“bachpan mein maa-baap ko mere paas zyada rehna chahiye tha” par log aksar kya karte hain?

Doosron ke liye har jagah pahunch jaana, taaki koi aur intezaar na kare. Kisi ke poochhe bina kehna “Sab sahi tha, wo busy the”. Ab maa-baap saath waqt bitane ko kahein to ek jhatka-sa mehsoos hona. Doston se bachpan ki tulna karna, aur baat badalte hi chup ho jaana. Poore vishay ko purani baat kehkar door kar dena, jo ab maayne nahi rakhni chahiye.

Agle 3 din kya try kiya ja sakta hai?

Aaj das minute kuch aisa kijiye jo aapko pasand hai. Purana ehsaas laute to apne saath narm rahiye. Ek chhoti cheez kijiye jo bachpan ke aap ko achhi lagti.

“bachpan mein maa-baap ko mere paas zyada rehna chahiye…

Andar

Andar kya chal raha hai #

Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.

Ek ankaha vaada ab bhi toota lag sakta hai.
Kuch logon mein tasveer dekhne se bani: sabse pakki dost ki maa jo do tiffin baandhti thin, padosi ke pita jo bachchon ko bus tak chhodne jaate the, TV wale parivaar jo chhe baje tak hamesha ghar mein dikhte the.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Jin maa-baap ko parwah hoti hai wo chhoti baaton mein bhi aate hain,” ya “Paas hone ka matlab kamre mein hona hai.”

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Log aksar kya karte hain #

Doosron ke liye har jagah pahunch jaana, taaki koi aur intezaar na kare
Kisi ke poochhe bina kehna “Sab sahi tha, wo busy the”
Ab maa-baap saath waqt bitane ko kahein to ek jhatka-sa mehsoos hona
Doston se bachpan ki tulna karna, aur baat badalte hi chup ho jaana
Poore vishay ko purani baat kehkar door kar dena, jo ab maayne nahi rakhni chahiye

Deck

6 cards mein poori kahani #

Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.

Final ke liye nikalti colleague
Tuesday ki dopahar, Nagpur ke Dharampeth mein ek office. Ek colleague bete ke cricket final ke liye jaldi nikal jaati hain, muskurate hue haath hilakar. Aap unhein jaate dekhte ho aur type karte rehte ho. Ghar lautti bus mein ek purani yaad ubharti hai: school ka khel diwas, bheed mein koi chehra khojti aankhein. Aap khidki se bahar dekhte ho, aur ek jaana-pehchana bhaari ehsaas seene mein chupchaap baith jaata hai.
Unhein paas hona chahiye tha
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Bachpan mein maa-baap ko mere paas zyada rehna chahiye tha.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Bachchon ko apne log chahiye. Par dekhiye ye ab kya karta hai: aapko ek aise ateet mein khada rakhta hai jo badla nahi ja sakta, un saalon ki maafi ya safayi ke intezaar mein jo beet chuke, jabki aaj khidki ke bahar chupchaap guzar jaata hai.
Dekhbhaal ki chaah kyun hoti hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki dekhbhaal paane ki chaah sabse purani chaahon mein se hai. Shaayad aapko darwaze par chaabi ki aahat ka lamba intezaar yaad hai. Shaayad aapne doston ke maa-baap ko har match mein dekha. Jo bhi ho, unka paas hona chahna zyada nahi tha. Wo ek bachche ki chaah thi ki uske log kareeb hon. Us bachche ko dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Purana ehsaas phir hila
Har yaad purana ehsaas hila deti hai. Aap har school ke gate par har maa-baap ko dekhte ho. Kuch saalon ko baar-baar dohrate paate ho. Kuch din ek ankaha bojh liye aate hain, ek sawaal jise koi jagah nahi milti. Kabhi purana intezaar nayi jagahon par laut aata hai: kisi ke phone karne, notice karne, aa jaane ka intezaar. Ateet un shaamon ko aakar dene lagta hai jo uski hain hi nahi.
Kya purani chaah dhone laayak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya ye pakde rehna ki kaisa hona chahiye tha, kabhi un saalon ko wapas la paya? Ya zyadatar purane intezaar ko zinda rakha? Kisi parivaar ke ateet ke peechhe ke kaaran koi poori tarah nahi jaan sakta. Dono haal mein, tab ki khaali jagahein iska paimana nahi ki aap ab kya ho sakte ho. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai jo ye aaj se leta hai?
Ab apne liye pahunchna
Chhodne ka matlab ye kehna nahi ki wo maayne nahi rakhta tha. Rakhta tha. Matlab ye ki ateet aapki aaj ki shaamon ko chalana band kare. Jo dhyaan tab chahiye tha, uska kuch hissa aap ab khud ko de sakte ho: apne chhote palon ke liye pahunchna, apne achhe dinon ko notice karna. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: intezaar aakhir khatam ho sakta hai, aur aaj wo jagah ban sakta hai jahan aap rehte ho.
If what you remember was being left unsafe, hurt or frightened as a child, that is not a hope to set down; it is worth taking seriously, and leaving it unspoken can be the safe choice.

Palat

Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #

Purana ruleUnhein mere paas zyada rehna chahiye tha.

Try karne ke liye naya ruleWo maayne rakhta tha. Ab khud ke liye pahunchna mere haath mein hai.

Teen chhote din

3 din try kijiye #

Din 1
Aaj das minute kuch aisa kijiye jo aapko pasand hai
Din 2
Purana ehsaas laute to apne saath narm rahiye
Din 3
Ek chhoti cheez kijiye jo bachpan ke aap ko achhi lagti

Is par baat karni hai?

“Un saalon ka kaun-sa bada din aapko achhe se yaad hai, aur unhone kya kiya tha?”

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Dr. Thoughts ke saath baat kijiye

Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai

Aur gehraai mein #

Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.

Yeh kaisa lagta hai

Kya kaha gaya

Saalon baad aane wala ek khayal #

Ek colleague bete ke cricket final ke liye jaldi nikal jaati hain, aur aap unhein jaate dekhte reh jaate ho. Baad mein bus mein ghar lautte hue ek purana vaakya ubhar aata hai: “Bachpan mein maa-baap ko mere paas zyada rehna chahiye tha.”

Ye gair-maujoodgi ki baat hai: lambe ghante, koi maa-baap doosre shehar ya desh mein kaam karte hue. Agar kisi ke door rehne ki wajah bimari, mrityu ya algaav thi, to dheere chaliye, ya ise alag rakh dijiye. Agar un saalon mein kuch darawana ya chot pahunchane wala tha, to use is deck se zyada dekhbhaal chahiye.

Apne maa-baap aur bachpan ke baare mein ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya, aur tab aap kya dekh rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›

Pehle kuch pal

Yaad se pehle aane wali tees #

Kuch log ise seene mein halki atak ki tarah paate hain, kisi school ke function mein jahan wo bas mehmaan hain, ya jab koi dost kahe “Meri mummy toh hamesha gate par khadi milti thi”, koi yaad poori tarah aane se pehle hi, ek ajeeb-si chuppi.

Purane saalon se jo hum saath laate hain, wo ho rahe pal ka rang badal sakta hai. Mele mein pita ka bachche ko kandhon par bithana aapko apne baare mein kuch kehta lag sakta hai, us bachche ke paida hone se barson pehle ka kuch.

Pichhli baar jab aapne kisi maa-baap ko apne bachche ke liye aate dekha, to apne parivaar ka koi vichar aane se pehle aapko kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kyun lagta hai

Unka paas hona chahna sahaj chaah hai #

Bade hote samay maa-baap ka paas hona chahna utni hi sahaj chaah hai jitni ho sakti hai. Bachcha na iska intezaam kar sakta hai, na sahi shabdon mein maang sakta hai, na kahin aur jaakar khoj sakta hai, isliye chaah bachpan ke baad bhi waisi hi reh jaati hai.

Ek ankaha vaada ab bhi toota lag sakta hai. Doosre bachchon ke maa-baap gate par, khaane ki table par, match mein dikhte the, aur isse gair-maujoodgi ek aise samjhaute jaisi lag sakti hai jo nibhaya nahi gaya.

Agar paas hone ko bachpan ki ek aam shaam ki tarah sochna ho, to ghar mein kaun hota, aur wo kya kar rahe hote?Is par baat kijiye ›

Andar ki awaaz

Purani list rakhne wali awaaz #

“Jo baatein maayne rakhti thin, unmein wo kabhi nahi the.” “Baaki sabke maa-baap aate the.” “Maine unki zaroorat na rakhna seekh liya.” Ye awaaz doosron ke bade maukon par bolti hai, ya jab koi maa-baap ab kahe ki parivaar hamesha kitna kareeb tha.

Kuch log paate hain ki chhoote dinon ki ginti uski or ishara karti hai jo neeche khalta tha: ghatnaein khud nahi, balki dekha jaana, poochha jaana, ek aam din par notice hona.

Jab awaaz ginati hai ki aapke maa-baap kya chooke, to kaun-sa ek din sabse zyada lautkar aata hai, aur us din aap kya chahte the?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kahan se aata hai

Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai

Maujood maa-baap ki tasveer kahan se shuru hui #

Kuch logon mein tasveer dekhne se bani: sabse pakki dost ki maa jo do tiffin baandhti thin, padosi ke pita jo bachchon ko bus tak chhodne jaate the, TV wale parivaar jo chhe baje tak hamesha ghar mein dikhte the.

Kuch mein intezaar se: gale mein dori se bandhi chaabi, nani ka school se laana, hafte mein ek baar door se aata phone, parent-teacher meeting mein aayi mausi. Kuch log aisi tasveer ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.

Kis parivaar ne, asli ho ya parde par, aapko pehli baar dikhaya ki maa-baap ka paas hona kaisa dikh sakta hai, aur wo kya kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iske neeche ki maanyata

Paas hone ke baare mein chup niyam #

Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Jin maa-baap ko parwah hoti hai wo chhoti baaton mein bhi aate hain,” ya “Paas hone ka matlab kamre mein hona hai.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har purani yaad aur har ghar ki yatra kaise padhi jaye.

Ye mushkil se niyam lagta hai; ye us tarah lagta hai jaise bachpan chalna chahiye, aur isme asli samajhdaari hai. Yahi ise dekhne laayak banata hai, aapke maa-baap ke bagal mein, jaise wo aaj hain.

Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.

Maa-baap ke saath aaj ki zindagi mein paas hone wala niyam kahan fit baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iski kya keemat hai

Purana faasla ab kya chheen sakta hai #

Iska matlab ho sakta hai ghar ki ek yatra jo har baar ye dekhte beete ki maa-baap phone par hain, Maa ka aapke hafte ke baare mein sawaal do shabdon mein nipta dena, pita ki aapki job mein der se jagi dilchaspi par ek akad jo aap khud ko bhi theek se samjha nahi paate.

Jo tasveer aapke paas thi aur jo asal mein hua, unke beech ka faasla chupchaap is par baith sakta hai ki maa-baap aaj kaise dikhte hain, bhale wo ab alag karte hon.

Purani chaah mein asli wazan ho sakta hai.

Pichhle saal maa-baap ke saath kaun-sa aam pal un saalon se sabse zyada ranga tha jab wo paas nahi the?Is par baat kijiye ›

Agar yeh aisa hi rahe

Purane faasle ke paanch saal aur #

Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “unhein paas hona chahiye tha” zor se baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.

Shaayad teen baje school ka gate, ek maa-baap chhote bachche ko haath hila rahe hain, aur aap aage badhte ho ek aise ehsaas ke saath jise naam nahi de paate; Maa ki call jiska aapne chhota jawab diya; sofe par film wali shaam.

Isme kuch bhavishyavani nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein rakhi ja sakti hai.

Usmein kya hai: ghar ki callein, school ki chhutti par guzarte aap, na kahi gayi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›

Us din kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka

Paas hona, kis tarah? #

“Paas hona” mein bahut kuch aata hai: saalana utsav mein ek kursi, school ke baad ka ek ghanta, koi jo bura mood bhaanp le, koi jo dost ka naam lekar poochhe. Inmein se kuch nahi the; kuch shaayad kisi aur shakl mein aaye, aur kuch shaayad aaye hi nahi.

Dono baatein saath sach ho sakti hain. Ek maa-baap hafte ka zyadatar hissa door rehkar bhi kuch peechhe chhod gaye hon, aur khaali shaamein yaad mein khaali hi reh sakti hain. Ye nazariya tay nahi karta ki wo door kyun the, ya wo sahi tha ya nahi.

“Paas hona” shabd mein jo kuch bhara hai, usmein bachpan mein aapko kaun-sa tukda sabse zyada khala, aur kaun-sa, agar koi, aap tak pahuncha?Is par baat kijiye ›

Jo pehle se hai

Jo pahuncha, kisi ki taraf se bhi #

Gair-maujoodgi ke bagal mein ye dekhna kaam ka ho sakta hai ki kya aaya, maa-baap se ya kisi se bhi jisne jagah bhari: nani ki lorian, dekh-dekhkar seekhi koi recipe, padosi wali aunty jo nazar rakhti thin, ek voice note jo aaj bhi Sunday ko aata hai.

Isse koi hisaab barabar nahi hota aur koi chaah radd nahi hoti; purani chot aur ye chhoti cheezein dono sach ho sakti hain. Jo bina maange aaya, un saalon se ya ab se, wo jo nahi aaya uske bagal mein aasaani se chhoot sakta hai.

Kuch yaadein aasaani se aati hain, kuch aati hi nahi, aur dono theek hain.

Un saalon ki ya ab ke maa-baap ki kaun-si chhoti cheez aap thoda aur kareeb rakhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›

Sulah

Purani chaah ke saath sulah #

Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye bahut zyada maangti thi, ya ki kasoor kiska tha. Matlab ye ki jo bachpan aapko chahiye tha aur jo mila, unke beech ka faasla har ghar ki yatra aur har phone ko rangna band kar de.

Isme jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: bachche ka maa-baap ko paas chahna jaayaz chaah hai, aur yaad rakhna ki kaun aaya aur kaun nahi, iski ijaazat hai. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo hai ki ye aaj kitna tay kare, taaki maa-baap ka aaj ka sawaal aaj ke sawaal ki tarah suna ja sake.

Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hotin, tab bhi aur ab bhi, aapke liye aur unke liye. Kitna sampark rahe, ye aapka faisla rehta hai. Agar ghar par beete hue ki baat uthane se kabhi aisa gussa aaya ho jisse aap darre ho, to use gambhirta se lijiye, aur na kehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.

Is purani chaah se sulah ki ek shaam sochiye: aap kahan honge, aur kis cheez ka maza le rahe honge?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ek zyada sachcha vaakya

Purane vaakya ke bagal mein ek sachcha vaakya #

“Maa-baap ko mere paas zyada rehna chahiye tha” se ulajhne ki jagah, kuch log taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mujhe unki jitni maujoodgi mili, usse zyada ki zaroorat thi, aur ye bina sab kuch sulajhaye kaha ja sakta hai.” Ise bas purane ke bagal mein baithna hai.

Pehle ye ajeeb lag sakta hai, jaise kisi ka paksh le raha ho. Kuch logon ko apna vaakya waqt ke saath purane khayal ke bagal mein thodi jagah banata lagta hai; kuch ko nahi, aur dono theek hain.

Apne bachpan ke baare mein aapke shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo jo kami thi uske baare mein imaandaar ho aur aaj ke liye jagah bhi chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›

Kya rehne dein

Kuch purana ghar mein hi reh sakta hai #

Un saalon ka har sawaal abhi sulajhana zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, pal bhar mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur rakh diya ja sakta hai, jaise Nagpur ke kisi purane trunk mein rakha school ka report card ya Lucknow ki chhat ke kone mein rakha drawing ka box.

Un saalon ke baare mein kisi se baat karna zaroori nahi. Agar ghar par beete hue ki baat uthane se kabhi aisa gussa aaya ho jisse aap darre ho, to use gambhirta se lijiye, aur na kehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai. Chaah dono haal mein aapki rehti hai.

Aaj shaam is khayal ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya baat tay ho gayi. Bas itna ki wo saal aaj har paarivarik khaane mein saath nahi aane chahiye.

Agar yeh dheela pade

Aur agar purana faasla zara shaant ho #

Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Chaah ab bhi hai, par purani yaad ek yaad hai, poore parivaar ki poori kahani nahi.

Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: school ke gate se guzarte hue ehsaas ko chupchaap naam dena, maa-baap ki call ko aaj ki call ki tarah lena, ya kisi aise dost ke saath shaam jo kahani jaanta hai.

Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne laayak hai. Aage, dekhiye ki is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.

Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Try karne ki chhoti cheezein

Try karne ke liye kuch

Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #

Jab ab koi maa-baap phone karein, dekhiye jawab aaj ki call ka hai ya purani ka
Kisi aur ke bade mauke par dekhiye pehla ehsaas kaun-sa aata hai
Aaj ki ek chhoti chaah dekhiye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Dekhiye iska kaun-sa hissa tab ka hai, aur kaun-sa ab ka
Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: tab mujh tak kya pahuncha tha, thoda bhi?

Chhoti, nijee aur sab apni marzi ki. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.

Ek sawaal chuniye

Baat kijiye #

Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.

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