Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ghar mein kisi dost ka swagat aapke baare mein bhi kuch kehta hai.
Kuch logon mein ye us ghar se shuru hui jiska darwaza hamesha khula rehta tha: choolhe par chadha bartan, har dost ke liye ek bistar, ek chachi jinhe sabke naam yaad the.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Gharwale mujhse pyaar karte hain to jinse mujhe pyaar hai, unse bhi karenge,” ya “Achha ghar wo hai jahan har koi sahaj mehsoos kare.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Doston se ghar ke bahar milna, taaki dono duniya alag rahein
- Aane se pehle gharwalon ko dost ke baare mein lamba byora de dena
- Poori mulaqat mein aaspaas mandrana, har pal beech mein koodne ko taiyaar
- Doston se ghar ki kam, ghar par doston ki kam baat karna
- Har baar ummeed karna ki is baar wali mulaqat achhi jayegi
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Wo dost jisse maa-baap kam bole
Sunday ka lunch, Jaipur, Malviya Nagar ka flat. Aapke bulane par office ki dost khane par aayi hai, aur aap utsaah mein hain ki gharwalon se milwayein. Mummy adab se hain par chup. Papa do sawaal poochh kar cricket laga dete hain. Usse zyada kuch nahi poochha gaya. Dost bahut pyaar se sabka shukriya karti hai. Par bus-stop tak jaate hue aapko sharm aur halki chot mehsoos hoti hai, jaise dono duniya poori mili nahi.
Gharwale doston ka swagat karein
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Gharwalon ko mere doston ka dil se swagat karna chahiye.” Ye seedhi mehmaannawazi jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: logon ko ghar laane mein aapki sahajta us par tika deta hai ki ghar anjaanon se kaise pesh aata hai. Aapki zindagi baant paane ka ehsaas ab ek aise parivar par nirbhar hai jo sharmila, aadaton mein pakka, ya naye chehron se anjaan ho sakta hai.
Dost hamara hissa kyun hain
Hum ye niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki dost hamara hissa hain, aur hum chahte hain ki unhe apnaya jaye. Shayad aapka bachpan aise ghar mein beeta jahan mehmaan ki khoob khaatir hoti thi, aur ab waisi hi aas hai. Shayad aapko aise dost mile jo apne-se lagte hain, aur chahte hain ki dono daayre ek-doosre ko chahein. Achhe swagat ki chaahat zyada nahi, aur use narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Ghar bulana kam hota jaana
Har thanda swagat ghar bulane ki aadat thodi kam kar deta hai. Aap doston aur gharwalon ko alag rakhne lagte ho. Aane se pehle hi gharwalon ki taraf se maafi maang lete ho. Jin do duniyaon se pyaar hai, unke beech khinche rehte ho, kisi mein poori tarah sahaj nahi. Dheere-dheere zindagi do hisson mein banti lagti hai, aur jinki parwah hai unhe ek kamre mein paane ki seedhi khushi chali jaati hai.
Kya perfect swagat itna zaroori hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya ye zaroorat ki wo swagat karein, agli mulaqat ko kabhi aasaan bana payi? Ya zyadatar ghabrahat hi badhi? Kai parivar dikhne se zyada garm hote hain, bas naye chehron se sharmate hain. Jo bhi ho, unka tareeka aapke doston ki keemat ya aapke ghar ke pyaar ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kas kar pakadna jitna deta hai, usse zyada leta hai.
Dheere-dheere milti do duniya
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap ummeed chhod dein ki dono duniya garmjoshi se milengi. Matlab ye ki aapka chain ab kisi ek shaam mein gharwalon ke bartaav par tika nahi. Aap doston aur gharwalon ko unke apne dhang se chah sakte ho, aur unhe dheere-dheere, apni raftaar se milne de sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: dono ko chahna theek hai, dono ke aapas mein chahne ki jaldi ke bina.
Being threatened, hurt or frightened, watched, kept in or kept from people, having money used to control you, or being pressured to change who you are is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleGharwalon ko mere doston ka dil se swagat karna chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri dono duniya apne dhang se, dheere-dheere mil sakti hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is hafte kisi dost ke saath waqt bitaiye, bas aap dono
- Kadam 2
Yaad kijiye mehmaan aane par gharwalon ki ek chhoti garm baat
- Kadam 3
Agli baar chhoti, aasaan mulaqat aur saada khana tay kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aise dost ke baare mein bataiye jiska aapke ghar mein achha swagat hua. Darwaze par kya hua tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Darwaze par kahi jaane wali baat #
“Gharwalon ko mere doston ko apnapan mehsoos karana chahiye.” Ye baat tab aa sakti hai jab dost ghanti bajane hi wala ho, khane ki mez par baatcheet thodi thandi padne lage, ya mehmaan ke jaane ke baad koi uske baare mein kuch aisa keh de jo chubh jaye.
Chaahat aksar seedhi si hoti hai. Aapko ye log pasand hain, aur aap chahte hain ki jinhone aapko bada kiya, wo bhi inhe pasand karein, ya kam se kam garmjoshi se milein. Matlab ye ki zindagi ke do hisse bina kisi thandak ke mil jayein.
Ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya tha, aur abhi-abhi kaun andar aaya ya bahar gaya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Chaukhat par wo ek pal #
Kuch log dost ke aane se pehle hi galiyare par nazar daudane lagte hain: joote sahi jagah par hain ya nahi, TV ki awaaz kam kar di, ghar mein kaun-kaun hai. Kandhe thode chadh jaate hain, ki abhi samjhana pade, baat sambhalni pade ya bachana pade.
Kuch ko kisi ki uthi bhauh ya bahut zyada adab se poochhe gaye “aur aapka kaam kya hai?” par ek jhurjhuri mehsoos hoti hai, chehra garam hota hai, jisme aadha dost ki fikr hai aur aadha is sharm ki sharm. Ye dono kuch kahe jaane se pehle aa jaate hain.
Aakhri baar jab koi dost ghar aaya, to parichay se theek pehle ke us ek minute mein aapke sharir ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Do duniyaon ka milna badi baat hai #
Is ummeed mein sachchi samajh hai. Dost aksar wo log hote hain jinhe aapne khud chuna, aur gharwale wo jinke saath shuruaat hui. Dono ke beech ban jaye, ye chahna poore apne hone ki chaahat jaisa lag sakta hai, aadhe-aadhe ki nahi.
Ghar mein kisi dost ka swagat aapke baare mein bhi kuch kehta hai. Garmjoshi bhara swagat aapki parakh par muhar jaisa lagta hai, aur thanda swagat aapki pasand par faisle jaisa, bhale hi gharwalon ka waisa koi irada na ho.
Agar aapke kisi dost ka swagat theek waise ho jaisa aapne chaha tha, to darwaze par sabse pehle kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo matlab samjhati rehti hai #
“Theek se namaste tak nahi ki.” “Normal kyun nahi reh sakte ye log?” “Mujhe pata tha, bulana hi nahi chahiye tha.” Ye awaaz aksar dost ke peeche darwaza band karte hue bolti hai, ya kisi aisi mulaqat ke baad ke minuton mein jo thodi akdi hui thi.
Isme purani baatein bhi ghuli ho sakti hain: kisi relative ne kabhi padosi ke doston ke baare mein kya kaha tha, ya “aajkal ke bachche” jaisa koi taana jo chupchaap nikal gaya tha. Kuch logon ko apni chaahat un purani tippaniyon mein uljhi milti hai.
Jab ye awaaz kehti hai ki gharwalon ko aur garm hona chahiye tha, to mulaqat ka kaun sa pal wo baar-baar dohraati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Swagat ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon mein ye us ghar se shuru hui jiska darwaza hamesha khula rehta tha: choolhe par chadha bartan, har dost ke liye ek bistar, ek chachi jinhe sabke naam yaad the. Aisa ghar mann mein baitha deta hai ki mehmaannawazi kaisi dikhni chahiye.
Kuch mein ye us ghar se bani jiske niyam zyada saavdhaan the: kaun aaye, kitni der ruke, kiske saamne kya kaha jaye. Kai parivaron mein doston se tab tak thodi doori rakhi jaati hai jab tak wo do-chaar baar dikh na jayein, aur wo bhi parwah ka apna tareeka hai.
Pehla dost kaun tha jise aap ghar laye the, aur ghar ne use kaise apnaya, isme aapko kya yaad hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Daayre ka ankaha niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Gharwale mujhse pyaar karte hain to jinse mujhe pyaar hai, unse bhi karenge,” ya “Achha ghar wo hai jahan har koi sahaj mehsoos kare.” Pehla sentence sunai deta hai; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki har thande namaste ka kya matlab nikla.
Aisa niyam kam hi jaankar chuna jaata hai. Aksar wo kisi dost ke ghar se ugta hai jahan bahut apnapan mila, ya apne ghar ko waisa banane ki chaah se. Isiliye ise us ghar ke baghal mein rakh kar dekhna theek hai jo aapke paas sachmuch hai.
Kuch log aisa niyam bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj kahan ye niyam baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Do alag duniyaon ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai cafe aur restaurant ki lambi list jahan doston se mila jaata hai, ghar ka wo roop jiska zikr hi nahi hota, aur birthday-tyohaar do jagah, do tarah ke logon ke saath do baar manana. Chupchaap, zyadatar, par hota hai.
Waqt ke saath dono ko alag rakhna apne aap mein mehnat lagne lagta hai, jaise darwaze par tarjuma karna. Kuch log notice karte hain ki jab koi bhi samooh doosre ko dekh nahi raha hota, tab wo sabse zyada sahaj hote hain, aur sochte hain ki ye kab se aisa hai.
Pichhle saal kis dost se aap sabse zyada chahte the ki gharwale milein, aur jab ye hua, ya nahi hua, tab kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Do alag daayron ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Friday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “gharwalon ko mere doston ka swagat karna chahiye” zor se baj rahi ho. Kuch theek nahi karna, bas ek drishya dekhna hai.
Shayad doston se cafe mein milna taaki unhe ghar aana hi na pade, aisa family khana jisme doston ka zikr nahi hota, kaun aa raha hai is par sambhal kar likha message, aur baad mein kisi dost ko bheja voice note.
Ye anumaan nahi, bas ek tasveer hai, aur jab chahein band ki ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: plan, messages, kaun kahan mil raha hai, ghar ke baare mein kya kaha jaata hai aur kya nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya bhara hai, aur kya ab bhi intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Friday ko dekh kar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Swagat, par kis bhasha mein? #
Parivar alag-alag tarah se swagat karte hain. Koi turant khana saamne rakh deta hai aur kam bolta hai; koi dher saare sawaal poochhta hai; koi sharmila hai aur rasoi mein rehta hai. Wahi garmjoshi doosre ghar ke insaan ko poochhtaachh ya thandepan jaisi lag sakti hai.
Isse aapki chaahat chhoti nahi hoti, aur wo thandak kuch nahi ban jaati. Bas ye poochhna kaam ka ho jaata hai ki aap asal mein kis tarah ka swagat chahte the: khana, naam yaad rakhna, baithne ki jagah, koi sawaal, ya darwaze par vida.
“Doston ka swagat” mein sabse zyada kis ek chhoti baat ka matlab aapke liye hai, aur aapke dost ke liye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Ghar mein pehle se kya maujood hai #
Jis swagat ki aapne aas lagayi, uske baghal mein kuch chhoti cheezein shayad pehle se ho rahi hain, us parivar ki apni bhasha mein: bina kahe dost ke liye rakhi gayi plate, ek hafte baad bhi dost ka naam yaad rakhne wala relative, ek maa-baap jo kahein “agli baar phir lana”.
Inse chaahat khatam nahi hoti, aur inke badle shukriya ka qarz bhi nahi banta. Ek hi ghar mein kami aur chhoti garmjoshi saath-saath sach ho sakti hain, aur doosri apne aap mein dekhne laayak hai.
Pichhli baar jab aapke ghar koi dost aaya, tab ghar mein kisi ne, chahe bahut chhota sa, aisa kya kiya jisse mulaqat thodi aasaan hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Band galiyare se sulah #
Is ummeed ko aaram dene ka matlab ye maan lena nahi ki itni aas zyada thi, ya gharwalon ko parwah nahi. Matlab ye ki aapne jis swagat ki tasveer banayi aur jo hua, unke beech ki doori har mulaqat ka mizaaj tay karna band kar de.
Jo yahan jaayaz hai, wo reh sakta hai: ki doston ke saath adab se pesh aaya jaye, ki aapki pasand ko seriously liya jaye. Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha zyada maangna kabhi nahi hoti, na aapke liye, na unke liye. Jo dheela pad sakta hai, wo hai sab kuch sambhalne ki mashakkat.
Doston se milne se roka jaana, ye tay kiya jaana ki kisse milein, nigrani ya peecha, dhamkiyan, paise se kaabu mein rakha jaana, khud ko badalne ka pressure, ya darr lagna, ye kuch aur baat hai aur ise seriously lena chahiye; wahan saath chalna ya saavdhaan rehna hi surakshit chunaav ho sakta hai.
Is chaahat se sulah wali ek mulaqat ki kalpana kijiye: darwaze par kaun hai, aur shaam aap kaise bitate hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Chaukhat ke liye ek vaakya #
“Gharwalon ko mere doston ka swagat karna chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah, kuch log aisa vaakya paas rakhte hain: “Ummeed hai wo mere doston se garmjoshi se milenge, aur meri dostiyan dono haal mein achhi hain.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas purane wale ke baghal mein khada rehna hai.
Naya vaakya shuru mein banawati lag sakta hai. Kuch ko lagta hai ki waqt ke saath wo naram pad jaata hai; kuch ko wo kabhi theek nahi baithta aur wo doosra aazmate hain. Dono mein se koi baat aazmane wale ke baare mein kuch nahi kehti.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo ummeed ke baare mein imaandaar bhi ho, aur aapki dostiyon ko aapka hi rehne de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch mulaqatein intezaar kar sakti hain #
Har dost ko isi mausam mein gharwalon se milna zaroori nahi. Kuch mulaqatein sochi ja sakti hain, kisi aur din ke liye chhodi ja sakti hain, aur abhi rakh di ja sakti hain, jaise khoonti par tangi doosri chaabi.
Kuch ghar jaldi nahi khulte, aur aaj use parakhne ki zaroorat nahi. Aapki dostiyan jab tak chahein nijee reh sakti hain, aur achhi phir bhi hain. Agar kabhi koi ye tay karne lage ki aap kisse milein, to wo kuch aur baat hai, aur seriously lene laayak hai.
Aaj shaam ke liye ye soch rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo achha tha, ya baat tay ho gayi. Bas itna ki dono daayron ko aaj raat milna zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar chaahat thodi dheeli ho jaye #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Garm swagat ki aas ab bhi hai, par ek akdi hui mulaqat bas ek mulaqat hai, aapke doston ya gharwalon par faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: cafe mein milna aur ghar ka zikr yun hi kar dena, kisi dost ka aapse ghar ka koi mazedaar kissa sunna, ya aisi shaam jo bina kisi tarjume aur safai ke sirf doston ke saath guzre.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Ab dekhte hain ki isse sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya thoda sa alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Sochiye ki kis dost se gharwalon ko milwa kar aapko sabse zyada khushi hogi, aur kyun
- Gaur kijiye ki kis relative se doston ke baare mein baat karna sabse aasaan hai
- Ghar ki ek aisi baat sochiye jo dost ko achhi lag sakti hai
- Dekhiye ki jab dono daayre ek kamre mein hote hain aur jab nahi hote, tab aapko kaisa lagta hai
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: isme kitna hissa dost ka hai, aur kitna ghar ka?
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aise dost ke baare mein bataiye jiska aapke ghar mein achha swagat hua. Darwaze par kya hua tha?
- Kis dost ko aap sabse zyada chahenge ki gharwale jaanein, aur usmein aapko kya achha lagta hai?
- Gharwalon ki taraf se achha swagat teen chhoti harkaton mein kaisa dikhega?
- Agar gharwalon se ye ummeed thodi naram pade, to sabse pehle kya badlega?
- Ghar mein kisi ne aapke dost ke saath kaun si chhoti meharbani ki hai jise aap aur gaur se dekhna chahenge?