“boss ko meri raay poochhni chahiye” par log aksar kya karte hain?

Pehle se mudda taiyaar karna aur phir bolne ka mauka hi na milna. Idea meeting mein kehne ki jagah akele mein message kar dena. Poochhe jaane ka intezaar karna, aur chuppi ko jawab maan lena. Idea tukdon mein rakhna aur har baar asar parakhna. Idea chhod dena aur khud se kehna “khaas toh tha nahi”.

Agle 3 din kya try kiya ja sakta hai?

Aaj ke ek achhe idea ke baare mein sochiye. Dekhiye kab aapka idea istemaal hua, chahe aapke naam ke bina. Agli meeting mein ek chhota idea rakh dijiye.

“boss ko meri raay poochhni chahiye”: kyun bhaari lagta hai

Andar

Andar kya chal raha hai #

Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.

Poochha jaana apnepan ki baat bhi karta hai: ki faisle banane mein aapki bhi jagah hai.
Kuch logon mein ye school se shuru hua, jahan Hindi ki teacher ne mudkar kaha “Tum batao,” aur poori class ne suna.
Neeche koi niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Achha boss team se poochhta hai,” ya “Kaam ki baat hogi toh koi khud bulayega.”

Reactions

Log aksar kya karte hain #

Pehle se mudda taiyaar karna aur phir bolne ka mauka hi na milna
Idea meeting mein kehne ki jagah akele mein message kar dena
Poochhe jaane ka intezaar karna, aur chuppi ko jawab maan lena
Idea tukdon mein rakhna aur har baar asar parakhna
Idea chhod dena aur khud se kehna “khaas toh tha nahi”

Deck

6 cards mein poori kahani #

Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.

Wo meeting jisme kisi ne nahi poochha
Jaipur ke Malviya Nagar ka office. Team meeting naye process par hai, wahi jise aap bheetar tak jaante ho. Manager plan samjhate hain, seniors ke do sawaal lete hain aur meeting khatam kar dete hain. Aapse kisi ne nahi poochha. Diary mein teen achhe mudde taiyaar the. Aap use dheere se band karte ho, sir hilate ho aur mudde tah kiye hue apni seat tak laut aate ho.
Izzat yaani raay poochhi jaana
Neeche ek niyam hai: “Agar boss meri izzat karte, toh poochhte ki meri kya raay hai.” Ye vaajib lagta hai. Aap jaante bhi toh ho. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke idea ko gine jaane ke liye bulawe ka intezaar karwata hai. Aapki soch matlab rakhti hai ya nahi, wo us par tik jaata hai ki hadbadi wali meeting mein, das aur baaton ke beech, boss kiski taraf mude.
Poochha jaana matlab rakhne jaisa kyun
Hum ye niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki poochha jaana gambhirta se liye jaane jaisa lagta hai. Shayad school mein kisi teacher ne class ke saamne “Tum batao” kaha tha, aur achanak bada-bada laga. Shayad ghar mein bade sab tay karte the aur aapne socha ki office alag hoga. Poochhe jaane ki chaah ghamand nahi hai. Wo chahti hai ki aapke dimaag ko gina jaye. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har chup meeting kya le jaati hai
Sawaal ke bina har meeting aapse thoda kuch le jaati hai. Aap idea taiyaar karna chhod dete ho, ki kya fayda. Chup baithte ho, phir chup rehne par khud ko andekha-sa paate ho. Lautte hue ginte ho ki kisse poochha gaya aur kisse nahi. Aapki achhi soch tabhi asli lagti hai jab koi aur bulaye, aur jis kaam ki aapko parwah thi, wo chhota lagne lagta hai.
Kya poochhe jaane ka intezaar layak hai?
Imaandaari se poochhiye: kya poochhe jaane ka intezaar karne se kabhi sawaal aaya hai? Ya zyada-tar achhe idea ankahe rahe aur shaamein bechain? Ho sakta hai manager jo pehle bole usi se poochhte hon, ya unhe andaza hi na ho ki aap kitna jaante ho. Jo bhi ho, ek meeting mein na poochha jaana aapki soch ki keemat ka paimana nahi hai. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko jitna deta hai, usse zyada leta hai.
Poochhe jaane se pehle aapke idea
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap chahna band kar do ki aapki raay gini jaye. Matlab ye ki aapke idea ko asli hone ke liye bulawa nahi chahiye. Aap apni soch ki qadar kisi ke poochhne se pehle bhi kar sakte ho, aur jab wo kaam aaye toh dekh sakte ho. Poochha jaana, jab aaye, inaam jaisa ban jaata hai, faisla nahi. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: aapki soch aapki hai, poochhi jaye ya nahi.
Threats, shouting, harassment, humiliation, being singled out for who you are, pay or papers held back, or being frightened at work, are something else, and worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.

Palat

Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #

Purana ruleAgar wo meri izzat karte, toh meri raay poochhte.

Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere idea poochhe jaane se pehle bhi asli hain.

Teen chhote din

3 din try kijiye #

Din 1
Aaj ke ek achhe idea ke baare mein sochiye
Din 2
Dekhiye kab aapka idea istemaal hua, chahe aapke naam ke bina
Din 3
Agli meeting mein ek chhota idea rakh dijiye

Is par baat karni hai?

“Aakhri baar kisne aapse poochha ki aap kya sochte ho aur sach mein suna?”

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Dr. Thoughts ke saath baat kijiye

Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai

Aur gehraai mein #

Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.

Yeh kaisa lagta hai

Kya kaha gaya

Diary mein tah kiya hua idea #

“Boss ko meri raay poochhni chahiye.” Ye khayal us meeting mein aata hai jisme baat table par ek-ek karke ghoomti hai aur aapke paas se guzar jaati hai. Ya jab diary mein tah kiya hua idea pada ho. Ya jab aisa faisla sunaya jaye jis par aapki raay thi, aur kisi ne poochha nahi.

Kuch logon ki chaah hoti hai ki wo sirf kaam karne wale haath na hon, sochne mein bhi shaamil hon: ek aisa insaan jiski raay bulayi jaati hai, aur jiske haathon ke saath dimaag bhi gina jaata hai.

Koi aisa waqt yaad kijiye jab aapse poochha gaya ki aap kya sochte ho aur usse nateeje par fark pada.

Jawab dena kaisa laga tha?Is par baat kijiye ›

Pehle kuch pal

Baat jab aapke paas se nikal jaye #

Kuch log thehri hui saans feel karte hain jab charcha ek se doosre ke paas jaati hai aur un tak nahi pahunchti, phir vishay badalte hi halka-sa baith jaana. Sharir us sawaal ka intezaar karta hai jo aata hi nahi.

Pehli harkat aksar sharir ki hoti hai: uthaya aur rakh diya gaya pen, munh mein adhbana vaakya, kandhon ka dheere se dheela padna. “Aisa kyun hua” wale khayal meeting khatam hone ke baad aate hain.

Pichhli meeting mein jahan aapki raay thi aur kisi ne poochha nahi, aapke sharir ne sabse pehle kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kyun lagta hai

Raay, jo jagah chahti hai #

Ye chaah bewajah nahi hai. Jo insaan kisi kaam ko haath se karta hai, wo uski baariqiyan aksar sabse achhi jaanta hai, aur us jaankari ko maanga jaana ye batata hai ki kaam ko samjha ja raha hai.

Poochha jaana apnepan ki baat bhi karta hai: ki faisle banane mein aapki bhi jagah hai. Jab bulawa nahi aata, tab achha idea bhi be-thikana lagne lagta hai.

Aapke kaam ke baare mein aisa kya hai jo aapko lagta hai ki faisla karne wale sunna chahenge, aur wo hi kyun?Is par baat kijiye ›

Andar ki awaaz

Bulawe ka intezaar karne wali awaaz #

“Poochhna hota toh poochh lete.” “Socha, keh doon kya, phir rehne diya.” “Idea toh achha tha, yaar.” Ye awaaz meeting uthne se theek pehle bolti hai, jab mauka haath se nikalne ko hota hai.

Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki isme do alag chaahein hain: bulaye jaane ki ichchha, aur khud aage badhkar ghusne ki jhijhak. Inke beech idea diary mein hi reh jaata hai.

Jab ye awaaz bulawe ka intezaar karti hai, toh aam taur par kitni der, aur tab tak idea ka kya hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kahan se aata hai

Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai

Jahan pehli baar poochha jaana matlab rakha #

Kuch logon mein ye school se shuru hua, jahan Hindi ki teacher ne mudkar kaha “Tum batao,” aur poori class ne suna. Charcha mein bulaya jaana ye tay kar sakta hai ki shaamil hona kaisa lagta hai.

Kuch mein ye ghar ki dining table se aaya, jahan bade baat karte the aur chhote sunte the, “Badon ke beech bachche nahi bolte,” aur mann mein thaan li ki apni baari alag hogi. Kuch ise isi tarah jodte hain; kuch ko koi ek wajah nahi dikhti.

Aapse sabse pehle kisne poochha ki aap kya sochte ho, aur jawab ko sach mein suna?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iske neeche ki maanyata

Poochhe jaane wala niyam #

Neeche koi niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Achha boss team se poochhta hai,” ya “Kaam ki baat hogi toh koi khud bulayega.” Upar ka vaakya sunna aasaan hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki kab bola jaye aur kab ruka jaye.

Aisa niyam aksar wahan se aata hai jahan bulana aadat thi, jaise koi achha teacher ya pehli job ka khula mahaul. Ye seekha hua samajhdaar niyam hai, aur ise isi boss aur isi team ke saath rakhkar dekha ja sakta hai.

Ye niyam aapki meetings mein kahan fit baithta hai, aur kahan idea bina kisi bulawe ke bhi andar chale jaate hain?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iski kya keemat hai

Bina poochhi raay kya chheen sakti hai #

Iska matlab ho sakta hai diary mein band achhe idea, adhoori jaankari par liya gaya faisla, meeting ke aakhir mein halki-si pheeki bhaavna, ya intezaar ki aadat jo har hafte bhaari hoti jaye.

Ye kaam ka matlab bhi badal sakta hai. Agar sochna kahin aur ho raha hai, toh kaam saajhi samasya nahi, hukm jaise lagne lagte hain, aur unmein dilchaspi ghat sakti hai.

Pichhle chhe mahino mein kaun sa idea aapne rok liya jo ab bhi yaad aata hai, aur aaj uske saath aap kya karte?Is par baat kijiye ›

Agar yeh aisa hi rahe

Tah kiye idea ke paanch saal aur #

Ek aam budhwar lijiye, wo din jab “Boss ko meri raay poochhni chahiye” zor se sunayi de.

Shayad charcha jo table par ghoom gayi, mann mein dohraya gaya mudda, baad mein sunaya gaya faisla, tah karke rakh diya gaya panna.

Yahan suljhane ko kuch nahi; tasveer jab chahein kinare rakhi ja sakti hai.

Usme kya hai: planning meeting, diary mein rakha idea, aage badh gaya vishay, aur wo shaam jo us par beeti jo kaha ja sakta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›

Us din kya ho jaata hai, aur kya kinare reh jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Use dekhkar aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka

Raay alag-alag raaston se pahunchti hai #

Raay kisi faisle tak kai shaklon mein pahunch sakti hai: meeting mein ek sawaal, chhota note, galiyare ki baat, ya draft. Kuch boss kamre mein poochhte hain, kuch padhna pasand karte hain, aur kuch chalte-chalte sunte hain.

Meetings chalti bhi alag-alag hain. Tez meeting sirf ek aadmi ki nahi, sabki baat par se guzar sakti hai, aur kisi kamre ki chuppi raftaar ho sakti hai, raay nahi.

Agar aapki raay ko faisle tak pahunchne ka ek apne layak raasta chunna ho, toh kaun sa chunenge?Is par baat kijiye ›

Jo pehle se hai

Jo pehle se maujood hai #

Jis bulawe ki chaah thi, uske saath gaur karein toh wo bhi dikh sakta hai jo kaam pehle se de raha hai: jab aapka idea uthaya gaya, koi colleague jisne aapki raay maangi, wo kaam jisme aapki samajh chali, ek plan jis par aapki chhaap hai.

Inhe dekhne se bina poochhe jaane ki baat sahi nahi ho jaati, aur poochhe jaane ki chaah jaayaz hi rehti hai. Ek hafte mein sune jaane ka pal aur andekha reh jaane ka pal dono ho sakte hain, aur kisi ko jhuthlana nahi padta.

Ek aam hafte mein is job ne, ya isme kisi ne, aapko pehle se kya diya hai jise aap aur saaf dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›

Sulah

Raay rakhna, intezaar dheela karna #

Yahan sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki chaah bahut zyada thi, ya bilkul sahi. Matlab ye ki poochhe jaane ka intezaar har meeting nahi chalata. Chaah mein jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai, aur pakad dheeli ho sakti hai.

Kuch aur tab shuru hota hai jab boss, client ya koi colleague dhamkaye, pareshaan kare, beizzat kare, ya aap jo hain uski wajah se alag nishana banaye (gender, jaati, dharm, rang, umar, koi disability ya aap kahan se aaye hain).

Aise hi bina tankhwah ka kaam, roki gayi tankhwah ya kaagzaat, jokhim bhara kaam, aur darr. Ise gambhirta se lena theek hai, aur saath chalna ya saavdhan rehna surakshit chunaav ho sakta hai.

Office mein buniyadi izzat aur suraksha “zyada ummeed” kabhi nahi, aapke liye bhi aur aaspaas ke logon ke liye bhi.

Is chaah se sulah wali ek meeting sochiye: apni diary wale idea ka aap kya karoge?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ek zyada sachcha vaakya

Diary ke liye ek line #

“Boss ko meri raay poochhni chahiye” se bahas karne ki jagah kuch log aisi line aazmate hain: “Mujhe chaah thi ki poochha jaye, aur meri raay ki apni shakl hai.” Ye purani line ke bagal mein reh sakti hai.

Aisi line shuru mein udhaar ki lag sakti hai, phir jaani-pehchani. Kuch logon par ye kabhi fit nahi baithti, aur kisi aur din koi doosri aazmayi ja sakti hai.

Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo chaah ko thaame, aur jise bulawe ki zaroorat na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›

Kya rehne dein

Kuch hissa diary mein reh sakta hai #

Har bina poochhe idea ko aaj raat nikaas chahiye, aisa nahi. Kuch hissa dekha ja sakta hai, ek minute feel kiya ja sakta hai aur rakha ja sakta hai, jaise diary ka tah kiya hua panna kisi aur din ke liye.

Poochhe jaane ki chaah nijee reh sakti hai aur phir bhi sachchi rehti hai. Office mein boss ya kisi aur ke haathon pareshaan kiya jaana, beizzat hona ya darna kuch aur baat hai, aur gambhirta se lene layak hai.

Aaj shaam ise rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki ye sahi tha, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki kaamkaaj ka poora din ghar tak na aaye.

Agar yeh dheela pade

Aur agar intezaar zara dheela ho #

Sirf ek pal ko sochiye ki chaah ek darja shaant hai. Wo ab bhi hai. Aap meeting mein baithte ho, aur baad mein idea ko apne liye ek saaf line mein likh lete ho.

Kuch log chhoti cheezein sochte hain: diary ka ek panna jo bas idea ke maze ke liye rakha gaya, meeting jise dobara chalaye bina chhod diya gaya, office ke baad ki sair jisme khayal apna hi raha.

Isme se kuch kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Aage: is chaah se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur kya pehle se maujood hai.

Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Try karne ki chhoti cheezein

Try karne ke liye kuch

Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #

Dekhiye ki idea hai, aur aapka hai, chahe kisi ne poochha ho ya nahi
Chupchaap idea ki wo ek line tay kijiye jo sabse zaroori hai
Dekhiye awaaz kab intezaar shuru karti hai, aur kitni der tikti hai
Sochiye ki meeting mein idea ek vaakya mein kaha ja raha hai
Apne kaam ka ek hissa chuniye jahan aapki samajh hi aguwayi karti hai

Nijee, mann hi mann aur apni marzi ke. Jo ho sake, aazmaiye.

Ek sawaal chuniye

Baat kijiye #

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