Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Parivar ke qareeb hona aur apne liye chunna saath chal sakte hain, aur kuch gharon mein aaram se chalte hain.
Kuch logon mein ye us ghar se shuru hua jahan har chunav saath baithkar tay hota tha: school, vishay, pehli naukri, kisi cousin ki raay ka asli wazan.
Iske neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Bharosa hota to dakhal na dete,” ya “Bada hone ka matlab hai bina kisi ki raay ke tay karna.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Plan tabhi batana jab booking ho chuki ho
- Har baareeki samjhana, is aas mein ki samjhana kamra jeet lega
- Khaane par haan mein haan milana, phir ghar lautte waqt baatcheet dohrana
- Salaah maangna, aur phir uske aane par kheej jaana
- Plan chhote rakhna, taaki charcha ke liye kam bache
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Ek ghante mein teen raay
Parivar ki call par aap batate ho ki ek naya course aapko pasand aaya hai. Ek ghante ke andar teen rishtedaaron ki raay aa jaati hai: waqt galat, vishay galat, sheher galat. Mummy ek article forward kar deti hain. Chacha “Bas thodi salaah dene” ko phone karte hain. Aap sabko shukriya kehte ho. Par shaam tak aapki apni saaf soch ulajh jaati hai, aur apni awaaz shor mein kahin kho gayi-si lagti hai.
Faisle aap khud lein
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Apne faisle mujhe khud lene dena chahiye.” Ye poori tarah jaayaz lagta hai. Aakhir ab aap bade ho chuke ho. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapka bharosa unki chuppi par tika deta hai. Chunne ki aazaadi mehsoos hona is par tik gaya hai ki kitni salaah aati hai, aur kai gharon mein salaah bina maange bhi behti hai.
Chunna bade hone jaisa kyun lagta
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki apne liye chunna bade hone jaisa lagta hai. Shayad lambe waqt tak aapko bataya jaata raha ki kya karna hai, aur aap apne pairon par khade hona chahte ho. Ya shayad pehle achhe chunav kiye hain aur chahte ho ki bharosa kiya jaye. Dono haal mein faisla karna chahna nashukrapan nahi. Ye apni zindagi ko apnane ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Apni awaaz ka dheema padna
Raay ki har lehar aapki apni awaaz ko dheema karti hai. Aap plan poore hone tak chhipane lagte ho. Unki ummeed se alag chunne ki chaah par apradh-sa lagta hai. Aap rishtedaaron se mann hi mann behas karte ho. Dheere-dheere apne chunav aisi cheez lagne lagte hain jinki safai deni padegi, aur naye idea ka josh baaki sabki fikron ke neeche dab jaata hai.
Kya har raay se joojhna sahi?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya unse chup rehne ki zaroorat ne kabhi aapka chunav saaf kiya? Ya zyadatar use aur shorbhara banaya? Parivar kai wajahon se salaah dete hain, fikar unmein se ek hai; peeche kya hai, ye wahi jaante hain. Jo bhi ho, unki raay iska paimana nahi ki aap faisla le sakte ho ya nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna deta kam hai, leta zyada.
Sunna, phir khud chunna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki unki salaah maanni hi hai. Matlab ye ki aapka bharosa ab unki chuppi par nahi tika. Aap sun sakte ho, garmjoshi se shukriya keh sakte ho, jo kaam ka hai le sakte ho, aur phir bhi apne waqt par apna chunav kar sakte ho. Yahin kuch chain lautta hai: unki salaah bahut-si awaazon mein ek pyaar bhari awaaz ban jaati hai, aur aapki apni awaaz saaf aur sthir rehti hai.
If a decision is ever pushed with threats, fear, being watched or tracked, or being kept in or kept from people, that is something else, and worth taking seriously; there, going along can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleApne faisle mujhe khud lene dena chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleSun lena bhi theek, aur chunna apna hi rahe.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Kisi se poochhne se pehle das minute apni chaah par bitaiye
- Din 2
Unki salaah se ek kaam ka idea lijiye, baaki chhod dijiye
- Din 3
Apna khud ka ek achha chunav yaad kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapki zindagi mein kaun aapke chunav ka achhe se saath deta hai, aur wo kya kehte hain?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Plan poora hone se pehle paanch raay #
“Apne faisle mujhe khud lene dena chahiye.” Ye Sunday ke khaane ke beech uth sakta hai, jab koi plan lagbhag yun hi zubaan par aa jaye, koi naya course, doosra sheher, naukri mein badlaav, aur phir mez ke chakkar kaatte hue har kursi se ek faisla utha le.
Ye deck roz ke faislon ke baare mein hai: naukri, padhai, sheher badalna, weekend ya saal kaise bitana hai. Ye kabhi shaadi ya kisi rishte ke baare mein nahi. Seedhi baat ye ki chaah apne hi plan ki qalam apne haath mein rakhne ki hai.
Gharwalon se ye chaah aakhri baar kab aayi thi, aur kaun-sa faisla abhi-abhi saamne aaya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jis pal plan vote ban jaata hai #
Kuch log halka kasaav mehsoos karte hain jab koi rishtedaar jhukkar kahe “Soch toh lo ek baar...”, aur plan achanak chhota aur kam apna lagne lage. Chammach dheemi pad jaati hai, samjhana jaldi shuru ho jaata hai, aur awaaz aadha sur chadh jaati hai.
Kuch ko barah saal ka hone ka jhatka-sa lagta hai, badon ki baatcheet ke kinare baithe hue jabki doosre tay kar rahe hon. Ye is soch se pehle aa sakta hai ki salaah achhi hai, buri hai, ya bhare kamre mein bas ek aur raay.
Aakhri baar jab aapka koi plan ghar ki mez par charcha mein aaya, to pehli raay ka jawab dene se theek pehle aapne kya mehsoos kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Apni zindagi mein apni chalana jaayaz hai #
Is ummeed mein dam hai. Aapka kaam, aapke din aur aapki raah wahi hain jinhein ye faisle gadhte hain, isliye un par aakhri baat chahna bade hone ka sabse seedha hissa lag sakta hai.
Parivar ke qareeb hona aur apne liye chunna saath chal sakte hain, aur kuch gharon mein aaram se chalte hain. Jahan nahi chalte, wahan khinchaav chhoti, baar-baar ki baaton ke aaspaas jama hota hai: kaun-si naukri, kaun-sa flat, kaun-sa course, kaun-sa weekend.
Agar gharwale is saal ka ek faisla poori tarah aap par chhod dein, to aap kaun-sa chunenge, aur wahi kyun?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Mez par behas karne wali awaaz #
“Zindagi meri hai.” “Ab bhi solah ka hi maante hain.” “Sabka vote hai, bas mera nahi?” Ye awaaz aksar parivar ke khaane ke baad lautte hue gaadi mein bolti hai, ya tab jab kisi cousin ki khabar kitni aasaani se pachi, ye sunayi de.
Kai awaazein usmein tah hon to “chahiye” bhaari ho sakta hai: mata-pita ki aas, Chacha ki raay, padosiyon ki sochi hui raay. Kuch logon ki apni chaah us bheed mein sabse dheemi hoti hai, aur ghar shaant hone tak sunayi nahi deti.
Jab awaaz aapke faisla karne ke haq ki pairvi karti hai, to aksar ghar ke kise jawab de rahi hoti hai, aur wo aam taur par kya kehte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ghar ke vote ki jadein kahan hain #
Kuch logon mein ye us ghar se shuru hua jahan har chunav saath baithkar tay hota tha: school, vishay, pehli naukri, kisi cousin ki raay ka asli wazan. Kuch parivaron mein milkar faisla karna hi parwah dikhane ka dhang hai, aur wo ek saath garam aur bhaari lag sakta hai.
Kuch mein ye kisi ko apna chunav karte dekhkar uga: wo Bua jo naukri ke liye doosre sheher chali gayin, wo dost jiske mata-pita ne bas kaha “Batana kaisa raha”. Aisi ek misaal tay kar sakti hai ki bharosa kiya jaana kaisa lagta hai.
Aapki zindagi mein kisne sabse pehle dikhaya ki apne chunav karna kaisa dikh sakta hai, aur unhone kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Qalam kiske haath ho, iska niyam #
Iske neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Bharosa hota to dakhal na dete,” ya “Bada hone ka matlab hai bina kisi ki raay ke tay karna.” Pehla vaakya wo hai jo log sunte hain; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki har “Soch toh lo” kaise suna jaye.
Bheetar se inmein se kuch bhi niyam jaisa nahi lagta. Ye seedha insaaf lagta hai, aur ismein dam bhi hai. Isiliye ise aaj ke is parivar aur is faisle ke saath rakhkar dekhna kaam ka hai, pandrah saal ki umar wale ke saath rakhkar nahi.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuru ke saalon tak pahunchate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Bina raay tay karne ka niyam aaj ki zindagi mein kahan ab bhi baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Saal bhar mein vote ki kya keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki ek achha idea mahinon ruka rahe kyunki charcha shuru karna bhaari laga, weekend ka plan ek phone se bachne ko badal diya jaye, ya ek faisla lekar bhi har baar kisi rishtedaar ki tyori dekhkar phir shak ho. Chhoti keematein, magar bahut saari.
Jab har chunav ghar ka sawaal ban jaye, to chunne ka maza kho sakta hai: chuna hua course, mila hua flat, li hui naukri, har ek behas se ghiskar pahunchti hui. Kuch log dekhte hain ki wo apne hi faislon ka maza lena band kar dete hain.
Apna koi haal ka faisla sochiye: use kitna is baat ne gadha ki gharwale kya kahenge, aur us gadhne ki kya keemat lagi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ravivaar ki mez par vote ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Sunday sochiye, aise din jab “gharwalon ko mujhe tay karne dena chahiye” zor se bol raha ho. Ye sirf dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad khaane par plan chhedna aur paanch raay sunna, kisi Chachi ka “Par wo bhi toh socho...”, lautte hue gaadi mein behas ko phir se khada karna, aur shaam tak plan khud thoda feeka.
Isme kuch bhi bhavishyavaani nahi; ye sirf tasveer hai, aur ise neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: khaana, sawaal, ek baar aur samjhaya gaya plan, na kahi gayi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya ek taraf rakha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Sunday ko dekhkar aapko agar kuch dikhta hai, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Salaah, ya farmaan? #
Ummeedein tab sabse achhi chalti hain jab wo asal mein ho sakne wali cheez se mel khayein. “Mujhe tay karne do” ke kai matlab ho sakte hain: koi salaah nahi, salaah sirf maangne par, salaah suni jaye aur phir aap hi ke paas rahe, ya bas aakhri baat aapki rahe.
Salaah aur faisla alag cheezein hain, bhale ek hi khaane par aayein. Kuch ko lagta hai ki faisla apne mann mein pakka ho jaye to raay halki pad jaati hai; kuch ko dabaav bhaari hi rehta hai, aur wo bhi sach hai.
Ghar ka dakhal jitne tareekon se ho sakta hai, unmein se kaun-sa aapko jaayaz lagega, aur kaun-sa tab bhi bahut zyada?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Unki dilchaspi pehle se kaisi dikhti hai #
Jis kamre ki aapne aas ki thi, uske bagal mein ye bhi dekhna kaam ka ho sakta hai ki aapke ghar se pehle se kya aata hai, adhoora aur kabhi-kabhi had se zyada: wo cousin jo naukri ka vigyapan forward kar de, wo mata-pita jinhein aapke interview ki taareekh yaad rahe, wo Chacha jo poochhein course kaisa chal raha hai.
Inhein dekhna salaah ko pasandeeda nahi banata, aur ise haami bharkar chukana nahi hai. Kheej aur lagaav ek hi khaane mein saath sach ho sakte hain, aur roz ki chhoti dilchaspi raay mein milkar aati hai to aasaani se chhoot jaati hai.
Aaj koi udaharan na mile, to bhi theek hai.
Salaah ko alag rakhkar, ghar mein kiski kaun-si chhoti dilchaspi aap thoda aur dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Faislon ke saath chain ka matlab #
Is chaah se sulah ke liye ye tay karna zaroori nahi ki ye bahut maangti thi, ya ki gharwalon ka parwah karna galat hai. Matlab ye hai ki jo chalane ki chaah thi aur jo chalti hai, unke beech ka faasla har plan ko banne se pehle hi chalana chhod de.
Isme jo theek hai wo reh sakta hai: apne chunav ki izzat chahna, us bade ki tarah dekha jaana jo aap ho chuke hain. Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Jo halka ho sakta hai wo har raay ka wazan hai.
Agar koi faisla kabhi dhamki, nigraani ya peecha kiye jaane, ghar mein band rakhe jaane ya logon se kataye jaane, paison se qaabu kiye jaane, ya badalne ke dabaav ke saath thopa jaye, to wo alag baat hai, aur gambhirta se lene layak hai; wahan saath chalna hi surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Sochiye ek parivarik khaana is chaah se sulah ke saath: aap kis baare mein baat karenge, aur apna kaun-sa plan chupchaap ulat-palatkar dekhna aapko achha lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agle khaane ke liye ek vaakya #
“Apne faisle mujhe khud lene dena chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah kuch log aisa vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Unki raay ho sakti hai, aur chunna phir bhi mere haath mein hai.” Use jeetna nahi hai, bas pahunch mein rehna hai.
Aisa vaakya shuru mein akda hua lag sakta hai, jaise purane taale mein nayi chaabi. Kuch ko istemaal se wo aasaani se ghoomne lagta hai; kuch ko nahi ghoomta aur wo doosra likhte hain. Dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo ghar ki raay ke liye jagah chhode aur faisla aapke haath mein rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch raay mez par hi chhodi ja sakti hain #
Har raay ka jawab dena zaroori nahi. Kuch ko suna ja sakta hai, ek baar tola ja sakta hai, aur chai ke cupon ke saath mez par chhoda ja sakta hai, jaise lambe khaane ke baad mez par chhoote cup.
Agar koi faisla kabhi dhamki, nigraani ya peecha kiye jaane, ghar mein band rakhe jaane ya logon se kataye jaane, paison se qaabu kiye jaane, ya badalne ke dabaav ke saath thopa jaye, to wo alag baat hai, aur gambhirta se lene layak hai; wahan saath chalna hi surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Aaj shaam khaane ko mez par chhod dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya ki baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki plan aaj raat phir aapka ho sakta hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar vote ki pakad zara dheeli ho #
Sochiye, sirf tasveer ke taur par, ki ummeed ek paydaan shaant hai. Apni chalane ki chaah ab bhi hai, par khaane par kahi gayi raay ek raay hai, farmaan nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise plan ko apne mann mein pakka karke khaane par baithna, kisi dost ka pehle poora idea sun lena, ya ek shaam behas par nahi, plan par kharch karna.
Yahan kuch bhi kisi se kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye, wo aapka hai. Iske baad, is par nazar ki is chaah se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur ghar se pehle se kya aata hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Jab koi farmaan aaye, to note kijiye ki wo kiski awaaz jaisa lagta hai
- Parivarik khaane se pehle note kijiye ki kaun-sa plan aapko pehle se tay lagta hai
- Aaj ki ek chhoti chaah pehchaniye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: ye salaah hai, ya mere liye kiya ja raha faisla?
- Note kijiye ki kaun-si raay aapke saath ghar tak aati hai, aur wahi kyun
Sab nijee, sab apni marzi se. Jo ho sake, wo chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapki zindagi mein kaun aapke chunav ka achhe se saath deta hai, aur wo kya kehte hain?
- Aapka kaun-sa faisla aapko sabse zyada garv deta hai, aur aap us tak kaise pahunche?
- Naya plan sochne par ghar ki kaun-si awaaz sabse oonchi lagti hai, aur wo aam taur par kya kehti hai?
- Agar apne faisle khud lene ki chaah ki pakad thodi dheeli pade, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?
- Aapke ghar se pehle se aisa kya aata hai jise aap apni chalane ke saath rakhna chahenge?