Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Parivar ki taraf se garv ka wazan kuch alag hota hai, kyunki parivar hi wo jagah hai jahan pehli baar seekha jaata hai ki achha karna kise kehte hain.
Kuch logon mein ye us mez se shuru hui jahan nateeje sunaye jaate the aur doosron ki khabrein mausam ki tarah baanti jaati thin: kiski kaun-si rank aayi, kaun kahan gaya, kaun kitna aage nikal gaya.
Iske neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Agar inhone sach mein dekha hota, to kehte,” ya “Achha karne ka matlab hai ki uski taareef ho.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Baatcheet mein uplabdhiyan jaldi se daal dena, ki koi poochhe hi na
- Jo achha hua uski nijee soochi rakhna, bachav ke liye taiyaar
- Kam bolna aur cousin ki khabar ko kamra bharne dena
- Agli parivarik mulaqaat se pehle thoda aur jut jaana
- Hanskar taal dena, aur ghar ke raaste mein dohrana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Wo Mausi jo cousin ki taraf mudin
Bhopal mein parivarik sagai, Arera Colony ke marriage garden mein. Mausi poochhti hain ab kya kar rahe hain. Aap apni naukri batate ho, wahi jiske liye aapne mehnat ki thi. Wo sar hilati hain, phir cousin ki taraf mudti hain: “Aur tum toh ab doctor, wah bhai wah!” Aapke mata-pita cousin ko dekhkar khil jaate hain. Aap plate liye muskurate ho, aur saath laya garv zara chup ho jaata hai.
Gharwalon ko garv hona chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Gharwalon ko mere aaj ke muqaam par garv hona chahiye.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Aapne mehnat ki aur kaafi door aaye. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke raaste ki keemat unke haath mein chali jaati hai. Aapki zindagi kaamyaab lagegi ya nahi, ab is par tika hai ki wo us kaamyaabi ki tasveer se milti hai ya nahi jismein aapka parivar pala.
Unka garv aakhri muhar kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki parivar ka garv aakhri muhar jaisa lag sakta hai. Shayad aap sunkar bade hue ki kaun-si naukriyan aur raaste gine jaate hain, aur aapka usmein nahi tha. Shayad aapne aise chunav kiye jinhein ghar mein koi poori tarah samajhta nahi. Jo bhi ho, unka garv chahna kamzori nahi. Ye un logon ke dwara dekhe jaane ki chaah se aati hai jinhone aapko pala. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Aapke raaste ki utri hui chamak
Har tulna aapke apne raaste ki chamak thodi utaar deti hai. Aap apni zindagi safai dete hue samjhane lagte ho. Parivarik mauqon par “Ab kya kar rahe ho?” wale sawaal se ghabrane lagte ho. Un cousins se apni tulna karte ho jo zyada jaane-pehchane raaste par hain. Dheere-dheere aapki achhi zindagi, jo aapne soch-samajhkar chuni thi, doosre darje ki lagne lagti hai.
Kya garv ka intezaar theek hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya unke garv ka intezaar karne se kabhi aapka raasta zyada keemti laga? Ya zyadatar chhota laga? Parivar aksar sirf unhi raaston par garv karna jaante hain jinhein wo pehchaante hain. Jo bhi ho, unka garv is baat ka paimana nahi ki aap kahan pahunche hain. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Pehle khud apne par garv karna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap ummeed karna band kar do ki wo garv karenge. Matlab ye ki apne raaste ka ehsaas unki manyata ka intezaar na kare. Aap jaante ho ki kitni door aaye aur usmein kya laga. Kisi aur ke kuch kehne se pehle aap pehle, poore dil se, us par garv kar sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapki zindagi aapki lagti hai, chahe shaadiyon mein Mausiyan kuch bhi kahein.
If a relative threatens you, watches you, frightens you, or pushes you to change who you are, that is something else, and worth taking seriously; there, going along can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleGharwalon ko mere aaj ke muqaam par garv hona chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleSafar kitna lamba tha, mujhe pata hai. Pehla garv apna ho sakta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Apne raaste ki teen aisi baatein sochiye jin par aapko garv hai
- Kadam 2
Agle parivarik mauqe par kaam se alag baatcheet ka maza lijiye
- Kadam 3
Apne uthaye ek kadam ke liye khud se “Shabaash” kahiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kise aapke liye sachmuch khushi hui hai, aur unhone aisa kya kiya ki wo asli laga?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Taareef jo agli kursi par chali gayi #
“Gharwalon ko mere aaj ke muqaam par garv hona chahiye.” Ye kisi lambe parivarik lunch mein fisal aati hai, jab Mausi das minute tak pyaar se kisi cousin ki khabar suna chuki hon aur phir aapki taraf mudkar shishtachar se poochhein, “Aur tum abhi bhi wahin ho?”
Zabaan par ye aksar halke kandhe uchkane ya cousin par kisi mazaak ki shakl mein nikalti hai. Andar ye seedhi hoti hai: barson ki chupchaap ki gayi mehnat, aur ye chaah ki jin logon ne use guzarte dekha, wo jo dekha use ek shabd de dein.
Gharwalon ke baare mein ye chaah aakhri baar kab mann mein aayi thi, aur kiski khabar par abhi-abhi jashn hua tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sar hilane se pehle ka pal #
Kuch log dekhte hain ki jab kisi aur ki taareef hoti hai to chehre par jhat se garmi aa jaati hai. Muskaan bani rehti hai, “Arre wah, bahut badhiya!” waqt par nikal aata hai, aur andar dimaag apni soochi daudane lagta hai.
Kuch ko ek sapaatpan mehsoos hota hai, jaise chupke se koi khidki band ho gayi ho, ya phone ki taraf halki khinchai. Ye is khayal se pehle aa sakta hai ki taareef jaayaz thi ya nahi, ya kisi ne gaur kiya ki aap gin rahe the.
Pichhli baar jab kisi rishtedaar ne kisi aur ke raaste ki taareef ki, to kya kehna hai ye chunne se pehle pehle pal mein aapne kya mehsoos kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Apne raaste ki ginti chahna theek hai #
Is chaah mein sachchai hai. Log barson ek course, naukri, sheher badalne ya kisi cheez mein dheere-dheere behtar hone mein lagate hain, aur un logon ke saamne uska dikhna jinhone unhein sabse pehle jaana, insaan ki sabse seedhi chaahon mein se ek hai.
Parivar ki taraf se garv ka wazan kuch alag hota hai, kyunki parivar hi wo jagah hai jahan pehli baar seekha jaata hai ki achha karna kise kehte hain. Wahan se aaya shabd kisi aur se aaye shabd se alag tarah ki pushti lag sakta hai.
Koi waqt yaad kijiye jab ghar mein kisi ne dikhaya ki wo aapse khush hain: unhone kya kiya ya kaha, aur kaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Soochi rakhne wali awaaz #
“Inhein pata bhi hai ismein kitna laga?” “Us course ke baare mein kisi ne nahi poochha.” “Aisa toh nahi ki maine kuch kiya hi nahi.” Ye awaaz aksar ghar lautte waqt gaadi mein bolti hai, ya parivarik video call ke baad jaagte hue.
Garv wale “chahiye” mein ek se zyada chaah ho sakti hai: dekhe jaane ki, ye sunne ki ki ye maayne rakhta tha, aur ye ki maangna na pade. Kuch logon ko aakhiri wali sabse bhaari lagti hai, kyunki maangna usi cheez ko bigadne jaisa lag sakta hai jo usse milni thi.
Jab awaaz soochi dohrati hai, to wo kise manana chahti hai, aur unse kya kehlwana chahti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Naapne ki chhadi kahan se aati hai #
Kuch logon mein ye us mez se shuru hui jahan nateeje sunaye jaate the aur doosron ki khabrein mausam ki tarah baanti jaati thin: kiski kaun-si rank aayi, kaun kahan gaya, kaun kitna aage nikal gaya. Kuch parivaron mein yahi dilchaspi dikhane ka tareeka hai, aur ye chhadi jaldi pakada sakta hai.
Kuch mein ye kisi ek yaad se aayi: bade bhai-behen ke liye mata-pita ka chehra khil uthna, ya kisi rishtedaar ka “Chalo achha hai, par...” kehna. Aisa ek drishya ye tasveer bana sakta hai ki garv kaisa sunayi deta hai aur kiske liye rakha jaata hai.
Kaun-sa pal tha jisne pehli baar sikhaya ki garv mein parivar ki awaaz kaisi hoti hai, aur wo kiske baare mein tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Garv kab banta hai, iska niyam #
Iske neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Agar inhone sach mein dekha hota, to kehte,” ya “Achha karne ka matlab hai ki uski taareef ho.” Pehla vaakya wo hai jo mann mein bola jaata hai; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki baad ki har tippani kaisi sunayi degi.
Andar se ye niyam jaisa lagta hi nahi. Ye seedhi insaaf pasandi lagti hai, aur ismein sachmuch samajhdaari hai. Isiliye ise dekhna theek hai, is parivar ke saath rakhkar jaisa ye aaj hai, us nateejon wali mez ke saath nahi.
Kuch log aise niyam ko kisi khaas drishya tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Garv wala niyam aaj ki zindagi se kahan ab bhi mel khata hai, aur kahan thoda purana pad gaya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Soochi saal bhar mein kya le leti hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai pehle se rehearsal ki hui parivarik mulaqaat, ek achha hafta jo kinare rakh diya kyunki kisi ne dekha nahi, aur har baatcheet ke neeche chalti ek chup tulna. Chhoti keematein, par milkar bahut dhyan kha jaati hain.
Jab parivar ka garv paimana ban jaye, to kaam ka apna maza khisak sakta hai. Tuesday ki dopahar jo cheez achhi lagi thi, uska rang tab ud sakta hai jab ye khayal aaye ki dinner par wo kaisi sunayi degi.
Is saal ki koi cheez sochiye jo aapko karna achha laga: uska kitna maza aapke paas raha, aur kitna gharwalon ki pratikriya sochne mein chala gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Cousin ki taareef ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam parivarik shaam sochiye, aisa din jab “gharwalon ko mujh par garv hona chahiye” zor se bol raha ho. Iske saath bas dekhna hai, kuch karna nahi.
Shayad rishtedaar jab cousin ki taareef kar rahe hon tab mann mein apni uplabdhiyan ginna, ek khili awaaz mein “Kitna achha” kehna, aur baad mein gaadi mein soochi dohrana.
Inmein se kuch bhi bhavishyavaani nahi; jab chahein ise neeche rakh sakte hain.
Usmein kya hai: namaste, kisi aur ki khabar, shisht jawab, ghar ka raasta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us shaam ko kya bharta hai, aur usmein kya chhoot jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us shaam ko dekhkar, agar kuch bhi hai, to kya khaas lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Garv jo alag dikhta hai #
Ummeedein tab sabse achhi chalti hain jab wo us par tiki hon jo sachmuch ho sakta hai. “Mujh par garv karo” ke kai matlab ho sakte hain: zor se kehna, poochna, yaad rakhna, ya bas tulna band kar dena. Ye sab ek hi chaah nahi hain.
Kuch parivar ajeeb dhangon se garv dikhate hain: ek chubhta sawaal, padosi se aapka zikr, shelf par rakhi ek tasveer. Wo andekha reh sakta hai kyunki taareef jaisa sunayi nahi deta. Kuch ko isse use pehchanna aasaan lagta hai; kuch ko lagta hai ki chhoote hue shabd phir bhi maayne rakhte hain, aur wo bhi sach hai.
Parivar ke aapke raaste ki qadr dikhane ke saare tareekon mein se kaun-sa aapko sachcha lagega, aur kaun-sa bahut zyada lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se maujood hai #
Jo taareef kahin aur chali gayi, uske bagal mein ye dekhna kaam ka ho sakta hai ki pehle se kya hai, chahe chhota sahi: ek Papa jinhein aapki team ka naam yaad hai, ek cousin jo poochh leti hai ki kaisa raha, ek Chacha jo padosiyon ko aapki koi baat batate hain.
Inhein dekhna un shabdon ki jagah nahi leta jinki aapko aas thi, aur iske badle kuch chukana bhi nahi hai. Ek aas aur ek chup bhalai, dono usi dinner mein sach ho sakti hain, aur chup wali aasaani se chhoot jaati hai jab wo tirchhi aaye.
Aaj agar kuch na soojhe, to khali chhod dijiye.
Ghar mein kisi ki ruchi ka kaun-sa chhota sanket aap thoda aur yaad rakhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Doosri taraf gayi taareef se sulah #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki garv chahna zyada hai, ya ki gharwalon ne aapko nirash kiya. Matlab ye hai ki jis garv ki aas thi aur jo shabd milte hain, unke beech ka faasla har parivarik mulaqaat ko chalana band kar de.
Iska jaayaz hissa reh sakta hai: chaah ki aapka raasta aapka maana jaye, kisi aur ki seedhi ka ek dandaa nahi. Har tulna ka wazan thoda naram ho sakta hai. Buniyadi izzat aur hifazat ki maang kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, na aapke liye, na unke liye.
Agar koi rishtedaar dhamkaye, aap par nazar rakhe ya peecha kare, aapko ghar mein ya logon se roke, paise se dabaye, ya khud ko badalne ka dabaav daale, to wo kuch aur hai aur gambhirta se lene layak hai; wahan haan mein haan milana hi surakshit raasta ho sakta hai.
Sochiye ki is chaah se sulah ke saath ek parivarik dinner kaisa hoga: aap kis baare mein baat karke khush honge, aur apne kaun-se din chupchaap yaad rakhenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agle dinner ke liye ek vaakya #
“Gharwalon ko mere aaj ke muqaam par garv hona chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah kuch log ek vaakya paas rakhte hain, jaise: “Chaah hai ki ye dikhe, aur jab na dikhe tab bhi iski keemat hai.” Use jeetna zaroori nahi, bas pahunch mein rehna kaafi hai.
Aisa vaakya shuru mein atpata lag sakta hai, jaise zara-si neechi rakhi kursi. Kuch ko istemaal se baith jaata hai; kuch ko nahi baithta, aur wo doosra likh lete hain. Dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein, dekhe jaane ki chaah ke liye jagah rakhne wala aur raaste ko apna rakhne wala vaakya kaisa hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Tulna mez par hi reh sakti hai #
Har tulna ka jawab dena zaroori nahi. Kuch ko sun liya ja sakta hai, ek baar note karke mez par chai ke cupon ke saath chhoda ja sakta hai, taareef ke daur ke baad mez par pade cupon ki tarah.
Agar koi rishtedaar dhamkaye, aap par nazar rakhe, aapko ghar mein ya logon se roke, paise se dabaye, ya khud ko badalne ka dabaav daale, to wo kuch aur hai aur gambhirta se lene layak hai; wahan haan mein haan milana hi surakshit raasta ho sakta hai.
Aaj raat tulna ko mez par chhod dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya ki baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki shaam phir aapki ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar unke garv ki zaroorat zara dheeli ho #
Sochiye, sirf tasveer ke taur par, ki ye ummeed ek paydaan shaant hai. Dekhe jaane ki chaah ab bhi hai, par cousin ki taareef cousin ki taareef hai, aapke raaste par faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise cousin ki taareef sunna aur apni soochi ko apni jagah rehne dena, ya ek shaant shaam kisi aisi cheez mein bitana jo aapne chuni aur jo achhi lagi.
Yahan kuch bhi kisi se kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye, wo aapka hai. Aage, is chaah se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Jab taareef kahin aur jaye, to kya kehna hai ye chunne se pehle dekhiye ki aapko kya mehsoos ho raha hai
- Agli mulaqaat se pehle ek aisi cheez chuniye jo chupchaap aapko achhi lagti hai
- Ek aise insaan ko dekhiye jisne dikhaya ki aapke kiye par wo khush hai
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: sabse zyada kiski manzoori chahiye, aur wahi kyun?
- Dekhiye ki aapke raaste ka kaun-sa hissa sabse zyada aapka hai, chahe koi dekhe ya nahi
Sab nijee, sab apni marzi se. Jo ho sake, wo chun lijiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kise aapke liye sachmuch khushi hui hai, aur unhone aisa kya kiya ki wo asli laga?
- Apne raaste ke kis hisse par aapko sabse zyada naaz hai, aur use sabse pehle kisne dekha?
- Gharwalon ke dekhne se aapko wo kya milta hai jo apni sharton par beete achhe din se nahi milta?
- Agar unke garv ki chaah thodi dheeli ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?
- Parivar mein kisi ki ruchi ka kaun-sa chhota sanket aap zyada notice karna chahenge?