Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Kuch jhatke isliye chubhte hain ki wo aisi plan jaise lage the jo sabki thi, bhale zor se kabhi kahi na gayi ho.
Kuch maa-baap ke liye ye apne raaste se aaya: koi career jidhar unhein dhakela gaya, ya jo wo chahte the aur mila nahi.
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Maine achhi raah dikhayi to wo pakka chunenge,” ya “Samajhdaar bachcha aazmaya hua raasta leta hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Pakke career ke lekh bina bataye forward karna
- Rishtedaaron ko unka course kam se kam shabdon mein batana
- Unki har plan par “Aur uske baad?” poochhna
- Kisi cousin ke chunav ki zara zyada tareef karna
- “Tumhari zindagi hai” kehna, aur unke bolne par chup ho jaana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Engineering se music production tak
Kota ke ghar mein raat ke khaane par aapka beta bataata hai ki wo engineering chhodkar music production mein ja raha hai. Aapne degree, achhi naukri, pakka raasta socha tha. Aap chehra shaant rakhkar kuch sambhale sawaal poochhte ho. Wo aankhon mein aisi chamak se bolta hai jo barson baad dikhi. Par us raat aap fikr mein jaagte lete rehte ho, har tarah se bigadne ki tasveerein banate hue.
Bachcha soche career par chale
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere bachche ko wahi career chunna chahiye jo maine socha tha.” Ye pyaar bhari raah-dikhayi jaisa lagta hai. Aap jaante ho zindagi kitni sakht ho sakti hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke chain ko ek aise raaste se baandh deta hai jo aapka bachcha shayad chahta hi na ho. Unke bhavishya ko lekar aap shaant rahenge ya nahi, ye is par tika hai ki wo aapki sochi raah chunein, apni chahi nahi.
Hum unhein surakshit kyun chahte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki bachche surakshit aur pakke hon, yahi chahte hain. Shayad aapne kadi mehnat ki taaki unhein wo mauke milein jo aapko nahi mile. Shayad aapne apne jaanne walon ke liye kuch raaste bahut kathin hote dekhe hain. Jo bhi ho, kisi khaas career ki aas rob nahi hai. Ye pyaar se, aur unki zindagi achhi jaye is chaah se aati hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har kadam door, ek aur fikr
Sochi hui raah se har kadam door fikr ko badhata hai. Aap aise sawaal poochhne lagte ho jo shak jaise sunayi dete hain. Doston ke bachchon se tulna karte ho jo surakshit sadkon par hain. Unke kaam ki baat par aap tan jaate ho. Dheere-dheere aapka pyaar dar se mil jaata hai, aur unki aankhon ki chamak jashn ki jagah fikr ki cheez lagne lagti hai.
Kya sochi hui raah laayak hai?
Imaandari se poochhiye: kya aapke soche career ko pakde rakhne se wo kabhi zyada khush hue? Ya zyadatar baatcheet mushkil hui? Bachche aksar aise raaste paate hain jinki humne kalpana nahi ki thi, aur kabhi wahi un par sabse theek baithte hain. Jo bhi ho, unka chunav aapki parvarish ya unke bhavishya ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna aapko deta kam, leta zyada hai.
Unke saath, jo bhi raah ho
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap unke bhavishya ki parwah karna chhod dein. Matlab ye ki aapka chain is par nahi tika ki wo aapki raah chunein. Aap unki raah ko lekar jigyasu ho sakte ho, uske baare mein bolte hue unki aankhon ki chamak dekh sakte ho, aur jo sikhaya us par bharosa kar sakte ho. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: wo jis bhi raah chalein, aap unke saath ho sakte ho.
If anyone at home reacts with threats, anger that frightens, or someone being hurt, that is worth taking seriously, and staying quiet can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleBachche ko wahi career chunna chahiye jo maine socha tha.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleUnke saath hona theek hai, jis bhi raah wo chalein.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Unke banne mein aapko jo ek baat pasand hai, use sochiye
- Din 2
Unke kaam ki baat karte hue unki aankhon ki chamak notice kijiye
- Din 3
Fikr aaye to unki koi ek taaqat yaad kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapne pehli baar kab socha tha ki bachche ka career kya ho, aur wo sahi kyun laga tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Daakhile ke form ke saath aayi ek aas #
“Mere bachche ko wahi career chunna chahiye jo maine socha tha.” Ye khayal aata hai Kota mein entrance ke nateeje dekhte hue, school ki parents meeting mein, ya jab Abu Dhabi se beti baaton-baaton mein bata de ki usne design mein apply kar diya hai.
Ye shayad hi kabhi maang ki tarah nikalta hai. Zyadatar naqshe wali fikr ki tarah sunayi deta hai: pakki naukri, izzat wala pad, aisa raasta jiske mod pehle se pata hain. Isiliye alag chunav khabar kam aur dheere se band hote darwaaze jaisa lag sakta hai.
Apne bachche ke career wali ye aas aakhri baar kab aayi thi, aur unhone abhi-abhi aapko kya bataya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sawaalon se pehle jo pahunchta hai #
Kuch maa-baap ko jhat se dhak lagti hai jab bachcha aisa course bataye jo unhone socha nahi tha: film, hotel management, gap year, sangeet. Sawaal bachche ke sentence poora karne se pehle munh se nikal chuke ho sakte hain.
Kuch ko iski jagah ek sambhali-si chamak dikhti hai: “Bahut achha, bahut achha” jo zara jaldi keh diya gaya, aur ghante bhar baad gaadi ki or jaate hue “Bas ek baar aur soch lo” se shuru hota sentence.
Pichhli baar jab aapke bachche ne aise chunav ke baare mein bataya jo aapne socha nahi tha, to pehle kuch secondon mein aapko kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye unhein mehfooz chahne se aati hai #
Ye aas waajib isliye lagti hai ki fikr se bani hai. Maa-baap ne aksar duniya ki sakhti zyada dekhi hoti hai, aur jaana-pehchana career bachche ke bhavishya par mazboot chhat jaisa lagta hai, aisi jiski taraf barson ki shaam ki classes aur der raat ki pariksha jaa rahi thi.
Kuch jhatke isliye chubhte hain ki wo aisi plan jaise lage the jo sabki thi, bhale zor se kabhi kahi na gayi ho. Aath saal ki umar mein engineer banne ki baat karne wala bachcha atharah mein samjhauta todta lag sakta hai, jabki usne shayad shartein kabhi dekhi hi na hon.
Apne bachche ki kaam-kaaji zindagi ke liye aapne kya socha tha, aur us tasveer ka kaun sa hissa sabse pakka lagta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Raaston ki tulna karti awaaz #
“Humne to har mauka diya.” “Rishtedaaron ko kya kaha jayega?” “Uske cousin ne to samajhdaari se chuna.” Ye awaaz tab bolti hai jab koi rishtedaar course ke baare mein poochhe, ya der raat us kshetra ke baare mein padhte hue jise aap mushkil se jaante hain.
Aisi aas raaste mein sawaariyan bitha leti hai: rishtedaar, padosi, apna purana sapna jo wahi raasta chahta tha. Kuch maa-baap paate hain ki in sabke neeche unki apni chaah plan se saadi hai: bachcha tika rahe, aur log use achha samjhein.
Jab awaaz batati hai ki aapke bachche ko kaun sa career chunna chahiye, to wo kiske shabdon jaisi lagti hai, aur wo pehli baar kab sune the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Sahi career ki tasveer kahan se banti hai #
Kuch maa-baap ke liye ye apne raaste se aaya: koi career jidhar unhein dhakela gaya, ya jo wo chahte the aur mila nahi. Kuch gharon mein kuch naukriyon ko upar chadhne ka pakka raasta bataya jaata tha, kisi bachche ki raay se bahut pehle.
Kuch ke liye ye aaspaas se aaya: padosi ka ladka jisne kathin pariksha nikali, rishtedaar jo poochhte “Is degree se karoge kya?”, sahkarmi ki beti jiske gale mein badi company ka ID card latka hai. Kuch log aisi tasveer chhoti umar tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Aapki apni kaam-kaaji zindagi ka kaun sa pal sabse pehle us career ki tasveer bana gaya jo aap chahte the ki bachcha chune?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Socha hua career ke neeche ka niyam #
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Maine achhi raah dikhayi to wo pakka chunenge,” ya “Samajhdaar bachcha aazmaya hua raasta leta hai.” Pehla sentence sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki unka har chunav kaise padha jaye.
Bheetar se ye niyam dikhta hi nahi. Hifazat jaisa dikhta hai, aur aksar us pyaar se aata hai jisne duniya ki sakhti dekhi hai. Isiliye ise apne saamne khade naujawaan aur us duniya ke bagal mein rakhkar dekhna theek hai jisme ab unke kadam pad rahe hain.
Kuch log aise niyam ko chhoti umar se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj bachche ki zindagi ke kin hisson mein career wala niyam ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ek saal mein ye faasla kya le jaata hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki rishtedaaron ko unke course ke baare mein aisi awaaz mein batana jo details chhod de, khaane ki mez par kisi project ko lekar unke josh ka jawab “Aur uske baad?” se milna, graduation ki photo ko halki tees se dekhna. Chupchaap pal, door tak dhoye jaate hue.
Is beech kuch aur bhi kharch ho jaata hai. Jab unka career iska paimana ban jaye ki aapki raah dikhayi kaargar rahi ya nahi, to unka har chunav aapke barson ki parvarish par nishaan jaisa lag sakta hai, aur jis zindagi ko wo asal mein bana rahe hain, uske baare mein bahut kuch poochha nahi jaata.
Pichhle ek saal mein bachche ke saath uske kaam ya padhai ki kaun si baatcheet us career ke rang mein sabse zyada rangi thi jo aapne socha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Details chhodte paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din jab “Mere bachche ko wahi career chunna chahiye jo maine socha tha” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ki cheez nahi.
Shayad rishtedaaron ko unke course ke baare mein details chhodkar batana, aisi call jisme project ki unki khabar ko chhota-sa “Achha” mile, kisi aur career ka lekh baad mein bhejne ke liye saheja.
Isme se kuch bhavishyavani nahi, aur ye tasveer jab chahein kinare rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usme kya hai: callein, rishtedaaron ke sawaal, khabrein, anpoochhi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhein to aapko kuch nazar aata hai, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Mehfooz, kis tarah? #
Parivaar ke kareeb rehna aur apne chunav khud karna saath chal sakte hain. Bachcha aapki chahi bahut-si cheezein aise raaste par le ja sakta hai jo aapne socha nahi tha: mehnat, apne kaam ki parwah, kisi cheez mein achha hone ki chaah.
“Jo career maine socha tha” mein kai cheezein ho sakti hain: suraksha, izzat, aisa raasta jo aap samajhte hon, rishtedaaron ko batane laayak kuch, bachcha jo thikaane lagta dikhe. Kuch ek pad par tiki hoti hain, bahut-si nahi. Isse aapki aas galat nahi hoti, sahi bhi nahi.
Aapke soche career mein jo-jo hai, usme aapke liye sabse zaroori hissa kaun sa hai, aur kaun sa unke chune raaste se bhi aa sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Unka apna raasta pehle se kya dikhata hai #
Aapke soche career ke bagal mein, kuch maa-baap ko ye dekhna garm lagta hai ki bachcha apne chune raaste par pehle se kya laata hai, chahe chhota ya betartib: project chal jaane ka der raat ka message, mez par chhooti sketchbook, kisi aise shabd ko samjhate hue hansi jo aapko nahi pata.
Ye farz ya qarz nahi, aur isse aas radd nahi hoti: waajib chaah aur garm nazar saath baith sakti hain. Garmjoshi tab badhti hai jab kuch bina maange aaye, isliye unki khabar ke chhote bin-maange hisse dekhne laayak ho sakte hain.
Jawab der se aaye to bhi theek hai.
Aapke bachche ne apne course ke baare mein aapko kya achha lagna bataya hai, jise aap thoda aur dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Sulah, aur parwah bachaye rakhna #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye bahut zyada thi, ya ki sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jis career ki aapne tasveer banayi aur jo wo chun rahe hain, uska faasla unke bhavishya ki har baatcheet ko gadhna chhod de.
Isme jo waajib hai wo reh sakta hai: unka surakshit rehna, unke kaam ki izzat, ye samajhna ki wo karte kya hain. Jo dheeli ho sakti hai wo pakad hai, taaki unka chunav unka chunav suna jaye, aur aapki parwah tab bhi ginti jaye jab pad ka naam mel na khaye.
Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye aur aapke bachche ke liye. Jahan koi sachmuch buri tarah pesh aata ho, wo gambhirta se lene laayak hai, aur chup rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Sochiye, is ummeed se sulah wala paarivaarik get-together: aap unke course ke baare mein kya kahenge, aur kehna kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Parivaar ki mez ke liye ek zyada sachchi line #
“Mere bachche ko wahi career chunna chahiye jo maine socha tha” se behes karne ki jagah, kuch log ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Unke liye pakka raasta chaha tha, aur unka raasta unhi ka hai.” Ye jeetne ke liye nahi, purani ke bagal mein khadi hone ke liye hai.
Shuru mein ye patli lag sakti hai, udhaar ki qameez jaisi. Kuch logon ko apni line istemaal se thodi aur jagah gheerti milti hai; kuch ko nahi, aur dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek zyada sachchi line kya hogi, jo unke bhavishya ki parwah rakhe aur chunav unhi ka rehne de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch aasein daraz mein reh sakti hain #
Bachche ke bhavishya ki har aas isi saal tay karna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko bas notice kar liya jaye, minute bhar thaama jaye aur kuch waqt ke liye rakh diya jaye, jaise Kota ki almaari mein padi purani entrance guide, ya daraz mein rakha kisi college ka prospectus.
Jahan koi sachmuch buri tarah pesh aata ho, wo gambhirta se lene laayak hai, aur chup rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai. Bachche ke career ki aas jab tak chahein niji reh sakti hai.
Aaj shaam is khayal ko rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki kuch kam tha, ya ki baat tay ho gayi. Bas itna ki unka course aaj ghar ki har call mein aana zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar pakad zara dheeli pade #
Sochiye, bas tasveer ki tarah, ummeed ek paayadaan dheemi hai. Rishtedaaron ko unke course ke baare mein batana, aur saath mein ek detail jod dena jo unhone bataya ki unhein pasand hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: kisi project ke baare mein saadi jigyasa se sunna, unke kshetra ka ek shabd khojkar dekhna, ya cousin ke nateeje bina tulna ke sunna.
Isme se kuch kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo saamne aaye, wo aapka hai aur notice karne laayak hai. Aage: is ummeed se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya halka-sa alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Rishtedaar course poochhein to dekhiye ki pehla shabd kaun sa soojhta hai
- Unka course zikr mein aaye to dekhiye ki kaun sa ehsaas pehle aata hai
- Aaj ki apni koi ek chhoti-si chaahat notice kijiye
- Unhein aath ki umar mein naukri ki baat karte aur bees mein chunte sochiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: unka kaam jo bhi ho, usse unhein kya mile, iski chaah kya hai?
Chhote aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapne pehli baar kab socha tha ki bachche ka career kya ho, aur wo sahi kyun laga tha?
- Bachche ke course par rishtedaar ka kaun sa sawaal aapke saath reh gaya, aur aapne kya jawab diya?
- Aap sabse zyada kya chahte hain ki bachche ka kaam unhein de, wo jo bhi nikle?
- Bachche ke career ki aas thodi dheeli ho, to sabse pehle aap kya notice karenge?
- Aapke bachche ne apne raaste ki jo baat pasand batayi hai, uska aap aur maza kaise le sakte hain?