“videsh ki padhai ke baad bachche ko ghar laut aana chahiye” par log aksar kya karte hain?

Har call ke aakhir mein wapsi ke baare mein poochhna. Har nayi job ya naye flat ko door rehne ki khabar ki tarah sunna. Unka kamra taiyaar rakhna, ki kabhi bhi aayein. Doston ke laute bachchon ka zikr karna, aadha ishare mein. Baat chhod hi dena, aur raat ko akele use ulatte-palatte rehna.

Agle 3 din kya try kiya ja sakta hai?

Sochiye ki unhein apni jagah ki kaun si baat pasand hai. Unki banayi zindagi ki ek baat sochiye jis par garv ho. Unke purane kamre ko aisi jagah banaiye jiska aap bhi maza lein.

“videsh ki padhai ke baad bachche ko ghar laut aana…

Andar

Andar kya chal raha hai #

Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.

Nirasha aksar us tasveer aur asal mein jo hua uske beech ke faasle mein rehti hai.
Kuch logon ke liye ye dekhkar bani: wo chacha jo bahar padhkar lauute aur ghar ka kaarobaar sambhal liya, kisi cousin ki wapsi par bada bhoj, ya padosi ka beta jo gaya to har saal uska zikr dheema hota gaya.
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bahar ki padhai ek adhyaay hai, aur zindagi ghar par hoti hai,” ya “Wo laut aayein to parivaar poora rehta hai.”

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Log aksar kya karte hain #

Har call ke aakhir mein wapsi ke baare mein poochhna
Har nayi job ya naye flat ko door rehne ki khabar ki tarah sunna
Unka kamra taiyaar rakhna, ki kabhi bhi aayein
Doston ke laute bachchon ka zikr karna, aadha ishare mein
Baat chhod hi dena, aur raat ko akele use ulatte-palatte rehna

Deck

6 cards mein poori kahani #

Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.

London mein job aur zindagi
Aapki beti ne pichhle saal London mein degree poori ki. Aapne hamesha socha tha ki iske baad wo ghar aayegi. Ab wahin job, flat, poori zindagi hai. Video call par wo apni nayi rasoi dikhati hai, chehra khila hua. Aap muskurakar kehte ho kitni pyaari hai. Baad mein Patna mein uske purane kamre mein baithte ho, deewar par ab bhi poster lage hain, aur doori bheetar utarti mehsoos hoti hai.
Bachcha videsh se ghar laut aaye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere bachche ko videsh ki padhai ke baad ghar laut aana chahiye.” Ye bahut swabhaavik lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke chain ko aapki badi ho chuki beti ke us faisle se baandh deta hai jo uska apna hai. Ab aap sukoon mein rahenge ya nahi, ye is par tika hai ki wo zindagi kahan basati hai, aur wo shayad wahan ho jo aapne kabhi socha nahi tha.
Humne unhein paas kyun socha tha
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki humne unhein paas rakhkar pala aur paas hi socha tha. Shayad aapne bahut pyaar aur tyaag se use bahar bheja, hamesha lautne ki tasveer ke saath. Shayad aapko bas uski roz yaad aati hai, shabdon se zyada. Jo bhi ho, use ghar chahna khudgarzi nahi. Ye pyaar se aur parivaar ko paas rakhne ki chaah se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Wo ghar jo shaant lagne laga
Har mahine ki doori se ghar thoda aur shaant lagta hai. Aap har call par “Kab aa rahi ho?” poochhne lagte ho. Doston ke bachche ghar lautein to tees uthti hai. Uska kamra theek waisa hi rakhte ho. Dheere-dheere aapka pyaar udaasi se ulajh jaata hai, aur jo callein garm aur khush ho sakti thin, unke neeche ek sawaal rehta hai jo jaata hi nahi.
Kya wapsi ka intezaar laayak hai?
Imaandari se poochhiye: kya uski wapsi ko pakde rakhne se wo kabhi jaldi ghar aayi? Ya zyadatar doori aur bhaari lagi? Bade ho chuke bachche aksar wahan zindagi banate hain jahan unke mauke hote hain; uske liye iska kya matlab hai, ye wahi bata sakti hai. Jo bhi ho, wo kahan rehti hai, aapke liye uske pyaar ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna aapko deta kam, leta zyada hai.
Use jahan hai wahan pyaar karna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap use yaad karna chhod dein. Matlab ye ki aapka chain is par nahi tika ki wo kahan rehne ka faisla karti hai. Aap uski banti zindagi par garv kar sakte ho, callon ka maza le sakte ho, aur doori ke paar apne tareeke se nazdeeki pa sakte ho. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: aap use jahan hai wahan pyaar kar sakte ho, aur uska pyaar jahan bhi rahein mehsoos kar sakte ho.
Basic respect and safety are never too much to expect; if anyone in the family is threatened, hurt or frightened, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.

Palat

Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #

Purana ruleVidesh ki padhai ke baad bachche ko ghar laut aana chahiye.

Try karne ke liye naya ruleUse jahan hai wahan pyaar karna theek hai, aur garv bhi.

Teen chhote din

3 din try kijiye #

Din 1
Sochiye ki unhein apni jagah ki kaun si baat pasand hai
Din 2
Unki banayi zindagi ki ek baat sochiye jis par garv ho
Din 3
Unke purane kamre ko aisi jagah banaiye jiska aap bhi maza lein

Is par baat karni hai?

“Jis din aapka bachcha gaya, airport par aapne kya socha tha, aur aapke bagal mein kaun khada tha?”

Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.

Dr. Thoughts ke saath baat kijiye

Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai

Aur gehraai mein #

Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.

Yeh kaisa lagta hai

Kya kaha gaya

Suitcase mein rakhi ek ummeed #

“Padhai ke baad bachche ko ghar laut aana chahiye.” Ye khayal aata hai Patna mein bathroom ki taraazu par suitcase taulte waqt, vidaai ki daawat mein, ya Melbourne mein beti ka course shuru hone se ek mahine pehle rasoi mein chai banate hue.

Zyadatar ye us plan jaisa lagta hai jis par sabne sir hilaya tha: degree, kuch saal, phir ghar, naye hunar aur wahi purana kamra. Iske neeche ek ummeed baithi hai ki ye bas ek adhyaay hai, alvida nahi.

Bachche ke lautne ka ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya tha, aur unhone abhi-abhi aapse kya kaha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›

Pehle kuch pal

Badhai se pehle jo pahunchta hai #

Kuch maa-baap ko halki-si dhak lagti hai, jab phone “Papa, ek khabar hai” se shuru hokar Dublin ki internship par pahunche, ya jab chai par koi saheli bataye ki uska bhatija Auckland mein set ho gaya aur sofa bhi kharid liya.

Ehsaas soch se pehle aa jaata hai: zara lambi chuppi, “Wah, bahut badhiya” jo irade se feeka nikal gaya, badhai se pehle tareekhon ka sawaal. Sochna call katne ke baad aata hai.

Pichhli baar jab aapke bachche ne videsh se koi achhi khabar batayi, to jawab dene se pehle ke pehle secondon mein aapko kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kyun lagta hai

Plan yahi tha, aur ye maayne rakhta hai #

Ye ummeed waajib isliye lagti hai ki kai parivaaron mein lautna shuru se plan ka hissa tha. Airport par vidaai shayad isiliye aasaan rahi ki sab wapsi ki baat kar rahe the, aur kahi hui plan waade jaisi lagti hai.

Nirasha aksar us tasveer aur asal mein jo hua uske beech ke faasle mein rehti hai. Atharah ki umar mein rasoi ki mez par bani plan chaubees ki umar ki alag zindagi se takra sakti hai, jisme kaam hai, dost hain aur aisa shehar hai jo maa-baap ne bas photo mein dekha hai.

Bachche ke jaane se pehle bani plan ek sentence mein kehni ho, to wo kya kahegi, aur sabse pehle kisne kaha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›

Andar ki awaaz

Har khabar ko taulne wali awaaz #

“Teen saal kaha tha.” “Wahan aisa kya hai jo yahan nahi?” “Ek baar set ho gaye to bas.” Ye awaaz call katne ke baad bolti hai, ya aise shehar mein khinche graduation ke photo dekhte hue jahan aap kabhi nahi chale.

Kisi ke kareeb hone par hum maan lete hain ki usne hamari baat jitni kahi usse zyada samjhi. Maa-baap barson tak wapsi ko pakki plan ki tarah dhote rahe honge, jabki bachche ko wahi shabd shayad “Dekhenge” jaise sunayi diye hon.

Jab ye awaaz videsh ki har khabar ko door rehne ki khabar sunti hai, to asal mein kya sunna chahti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kahan se aata hai

Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai

Wapsi ki tasveer kahan se aati hai #

Kuch logon ke liye ye dekhkar bani: wo chacha jo bahar padhkar lauute aur ghar ka kaarobaar sambhal liya, kisi cousin ki wapsi par bada bhoj, ya padosi ka beta jo gaya to har saal uska zikr dheema hota gaya.

Kuch ke liye apni kahani se: khud ghar se door jaakar maa-baap se meelon ka faasla mehsoos kiya, ya rukkar unke paas hi zindagi banayi. Aisi tasveerein chhoti umar mein bhi ban sakti hain aur baad mein bhi, aur dono tarah dekhi ja sakti hain.

Kiski wapsi, ya kiske door reh jaane ne, pehli baar aapki tasveer banayi ki bahar padhai ke baad bachche kya karte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iske neeche ki maanyata

Passport ke saath bandha niyam #

Iske neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bahar ki padhai ek adhyaay hai, aur zindagi ghar par hoti hai,” ya “Wo laut aayein to parivaar poora rehta hai.” Pehla sentence sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har khabar kaise suni jaye.

Bheetar se ye niyam jaisa lagta hi nahi. Pyaar jaisa lagta hai, bachche ke liye bhi aur ghar ke liye bhi, aur aksar dono hota hai. Isiliye ise bachche ki aaj ki zindagi ke bagal mein rakhkar dekhna theek hai, sirf airport wali plan ke nahi.

Kuch log aise niyam ko chhoti umar se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.

Videsh mein bachche ki zindagi ke kin hisson mein ghar lautne wala niyam ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iski kya keemat hai

Wapsi ki aahat sunte rehne ki keemat #

Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki naye flat wali call ka waqt ye hisaab lagane mein jaaye ki iska wapsi se kya matlab hai, graduation ki photo ko halki tees se dekhna, kisi saheli ke bete ke ghar lautne ki khabar par chubhan. Chupchaap cheezein, poore saal dhoyi jaati hui.

Neeche kuch aur khisak jaata hai. Jab har khabar ko wapsi ke taraazu par taula jaata hai, to achhi khabar ka maza lena hi mushkil ho jaata hai, aur kuch maa-baap dekhte hain ki callein chhoti hone lagi hain, dono taraf.

Pichhle ek saal mein bachche ki kaun si achhi khabar ka maza lena sabse mushkil raha, aur beech mein kya aa gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›

Agar yeh aisa hi rahe

“Aur uske baad?” poochhte paanch aur saal #

Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din jab “Mere bachche ko ghar laut aana chahiye” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ki cheez nahi.

Shayad ek call jo hamesha ki tarah “Aur uske baad?” par khatam ho, unke naye office ki photo jisme suraag dhoondhe jaayein, kisi rishtedaar ka wapsi wala sawaal ek dhundhli muskaan se taala jaye, unke agle aane ke liye kamra taiyaar.

Abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur ye tasveer jab chahein kinare rakhi ja sakti hai.

Usme kya hai: callein, message, do baar padhi gayi khabrein, ankahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›

Us din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Us din mein aapko kuch dikhta hai, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka

Ghar, kis shakl mein? #

Parivaar ke kareeb rehna aur apne faisle khud lena saath-saath chal sakte hain. Kai parivaar meelon ke paar apne tareeke se jude rehte hain: aadhi raat ko maangi gayi recipe, do-teen saal mein ek lambi mulaqat, office jaate hue bheja gaya voice note.

Ummeed tab sabse achhi chalti hai jab wo utni ho jitni nibh sake. Lautne ke kai matlab ho sakte hain: hamesha ke liye, lambe waqt ke liye, har paarivaarik mauke par, ya bas is tarah ki bachcha doosre desh se bhi is ghar ko ghar kahe.

“Ghar laut aana” ke andar jo-jo hai, usme kaun sa hissa paas rehne ka hai, aur kaun sa ghar ka hissa bane rehne ka?Is par baat kijiye ›

Jo pehle se hai

Jo pehle se ghar pahunchta hai #

Kabhi-kabhi kuch maa-baap ye dekhna pasand karte hain ki bachcha pehle se ghar kya bhejta hai, chahe chhota ya betartib: ghar ki tarah bane khaane ki photo, kisi cousin ke baare mein sawaal, chocolate ka parcel, ajeeb waqt ki call par hansi.

Ye na farz hai na qarz, aur ummeed ko kahin jaana nahi padta; ummeed aur narmi se dekhna saath baith sakte hain. Kareebi logon ke beech chhote, roz ke pal bade isharon se zyada maayne rakh sakte hain, isliye jo chhoti cheezein meelon paar aati hain wo dekhne laayak ho sakti hain.

Kuch din kuch yaad nahi aata, aur wo bhi theek hai.

Aapka bachcha ek aam hafte mein ghar kya bhejta hai, jise aap thoda aur dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›

Sulah

Sulah, aur swagat bachaye rakhna #

Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye bahut zyada thi, ya ki sahi thi. Matlab ye ki airport wali plan aur bachche ki banti zindagi ke beech ka faasla har call aur unki har khabar ko chalana chhod de.

Isme jo waajib hai wo reh sakta hai: bachche ki zindagi ka hissa bane rehne ki chaah, lambi mulaqaton ki aas aur aisa kamra jo hamesha unka rahe. Jo dheeli ho sakti hai wo pakad hai, taaki nayi job pehle unki khabar ki tarah suni jaye, aur wapsi ka sawaal thoda ruk sake.

Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye aur aapke bachche ke liye.

Sochiye, is ummeed se sulah wali ek call: aap sabse pehle kis baare mein poochhenge, aur kya sunkar aapko achha lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ek zyada sachcha vaakya

Call ke aakhir ke liye ek zyada sachchi line #

“Mere bachche ko videsh ki padhai ke baad ghar laut aana chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah, kuch log ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Ummeed hai wo lautein, aur wo jahan bhi rahein, ghar unka hi rahega.” Ye jeetne ke liye nahi, purani ke bagal mein baithne ke liye hai.

Pehle din ye khokhli lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko apni line kuch callon ke baad pakadna aasaan lagta hai; kuch ko kabhi poori nahi baithti, aur wo bhi theek hai.

Aapke apne shabdon mein ek zyada sachchi line kya hogi, jo ummeed rakhe aur bachche ki khabar ko achhi khabar rehne de?Is par baat kijiye ›

Kya rehne dein

Kuch sawaal agli call tak ruk sakte hain #

Aane wale saalon ke har sawaal ka jawab isi hafte zaroori nahi. Kuch ko bas notice kar liya jaye, pal bhar mehsoos kiya jaye aur rakh diya jaye, jaise Patna mein almaari ke upar wapas chadha diya gaya suitcase, ya Lucknow mein hook par tangi ek faltu chaabi.

Bachche ke lautne ki ummeed jab tak chahein niji reh sakti hai, aur phir bhi aapki hai, jaanne laayak hai, plan ka jo bhi ho.

Aaj shaam is khayal ko rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki kuch galat hua hi nahi, ya ki baat tay ho gayi. Bas itna ki meelon ka faasla har call mein baitha nahi rehna chahiye.

Agar yeh dheela pade

Aur agar intezaar zara dheela pade #

Sochiye, bas tasveer ki tarah, ummeed ek paayadaan dheemi hai. Unke lautne ki chaah ab bhi hai, par nayi job bas nayi job hai, parivaar par faisla nahi.

Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: call ka ant unke hafte ke sawaal se, unki nayi gali ki photo mein bas roshni ka maza, ya ek Saturday apni plans se bhara.

Isme se kuch kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo saamne aaye, wo aapka hai aur notice karne laayak hai. Aage: is ummeed se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.

Sabse pehle kya halka-sa alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Try karne ki chhoti cheezein

Try karne ke liye kuch

Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #

Khayal aaye to use “airport wali plan” jaisa chhota naam dijiye
Unki khabar aaye to dekhiye ki pehle kya sunayi deta hai: wo, ya meelon ka faasla
Aaj ki apni koi ek chhoti-si chaahat notice kijiye
Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: unke liye ghar ka matlab aage bhi kya rahe?
Wahan ka unka aam Tuesday sochiye, pehle alarm se shuru karke

Chhote aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.

Ek sawaal chuniye

Baat kijiye #

Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.

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