Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Look par ki gayi baatein aksar lagbhag shabdasha yaad rehti hain, kabhi saalon tak, us jagah ke saath jahan kahi gayi thi.
Kuch logon ke liye sharir par tippani bade rishtedaaron ke namaste kehne ka hissa thi: darwaaze par, cousins ke saamne, sab sunte hue aur koi kuch palatkar nahi kehta.
Kuch logon ko aisi line banti sunayi deti hai: “Logon ko mujhse pehle mera sharir dikhta hai,” ya “Mere dikhne se hi tay hota hai ki log kaise pesh aayenge.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Kamre mein saath hans dena, aur ghar tak saara raasta use dohrana
- Jaldi se baat badal dena, aur umeed karna ki kisi ne notice nahi kiya
- Doosron se pehle khud par mazaak kar lena
- Baad mein gussa aana, aur sochna ki kya iski ijaazat hai
- Baaki shaam chup ho jaana, aur keh dena ki kuch nahi tha
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Doosri plate, waapas rakhi hui
Hubballi mein cousin ke birthday par ghar ka jamavda. Aap doosri plate mirchi-bhajji ki taraf haath badhate ho aur cousin hans padta hai: “Motu, kitna khaoge!” Kuch log muskurate hain. Aap plate rakh dete ho, saath mein hanste ho, aur baaki shaam chup baithe rehte ho, haath ek doosre mein uljhe, sharm se garam, wo shabd aapse chipke rehte hain jabki baaki sab bhool chuke hain. Ghar par aap aaine mein aade khade hokar zaroorat se zyada der dekhte ho.
Unki raay tay kare ki theek hain
Pehle saaf baat: kisi ke sharir par aise tippani karna theek nahi hai, aur wo aapki kadar ke baare mein kuch nahi kehti. Par usse ek niyam ug sakta hai, jo phir aapka ban jaata hai: “Mere sharir par doosron ki raay tay karti hai ki main theek hoon ya nahi.” Bahut log bina soche isi se jeete hain. Ye haqeeqat jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aap doosron ki nazron ke neeche jeene lagte ho.
Sharir par baatein itni gehri kyun
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki sharir par tippaniyan bahut gehri aur bahut der tak chubh sakti hain. Ye bahut insaani chaah hai, aur aam hai. Shaayad aap ye bachpan se sunte aaye, shaayad un logon se jinhein aap chahte ho. Jo bhi ho, apnaye jaane ki chaah ghamand nahi. Wo apnapan chahne se aati hai. Use narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Ehsaas par jamta bojh
Aisi har tippani logon ke beech aapke ehsaas mein thoda bojh jodti hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Dheere-dheere sab judta hai. Aap family khaane mein chaukanne rehte ho. Photos se bachte ho. Raat mein wo shabd dohrate ho. Maze ke jamavde show par hone jaise lagne lagte hain, aur aap doosron ki nazrein saath dhote ho.
Kya unki raay is laayak?
Khud se sachchai se poochhiye: is niyam ko pakde rakhne se kya kabhi aap zyada sahaj hue? Ya zyadatar aapka sukoon doosron ke haath mein chala gaya? Sharir par tippani kisi ke shabd hain, kisi insaan ka paimana nahi. Chahein to iske saath thoda thehar jaaiye. Ise narmi se poochhna theek hai, bina ilzaam ke. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai?
Unke shabd aapka paimana nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki tippani theek thi. Wo theek nahi thi. Matlab ye ki doosron ki raay ab tay nahi karti ki sahaj rehne ki ijaazat hai ya nahi. Aap jamavde, khaane aur logon ka maza le sakte ho. Iske liye pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Wahin se kuch sukoon lautta hai: aap apni zindagi mein jeete ho, doosron ki nazron ke neeche nahi.
Being mocked about your body again and again, threatened, hurt or frightened is not okay and is worth taking seriously; if eating or your body worries you, a doctor or someone you trust can help.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere sharir par doosron ki raay tay karti hai ki main theek hoon.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleUnke shabd mera paimana nahi. Sahaj rehna mere liye theek hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Ek jamavde mein tippaniyon ki jagah logon par dhyaan dijiye
- Kadam 2
Shabd dohrayein to ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Kadam 3
Ek aise insaan ko notice kijiye jiske saath sahaj lagta hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab ye kaha gaya, tab aap kahan the aur kamre mein aur kaun tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek sharir par kahi gayi chand baatein #
Cousin ke birthday par koi uncle, school ke corridor mein koi classmate, chhuttiyon ke baad lift ke paas koi colleague, family group chat mein photo ke neeche koi rishtedaar. “Kitna motapa chadh gaya hai tum par!” ya usse naram sunayi deta kuch, aur phir baat aise aage badh jaati hai jaise kuch khaas kaha hi nahi gaya.
Ye kuch second mein kah di jaati hai, aksar halke mein, kabhi hansi ke saath. Par isse insaan poore kamre ke dekhne ka ek aakaar ban jaata hai, aur jiske baare mein kahi gayi wo ise kehne mein lage waqt se kahin zyada der uthaye reh sakta hai.
Ye aakhri baar kahan suna, ya isse milta-julta kuch?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kamre mein aur kaun tha, aur sab agli baat par nikal gaye, uske baad wo shabd kitni der aapke saath rahe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sochne se pehle hi kyun lag jaati hai #
Kuch log batate hain pet mein dhakka, chehre par garmi, ek muskaan jo tiki rehti hai jabki andar sab tham jaata hai. Kuch turant saath mein hans dete hain; kuch baahein mod lete hain ya phone ki taraf dekhne lagte hain. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur inmein kuch bhi samjhane ki cheez nahi.
Kisi ke look par sabke saamne ki gayi tippani sharir mein ek second mein darj ho jaati hai, sochne se pehle. Soch aksar baad mein aati hai: ghar lautte waqt, ya der raat, ye dohrate hue ki kisne suna aur unke chehron ne kya kiya.
Wo pehli pratikriya bata sakti hai ki wo kamra, ya wo insaan, aapke liye kitna maayne rakhta tha.
Un shabdon ke baad wale second mein aapke sharir ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jam gaya, hans pada, ya kamre se nikal jaana chaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Baat aakaar ki hai, chot insaan ko lagti hai #
Wazan par tippani sunne mein bas ek sharir ke baare mein lagti hai. Par kamre mein zor se kahi jaaye to poore insaan ko aisi cheez bana deti hai jise dekha aur naapa jaaye, aur us din wo jo kuch laaye the, kisse, jokes, khabrein, sab uske peeche chup ho jaate hain.
Look par ki gayi baatein aksar lagbhag shabdasha yaad rehti hain, kabhi saalon tak, us jagah ke saath jahan kahi gayi thi. Ek wajah ye ho sakti hai ki sharir ko kahin rakha ya ghar chhoda nahi ja sakta, to tippani har jagah saath chalti lag sakti hai.
Tippani ko us din ki baaki saari baaton ke bagal mein rakhein to usne din ka kitna hissa gher liya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur aapke kaun se hisse, jinhone baat ki, hansaya, madad ki, un shabdon se chhue hi nahi gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab tippani khud chalne lage #
Itni baar suno to ye andar bas sakti hai. Ye vaakya ki tarah ajeeb palon mein dohrayi ja sakti hai, ya nazar se door rehne ke ishaare ki tarah, kabhi-kabhi kisi ne kuch kaha bhi nahi aur bas rishtedaaron se bhare kamre mein ghusne bhar se.
Shabd ek cheez ke baare mein the, aur sunne wala usse kahin zyada hai. Phir bhi vaakya andar chalne lage to apne aap aa jaata hai, aur kyunki wo aapki apni awaaz jaisa lagta hai, wo kisi aur ke shabd nahi, bas savdhaani lag sakta hai.
Wo kiski awaaz mein bolta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki, ya kisi khaas kamre mein, kisi khaas insaan se, kisi aise din uthayi hui jo aapko aaj bhi yaad hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye tippaniyan bachpan se shuru huin #
“Pehle kitne patle the tum.” Kuch logon ke liye sharir par tippani bade rishtedaaron ke namaste kehne ka hissa thi: darwaaze par, cousins ke saamne, sab sunte hue aur koi kuch palatkar nahi kehta.
Aisi baaton ke peeche ki wajahein har ghar mein alag hoti hain, aur jo bachcha sunta hai use shaayad hi samjhayi jaati hain. Jo reh sakta hai wo chupchaap nikaala nateeja hai: uska sharir aisi cheez hai jis par doosre kisi bhi jamavde mein tippani kar sakte hain.
Pehli baar kab dhyaan gaya ki aapka sharir aapke saamne logon ki baatcheet hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aamtaur par kamre mein kaun hota tha, aur aisa hone par chehre ke saath kya karna aapne seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Tippani ke peeche chhoota ek chup niyam #
Kuch logon ko aisi line banti sunayi deti hai: “Logon ko mujhse pehle mera sharir dikhta hai,” ya “Mere dikhne se hi tay hota hai ki log kaise pesh aayenge.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Lagta hai bas pata hai kamre kaise chalte hain, jaise ghar se nikalne se pehle chaabi utha lena samajhdaari lagti hai. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi nikaalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Jo bhi ho, ise dekha ja sakta hai, tathya ki tarah nahi, tippani ke chhode niyam ki tarah.
Kya aisi koi line fit hoti hai, ya thodi-bahut, ya bilkul nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kin kamron mein ye ab bhi fit lagta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Tippani dhone ki chupchaap chukayi keemat #
Ye bahar jaane, photos aur plans tak pahunch sakta hai, hafte ke un aam hisson tak jinmein dekha jaana shamil hai. Kuch log dekhe jaane ke hisaab se plan banane lagte hain, aur kuch invitations ko kisi ke tay karne se bahut pehle hi na mil jaati hai.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab dhyaan ka ek hissa hamesha is par rehta hai ki aap kaise dikh sakte ho, tab baatcheet, khel, jokes ke liye kam bachta hai. Kuch logon ke liye saal bhar mein ye aisi shaamein ban sakti hain jinmein gaye, par poora maza nahi le paaye.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Kisi aur ki aankhon se khud ko dekhna mehnat maangta hai.
Pichhle saal isne kya liya, agar kuch: kahin jaana, koi photo, koi plan, koi shaam?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, line zor se bolti hui #
Ek aam Tuesday ki kalpana kijiye, us din ki jab “Logon ko mujhse pehle mera sharir dikhta hai” zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad kuch messages, ek-do plans, kuch baatcheetein, logon ke saath ek shaam. Kuch jaana-pehchana lag sakta hai, kuch bilkul nahi, aur tasveer ke liye koi sahi ya galat roop nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein rakh sakte hain.
Usmein kya hai: messages, plans, chupchaap taali gayi cheezein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ek vaakya, ek kamra, insaan ka ek hissa #
Shabd theek-theek jo bhi the, wo ek insaan ke ek hisse ke baare mein ek vaakya tha, ek insaan ka kaha, ek kamre mein.
Kuch logon ko dikhta hai ki shabd ek cheez ke baare mein the, aur sunne wala usse kahin zyada hai. Us din usne jo kiya, kaha, banaya ya jiski parwah ki, wo sab bhi kamre mein tha, aur tippani ne unmein se kuch nahi chhua.
Aise dekhein to ek poori zindagi, apne doston, kaam, jokes aur plans samet, ek vaakya mein kitni sama sakti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur tareeka: usi jamavde mein koi kareebi dost yahi shabd sunta, to ghar lautte waqt aap usse kya kehna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kahan se shuru karenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log wo pal dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to chhoti baatein dikhti hain: kaun hansa, kaun chup raha, kisne baat badli, kisne jaise suna hi nahi. Kabhi kamra un shabdon ke peeche utna nahi tha jitna tab laga, aur kabhi tha.
Kuch ko wo jagahein aur log dikhte hain jahan tippani kabhi aati hi nahi: dost jo photo ki jagah film ki baat karta hai; team jo idea maangti hai; chhota cousin jo bas khelna chahta hai. Wo kamre hamesha se the, aksar zyada shaant.
Sabse pehle inmein se kaun si jagah ya insaan yaad aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur aap unke saath hote ho to wo kis baare mein baat karte hain, jab wo wahi nahi jo kaha gaya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Is behes ko jeetne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab tippani se sehmat hona nahi, wo chahe jaise bhi lagi ho. Matlab bas itna ki wo shabd kam tay karein ki kaun si photos hon, kis jamavde ko haan mile, aur shaam ka baaki hissa kaisa jaaye.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo mann mein perfect jawab banana chhod dete hain. Wo behes poori hoti hi nahi, aur har kamre ke beech mein ek insaan ki tippani ko bithaye rakhti hai.
Kaisa lagega agar shabd unhin ke rahein, ek din ek kamre mein kahi ek baat, na ki aisi cheez jise agle kamre mein aur uske baad wale kamre mein bhi dhona pade?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar tippani barson se chal rahi hai, to usse seedhe bhidne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajay ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo ek insaan ka vaakya tha, mera saar nahi.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas pehnkar dekhne ki line hai, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki beech-beech mein kahi jaaye, khaaskar jamavde mein ghuste waqt, to purani tippani ki bhari jagah mein se thodi le leti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo us kamre mein hui baat ke baare mein sahi ho aur jise sahi maanne ke liye wahan maujood kisi ki zaroorat na pade?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baat bas neeche rakh di jaaye #
Sharir par har tippani ko palatkar jawab, safai ya agli baar ki planning nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe din ke aakhir mein bhaari bag farsh par rakh dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un logon ke liye jagah bachti hai jinke saath sahaj raha jaata hai, aur un cheezon ke liye jinke liye wo jamavde mein aaye the.
Aaj shaam ke liye tippani ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki use aaj baaki har cheez mein, agli photo ya agli baatcheet tak saath nahi chalna.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam zara bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hua. Kamra bas kamra ho sakta hai, aur photo bas ek din ki photo, logon ke saath.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: aisi baatcheet jismein dhyaan doosre insaan par rahe, sahaj logon ke saath kisi outing ko haan kehna, ya wo shaam jismein purani tippani dohrayi na jaaye.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne laayak hai, kitna bhi chhota ho. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi tippani”
- Gaur kijiye ki pal ka kaun sa hissa zyada zor se laga: shabd, ya lehja
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: ye vaakya kiska hai, aur kis kamre mein kaha gaya tha?
- Ek aisi jagah ya insaan sochiye jahan ye tippani kabhi aati hi nahi
- Aaj ki ek cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chaahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab ye kaha gaya, tab aap kahan the aur kamre mein aur kaun tha?
- Us pal ka kaun sa hissa aapke paas baar-baar lautta hai?
- Pehle kaun sa ehsaas aata hai: chot, gussa, sharm, ya kuch aur?
- Agar aisi koi line aapke liye zor se bole, to us pal aaspaas kya hota hai?
- Agar ye thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?