Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Is tarah ka shak aksar logon ke upar jaane ke saath dheema nahi, tez hota hai.
Bahut se logon mein apni kaamyabi par shak karne ki aadat jaldi shuru hui.
Pol khulne ke ehsaas ke neeche ek chupchaap niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Meri jeet tukka thi, chook gaye to pol khul jaayegi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Jo cheezein achhe se aati hain, unki bhi zaroorat se zyada taiyari karna
- Doosron ke chhota karne se pehle apni jeet ko khud halka kar dena
- Shrey team ko, timing ko, kisi bhi aur ko dena, khud ko chhodkar
- Har meeting mein gehre sawaal ka darr paalna
- Der raat tak kaam karna taaki koi dekh na le ki abhi kya seekhna baaki hai
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Taaliyan, phir local ka safar
Lower Parel ki ad agency mein Thursday ki dopahar. Team meeting mein boss kehte hain ki pehli client presentation aap lead karoge. Sab taali bajaate hain. Aap muskurakar “thank you, sach mein” kehte ho. Local mein ghar lautte hue muskaan utar jaati hai. Aap rehearse karne lagte ho ki jab wo samjhenge ki galat insaan chuna, tab kya kahenge. Raat ko Monday ki taiyari aise hoti hai jaise wo imtihaan aapko pakadne ke liye bana ho.
Chooke to pol khul jaayegi
Pehle saaf baat: shak ki lehar saboot nahi hai, aur us kursi tak pahunchane mein aapke kaam ka hissa hai. Par neeche ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ho jaata hai: “Meri jeet tukka thi, chook gaye to pol khul jaayegi.” Ye namra rehne jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har kaamyabi karz ban jaati hai aur har sawaal imtihaan.
Chaukanna rehna kyun surakshit laga
Aisa niyam hum isliye pakadte hain kyunki chaukanna rehna achanak pakde jaane se surakshit lagta hai. Shayad ghar mein taareef kam hoti thi. Shayad aap aise kamron mein parivar ke pehle insaan the, aur mehmaan jaisa laga. Har haal mein, apni jagah ke layak banna chahna bewakoofi nahi. Ye chaah ki mehnat ginti jaaye, aur ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Jeetein jo karz jaisi lagein
Har jeet ki ab thodi keemat hai. Jo pehle se aata hai uski taiyari teen baar. Wo ek sawaal jiska jawab nahi, usse bachne ke liye chuppi. Achhe din ko ghanta bhar milta hai, phir chinta. Taarifein phisal jaati hain. Shayad agla kadam kisi aise ko chala jaaye jo zyada pakka dikhta hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho.
Kursi ki rakhwali zaroori hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: is niyam ko pakde rakhne se kya aapko laga ki aap yahan ke ho? Ya zyadatar aap us kursi ki rakhwali karte rahe jo aap pehle hi kama chuke? Mauka sabki madad karta hai, aur aksar taiyar logon par girta hai. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna uski keemat ke layak hai?
Kamayi kursi par seekhte rehna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki shak kabhi nahi aayega, ya ki aapko shaandaar mehsoos karna hai. Matlab ye ki aapka kaam mauke aur madad ke saath ginaa jaaye. Aap “ek minute, dekhkar batate hain” keh sakte ho aur phir bhi kamre ka hissa ho. Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai, ek baar mein ek meeting. Yahin se kuch chain lautta hai: kursi ki rakhwali ki jagah usmein baithkar seekhna.
If someone at work ever threatens or frightens you, or holds your pay, visa or papers over you, that goes beyond everyday doubt and is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMeri jeet tukka thi, chook gaye to pol khul jaayegi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleTukke ne saath diya, mehnat ne bhi. Is kursi par seekhna theek hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Kisi haalia jeet tak le jaane wali apni ek baat sochiye
- Din 2
Aaj ek baar taiyari kijiye, phir use kaafi maan lijiye
- Din 3
Shak bole to sochiye: ek sawaal imtihaan nahi hota
Is par baat karni hai?
“Shak aane se theek pehle kaun si achhi baat hui thi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Achhi khabar ke saath aane wala khayal #
Ye aksar kisi achhi baat ke theek baad aata hai. Promotion ki mail, meeting mein taaliyan, client ka aapka naam lekar bulana, admission letter. Sab muskurate hain, aur aapki apni muskaan ke neeche ek dheema khayal kehta hai: “Kisi bhi pal pol khul jaayegi.”
Ye kisi aur ne nahi kaha, isiliye isse bahas karna itna mushkil hai. Ye aapki apni awaaz mein aata hai, theek tab jab saboot ulta kehte hain, aur jashn ki jagah ek ulti ginti shuru kar sakta hai.
Ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Abhi kya achha hua tha, aur achha lagna kitni der tika uske aane se pehle?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Achhi khabar kabhi thandi hawa kyun lagti hai #
Kuch logon ke liye achhi khabar ke pehle second ajeeb se thande hote hain. Muskaan sachchi hoti hai, par pet kas jaata hai, aur mann pehli meeting, pehle mushkil sawaal, sabke saamne galat hone ke pehle mauke tak pahunch jaata hai. Iska matlab ye nahi ki aapmein kuch gadbad hai.
Jab kahin bheetar apne paanvon par pakka bharosa na ho, to zyada saaf dekha jaana jokhim bhara lag sakta hai. To sharir pehle tan jaata hai, jaise seedhi ka koi dandaa ummeed se ooncha nikal aaya ho. Soch baad mein aati hai, aksar raat ko, is lambi list ke saath ki kya bigad sakta hai.
Kisi ke “shabaash” kehne ke baad wale minute mein aapka sharir kya karta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Dheela padta hai, tan jaata hai, ya baat badalne ko daudta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Usse kya pata chalta hai ki us khabar ne aapse kya maanga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Har jeet tukka, har chook saboot #
Ye khayal isliye chubhta hai ki wo asli kaamyabi ko aisa karz bana deta hai jo abhi chukaya nahi gaya. Har jeet tukke, timing ya doosron ki madad ke khaate mein jaati hai, aur har chook saboot ke khaate mein. Aise hisaab mein kitna bhi achha kaam kabhi judta nahi.
Is tarah ka shak aksar logon ke upar jaane ke saath dheema nahi, tez hota hai. Naya pad, bada cabin, aisi team jo aapki taraf dekhe: har ek doosron ki nazar mein aap aur andar ke aap ke beech ka faasla badhata hai, aur pol khulne ka ehsaas usi faasle mein rehta hai.
Agar aap apni pichhli jeet ko kisi nishpaksh bahari ki nazar se dekhein, to wo aapko kis baat ka shrey dega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur uska kaun sa hissa aap tukke ko saunpte rehte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Ek awaaz jo vinamrata jaisi lagti hai #
Is awaaz ki kuch pasandida lines hain. “Kahin pol na khul jaaye.” “Mujhe to bas tukke se yahan jagah mil gayi.” “Baaki sab kitne pakke dikhte hain.” Ye presentation, review ya nayi kursi ki pehli subah se theek pehle sabse zor se bolti hai.
Ye vinamrata jaisi lagti hai, aur aksar wahi banakar chalti hai. Par vinamrata aapki mehnat ko saaf dekhkar bhi namra reh sakti hai. Ye awaaz alag hai: ye mehnat ko poori tarah mita deti hai, phir aapse us jagah ka kiraya bharwati rehti hai jise wo kehti hai aapne kamaya hi nahi.
Jab wo kehti hai ki bas tukka laga tha, to kiski awaaz udhaar leti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur agar koi colleague apne baare mein yahi kahe, to aap maan lenge, ya unke kaam ginane lagenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Bahuton ke liye shak bahut pehle shuru hua #
Bahut se logon mein apni kaamyabi par shak karne ki aadat jaldi shuru hui. Shayad achhe numbers par suna, “Full marks kyun nahi aaye?” Shayad taareef kisi cousin ke liye rakhi jaati thi, ya ghar mein aisi jagah pahunchne wale pehle hone ka matlab wahan mehmaan jaisa mehsoos karna tha.
Kuch ne seekha ki alag dikhna dhyan bulata hai, aur dhyan parakh bula sakta hai. Kuch ne kisi maa-baap ko khoob mehnat karte aur bina pehchaan ke rehte dekha, aur chupchaap nishkarsh nikala ki kaamyabi ko safai dekar hataana padta hai. Wajahein alag hain; jo reh jaata hai wo aksar katghare mein hone ka ehsaas hai.
Pehli baar kab laga ki aap aisi jagah hain jise poori tarah kamaya nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us kamre mein aur kaun tha, aur wo kya jaante lage jo aapko nahi pata tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Shak ke neeche ek chupchaap niyam #
Pol khulne ke ehsaas ke neeche ek chupchaap niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Meri jeet tukka thi, chook gaye to pol khul jaayegi.” Kuch log narm roop dhote hain: “Is kursi ko mujhe har roz phir kamana hai.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo zameen se jude rehne jaise lagte hain, bhookhe rehne jaise, kaamyabi sir par na chadhne dene jaise. Isiliye wo nibhana aasaan aur notice karna mushkil, barson ke achhe kaam ke baad bhi jise niyam chupchaap anadekha karta hai.
Kuch log is niyam ko school, kisi gharelu kahani, ya sareaam shak kiye jaane ke ek pal se jodte hain. Har haal mein ise parkha ja sakta hai: jeet tukka hai to bina ruke uski rakhwali karo.
Ye niyam aapki zindagi mein kahan fit baithta hai, aur kahan peechhe chhoot chuka hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Kursi ki rakhwali ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki jo cheezein pehle se aati hain unki taiyari mein baaki sabse teen guna waqt lage, meeting mein chup raha jaaye taaki wo ek sawaal na aaye jiska jawab nahi, ya agla kadam thukra diya jaaye kyunki shayad usmein aakhirkaar pol khul jaaye.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jeetein jeet jaisi nahi lagtin. Achhe din mein ghante bhar baad chinta aa jaati hai, aur har uplabdhi khushi ki jagah raahat laati hai, kyunki lagta hai ek baar aur bach nikle.
Kamzori se nahi. Aisa raaz dhona thakata hai jo asal mein hai hi nahi.
Pichhle ek saal mein isne kya liya: koi jashn jo adhoora reh gaya, koi mauka jo thukraya, koi weekend jo zaroorat se zyada taiyari mein gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch aur saal, pakde jaane ka intezaar #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “pol khul jaayegi” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad slides chauthi baar jaanchi gayi, ek idea rok liya gaya kyunki koi follow-up poochh sakta tha, ek taareef taal di gayi, bada role kisi aise ko chhod diya gaya jo zyada pakka dikhta hai. Shayad ek jeet jise kisi ne, aapne bhi, manaya nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: meeting, taiyari, ankahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Tukka, to kiske muqable? #
Tukka aur mauka asli cheezein hain, aur zyadatar achhi baaton mein thoda hota hai. Par wo akele shayad hi kaam karta hai. Wo aksar unhi par girta hai jo taiyar the: jo der tak ruke, jisne wo cheez seekhi, jisne darte hue bhi haan kaha. Dono saath sach ho sakte hain.
Jawab aksar aapke kiye ki taraf wapas ishara karta hai: ek faisla, ek aadat, barson ki chhoti mehnat jo tab prabhavshali nahi dikhti thi.
Poochhiye: tukka, to kiske muqable?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur kise wahi mauka mila aur usne kuch nahi kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar kisi dost ko wahi role milta, usi beete hue ke saath, to kya aap use tukka kehte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Uski mehnat ka saboot aap kise batate, aur kya usmein se kuch aap par bhi lagu hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab log likhte hain ki kisi kaamyabi tak asal mein kya le gaya, to kai dekhte hain ki list ummeed se lambi hai. Der raat ki mehnat, chhote jokhim, barson mein chupchaap bani skills, aur wo log jinhone kuch asli dekhkar unhein chuna.
Kuch ye bhi dekhte hain ki jo log itne pakke dikhte hain, unmein se bahut se kuch waisa hi mehsoos karte hain. Bahar shaant aur andar shak, meeting room ke paar se dikhne se kahin zyada logon mein ek saath rehte hain.
Agar aap imaandaar aur udaar, dono hokar likhein, to aapki list mein kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun si cheez aap usmein se chhodte aaye ho, aur usi ki kyun?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Kursi ka kiraya bharte rehna zaroori nahi #
Isse sulah ka matlab har cheez mein shaandaar mehsoos karna ya shak ke kabhi na aane ka dikhawa nahi. Matlab ye ki aapki jeetein tukke aur madad ke saath ginni jaayein, na ki aate hi safai dekar hata di jaayein.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo har din ko is imtihaan ki tarah dekhna chhod dete hain ki kursi ke layak hain ya nahi. Kursi mein baithkar bhi seekha ja sakta hai. Zyadatar log kisi bhi role mein baithe-baithe hi usmein dhale, aur pehle kisi ne certificate nahi thamaya.
Apni kursi par aise insaan ki tarah baithna kaisa lagega jo ab bhi seekh raha hai, na ki aise ki tarah jo pakde jaane ka intezaar kar raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Kursi ke baare mein ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “mujhe to bas tukke se jagah mil gayi” barson se baj raha hai, to usse seedhe bhidne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iski jagah ek sachcha vaakya taiyar rakhte hain: “Tukke ne saath diya, meri mehnat ne bhi. Yahan abhi seekhna jaari hai.”
Iska fauran sach lagna zaroori nahi. Itna kaafi hai ki ye purane se zyada sahi ho. Badi meeting se pehle dheere se kehne par kuch logon ko lagta hai ki wo ulti ginti ki thodi jagah le leta hai.
Aapka apna sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo madad aur tukke ke baare mein nishpaksh ho, par aapka hissa na mitaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Shak ka kuch hissa neeche rakha ja sakta hai #
Shak ki har jhalak se bahas karna, use galat saabit karna ya uske khilaf taiyari karna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, pal bhar feel kiya ja sakta hai aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe din ke baad local se utarkar bag farsh par rakh dete hain.
Ye laparwah hona nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki urja kahan jaaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki kursi ki rakhwali mein kam lage to kaam ke liye aur un hisson ka maza lene ke liye zyada bachti hai jo unhein pasand hain.
Aaj shaam shak ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki use mehsoos karna galat tha. Bas itna ki aaj ki raat pol khulne ki taiyari mein na bite.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam zara dheema pad gaya. Mushkil sawaal ab bhi mushkil hai, par wo sawaal hai, imtihaan nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise teen baar ki jagah ek baar taiyari karna, bina darr ke “ek minute, dekhkar batate hain” kehna, ya achhe din ko sone tak achha rehne dena.
Isme se kuch bhi kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi ubhre wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak. Ise theek se dekhna chahein to ek chat bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi pol-khulne wala khayal”
- Kisi haalia jeet ki taraf le jaane wali ek khaas baat sochiye
- Chook ho to dekhiye ki wo ek chook hai, saboot nahi
- Ek baar taiyari kijiye, phir aaj ke liye use kaafi maan lijiye
- Sone se pehle aaj ka ek pal yaad kijiye jo aapne achhe se sambhala
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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