Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Wo ek ghera kheench deta hai, aur naye aadmi ko lagta hai ki use yaad dilaya ja raha hai ki wo abhi ghere ke kis taraf hai, bhale hi kisi ne aisa kaha na ho.
Kuch log isi mein bade hue ki lakeer par chalne par shabaashi mili, aur apne dhang se karne par aah, chahe nateeja kitna bhi achha ho.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Yahan theek rehne ke liye mujhe sabke jaisa hona hoga,” ya “Jab tak wo dekh rahe hain, galti na karna hi achha.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Nateeja chahe jo ho, fauran purane tareeke par laut jaana
- Kuch bhi badalne se pehle teen logon se poochh lena
- Badlaav ko lamba samjhana, aur phir lagna ki zyada ho gaya
- Kuch dinon ke liye meeting mein naye idea dena band kar dena
- Ghar ke raaste mein wahi pal dohrana ki kaisa laga hoga
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Doosre hafte mein aapka idea
Jalandhar ki ek khel-saamaan factory mein aapka doosra hafta. Meeting mein aap order register ki jagah ek seedhi si sheet sujhate ho, jo pichhli company mein achhi chali thi. Ek senior patli si muskaan ke saath kehte hain, “Yahan aise nahi chalta.” Kamra aage badh jaata hai. Aap peeche tikkar baith jaate ho, chehra garam, aur phir se school ke naye bachche jaisa mehsoos hota hai.
Achha idea haathon-haath apnaya jaye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Achha idea hai toh logon ko haathon-haath apnana chahiye.” Ye nyaaysangat lagta hai, bahut log bina soche aise hi chalte hain. Achhe idea sabke kaam aate hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har na ko aapke nakare jaane jaisa bana deta hai. Meeting ka ek taal-matol saboot ban jaata hai ki aap yahan fit nahi, aur aap sochne lagte ho ki kuch bataayein bhi ya nahi.
Hum tajurbe ki qadar kyun chahte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki chahte hain ki hamara tajurba gina jaye. Bahut se log is niyam ka koi roop saath lekar bade hote hain, aur us waqt ye theek bhi tha. Shayad pehle naye idea ke liye qadar milti thi. Shayad aap kuch badalne ki ummeed se aaye the. Jo bhi ho, idea apnaye jaane ki chaah ghamand nahi hai. Wo yogdaan dene ki chaah se aati hai. Use narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Meeting mein dheere-dheere chup hona
Har taal-matol aapko thoda aur chup kar deta hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Dheere-dheere sab judta jaata hai. Meeting mein idea rok lete ho. Baahri jaisa lagta hai. Ghar lautte hue wo pal dohrate ho. Nayi job ka jo josh saath laaye the, wo feeka padne lagta hai, aur sawaal uthta hai ki sahi faisla liya bhi tha ya nahi.
Haathon-haath qadar ki chaah, keemat layak?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: is niyam ko pakde rakhne se kya kabhi log zyada khule? Ya zyadatar aapko bahar kar diye jaane jaisa laga? Nayi jagahein aksar kuch waqt apni aadatein bachaye rakhti hain, aur naye aadmi ke idea ko tikne mein waqt lag sakta hai. Jo bhi ho, ek taal-matol aapke idea ka paimana nahi, aapka bhi nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iski keemat ke layak hai?
Idea jinhe tikne mein waqt lagta hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki idea aana band ho jaye. Matlab ye ki meeting ki ek na ab tay nahi karti ki aap yahan ke ho ya nahi. Aap samajh sakte ho ki yahan kaam kaise chalta hai, aur baad mein, jab baat zyada jam sake, phir rakh sakte ho. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin se chain lautta hai: aapka tajurba aapka rehta hai, aur team mein aapki jagah badh sakti hai.
Being harassed, humiliated or frightened at work, or singled out for who you are, is something else, and worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleAchha idea hai toh logon ko haathon-haath apnana chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleAchhe idea ko tikne mein waqt lagta hai. Intezaar kiya ja sakta hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Apne aap se kahiye ki aap is kaam mein kya lekar aaye ho
- Din 2
Is hafte yahan ka ek taur-tareeka seekh lijiye
- Din 3
Ek idea kisi behtar mauke ke liye rakh lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Tippani aane se pehle aapne khud kya soch nikala tha, jis par andar hi andar garv tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Teesre hafte mein, ek naya tareeka #
Jalandhar mein khel ka saamaan banane wali factory ka office, aapka teesra hafta. Order register ki jagah aapne ek seedhi si Excel sheet banayi, aur partition ke us paar se senior ki awaaz aati hai: “Yahan aise nahi chalta. Hamesha se aise hi hota aaya hai.” Na sheet dekhi gayi, na kisi ne kuch poochha.
Ye aksar kaam dekhe bina keh diya jaata hai. Shabd nateeje ke baare mein nahi, tareeke ke baare mein hain, aur jo abhi naya hai, use ye kaam par tippani se zyada is baat ka faisla lagta hai ki wo yahan tikega ya nahi.
Aakhri baar ye ya isse milti-julti baat kab suni?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapne kya karke dikhaya tha, aur aap chahte the ki koi usmein kya notice kare?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Achanak phir se naye ban jaane wala pal #
Kisi ko lagta hai jaise achanak chhota ho gaya, jaise pehle din class mein naye bachche ko khada kar diya gaya ho. Gaal garam, mouse ka teer sheet par thehra hua, aur mann karta hai ki badlaav kisi ke dekhne se pehle mita diya jaye.
Nayi jagah par log waise bhi chaukanne rehte hain ki yahan ka taur-tareeka kya hai, toh chhoti si tok bhi badi lagne lagti hai. Uska asli aakaar aksar ghar lautte hue auto mein samajh aata hai.
In shabdon ke baad ke pal mein aapke andar kya hua: sikudna, garmi, ya sab mita dene ki ichha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur ye is baare mein kya batata hai ki aap is nayi jagah ko kitna chalana chahte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Tareeke par ungli, kaam gaayab #
“Ye format party ke system mein nahi khulega” kaam ke baare mein hai. “Yahan aise nahi chalta” tareeke ke baare mein hai, aur ye nahi batata ki purana tareeka kis cheez ko bachata hai, toh sunne wala andaza lagata reh jaata hai ki gadbad sheet mein hai ya khud usmein.
“Yahan” shabd bhi bahut kuch karta hai. Wo ek ghera kheench deta hai, aur naye aadmi ko lagta hai ki use yaad dilaya ja raha hai ki wo abhi ghere ke kis taraf hai, bhale hi kisi ne aisa kaha na ho.
Agar tippani mein bataya jaata ki purana tareeka kisliye hai, toh aap kya seekhte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur jahan tak aap dekh paaye, aapke tareeke mein kya sahi tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab riwaaj ki kitaab dimaag mein aa baithe #
Kuch baar sun lo toh ek awaaz andar aa jaati hai: “Jo chal raha hai, chalne de.” “Naya hai, toh naya banke cheezein mat badal.” “Saal bhar baad raay banana.” Niyam kisi ke bolne se pehle hi chalne lagta hai.
Tok ek pal ki thi, par jaanch hafton chal sakti hai, andar hi andar: behtar idea baad ke liye rakh diya, chhota raasta chhod diya, sawaal poochha nahi. Ye tameez jaisa lagta hai, aur bas ram jaane jaisa bhi.
Jab ye purane tareeke par tike rehne ko kehta hai, toh kiski awaaz mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Is office ki, ya kisi purani cheez ki jise ye office bas jaga gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch ke liye pehle dhalna tha, phir aazmana #
“Jaisa bade bhaiya ne kiya, waisa kar.” “Tujhe hamesha alag kyun karna hota hai?” Kuch log isi mein bade hue ki lakeer par chalne par shabaashi mili, aur apne dhang se karne par aah, chahe nateeja kitna bhi achha ho.
Kuch ko school mein ye mila, jahan sahi tareeka sahi jawab se zyada matlab rakhta tha, ya pehli job mein, jahan niyam the par koi samjhata nahi tha. Seekh ye reh sakti hai ki naya tareeka tab tak jokhim hai jab tak koi bada haami na bhar de.
Apne dhang se karne se pehle dekh lena ki aam taur par kaise hota hai, ye kab seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kisne sikhaya, aur jab nahi dekha tab kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Nayi jagah par baitha ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Yahan theek rehne ke liye mujhe sabke jaisa hona hoga,” ya “Jab tak wo dekh rahe hain, galti na karna hi achha.” Ek dheema roop: “Mera tareeka tabhi gina jayega jab maine jagah kama li ho.”
Aise niyam maanyata jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo samajhdaar naye aadmi jaisa bartaav lagte hain, isiliye naye mahino ke baad bhi tike rehte hain. Kuch ise bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi; dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Agar ye niyam naye karmchaariyon ki file mein chhapa hota, toh hu-ba-hu kya likha hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ye kin jagahon par ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kin par nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Purane tareeke ki naqal ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai mahino tak dheema raasta chalate rehna kyunki use tokna jaldi laga, pichhli job ka koi hunar bekaar pada rehna, ya meeting mein ek kaam ki baat andar hi rakh lena. Kuch log tajurba laana tab chhod dete hain jab tay bhi nahi hua ki wo chahiye ya nahi.
Ek chupchaap keemat bhi hai. Nayi job mein hi sabse taaza soch aati hai, aur agar har badlaav ko wahi line mile, toh ye khidki bina kisi ke band kiye band ho sakti hai. Saal bhar mein naya aadmi bina chahe zaroorat se zyada saavdhaan ban sakta hai.
Kamzori ki wajah se nahi: kisi nayi jagah ke qaayde seekhne mein sach mein mehnat lagti hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein iski keemat kya rahi: koi shortcut, koi hunar, koi idea jise mauka mil sakta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, purane template par #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “mera tareeka tabhi gina jayega jab maine jagah kama li ho” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad ek report jo lambe raaste se bani kyunki chhota raasta kabhi toka gaya tha, pichhli job ka koi hunar jis par dhool jam rahi hai, kisi naye saathi ko wahi line mil rahi, meeting ka ek khayal jo khayal hi raha. Kuch jaana-pehchaana lage, kuch bilkul nahi.
Abhi inmein se kisi ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer kabhi bhi rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: template, meetings, baad ke liye rakhe idea?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhne par, agar kuch, toh aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Hum kaise karte hain, aur kyun karte hain #
Har office ki apni aadatein hoti hain, aur kuch mein sachcha tajurba chhipa hota hai: koi party jo khaas format maangti hai, koi audit, koi purani galti jo koi dohrana nahi chahta. Kuch bas waise hain jaise pehle karne wale ne kar diye. Bahar se dono ek-se dikhte hain.
Jaana-pehchaana tareeka kisi bhi samooh ko naye se zyada surakshit lagta hai, tulna hone se pehle hi. Ye samoohon ke aadaton mein ram jaane ke baare mein kuch batata hai; ye tay nahi karta ki naya tareeka behtar tha ya nahi.
Ek aur taraf se: agar kisi naye aadmi ko purana tareeka samjhana aapka kaam hota, toh aap chahte ki wo uske baare mein kya samjhe, agar aapko wajah maloom hoti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log us pal ko dobara dekhte hain, toh tareeke par ki gayi tippani aur ‘tum yahan ke nahi ho’ wale ehsaas ko alag-alag karte hain. Pehla kaha gaya tha.
Kabhi dekhne par pata chalta hai ki purane tareeke ki koi wajah thi jo bas batayi nahi gayi. Kabhi koi wajah nahi nikalti, bas aadat. Aur kabhi wahi badlaav mahino baad apna liya jaata hai. Har baat jagah ke baare mein kuch alag batati hai.
Doosre ka kitna hissa shabdon se aaya, aur kitna naye hone se?Is par baat kijiye ›
Purana tareeka kyun hai, usmein se ab aap kya jaante ho, aur kya ab bhi andaza hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapke mann mein kaun zyada zor se bola hai: jo jaante ho, ya jo andaza hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Hafte bhar mein saabit karna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab behtar tareeke chhod dena nahi, na ye dikhana ki tippani chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek saathi ki ek line ko is par kam haq mile ki aap kaam mein apna kitna hissa laayein.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab ve shuruaati mahino ko dekhne-samajhne ka waqt maante hain, idea mann mein rakhte hain, aur har tareeka usi pal jeetne ki koshish nahi karte. Kuch teams kisi ka bhi naya tareeka nahi taulti; wo team ki baat hai, aur kisi ko baar-baar aazmana zaroori nahi.
Kaisa lagega agar purana tareeka seekh lein, aur ye maane bina ki apna tareeka galat tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Apne tajurbe ka kaun sa hissa aap sabse zyada bachakar rakhna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Naye aane wale ke liye ek sachcha sentence #
Agar pehle hafte se “mujhse phir galat ho raha hai” chal raha hai, toh usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log ek saada sentence taiyaar rakhte hain: “Inka tareeka seekhna jaari hai, aur mera tareeka bhi gina jaata hai.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye aazmane ki line hai, aur kuch log ise purana template bharte hue mann mein dohrate hain, aur paate hain ki jo wo pehle se jaante hain uske liye thodi jagah khuli rehti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha sentence kya hoga, jo nayi jagah ki izzat kare, aur jo aap saath laaye, use chhota kiye bina?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch tokein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “yahan aise nahi chalta” ko safai, maafi ya ab kabhi kuch na aazmane ki qasam nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, mez par ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur din ke aakhir mein ID card ke saath neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki energy kahan jaaye, aur kuch log kehte hain isse kaam seekhne ke liye, un saathiyon ke liye jinke paas baithna aasaan hai, aur zindagi ke un hisson ke liye jagah bachti hai jo kisi template se door hain.
Shaam ke liye neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi, ya nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo bag mein ghar saath nahi aayegi, na kal subah office mein sabse pehle milegi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam zara dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya. Jagah ke apne taur-tareeke ab bhi hain, unhe seekhna kaam ka hissa hai, aur jo aap saath laaye uske liye jagah hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: apne draft par koi shortcut aazmana, chhutti ke din apna purana hunar kisi project mein barat-na, ya khane ki mez par kisi dost ka poora idea sun lena.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, toh baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya halka sa alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti, private cheezein aazmane ko #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi hamare-yahan-nahi-chalta wali line”
- Chupchaap poochhiye ki purana tareeka shayad kis cheez ko bacha raha hai, agar bacha raha hai
- Gaur kijiye ki aapke tareeke ka kaun sa hissa aapko ab bhi theek lagta hai
- Pichhli job ya course ka koi ek hunar sochiye jise aap barat-te rehna chahoge
- Aaj ki ek chhoti cheez par gaur kijiye jo aap aazmana chahte the, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote aur private. Jo aasaan lage wo aazmaiye, ya kuch nahi.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Tippani aane se pehle aapne khud kya soch nikala tha, jis par andar hi andar garv tha?
- Pichhli job ya class ka kaun sa aadmi aapke tareeke ko saraahta?
- Us pal “yahan” ka aapke liye kya matlab tha, aur aap kis taraf mehsoos kar rahe the?
- Jis aam din sabke-jaise-bano wala niyam zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar wo niyam zara dheela ho, toh office mein sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?