mein so raha ho, aur wo line usi ke paas reh sakti hai jisne kahi.
Where the load is truly more than anyone could carry, or the pressure to keep going comes with threats or fear, that is worth taking seriously, and finding it hard is not a personal failing.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleJab baaki jhel lete hain, to mujhe mushkil lagne ki ijaazat nahi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMushkil din bas ek mushkil din ho sakta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Aaj ki ek cheez par dhyan dijiye jo aapne dhoyi, kisi ne dekhi nahi
- Kadam 2
Ek haath table par rakhiye aur teen dheemi saansein lijiye
- Kadam 3
Line lautey, to sochiye: ye bahut tha, aur ye sach hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne kaha ki sab kar lete hain, tab mushkil kya thi, aur wo pal kaise khatam hua?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek line jo aapke siva sabko ginti hai #
Bachcha teen mahine ka hai, raat mein chaar baar utha, aur subah aap bas itna kehte hain ki bahut ho raha hai. Bachche ki Dadi use godi mein lete hue: “Sab kar lete hain, ek tumse hi nahi hota? Humne toh chaar-chaar paale.” Ya deadline par manager, ya hostel ki call par Papa.
Ye jhunjhlahat mein kaha ja sakta hai, fikar mein, ya aise dhakke ki tarah jise kehne wala madadgaar samajhta hai. Par ye ek mushkil pal ko us insaan ke baare mein sawaal bana deta hai, aur jis bheed ki taraf ye ishaara karta hai, uska kabhi koi naam ya chehra nahi hota.
Aakhri baar kisi ne aapse ye kab kaha, aur us din mushkil kya thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ye thakaan ke upar kyun aa girta hai #
Kuch log batate hain ki andar kuch kas jaata hai, jaise din abhi-abhi aur bhaari ho gaya. Kuch keh dete hain, “haan, sab karte hain,” aur lage rehte hain. Kuch batana hi chhod dete hain ki kya mushkil hai, kyunki batane ka nateeja bas yahi nikla.
Ye theek tab aata hai jab bojh pehle se mehsoos ho raha ho, to pehle bojh par ek doosra rakh deta hai: mushkil, aur ye ehsaas ki mushkil hona hi asli gadbad hai. Sochna, ye ginna ki sach mein kaun kar leta hai, aksar baad mein aata hai.
Un shabdon ke theek baad wale second mein, us baat ka kya hua jo aap kehne wale the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Aise logon se tulna jinse koi mila nahi #
“Sab” bahut badi bheed hai, aur unke dinon ke andar kisi ne jhaanka nahi. Isse ye nahi dikhta ki kiske ghar mein chaar haath aur the, kise mayke mein sawa mahina aaram mila, ya kaun utna hi thaka tha aur kabhi bola nahi.
Isiliye iska jawab dena mushkil hai, aur isiliye ye tika rehta hai. Kisi asli insaan se tulna par sawaal uthaya ja sakta hai. “Sabse” tulna ko bas nigla ja sakta hai, aur koi ye mehsoos karte hue uth sakta hai ki poori bheed mein peeche bas ek wahi hai.
Jab aapse kaha gaya ki sab kar lete hain, to aapne unmein se kiski tasveer banayi, aur aapke mann mein unke din kaise dikhte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab tulna aadat ban jaye #
Baar-baar suno to ye apne aap chalne lagta hai. “Baaki log ye jhel lete hain.” “Mujhse hi ye itna mushkil kyun hai?” “Mujhe aise thakna nahi chahiye.” Kabhi ye jaanch thakaan ko naam milne se pehle hi ho jaati hai, aur mushkil bhi uske saath chhup jaati hai.
Ye sakhti ya samajhdaari jaisa lag sakta hai, baat ka batangad na banane ka tareeka. Par ye ek bhaari pal ko uthakar apni kami wali file mein daal deta hai, aur bojh khud kabhi dekha hi nahi jaata.
Jab kuch bahut zyada lage, to wo awaaz kya kehti hai, aur kin kamron mein sabse zor se bolti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye “nibha lena” ghar ka tareeka tha #
“Humne toh bina kisi madad ke kiya.” “Hamare zamaane mein koi shikayat nahi karta tha.” “Sab ho jaata hai, kaise bhi.” Kuch logon ke liye chupchaap nibha le jaana wahi tareeka tha jisse parivaar hamesha chala, aur jisse bure din paar hue.
Kai gharon mein ye mazbooti sach mein un saalon se aayi jab koi aur raasta nahi tha, aur ye izzat ki haqdaar hai. Bachcha chupchaap jo nateeja nikaal sakta hai, wo ye ki sahara chahna ajeeb baat hai, aur insaan ka naap ye hai ki wo kitna kam kehta hai.
Bade hote hue aapke ghar mein mushkil din ke baare mein kaise baat hoti thi, aur jo keh deta ki ab bahut ho gaya, uske saath kya hota tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche ek chupchaap niyam #
Kuch logon ke andar ek niyam baith jaata hai: “Jab baaki jhel lete hain, to mujhe mushkil lagne ki ijaazat nahi,” ya “Zyada chahiye, matlab mujhmein dum kam hai.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Lagta hai apna hissa nibhana hai, samajhdaari hai, ya bas shikayat na karna. Isiliye kabhi-kabhi ek ko bahar nikaalkar dekhna madad kar sakta hai ki wo mushkil din ke liye kitni jagah chhodta hai.
Kuch log is niyam ko khaas kamron ya saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
“Sab kar lete hain, to mujhe bhi karna hai” jaisa niyam aapke kisi ehsaas ke kitna kareeb hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
“Sab kar lete hain, to mujhe bhi” ab bhi kahan laagu lagta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Chupchaap lage rehne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ek mushkil hafta akele dhona, chhoti baatein tab tak na batana jab tak wo badi na ho jaayein, aur un kamron mein seedha chehra rakhna jahan ek dheema-sa shabd shayad achha lagta. Kuch log “theek dikhne” mein maahir ho jaate hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab mushkil lagna hi fail hona gina jaye, to saath chalne ka ek hi tareeka bachta hai, bas dhakelte rehna, aur paas wale shayad hi kabhi dekh paate hain ki tike rehne mein asal mein kitna lagta hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein is niyam ki kya keemat rahi, agar kuch: koi mushkil din jo chup reh gaya, koi aaram jo liya nahi, koi cheez jo akele dhoyi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, jab bheed zor se bole #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “sab jhel lete hain, to mujhe bhi” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad “all good” likhkar bheja gaya ek message, khade-khade khaya gaya lunch, thaki awaaz mein maani gayi kisi ki farmaish, chupchaap ye dekhna ki baaki kaise nibha rahe hain. Kuch jaana-pehchana lag sakta hai, kuch bilkul nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein kinare rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, chhoti-chhoti jaddojahad, wo pal jab “theek hoon” kaha aur matlab kuch aur tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhte hue, agar kuch, to kis cheez par nazar rukti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Bahar se “nibha lena” alag dikhta hai #
Jo nibha leta dikhta hai, uske paas shayad paas mein bada parivaar ho, halki naukri, chhota safar, ya aisi raaton ki lambi list jinka wo zikr nahi karta. Log nibhana dikhate hain, uski keemat nahi. Chaar bachchon wale us zamaane mein bhi aangan mein das haath the.
Alag-alag log alag-alag bojh bhi dhote hain. Ek hi hafta kisi ke liye halka aur kisi ke liye bahut bhara ho sakta hai, is par nirbhar ki neend kitni mili, paisa, jagah, aur haath bantane ko kaun hai.
Agar kisi kareebi dost se, jo wahi dho raha ho jo aap dhote ho, kaha jaye ki sab kar lete hain, to aap usse kya kehna chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log us pal par dheere-dheere lautte hain, to unhein us din ka asli bojh dikhta hai: ghante, un par tike log, ek ke upar ek jama kaam. Uske saamne aaram se nikalte dinon wali bheed patli dikhne lagti hai.
Kuch ko yaad aata hai ki kisne bina poochhe kaha tha, “Ye sach mein bahut hai”: ek dost jise bhi bhaari laga tha, ek bhai ya behen jiska bhi bura daur guzra. Wo awaazein bhi thin, bas us ek line se dheemi jo chipak gayi.
Kise samajh aata laga ki ek mushkil din mein kitna kuch sama sakta hai, aur unhone kya kaha ya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Kisi andekhi bheed se barabari ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki koi aur nahi nibha pa raha, na ye dikhana ki baat chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek line ka is par kam chale ki mushkil din ko mushkil rehne diya jaye ya nahi.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo khud ko sabse naapna chhodte hain. Us muqable ka na koi judge hai, na koi finish line, aur jab tak wo chalta hai, bhaari din bhaari din kam, faisla zyada lagta hai.
Kuch kamre shayad ye line bolte rahein, aur unhein badalna kisi ki zimmedari nahi.
Agar mushkil din bas mushkil din ho, to wo kaisa lag sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Bhaari din ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “sab jhel lete hain, to mujhe bhi” saalon se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaay ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mushkil din, mushkil din hai. Use ranking banana zaroori nahi.”
Iska sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log aazmakar dekhte hain, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki bure din ke baad ya family call se pehle dheere se kahi gayi, ye us jagah ka thoda hissa le leti hai jo purani tulna bharti thi.
Aapke apne shabdon mein bhaari din ke baare mein sachcha vaakya kaisa sunayi dega, jiske liye kisi ki haami ki zaroorat na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein usi bheed ke paas chhodi ja sakti hain #
Har “sab kar lete hain” ko safai, poore hafte ka hisaab ya behtar nibhane ka waada nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise raat ki aakhri feed ke baad sote bachche ko palne mein rakh dete hain.
Ye uske aage jhukna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un cheezon ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jo sach mein unhein din paar karati hain, chahe kitni bhi chhoti.
Aaj raat ise bheed ke paas chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki wo kal ki list mein, ya agli baar jab kuch bahut lage, saath na aaye.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki sab-kar-lete-hain wala niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Mushkil din bas mushkil din ho sakta hai, aur bhaari bojh bas bhaari bojh.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: do kaamon ke beech ek thehraav, mann mein kaha gaya “ye bahut hai,” bachcha so raha ho to baithkar pi gayi ek cup chai.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Agar niyam dheela ho, to sabse pehle kya alag lagega, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Niyam dheela hone ki aapki pehli chhoti nishaani kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi sab-kar-lete-hain wali line”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: us din mein asal mein kya-kya tha?
- Aaj ki ek cheez par dhyan dijiye jo aapne dhoyi aur kisi ne dekhi nahi
- Ek haath table par rakhiye aur teen dheemi saansein lijiye
- Ek chhota kaam chuniye jo kal tak ruk sakta hai
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne kaha ki sab kar lete hain, tab mushkil kya thi, aur wo pal kaise khatam hua?
- Jab ye suna, wahan kaun tha, aur aapne khud ko kya kehne se roka?
- Aakhri baar kab mushkil din bas mushkil din laga, aur kis wajah se?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi chupchaap kya dho rahe honge?
- Agar niyam thoda dheela ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?