Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Zyada pareshan dikhe to label sahi lagta hai.
“Tumhare saath to har baar tamasha hai.”
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Main zyada hi sensitive hoon,” ya “Mere ehsaas logon ke liye bahut zyada hain.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Turant halka kar dena: “Kuch nahi yaar, chhodo”
- Awaaz oonchi kar lena, taaki baat pahunche
- Us insaan ko zaroori baatein batana hi band kar dena
- Pehle mann mein kahani dohrana, taaki shaant sunayi de
- Doosre ke hansne se pehle khud par hans dena
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Canteen mein til ka taad
Indore, college ki canteen. Pohe aur cutting chai ke beech aapke munh se nikal jaata hai ki group project ki aapki mehnat kisi aur ne apne naam se sir ko dikha di. Ek dost aankhein ghumata hai: “Bhiya, kya drama hai ye, til ka taad bana diya!” Sab hans padte hain. Aapki nazar khidki par chali jaati hai. Chot ke oopar ab sharmindagi bhi hai, aur mann kehta hai ki aage kuch nahi batana.
Zyada react nahi karna
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mujhe zyada react nahi karna chahiye.” Ye samajhdaari jaisa lagta hai, aur bahut log is par sir hila denge. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har reaction par pehra bitha deta hai. Jo lag raha hai, use mehsoos karne ki jagah aap jaanchte ho ki kahin zyada to nahi, aur dheere-dheere batana hi kam hota jaata hai.
Mushkil insaan kyun nahi dikhna chahte
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki koi nahi chahta ki use mushkil insaan samjha jaye. Bahut se log aisa koi niyam lekar bade hote hain, aur tab wo samajhdaari hi tha. Shayad bachpan mein nautanki kaha gaya, shayad bade ehsaason par logon ko hanste dekha. Samajhdaar dikhne ki chaah galat nahi, wo apnaye jaane ki chaah se aati hai. Use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Thoda aur chup hote jaana
Har “kitna drama karte ho” aapko thoda aur chup kar deta hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakad mein nahi aata. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par andar mehsoos hota hai. Gharwalon ko batana kam ho jaata hai. Zaroori baatein hansi mein tal di jaati hain. Apni hi reactions ke saath akelapan lagta hai, aur kareebi logon ko aapki asli baatein kam pata rehti hain.
Kya ehsaas chhote karna sahi hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: ehsaas ko chhota karne se kya aapko kabhi zyada samjha gaya mehsoos hua? Ya zyadatar akelapan hi badha? Ehsaas har size ke hote hain, aur apni mehnat kisi aur ke naam jaate dekhkar bura lagna aam baat hai. Iska jawab aap hi jaante ho, aur koi galat jawab nahi. Aankhein ghumana aapke ehsaas ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iske layak hai?
Aapke ehsaas jaayaz hain
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki har kisi ko sab kuch batana hai. Matlab ye ki aapki reactions ko jaayaz hone ke liye chhota nahi hona padega. Jo laga, wo laga, aur kise batana hai, ye aap chun sakte ho. Sab ek saath nahi hota, hona bhi nahi chahiye. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: ehsaas aapke apne rehte hain, aur drama ek shabd bhar reh jaata hai jo kisi ne kaha tha.
If sharing feelings at home is ever met with threats, being mocked again and again, or anything that frightens you, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe zyada react nahi karna chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere ehsaas jaayaz hain. Kise bataun, ye chunav mera hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aaj ek ehsaas ko uske asli size mein pehchaniye
- Din 2
Gaur kijiye ki kaun bina label lagaye sunta hai
- Din 3
Wo shabd goonje to ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab unhone ye kaha, usse pehle aapne unhein kya bataya tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek shabd, aur asli baat phisal jaati hai #
College ki canteen, Indore. Pohe-jalebi aur cutting chai ke beech aapne bataya ki group project ki aapki mehnat kisi aur ne apne naam se sir ko dikha di. Dost ne aankhein ghumayin: “Bhiya, kya drama hai ye, til ka taad bana diya!” Sab hans pade, aur baat badal gayi.
Ghar par bhi yahi suna ja sakta hai: “Phir shuru ho gayi nautanki,” “Har baat mein scene create karna zaroori hai?” Shabd chhota hai, par chupchaap bada kaam karta hai: nazar is par jaati hai ki baat kaise kahi gayi, awaaz kitni oonchi thi, aankhein kitni bharin. Jo hua tha, wo peeche chhut jaata hai.
Aakhri baar ye ya iske jaisa kuch kab suna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us waqt aapki baat kya thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur kya koi baad mein us asli baat par lauta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Beech vaakya mein awaaz kyun dab jaati hai #
Kuch logon ka chehra garam ho jaata hai, gala kas jaata hai, aur baat ke beech mein awaaz dab jaati hai. Koi turant baat halki karne lagta hai: “Kuch nahi yaar, chhodo.” Kisi ko lagta hai ki ehsaas chhota hone ke bajaye aur bada ho gaya. Isme nazuk hone jaisa kuch nahi.
Aaspaas ke log jab aapke ehsaas par aankh ghuma dein, to asar sochne se pehle hi ho jaata hai. Kuch logon ko shaant aur theek se kahi jaane wali baat baad mein soojhti hai, raat mein jagte hue, wo baat jo kamre mein kahi nahi ja saki.
Us pehli reaction se shayad pata chale ki baat aapke liye kitni zaroori thi.
Us shabd ke baad wale second mein body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sikud gayi, zor se bolne lagi, ya chup ho gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye awaaz ka size naapta hai, baat ka nahi #
“Sunkar bura laga” hui baat ke baare mein hai. “Drama” hui baat ko chhodkar sunane wale par aa jaata hai, maano ehsaas ka size hi masla ho. Mann label sunta hai, aur asli baat kehna mushkil lagne lagta hai.
Isme sunane wala phans bhi jaata hai. Zyada pareshan dikhe to label sahi lagta hai. Chup rahe to baat suni hi nahi jaati. Kuch logon ke liye yahi sabse bhaari hai: koi aisa tareeka nahi dikhta jisse baat ginti mein aaye.
Agar wo shabd aapki baat ke oopar se nikal gaya, to wo baat asal mein kya thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur us din jo hua tha, uske muqable ehsaas kitna bada tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab shabd andar se jaanch karne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar aa baithta hai. “Kahin baat ko zyada to nahi kheench diya?” “Drama mat kar.” “Chhod na, itni badi baat bhi nahi.” Ye message bhejne se pehle, koi pareshani uthane se pehle, ya dost ko bura din batate-batate beech mein chalu ho sakta hai.
Kehne wala shayad bhool bhi gaya ho, par jaanch chalti rehti hai, aur ab aapki apni awaaz mein bolti hai. Isiliye pakadna mushkil hai: ye unka shabd nahi lagta, bas napi-tuli samajhdaari lagta hai.
Jab ye aapko sur neecha rakhne ko kehti hai, to awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi khaas ghar ya class mein bahut pehle mili hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye ye bachpan se shuru hua #
“Baat-baat par rona band kar.” “Tumhare saath to har baar tamasha hai.” “Dekho, tumhara bhai to kabhi scene nahi banata.” Kuch log ye sunte hue bade hue ki bade ehsaas nautanki hain, aur achha bachcha wo hai jo andar kuch bhi chale, shaant rahe.
Kuch gharon mein ehsaas dheeme aur dabe rakhe jaate the, aur wajahein har ghar mein alag thin. Bachcha chupchaap ye seekh leta hai ki zyada dikhao to baat uda di jaati hai, aur suni jaane ke liye ehsaas ko chhota hona padta hai.
Ehsaas ko kehne se pehle chhota karna aapne pehli baar kab seekha, aur tab kamre mein kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aaj kaun se ehsaas sabse pehle chhote kar diye jaate hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Main zyada hi sensitive hoon,” ya “Mere ehsaas logon ke liye bahut zyada hain.” Kuch logon ke paas iska halka roop hota hai: “Suni jaani hai to dheere aur shaant bolo, warna chup raho.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti nahi. Bas logon ke reaction ki samajh jaisi lagti hai, aur isiliye ise beech-beech mein bahar nikalkar dhoop mein dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log ise shuruaati saalon tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: bade ehsaas par aankhein ghumein to unhein chhota rakho.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ehsaas chhota rakhne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki asli pareshaniyan tab uthayi jayein jab wo bahut badi ho chuki hon, college ya office ki naainsaafi ka zikr hi na ho, bure din akele nikal jayein. Kuch log kareebi logon ko asli haal batana bahut pehle band kar dete hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab har ehsaas ko kehne se pehle size mein taulna pade, to baatein saavdhaan aur feeki ho jaati hain, aur kuch log dost ko chhoti-si khabar dene se pehle bhi rehearsal karte hain.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Din bhar ehsaas ko chhota karna mehnat maangta hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein iski keemat kya rahi: koi fikar jo bahut der chup rahi, koi baat jo hui hi nahi, koi bura hafta jo kisi ko pata nahi chala?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, baat chhoti karke kehte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Mere ehsaas bahut zyada hain” andar zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad class group mein likha message jo zyada shaant sunayi dene ke liye dobara likha gaya, kaam ki koi fikar jo likhkar kinare rakh di gayi, ghar par khaane ki table jahan din ko “theek tha” mein nipta diya gaya. Ya koi vaakya jo shuru hokar beech mein badal gaya.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, baatein, ankahi ya aazmayi na gayi cheezein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Zyada, par kiske hisaab se? #
Log alag-alag size mein mehsoos karte hain. Koi film dekhkar ro deta hai, koi nahi; koi haath hilakar bolta hai, koi bilkul nahi hilta. Bahar se ehsaas kitna bada dikhta hai, ye bahut kam batata hai ki uski wajah sachchi thi ya nahi.
Poochiye: drama kiske muqable?Is par baat kijiye ›
Theek-theek hua kya, aur uske hisaab se sahi-si reaction kaisi hoti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya kabhi us baat par gaur hua, ya sirf is par ki ehsaas kitna bada tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur tareeka: agar koi kareebi dost aapko yahi kahani, isi lehje mein sunaye, to use tamasha maanenge, ya aisi baat jo uske liye maayne rakhti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap usse kya poochna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to kuch ko dikhta hai ki shabd is par tha ki baat kaisi sunayi di, aur asli baat par kisi ne gaur hi nahi kiya: wo naainsaafi, wo fikar, wo chot.
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jo ye shabd istemaal nahi karte: ek dost jo poochta hai “Phir kya hua?”, ek cousin jo kehta hai “Ye to bura hua,” ek saathi jo yaad rakhkar haal pooch leta hai. Aankh ghumane ki awaaz tez ho to aise log aasani se bhula diye jaate hain.
Aapke liye wo baat kya thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki life mein kaun aapki baat ko gambhirta se leta hai, aur jab wo leta hai to kaisa lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aisa aakhri baar kab hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Baat ko bada saabit karne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki wo drama tha, na ye dikhana ki shabd chubha nahi. Matlab itna ki wo shabd is par kam chale ki aap logon ko kya batayein, kaise batayein, aur shaam ka kitna hissa khud par shak karne mein jaye.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo ye saabit karna chhod dete hain ki ehsaas ka size sahi tha. Mann mein daleel ladana thakata hai, aur aapke saath jo hua, uske beech mein usi ek insaan ki reaction ko banaye rakhta hai.
Kaisa lagega agar wo shabd unhi ka rahe, aur jo baat thi wo aapke liye ab bhi maayne rakhe, chahe dobara kahi jaye ya nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Main bahut zyada hoon” saalon se baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek sachchi line rakhte hain: “Jo hua wo sach tha, aur us par mera ehsaas bhi jaayaz hai.”
Ye abhi sach lagni zaroori nahi. Bas purani wali se zyada sahi ho, aur kuch logon ko lagta hai ki dheere se, baar-baar kahi jaye to purane shabd ki thodi jagah le leti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachchi line kya hogi, jo ehsaas ke baare mein imaandaar ho, use na bada kare na chhota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “drama” ko jawabi tanz, shaant hokar dobara sunana ya agli baar zyada cool dikhne ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch baatein dekhi ja sakti hain, ek pal mehsoos ki ja sakti hain, aur neeche rakhi ja sakti hain, jaise din ke aakhir mein bhaari bag farsh par rakh dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un logon ke liye jagah bachti hai jo achhe se sunte hain, aur un baaton ke liye jo wo sach mein kehna chahte hain.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki aaj ye baaki har cheez mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya. Wo shabd mann mein aaye bhi, to wo bas ek insaan ki raay hai ki baat kaise sunayi di, ehsaas par faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: koi fikar chhoti rehte hi likh lena, bura din dost ko pehle maafi maange bina sunana, ya ehsaas ko uske asli size mein pehchanna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi drama wala shabd”
- Chupchaap poochiye: shabd aane se pehle asal mein hua kya tha?
- Gaur kijiye ki us pal mein kya zyada zor se laga: shabd, ya lehja
- Nijee taur par dekhiye ki ehsaas kis baat ka tha, ek-do shabdon mein
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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