Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Iska jawab dena bhi lagbhag namumkin hai.
Kai gharon mein ek khaas stream ke saath bharosa aur izzat judi rehti hai.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Mujhe pehle se samajh lena chahiye tha,” ya “Maine galat raasta pakda aur ab peeche hoon.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- “Ho sakta hai” kehkar baat jaane dena
- Lambi safai dena ki jo liya, wo kyun liya
- Mazaak karna ki aasaan raasta pakad liya
- Der raat doosre subject ka syllabus kholkar bas dekh lena
- Kai din us chunav ko mann mein dohrate rehna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Rajkot ki table par ek vaakya
Sunday ki subah Rajkot mein fafda-jalebi ki plates lagi hain. Phupha-ji aapki taraf dekhte hain aur dheere se kehte hain, “Tumhein science leni chahiye thi.” Table par pal bhar chuppi rehti hai, phir koi mausam ki baat chhed deta hai. Aap muskurakar khaate rehte ho. Raat ko bistar par apna time-table kholte ho, aur wo kisi aur ka lagta hai. Jo class is hafte achhi lagi, ab bhatkaav lagti hai.
Mujhe pehle se samajhna chahiye tha
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mujhe pehle se samajh lena chahiye tha.” Ye baad ki samajhdaari jaisa lagta hai, aur zyadatar log is par sar hila denge. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: jo chunav aapne us waqt ki jaankari se kiya, use aisi galti bana deta hai jo dikh jaani chahiye thi, aur aapka raasta chook se mili jagah jaisa lagne lagta hai.
Ye pachhtava kyun chipakta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki subject ka chunav sach mein saalon ka rukh tay karta hai, aur kehne wala aksar parwaah karta hai. Bahut se log is niyam ka koi roop sunkar bade hote hain, aur tab uska matlab banta tha. Shayad ek stream hamesha pakki maani gayi. Shayad aapne soch-samajhkar chuna. Apne chunav par shak karna bewaqoofi nahi. Use narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har “chahiye tha” ka wazan
Har “chahiye tha” thoda wazan jodta hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap use feel karte ho. Class mein baithte ho, par mann kahin aur rehta hai. Function mein apne course ki baat kam karte ho. Der raat doosre time-table dekhte ho. Chunav ka ehsaas sikudta jaata hai, jab tak wo apna kam aur safai dene ki cheez zyada na lagne lage.
Kya chunav kholna iske laayak?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se aapka apna subject kabhi zyada apna laga? Ya doosre raaste ki baat aate hi mann bas sikudta raha? Jahan aap khade the, wahan se kiya chunav aapka ho sakta hai. Jawab sirf aap de sakte ho, aur koi jawab galat nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai?
Wo raasta jo aapka hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki doosra subject kuch nahi tha, ya aapke shak sunne laayak nahi. Matlab ye ki ek table ka ek vaakya tay nahi karta ki aap apne raaste ko kaise dekhein. Aapne jo chuna, uski wajahein asli thin, aur wo aapki hain. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, hona bhi nahi chahiye. Kuch chain tab lautta hai jab aapka raasta sirf aapka ho.
If a choice at home is ever met with threats, being hurt, or anger that frightens you, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe pehle se samajh lena chahiye tha.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleTab jo dikhta tha, usi se chuna. Ye raasta mera hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is hafte apni padhai ki ek pasand ki cheez yaad kijiye
- Kadam 2
Doosra raasta yaad aaye to bas notice kijiye, peeche mat jaiye
- Kadam 3
Aaj ek chhoti cheez kijiye jo aapko bas achhi lagti hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Vaakya ke baad ke pehle second mein table par kya ho raha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Jo raasta chhoot chuka, uski baat ab bhi #
Sunday ki subah Rajkot mein haath mein fafda-jalebi ki plate hai, aur Phupha-ji jalebi uthate hue keh dete hain: “Tumhein science leni chahiye thi.” Kabhi ye Mama kehte hain, kabhi lift mein padosi, kabhi result ke baad tuition ke sir.
Kehne ka dhang halka hai, par usme wazan hai: halka-sa sar hilana, ek thehraav. Jaise koi behtar raasta tha aur wo haath se nikal chuka. Raasta peeche reh chuka, phir bhi vaakya aapko mudkar use dekhne ko kehta hai.
Kuch logon ko saalon baad bhi wo shabd hu-ba-hu yaad rehte hain.
Jab pehli baar kisi ne bataya ki kaun sa subject lena chahiye tha, tab aap kahan baithe the aur kya kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Shak ki wo ek chingaari #
Kisi ko pal bhar ka shak ho jaata hai, chahe hafta bhar pehle tak poora yaqeen raha ho. Koi tunakkar kehta hai “Jo padhai chal rahi hai, wahi pasand hai” aur phir sochta hai ki ye kehna kyun pada. Koi chup ho jaata hai aur ginne lagta hai ki kya-kya chhoota.
Chhoote hue raaste ki baat fauran lagti hai, kyunki wo aisa sawaal chhooti hai jo har kisi ne kabhi khud se poochha hai. Jawab dene se pehle hi mann faisle ko dobara kholne lagta hai.
Pehli pratikriya ko safai ki zaroorat nahi.
Us pehle second mein aapne kya kiya, aur uske baad munh se kya nikla?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Kisi aur ka pachhtava, aapke naam par #
Ye baat kisi aur ka pachhtava aapki jholi mein daal deti hai. Aapke subject ko aisi galti bana deti hai jise taala ja sakta tha, aur aapko wo jise pehle se dikh jaana chahiye tha.
Iska jawab dena bhi lagbhag namumkin hai. Haan kahein to chubhta hai, na kahein to zid lagti hai. Aur vaakya aise bolta hai jaise doosre raaste ka naqsha kisi ke paas raha ho, jabki wo kisi ke paas nahi tha.
Aapke chunav ke peeche sachchi dilchaspi aur wajahein ho sakti hain.
Agar koi poochhe ki aapko apna subject kyun bhaya, to sabse pehle kaun si baat batana chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab doosra raasta apne aap bulane lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye apne aap bolne lagta hai. “Science li hoti toh?” “Kahin wo sahi toh nahi the?” “Ab aasaan hota kya?” Kabhi kisi achhe lecture ke beech achanak phusphusahat ki tarah aa jaata hai.
Rishtedaar ghar laut chuke, par doosra raasta nazar mein rehta hai: dost ka time-table do baar dekhna, syllabus kholna-band karna, kisi ki lab coat par halki-si jalan. Awaaz apni hai, isliye ye imaandaar soch lagti hai, table ki goonj nahi.
Bheetar ki awaaz aksar kisi asli insaan ka lehja udhaar le leti hai.
“Tumhein leni chahiye thi” andar kiski awaaz mein bolta hai, aur ye pehli baar kab unn jaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kai logon ke liye ek stream “pakki” maani gayi #
Kai gharon mein ek khaas stream ke saath bharosa aur izzat judi rehti hai. Shaadi-byaah mein uski baat hoti hai, school usi taraf dhakelta hai, usmein gaye cousin ki taareef hoti hai. “A group” ka naam hi alag raub rakhta hai.
Zyadatar gharon mein ye aage ki fikr thi, waise hi kahi gayi jaise hamesha kahi jaati rahi. Bachche ke paas ek chup nishkarsh reh jaata hai: apna chunav koi bhi dobara khol sakta hai.
Kuch log us saal ko pakad sakte hain jab doosra subject pehli baar naam lekar bataya gaya.
Kisne pehli baar kaha ki aapko kya lena chahiye tha, aur kab?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche baitha ek chup niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Mujhe pehle se samajh lena chahiye tha,” ya “Maine galat raasta pakda aur ab peeche hoon.” Kuch log narm roop dhote hain: “Apni padhai pasand hai, ye zyada kehna theek nahi.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti nahi, baad ki samajhdaari jaisi lagti hai, jaise agle mod se chhoota mod saaf dikhta hai. Isiliye ise kabhi-kabhi bahar nikaalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi.
Aaj ki zindagi mein “mujhe pehle se samajh lena chahiye tha” kahan ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Pachhtava dhone ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai aadhe mann se class mein baithna, function mein apna course na batana, ya kisi ki stream ki baat sunkar chubhan hona. Kuch logon ko wo subject achha lagna band ho jaata hai jo kabhi khushi se chuna tha.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab doosra raasta hamesha zyada zor se bole, to apne raaste par dhyaan nahi jaata: jo class achhi lagi, corridor mein bana dost, isi hafte samajh aayi koi baat. Kuch saalon mein bahut kuch bina kahe reh jaata hai.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Jis chunav ko log baar-baar kholte hain, use dhone mein asli taaqat lagti hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein is “chahiye tha” ne kya liya: maza, mehfilein, ya kuch jo aapne kehna chhod diya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, kandhe ke upar se dekhte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, jab “mujhe pehle se samajh lena chahiye tha” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ki cheez nahi.
Shayad aadhe mann se suna lecture, der raat dekha kisi dost ka course, chhoda hua shauq kyunki wo gina nahi jaata, aur ghar se phone jiska pehla topic doosra subject hai. Kuch jaana-pehchana hoga, kuch bilkul nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein kinare rakh sakte hain.
Usmein kya hai: shak, tulna, dabaya hua utsaah?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us aam Tuesday ko dekhte hue aapko kuch khaas dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Chunav usi jagah se hota hai jahan aap khade the #
Subject ka har chunav kisi ek saal se hota hai: tab kya pata tha, kya pasand tha, kya mil raha tha aur kya mumkin lagta tha. Har raaste ka naqsha lekar koi nahi chunta. Dhyaan se kiya chunav dhyaan se kiya chunav hi rehta hai, chahe kisi aur ne alag chuna hota.
Kehne wale ke mann mein shayad apna koi achha raasta tha. Dono baatein sach ho sakti hain: fikr se kahi baat bhi bhaari pad sakti hai. Kuch logon ko sthir lagta hai ye dekhna ki vaakya kehne wale ke “achhe raaste” ki tasveer hai, unke raaste par faisla nahi.
Sochiye ghar ka koi chhota, jisne abhi aisa subject chuna hai jiski kisi ko ummeed nahi thi.
Aap use sabse pehle kya sunana chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log us pal ko dheema karke dekhte hain, to dikhta hai ki baat chaar second ki thi aur use dohrana kai din chala. Kehna aur dhona, dono ka size bahut alag hai.
Kuch ko wo bhi dikhte hain jinhone kuch aur poochha: ek dost jise jaanna tha ki subject sach mein kaisa hai, ek sir jinhone us par ek kitaab pakda di, dada-nani jinhone poochha “Mann lag raha hai?” Wo awaazein bhi thin, bas dheemi.
Shor wale function mein dheemi awaazein chhoot jaati hain.
Aapke liye subject ke baare mein, uske baare mein nahi jo nahi liya, kisne poochha, aur wo kya jaanna chahte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Chunav ko dobara kholne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye dikhana nahi ki baat kuch nahi thi, ya doosra raasta kabhi khayal mein nahi aata. Matlab bas itna ki wo vaakya is par kam chale ki aap apne raaste ko kaisa feel karein.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo chunav ko sahi saabit karna chhod dete hain. Wo saboot kabhi poora nahi hota, har baar koi aur rishtedaar, koi aur raay. Mehnat se kiya chunav har table par khula rehta hai.
Kuch log ye kehte rahenge aur unhein badalna zaroori nahi.
Kaisa lagega agar subject par ek sachcha vaakya bolkar baaki shaam doosri baaton ki ho jaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “mujhe pehle se samajh lena chahiye tha” barson se andar baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Tab jo dikhta tha, usi se chuna; ye raasta mera apna hai.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki kisi jamavde se pehle dheere se keh dene par wo purane vaakya ki thodi jagah le leti hai.
Sachche vaakya ko sahi hona hai, prabhaavshaali nahi.
Aapke apne shabdon mein apne chunav ka sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jise kisi ki manzoori nahi chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “chahiye tha” ko behtar jawab, palatwaar ya agle Sunday ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur school ke bhaari bag ki tarah din ke aakhir mein darwaze par rakha ja sakta hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi. Ye chunna hai ki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse apne subject ke pasandeeda hisse ke liye aur un logon ke liye jagah bachti hai jo uske baare mein poochhte hain.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi, ya nipat chuki. Bas itna ki wo khaane, agle phone ya kal ke plan mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar doosra raasta thoda chup ho jaye #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Doosra subject ab bhi ek subject hai, aur aapka subject aapka apna hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: dost ko batana ki aakhri class sach mein kaisi thi, apni dilchaspi ki koi kitaab udhaar lena, ya ghar ke sawaal ka ek aasaan vaakya mein jawab dena.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya halka-sa alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi chahiye-tha wali baat”
- Gaur kijiye ki kaun sa hissa zyada chubhta hai: shabd, ya sar hilane ka dhang
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: jo subject liya, usmein sabse pehle kya khincha tha?
- Aise ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jo aapke subject ke baare mein poochhta hai, doosre ke baare mein nahi
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Vaakya ke baad ke pehle second mein table par kya ho raha tha?
- Aapke apne subject ke kis hisse ki kahani ka doosre raaste se koi lena-dena nahi?
- “Tumhein leni chahiye thi” sunkar sabse pehle kiski awaaz yaad aati hai, aur kyun?
- Jis aam din doosra raasta zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar wo raasta kuch der chup ho jaye, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?