Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Naya, freelance, creative ya khane ki table par samjhane mein mushkil kaam bahar se sochna kathin hota hai, aur jahan tasveer khaali ho wahan shak bhar diya jaata hai.
“Pehle kuch pakka kar lo, phir shauq poore karna.”
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Mujhe unhein galat saabit karna hai,” ya “Kaam ko ginwane se pehle mujhe apni jagah kamani hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Client, ghante, sab kuch itna samjhana ki shak chup ho jaye
- Ohda chhota karke batana, ya kaam ko udhaar ke bade-bade shabdon mein kehna
- Saath mein hans dena, aur phir jab bhi kaam ki baat aaye to chup ho jaana
- Jaldi se koi haal ki kaamyaabi saboot ki tarah saamne rakh dena
- Kai din sawaal dohrana, har baar behtar jawab banate hue
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Group mein Mama ki hansi
Bhubaneswar wale rishtedaaron ke WhatsApp group mein Bade Mama ne poochha, aajkal kya kar rahe ho? Kuch garv ke saath pichhle do saal ka banaya hua kaam bataya gaya. Jawab mein typing… aayi, aur phir: “Ye bhi koi naukri hai?” Kuch logon ne hansne wale emoji bheje. Ek hansi aapne bhi bheji aur baat badal di. Par chat band hone ke baad bhi sawaal saath raha, aur jo garv lekar bataya tha, wo kuch patla lagne laga.
Kaam ki keemat saabit karni hai
Ye shabd ek niyam par girte hain jo shayad pehle se wahan hai: “Mujhe unhein saabit karna hai ki mera kaam kuch maayne rakhta hai.” Ye mahatvakanksha jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: apne kaam ki keemat un logon ke haath mein de deta hai jo shayad use samajhte hi nahi. Apne kaam par garv ab is par tik gaya hai ki group mein poochhne wale ki manzoori mile.
Parivaaron ke saaf khayal kyun the
Ye niyam isliye pakda kyunki parivaaron ke aksar saaf khayal the ki achhi naukri kaisi hoti hai. Shayad bachpan mein doctor, engineer aur sarkari naukri ko surakshit raasta batate suna. Shayad kuch alag chuna aur dikhana chaha ki chunav sahi tha. Jo bhi ho, niyam bewajah nahi. Ye izzat paane ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Kaam ka chhota lagne lagna
Har “Ye bhi koi naukri hai?” aapke kaam ko thoda chhota mehsoos karata hai. Kisi ke poochhne se pehle safai dene ki aadat lag jaati hai. Ghar ke function mein apna kaam halka karke bataya jaata hai. Baat saabit karne ke liye aur zyada kaam hota hai. Dheere-dheere kaam par garv doosron ki pratikriya par tikne lagta hai, aur achhe din ke ant ki wo shaant santushti khone lagti hai.
Kya saabit karna iske layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kaam saabit karne ki zaroorat se kabhi sawaal kam chubha? Ya zyadatar har jamghat bhaari hi hua? Sawaal unka tha, aur wo aapke kaam se zyada unki jaankari ke baare mein hai. Jo bhi ho, ek Mama ka mazaak aapke kaam ki keemat ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke layak hai jo ye maangta hai?
Apne kaam ki keemat jaanna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki sawaal sahi tha. Matlab ye ki aapka kaam aapke liye kuch maayne rakh sakta hai, chahe doosre kuch bhi sochein. Aapko pata hai ki aap kya karte ho, usmein kaun sa hunar lagta hai, aur kise usse madad milti hai. Kaam asli hai kyunki wo achhe se kiya jaata hai. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: garv aapka rehta hai, aur sawaal usi ke paas reh sakta hai jisne poochha.
If pressure about your work ever comes with threats, being hurt or frightened, or money used to control you, that is something else, and worth taking seriously; going along can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe unhein saabit karna hai ki mera kaam kuch maayne rakhta hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMujhe pata hai mere kaam ki keemat kya hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Teen cheezein ginie jo aapka kaam aapko achhe se karne deta hai
- Kadam 2
Kisi ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jiski aapke kaam se madad hui
- Kadam 3
Is hafte kaam ka ek achha pal chain se jee lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab “asli” shabd lauta, tab aap apne kaam ke baare mein abhi-abhi kya keh chuke the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Chaar shabd jo poore din ke kaam ko kathghare mein laayein #
Bhubaneswar wale rishtedaaron ka WhatsApp group. Mausi ka good morning wala phool aaya, phir Bade Mama ne poochha, “Aajkal kya kar rahe ho?” Aapne bataya. Jawab mein typing… aayi, aur phir: “Ye bhi koi naukri hai?” Kabhi shaadi ki table par, kabhi phone par, kabhi group mein, sawaal jawab ke baad aata hai.
Sunne mein dilchaspi jaisa lagta hai. Par ye jawab ke baad aata hai, pehle nahi, to sawaal kam aur faisla zyada lagta hai. Mahino ki mehnat, subah jaldi ki shifts, barson mein bane hunar, sab ek shak wale shabd mein simat jaate hain: “koi”.
Kuch logon ko shabd se zyada lehja yaad rehta hai.
Aakhri baar jab kisi ne poochha ki aapka kaam naukri hai bhi ya nahi, tab aap kahan the, aur abhi-abhi apne kaam ke baare mein kya kaha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sab kuch ek saath samjhane ki hadbadi #
Kuch logon ka chehra garam ho jaata hai aur safai dene ki hadbadi: client, ghante, saath ke log, kuch zyada tez aur kuch zyada. Kuch apna ohda bolte-bolte chhota kar dete hain, ya pehle khud hans dete hain taaki shak saajha lage.
Jab mehnat par sabke saamne shak hota hai, to mann turant hil jaata hai, isse pehle ki tay ho ki sawaal ko jawab chahiye bhi ya nahi. Thande dimaag ke jawab ghanton baad aate hain, group chat band karne ke baad, ya lift ki qatar mein.
Inmein se koi bhi pehla reaction ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko safai nahi chahiye.
Us sawaal ke baad pehle minute mein aapne kya samjhana shuru kiya, aur kise?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye kaam par shak karta hai, aur uske dinon par bhi #
“Din bhar kya karte ho?” kaam ke baare mein poochhta hai. “Ye bhi koi naukri hai?” din ko chhodkar poochhta hai ki wo ginti mein aata bhi hai ya nahi. Mann ise bitaye hue saare ghanton par faisle ki tarah sunta hai, kisi aur ki tasveer ke khaali kone ki tarah nahi.
Naya, freelance, creative ya khane ki table par samjhane mein mushkil kaam bahar se sochna kathin hota hai, aur jahan tasveer khaali ho wahan shak bhar diya jaata hai. To sawaal ise dikhata hai ki ek kursi se kya socha ja sakta hai, ise nahi ki kaam mein kya hai.
Zyadatar kaam ke kuch hisse aise hote hain jo bahar kisi ko nahi dikhte.
Har hafte aap jo karte ho, uska kaun sa hissa aap chahte ki koi tay karne se pehle dekh le?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab shak apne aap bolne lage #
Baar-baar suno to sawaal khud ko poochhne lagta hai. “Shayad ye dhang ki naukri hai hi nahi.” “Ek seedha-saada jawab taiyaar rakhna chahiye.” “Ghar mein koi sach mein nahi samajhta mera kaam asal mein kya hai.”
Poochhne wala toh shayad kab ka bhool gaya, par shak andar kaam karta rehta hai: parivaarik function se pehle aaine mein apna ohda dohrana, ghar ke phone par achhe hafte ko halka karke batana, garv ke pal ko chhota rakhna kyunki use bahut samjhana padega.
Andar ki awaazein aksar kisi asli insaan ka lehja udhaar leti hain.
Jab shak poochhta hai ki aapka kaam dhang ka hai bhi, to wo kiska lehja leta hai, aur wo lehja aapne pehli baar kahan suna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch ke liye dhang ke kaam ki list jaldi aa gayi #
“Pehle kuch pakka kar lo, phir shauq poore karna.” Kuch log khane ki table par ya rishtedaar ke ghar se lautte hue gaadi mein naukriyon ki ek chhoti-si list sunte bade hue jo ginti jaati thi, baaki sab “shauq” mein darj.
Kuch gharon mein ek jaani-pehchani naukri ka naam hi bhavishya batane ka tareeka tha, aur iski wajahein ghar-ghar alag hain. Bachcha chupchaap ye nateeja nikaal sakta hai ki kaam ko izzat tab milti hai jab doosre uska naam pehchante hon.
Kuch log wo pal bata sakte hain jab unhein pehli baar ginti jaane wali naukriyon ki list sunayi gayi.
Aapko kisne pehli baar bataya ki kaun sa kaam ginti mein aata hai, aur tab aap kitne saal ke the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Shak ke neeche ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Mujhe unhein galat saabit karna hai,” ya “Kaam ko ginwane se pehle mujhe apni jagah kamani hai.” Kuch log iska dheema roop dhote hain: “Agar wo mera kaam soch nahi paate, to wo kam hi hoga.”
Aise niyam niyam bankar saamne nahi aate. Wo bas ye jaanne jaise lagte hain ki log cheezon ko kaise dekhte hain, jaise kamre ka mizaaj padh lena. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi palatkar unka nichla hissa dekhna kaam ka hai.
Kuch log ise bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise parkha ja sakta hai.
“Mujhe saabit karna hai ki mera kaam ginti mein aata hai” aaj ki zindagi mein kahan ab bhi fit hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Kaam ka bachav karne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai kisi function mein us pal se darna jab koi poochh le ki aap kya karte ho, ek chamakdaar ek line ka jawab taiyaar rakhna, ya kaam ki baat bas apni field ke logon se karna. Kuch log kaam ka wo hissa batana band kar dete hain jo unhein sabse pasand hai, kyunki use sabse zyada samjhana padta hai.
Asli keemat kaam ke bheetar baithti hai. Jab wo hamesha kathghare mein ho, to har achha mahina maze lene ki cheez ki jagah pesh karne ka saboot ban sakta hai. Saal bhar mein bahut-sa garv ruka rehta hai aur bahut-si taaqat ek aise muqadme mein jaati hai jise kisi ne sunna bhi nahi chaha tha.
Kamzori ki wajah se nahi; ek hi chunav ka baar-baar bachav karne mein mehnat lagti hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein is sawaal ne aapse kya liya: tali gayi baatcheetein, nigla hua garv, ya bina baanti reh gayi achhi khabar?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, kaam ka bachav karte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Mujhe saabit karna hai ki mera kaam ginti mein aata hai” zor se baj raha ho. Isme kuch theek karne ko nahi; ye bas tasveer hai, aur jab chahein rakh di ja sakti hai.
Shayad usmein profile par ohda aise likha hai ki jaana-pehchana lage, ghar ke phone par kaam ke liye ek dhundhla-sa vaakya, achha kaam poora hua aur kisi ko bataya nahi, aur ek nyota jise isliye thukraya ki wahan koi poochhega. Kuch baith sakta hai, kuch bilkul nahi.
Abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi.
“Mujhe saabit karna hai ki mera kaam ginti mein aata hai” wale niyam se jiye ek aam Tuesday ko dekhte hue aapko kya dikhta hai, agar kuch dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
“Asli”, par kiske paimane se? #
“Asli” ke liye ek paimana chahiye, aur paimane alag-alag hote hain. Koi office aur pakka ohda ginta hai, koi hunar, ghante, ya jinki seva hui. Sawaal kam hi batata hai ki wo kaun sa paimana laga raha hai, to koi jawab use poora santusht nahi karta.
Kuch logon ko ye zyada tikaau lagta hai ki wo sawaal ko is ishare ki tarah lein ki ek table ki ek kursi se kya sochna aasaan hai, aur kaam ka apna paimana saath rakhein, dono ka milna zaroori nahi.
Sochiye ki kuch saal baad kisi dost ka teenager bachcha khane ki table par kisi anokhe kaam ke baare mein bata raha hai.
Kisi ke poochhne se pehle ki ye dhang ki naukri hai ya nahi, aap chahenge ki wo pehle kya sune?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Paas se dekhne par kya nikal sakta hai #
Jab kuch log wo pal dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to gaur karte hain ki jawab ka kitna hissa bachav mein gaya aur kitna batane mein. Kaam khud, jo wo roz karte hain, uska zikr mushkil se hua.
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jo kaam ko seedha-seedha maante hain: koi client jo baar-baar lautta hai, koi saathi jo mushkil hisse mein madad maangta hai, koi dost jo bina kahe aapka kaam share karta hai. Wo awaazein bhi thin, bas dheemi thin.
Dheemi awaazein ek zordaar shak mein dab sakti hain.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun aapke kaam ko bina samjhaye gambhirta se leta hai, aur usne aakhri baar uske baare mein kya kaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Har table par muqadma jeetna zaroori nahi #
Is sawaal se sulah ka matlab shak se sehmat hona nahi, ya ye dikhana nahi ki wo chubha nahi. Matlab ye ki ek function ka ek sawaal is par kam chale ki aap apne dinon ke baare mein kaise baat karein aur khud par kitna garv hone dein.
Kuch logon ko aasaan lagta hai jab wo poora perfect bachav taiyaar karna chhod dete hain. Bachav se sawaal kam hi khatam hota hai, kyunki har jamghat mein koi naya milta hai jise manana hai, aur taiyaari shak ko har kamre ke beech mein rakhe rehti hai.
Kuch log sach mein nahi maanenge, aur unke saath koshish karte rehne ki zaroorat nahi.
Agli baar agar aapke kaam ko ek seedha vaakya mile aur shaam baaki baaton mein chali jaye, to kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Apne kaam ke baare mein ek sachchi line #
Agar “Mujhe saabit karna hai ki mera kaam ginti mein aata hai” barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mere dinon ka kaam yahi hai, chahe har koi uski kalpana kar paaye ya nahi.”
Nayi line ka shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas kuch logon ki aazmane ki cheez hai, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki kisi jamghat mein jaane se pehle chupchaap keh lene par purane shak ki jagah thodi kam ho jaati hai.
Sachcha vaakya kisi ko manane ke liye nahi hota.
Aapke kaam ke baare mein aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jise na ohde ki zaroorat ho, na taaliyon ki?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein table par hi chhodi ja sakti hain #
Har “Ye bhi koi naukri hai?” ko bachav, portfolio ya behtar ohda nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur wahin chhoda ja sakta hai, jaise function ke baad khaali cup table par reh jaate hain.
Wahan chhod dena haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunav hai ki taaqat kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain isse kaam ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai, aur un logon ke liye jo shak ki jagah utsuk hain.
Sawaal ko wahin chhod dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki use aapke saath ghar aana, kal ke kaam mein baithna, ya agle insaan ko aapke kaam ka bayaan badalna zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar shak thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki saabit-karo wala niyam ek darja dheema hai. Kaam bas kaam hai, seedhe shabdon mein bataya hua, bina kisi muqadme ke.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: dost ko kaam ke achhe hafte ke baare mein bina kisi safai ke batana, ohda poore wazan ke saath bolna, ya koi shaam kaam par bas isliye bitana ki wo dilchasp hai.
Yahan kisi table par kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Jab theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Jis din aapke kaam ko kisi ki manzoori nahi chahiye, us din sabse pehle kya alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar aapke kaam ko bachav ki zaroorat na ho, to aap pehle kya chunenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Chupchaap kahiye: “Lo, phir wahi ye-bhi-koi-naukri-hai wala sawaal”
- Khud se poochhiye: asli kiske paimane se, aur mera paimana kya hai?
- Gaur kijiye ki kaun zyada chubhta hai: “asli” shabd, ya uske aaspaas ka lehja
- Sochiye ki is mahine aapke kaam se kisi ke liye kya mumkin hua
- Aaj ka ek pal dekhiye jab kaam ne aapki dilchaspi pakdi
Har ek chhota aur nijee hai, aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab “asli” shabd lauta, tab aap apne kaam ke baare mein abhi-abhi kya keh chuke the?
- Aapke kaam ka kaun sa hissa aap sabse pehle dikhate, agar koi sach mein samajhna chahta?
- Aapke kaam ne aapko aakhri baar chupchaap kab garv dilaya, aur theek kya ho raha tha?
- Jis aam din saabit-karo wala niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar apne kaam ko lekar shak thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?