Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Beete hue par nazar daalne se na chuna gaya raasta hamesha hamvaar lagta hai.
Badon ke liye wo kahani kyun zaroori thi, iski wajahein har ghar mein alag hain, aur unhein kam hi samjhaya jaata hai.
Kuch log bheetar aisi line banti sunte hain: “Maine galat raasta chuna, aur sabko dikhta hai,” ya “Mujhe kya chunna chahiye tha, ye doosre mujhse behtar jaante hain.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Saari wajahein ek saath gina dena, aur samjhane ke baad aur bura lagna
- Hanskar taal dena: “Arre bhaiya, bus chhoot gayi”
- Zubaan se haan kehna aur ghar jaate hue poore raaste na kehna
- Baat kisi aur ki khabar par mod dena
- Us raat purane faisle ko qadam-dar-qadam phir se dohrana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Phir wahi Canada wala beta
Sardi ki Sunday dopahar Bareilly mein Chacha ke ghar lunch hai. Chacha apne bete ki baatein karte hain jo Canada mein hai, uska bada ghar, uski kamaayi. Phir aapki taraf mudte hain: “Tum bhi nikal lete, mauqa tha tumhare paas.” Aap muskurakar gajak aage badha dete ho. Par lautte e-rickshaw mein wahi vaakya bajta rehta hai, aur peeche chhoot-ti sadak par aapki apni zindagi achanak chhoti lagne lagti hai.
Zindagi ko us raaste jaisa honi chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Jo zindagi maine chuni, use us zindagi jaisi honi chahiye jo maine nahi chuni.” Ye aatma-manthan jaisa lagta hai, aur zyadatar log isse sar hila denge. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki asli zindagi ko ek kalpanik zindagi se muqable mein khada kar deta hai. Videsh wali zindagi hamesha chamakdaar lagti hai kyunki usme bure din nahi hote, aur aapki asli zindagi haarti rehti hai.
Na chune raaste sunehre kyun dikhte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki na chune raaste door se sunehre dikhte hain. Bahut se log is niyam ka koi roop saath lekar bade hote hain, aur tab ye aksar theek bhi baithta tha. Shayad aapke paas jaane ka mauqa sachmuch tha aur aap sochte ho. Shayad aap achhi wajahon se ruke jo ab bhoolna aasaan hai. Is par sochna bewaqoofi nahi; ye behtareen zindagi ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Tulna jo lautti rehti hai
Har “nikal lena chahiye tha” tulna ko wapas le aata hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye dikhta nahi. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par andar feel hota hai. Aap cousins ki videsh ki photo dekhte rehte ho. Apne faislon par sawaal uthate ho. Parivar ki mehfilon mein chhota feel karte ho. Yahan ki achhi cheezein halki lagne lagti hain, us zindagi ke saamne jo sirf kalpana mein hai.
Kya doosra raasta itna zaroori hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya videsh wali zindagi se tulna ne kabhi aapki asli zindagi behtar ki? Ya zyadatar use chhota feel karaya? Har zindagi mein, videsh mein ya ghar par, mushkil din hote hain jo photo mein nahi dikhte. Iska jawab sirf aap de sakte ho, aur koi galat jawab nahi. Jo bhi ho, na chuna raasta aapke qadmon tale ke raaste ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iske laayak hai?
Wo raasta jo aap jee rahe hain
Chhodne ka matlab ye dikhawa karna nahi ki aap kabhi sochte hi nahi. Matlab ye ki kalpana wali zindagi asli zindagi par faisla na sunaye. Aap dekh sakte ho ki yahan kya achha hai, aur aap kin wajahon se ruke. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, aur hona bhi nahi chahiye. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: aapki zindagi aapki hoti hai, kisi aur ki zindagi ka doosre darje ka sanskaran nahi.
Where someone really does react badly to a different view, threatens or frightens you, that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMeri zindagi us zindagi jaisi honi chahiye jo maine nahi chuni.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleJis raaste par hoon, wahi mere jeene ka raasta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Mann mein ek achhi wajah ginie jiske liye aap ruke
- Kadam 2
Ghar ki koi ek cheez dekhiye jo videsh mein chhoot jaati
- Kadam 3
Tulna shuru ho to phone neeche rakh dijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab koi kehta hai ki nikal lena chahiye tha, tab aapki kaun si wajah kabhi suni hi nahi jaati?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Barson baad kahi gayi ek sadak ki baat #
Sardi ki Sunday dopahar Bareilly mein Chacha ke ghar, sab rajai mein baithe hain, moongfali-gajak ghoom rahi hai, aur badi screen par Canada se cousin ki video call chal rahi hai. Phir Chacha aapki taraf mudkar kehte hain: “Tum bhi nikal lete, mauqa tha tumhare paas.” Phir baat badal jaati hai.
Sunne mein ye kisi desh ki baat lagti hai. Zyadatar baat barson pehle liye gaye ek faisle ki hoti hai, jo apni wajahon se liya gaya tha, aur ab kaha jaata hai jab kuch alag karne ka waqt beet chuka. Chubhti wo jagah kam hai, aur ye ishara zyada ki faisla galat tha.
Aapse “tum bhi nikal lete” aakhri baar kisne kaha, aur us waqt aap unhein kya bata rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Purana faisla achanak bhaari kyun lagta hai #
Kuch log batate hain ki bheetar kuch baith jaata hai, shishtata wali muskaan ek pal zyada tiki rehti hai, aur jawab “Arre us waqt toh…” se shuru hokar adhoora reh jaata hai. Kuch logon ko garmi chadhti hai aur saari wajahein ek saath ginane ki ichha hoti hai. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko safai dena zaroori nahi.
Band ho chuke faisle ko phir kholne wali baat sochne se pehle sharir mein darj ho jaati hai. Soch baad mein aati hai, ghar lautte e-rickshaw mein ya dukaan ki line mein, purane faisle ko aise dohrate hue jaise use ab bhi dobara liya ja sakta ho.
Jab kisi rishtedaar ne kaha ki doosra raasta behtar hota, to jawab chunne ka waqt milne se pehle us doosre second mein aapka chehra aur awaaz kya kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Baad ki uttar-kunji se purane faisle ki jaanch #
“Tab tumne aisa kyun tay kiya?” wajahon ke liye jagah chhodta hai. “Tum bhi nikal lete” wajahein chhodkar number thama deta hai, aur wo bhi us jaankari ke sahare jo kehne wale ke paas aaj hai, us waqt kisi ke paas nahi thi. Mann number sun leta hai aur wajahein bhool jaata hai.
Beete hue par nazar daalne se na chuna gaya raasta hamesha hamvaar lagta hai. Us doosri zindagi mein achhe hisse bhare hote hain aur mushkilein khaali chhod di jaati hain, to asli zindagi apne saare aam byoron ke saath uske baghal mein chhoti dikh sakti hai.
Aapke asli kaaran kya the, jaise ve us din dikh rahe the jis din faisla liya, jab kisi ko pata nahi tha ki aage kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab doosra raasta bolne lage #
Kaafi baar suno to ye andar aa basta hai. “Wo raasta zyada samajhdaari ka hota.” “Jo gaye, unhone sahi kiya.” Kuch logon ko ye tab sunayi deta hai jab koi dost airport se story daalta hai, ya koi rishtedaar batata hai ki cousin ki nayi job wahan lag gayi.
Chacha toh agle vishay par ja chuke, par tulna rukti nahi aur apne aap chalne lagti hai, har aam hafte ko kahin aur ke kalpana wale hafte ke baghal mein rakhkar. Kyunki ye aapki apni awaaz mein bolti hai, ye kisi aur ki kahi baat ki jagah yathartvaadi soch lag sakti hai.
Na chune raaste ki tulna shuru karne wali awaaz kiski hoti hai: aapki apni, ya kisi khaas table par kisi khaas rishtedaar se seekhi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke kamre mein doosra raasta hamesha maujood tha #
“Unka ladka toh wahin set ho gaya.” Kuch logon ne bahut pehle se suna ki videsh ki baat daawaton mein hoti rehti thi, isse pehle ki wo kuch chunne laayak bade hote: kiske bachche chale gaye, kisne photo bheji, kaun garmiyon mein kahaniyon ke saath lauta, kaun chocolate ka dabba laaya.
Badon ke liye wo kahani kyun zaroori thi, iski wajahein har ghar mein alag hain, aur unhein kam hi samjhaya jaata hai. Par kam umar ka insaan chupchaap ye nateeja nikal sakta hai ki ek raasta paimana hai aur baaki sab raaste usi se tole jayenge.
Parivar mein ek khaas raaste ko sabke liye paimana bante aapne pehli baar kab dekha, aur wo kahaniyan aam taur par kaun sunata tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Beete hue par nazar se bacha ek chupchaap niyam #
Kuch log bheetar aisi line banti sunte hain: “Maine galat raasta chuna, aur sabko dikhta hai,” ya “Mujhe kya chunna chahiye tha, ye doosre mujhse behtar jaante hain.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise nahi lagte. Ye apne saath imaandaar hone jaise lagte hain, jaise bill do baar jodna savdhaani lagti hai. Isiliye inhein beech-beech mein nikaalkar dhoop mein dekhna kaam ka hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Kya aisi koi line aap par baithti hai, ya poori tarah nahi, ya bilkul nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kin kamron mein “maine galat raasta chuna” ab bhi baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Doosra raasta chupke se kya mehnga padta hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai khabar baantte hue maafi jod dena, achhe hafte ko “Theek-thaak, haalat dekhte hue” kehkar batana, ya ghar ki call ka wo hissa jisme sabke bachchon ki baat hoti hai, usme dhyaan bhatak jaana. Kuch log un rishtedaaron se apni yojnaayein hi batana chhod dete hain jo number dene wale hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jo zindagi hui hi nahi, us par laga dhyaan us zindagi se katta hai jo yahan hai: dost, sheher, kaam, aam hafte ke chhote sukh. Saal bhar mein kuch logon ke kai din kisi kalpana wali zindagi ke baghal mein aadhe jiye jaate hain.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Har jagah tulna dhona mehnat maangta hai.
Pichhle saal is doosre raaste ki tulna ki kya keemat rahi, agar rahi: koi khabar, koi family call, koi shaam jo halki ho sakti thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, jab doosra raasta zor se bole #
Ek aam Tuesday ki kalpana kijiye, us din ki jab “maine galat raasta chuna” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, kuch theek karne ko nahi.
Shayad office ka safar, kisi saathi se baatcheet, videsh baithe dost ki photo, kisi ki nayi job par rishtedaar ka message, aur har baat ke peeche kahin wo doosra raasta, ya kahin bhi nahi. Kuch baatein jaani-pehchani lagein, kuch nahi.
Abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer ko kabhi bhi rakha ja sakta hai.
Aise Tuesday mein kya-kya bhara hota hai: message, ghar ki call, bina aazmayi chhoti yojnaayein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Doosre raaste ke zor se bolte aam Tuesday ki kalpana karein to, agar kuch bhi hai, to aapko sabse pehle kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kiske paimane se behtar, aur kaun se saal mein? #
Paimana batate hi vaakya aksar kisi ek cheez ke baare mein nikalta hai, jaise tankhwah ya pad, aur poori zindagi ke baare mein bahut kam.
Na chune raaste ka bhi apna mausam tha: alag log, alag din, kuch aisa jo chhoot jaata. Us raaste par ab koi nahi chal sakta, kehne wala bhi nahi jo kehta hai ki wo behtar tha, isliye tulna jee hui cheez aur sochi hui cheez ki hai. Door ke dhol suhavne hote hain, aur doosre ki thali mein ghee zyada dikhta hai.
“Nikal lena chahiye tha” samajh aane ke liye paimana maangta hai: kis cheez mein behtar, kiski ginti se, aur kis saal mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar kisi kareebi dost se, uske faisle ke barson baad, kaha jaye ki tumhein videsh chale jaana chahiye tha, to aap chahenge ki wo apni chunne ki wajahon ke baare mein kya yaad rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Purane faisle ko dheere se dekhein to kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log asli faisle ko dheere se dekhte hain to paate hain ki wajahein asli thin: ek parivar jise koi paas chahiye tha, ek course jo yahin shuru hua, ek job ka offer jo pehle aaya, ek ehsaas ki waqt sahi nahi hai. Kabhi-kabhi wajahein aaj bhi khadi rehti hain, aur kabhi nahi.
Kuch aur log dekhte hain ki aaj ki zindagi mein kitni cheezein usi faisle se aayin: pehli job ka koi dost, koi gali jo apni ho gayi, raaste mein seekha koi hunar. Ye bhi nateeje ka hissa the, chahe table par koi inhein ginta nahi.
Aaj ki zindagi ka kaun sa hissa aapko us raaste se mila jo aapne sachmuch liya, aur usmein kya cheez aapke liye maayne rakhti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Doosre raaste se behes jeetna zaroori nahi #
Yahan sukoon ka matlab ye maan lena nahi ki faisla galti tha, ya ye dikhawa karna nahi ki baat chubhi nahi. Matlab ye ki ek vaakya ka is par kam dakhal rahe ki is hafte ki khabar kaise baanti jaye, ghar ki call kaisi jaye, aur aaj ki qadar kaise aanki jaye.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo apne chune raaste ke liye pakki daleel banana chhod dete hain. Wo daleel kabhi poori nahi hoti, kyunki doosra raasta hamesha thoda aur achha socha ja sakta hai, aur ye kisi aur ki peeche-nazar ko har mehfil ke kendra mein rakhe rehti hai.
Jahan koi sachmuch alag raay par buri tarah pesh aaye, wahan baat gambhirta se lene layak hai.
“Tum bhi nikal lete” ko ek table par, ek din, kehne wale ka hi vaakya rehne dena kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Purane faisle ke baghal mein rakhne layak ek line #
Agar us family call ke baad se “maine galat raasta chuna” chal raha hai, to usse seedhe behes karne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iski jagah aisi line rakhte hain: “Maine tab ki jaankari se chuna, aur us faisle ka matlab kya hai, ye kehna mere haath mein hai.”
Ye abhi sach na lage, tab bhi theek hai. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki mehfil se pehle yun hi kabhi-kabhi kehne par kisi aur ki peeche-nazar aur jee ja rahi zindagi ke beech thodi jagah ban jaati hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein, apne faisle ke baare mein sachchi line kya hogi, jo tab ki jaankari ke baare mein sachchi ho aur jiske liye kisi rishtedaar ki sehmati na chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein table par hi chhodi ja sakti hain #
Har “nikal lena chahiye tha” ko bachav, wajahon ki soochi ya ye saabit karne ki yojna nahi chahiye ki raasta sahi tha. Use feel kiya ja sakta hai, thodi der dekha ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise mehmaani khatam hone par chai ka cup table par chhoot jaata hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taaqat kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse us hafte ke liye jagah bachti hai jisme wo asal mein hain, aur un logon ke liye bhi jo poochhte hain ki unhein kya achha lagta hai, bajaye iske ki wo pahunche kahan.
Aaj shaam is vaakya ko neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat tay ho gayi. Bas itna ki use ghar tak peeche aana aur baaki hafte ki har khabar ke baghal mein baithna zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar doosra raasta ek darja dheema pade #
Bas tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye niyam ek darja dheema hai. Jo raasta liya wo bas liya hua raasta ho sakta hai, aur cousin ki khabar bas cousin ki khabar.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: maafi jode bina koi achhi khabar baantna, ghar ki call ka maza uske chutkulon ke liye lena, ya shaam us zindagi ko dena jo yahan hai.
Inmein se kuch kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi ubhre, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne layak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Jab ise theek se dekhna chahein, ek tap par chat khulti hai.
Jis din “galat raasta” wala niyam ek darja dheema ho, us din sabse pehle kya alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jis din beeti baaton ki nazar chup ho, us din aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi doosre raaste wali baat”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: kiske paimane se behtar, aur kaun se saal mein?
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada ooncha kya hai: shabd, ya table ke chaaron taraf ke chehre
- Aaj ki zindagi ki koi ek cheez yaad kijiye jo usi raaste se mili jo aapne liya
- Aaj ki koi ek chhoti-si chaahat note kijiye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhoti, nijee aur sab vaikalpik. Jo aasaan lage, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab koi kehta hai ki nikal lena chahiye tha, tab aapki kaun si wajah kabhi suni hi nahi jaati?
- Jab doosre raaste ki baat uthi, tab table par kaun tha, aur kiska chehra aapko ab bhi yaad hai?
- Aapki chuni zindagi ka kaun sa hissa aap chahenge ki koi rishtedaar jigyasa se poochhe?
- Jis aam din “galat raasta” wala niyam zor se bole, us din aap kya taalte rehte?
- Agar doosra raasta thoda dheema bole, to aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?